Child Support/Money Hungry Xwife

[hellapimpin]

Does anybody know the average amount for child support in california?
My Xwife keeps trying to get more money..wtf! i give her about a Grand a month already.....!!!!! And i know all of that is going to take care of my daughter. Then she says she is going to try and get a court order when she moves out to have me pay on her rent and utilities also..?? is that possible? married less the 2 years and under the same roof a lil less then a year?

Any feedback guys?

[T_Own]

doesn't it depend on how much you make? i don't really have any experience with it, although my parents have been separated pretty much my whole life. the only thing i know is my aunt gets alimony from her ex husband (not very common, but they do that in MA) to the tone of 12 THOUSAND A MONTH.

[j4ever41]

WTF 12 g a month , damn i shoulda married your uncle, anyway i think it is based off of what you make. How many children you paying on? you have been in the relationship for a short does'nt seem like you would have to pay anything outside of child support

[DSM4Life]

Does anybody know the average amount for child support in california?
My Xwife keeps trying to get more money..wtf! i give her about a Grand a month already.....!!!!! And i know all of that is going to take care of my daughter. Then she says she is going to try and get a court order when she moves out to have me pay on her rent and utilities also..?? is that possible? married less the 2 years and under the same roof a lil less then a year?

Any feedback guys?

Like i tell my buddies, condoms are so much cheaper but anyway...

What you pay her should be court ordered and is based on your pay. Also do you have shared custody ? Do you want full ? Then you wouldn't pay $hit. For your sake (in/out court) keep records OF EVERYTHING you give her. I don't care if its a f***king stick of gum, write down the date and time. Im sure you are already away never pay in cash.

[hellapimpin]

Like i tell my buddies, condoms are so much cheaper but anyway...

What you pay her should be court ordered and is based on your pay. Also do you have shared custody ? Do you want full ? Then you wouldn't pay $hit. For your sake (in/out court) keep records OF EVERYTHING you give her. I don't care if its a f***king stick of gum, write down the date and time. Im sure you are already away never pay in cash.

Yea we got a mediator to come up with child support.. i just went along with what i'm giving, i don't want her to struggle, she has my child, but anymore then that is just rediculous as of right now. And yes, i write down and document everything.

[DSM4Life]

Yea we got a mediator to come up with child support.. i just went along with what i'm giving, i don't want her to struggle, she has my child, but anymore then that is just rediculous as of right now. And yes, i write down and document everything.

Sounds to me like you don't mind the arrangement then.

[hellapimpin]

the arrangement was for less the a G.. i lately just gave alil more, to help out, but now she wants more..i think she will try to get more and more and more.. trying to nip this shit in the bud now, before she feels she can get more any time she wants it

[quarry206]

reading your post it actually made me wonder the rules and stuff so i looked it up and will share.. i found it on divorcesupport.com


California Spousal Support/Maintenance/Alimony Factors
The court shall consider all of the following circumstances: (a) the earning capacity of each party is sufficient to maintain the standard of living established during the marriage, taking into account all of the following: (a) earning capacity (b) the extent to which the supported party helped support the other party in gaining an education or maintaining a career. (c) The supporting party’s assets and ability to pay support. (d) the standard of living during the marriage. (e) The assets and separate property, of each party. (f) The length of the marriage. (g) The ability to gain employment without unduly interfering with the interests of dependent children in the custody of the party. (h) The age and health condition of the parties. (i) history of domestic violence between the parties, including, but not limited to, consideration of emotional distress resulting from domestic violence perpetrated against the supported party by the supporting party, and consideration of any history of violence against the supporting party by the supported party. (j) any tax consequences to each party. (k) The balance of the hardships to each party. (l) The goal that the supported party shall be self-supporting within a reasonable period of time. (California Code - Sections: 4320, 4324, 4330)


You can also read more about California spousal support in the California state statutes located at: http://www.leginfo.ca.gov/.

[higherdesire]

the alimony pony rides again. Bro you should never give more than you are required, it can be used to develope the record against you. If she needs something then buy it for her and send it back with her when she goes back to her Moms.

I understand all too well the situation. I finally went and took customdy myself. It took two years and 20K but now I have her full time, her Mom has visitation only. Her Mom pays me child support every month and it goes directly into her college fund.

I feel for you bro. Good luck.

[spywizard]

if you don't have an attorney, get ready to move to another state..

[PittBoy]

if you don't have an attorney, get ready to move to another state..

Yeah............

[FireGuy]

There is a guy who just posted a "married and wanting out" thread. Instead of giving him advice I should have just sent him a link to this thread. Cheaper to Keep Her...

[subaruwrx04]

It will automacticaly come out of your check each week, 2 weeks, month whatever how ever you get paid. The amount taken out will be based upon how much you make each check. Have friend that makes 700 a week. 225 of it gets taken out every week for the child support. Theres kinda an example for you.

[Polska]

Can someone please explain to me the point of alimony payments? I can understand child support, but why the fack would I still have to legally support a money hungry vampire of a broad that divorced me? Since the dissolution of that union what is the point of alimony??

[higherdesire]

Alimony was orignally designed to compnsate stay at home housewifes that got divorced after years of marriage and found it too late to suppor tthemselves with a career that would sustain the lifestyle built by the two of them, but now only to be enjoyed by him. It has eveloved into if you were together at all she desrves to experience what she would be experienceing if the marragie had worked. It does work both ways though. Look at guy ritchie.

[*RAGE*]

All I can say is I have been paying child support for 16 years and this june I am fuvking done.....No fuvking more bros.....

[scerpico22]

All I can say is I have been paying child support for 16 years and this june I am fuvking done.....No fuvking more bros.....

[spywizard]

Can someone please explain to me the point of alimony payments? I can understand child support, but why the fack would I still have to legally support a money hungry vampire of a broad that divorced me? Since the dissolution of that union what is the point of alimony??

alimony is tax deductible.. child support is not.

Her attorney has to be paid, and so does she.. after all you promised to take care of her..

marriage is a waste.. the reason marriage was created in the 1st place was so that men would have more assurance that the child born of the woman was his.. we know that's not true..

[*RAGE*]

I have plans for the money to. my wife is not going to get shit.....

[Polska]

alimony is tax deductible.. child support is not.

Her attorney has to be paid, and so does she.. after all you promised to take care of her..

marriage is a waste.. the reason marriage was created in the 1st place was so that men would have more assurance that the child born of the woman was his.. we know that's not true..

Yes promised to take care of her but why does that have to continue once the divorce is finalized? Its supposed to go both ways yet the courts favor women. Women get a free ride here.

[skinnysupermodel]

Does anybody know the average amount for child support in california?
My Xwife keeps trying to get more money..wtf! i give her about a Grand a month already.....!!!!! And i know all of that is going to take care of my daughter. Then she says she is going to try and get a court order when she moves out to have me pay on her rent and utilities also..?? is that possible? married less the 2 years and under the same roof a lil less then a year?

Any feedback guys?

the court will always side with the woman.. its not fair but it's the way things work.

[Brown Ninja]

Just say that she beats you

[hellapimpin]

that is so gay.... so if the cost to take care of my daughter is around 1,400 a month..which is on high side.. then...i would think it would be fair that i pay about half of that to help with my daughter..

What does not make sense ot me is...if i'm making big money..she can get well over 2 or 3 grand a month from me for child support...and she getz to pocket whatever is left to buy herself some shoes and clothes...thats really Fn unfair..

Whoever physical custody is too.. should hafta document where each dollar goes towards, with the child support money...not to Mention..her half of it too??

feel me?

[hellapimpin]

if you don't have an attorney, get ready to move to another state..

I'm getting one this year..since its going this far.

[jamyjamjr]

i have a shovel and lime salt... i live in cali.. hit me up

[Kratos]

doesn't it depend on how much you make? i don't really have any experience with it, although my parents have been separated pretty much my whole life. the only thing i know is my aunt gets alimony from her ex husband (not very common, but they do that in MA) to the tone of 12 THOUSAND A MONTH.

I know a guy who pays about that much too. She still lives in a mansion and he lives in a shithole.

He has to maintain her lifestyle even if that means he doesn't get to maintain his (or get to hit it anymore). She never worked a day in her life.

[T_Own]

I know a guy who pays about that much too. She still lives in a mansion and he lives in a shithole.

He has to maintain her lifestyle even if that means he doesn't get to maintain his (or get to hit it anymore). She never worked a day in her life.

yeah well this guy still has a significant amount for himself, but she has never worked a real job, and she came up with some bs of how much she gave up when they got married, so she made out well.

[Kratos]

yeah well this guy still has a significant amount for himself, but she has never worked a real job, and she came up with some bs of how much she gave up when they got married, so she made out well.

That's cool he still has plenty. This broad really fvcked the dude I'm talking about. He got hit by a New York city taxi while they were going through the divorce and can't put in as many hours at work anymore (owns his own business). He had to have extensive surgery (spine). Because where he had the operation was out of network...they sent a check to the tune of a couple hundred k to the house to pay the hospial bill. She cashed it...his credit score is now zero. She won in court saying he's not trying to work as hard as he useto so he still has to pay all the money. It's a damn shame what a woman can do to a man.

[hellapimpin]

i have a shovel and lime salt... i live in cali.. hit me up

lol! when i get back to the states i may take you up on that

[hellapimpin]

OMFG! reading these last few posts makes me F'n angry!! Doesn't help i have elevated Test levels at the moment either!!That is so unfair...

[T_Own]

That's cool he still has plenty. This broad really fvcked the dude I'm talking about. He got hit by a New York city taxi while they were going through the divorce and can't put in as many hours at work anymore (owns his own business). He had to have extensive surgery (spine). Because where he had the operation was out of network...they sent a check to the tune of a couple hundred k to the house to pay the hospial bill. She cashed it...his credit score is now zero. She won in court saying he's not trying to work as hard as he useto so he still has to pay all the money. It's a damn shame what a woman can do to a man.

yeah... wow thats really fcked up right there... extremely

[Ernst]

That's cool he still has plenty. This broad really fvcked the dude I'm talking about. He got hit by a New York city taxi while they were going through the divorce and can't put in as many hours at work anymore (owns his own business). He had to have extensive surgery (spine). Because where he had the operation was out of network...they sent a check to the tune of a couple hundred k to the house to pay the hospial bill. She cashed it...his credit score is now zero. She won in court saying he's not trying to work as hard as he useto so he still has to pay all the money. It's a damn shame what a woman can do to a man.

Lucky for her he's a wimp. I'd kill her ass.

[IronReload04]

ok 2 questions.....


1. since alimony is based on what you make. What if you go from being a doctor to working at mcdonalds. HOw ddoes that work?

2. what if you were to just flee the country and move to a place where the U.S. has no jurisidiction and that country will not cooperate with the U.S.?

[gixxerboy1]

that is so gay.... so if the cost to take care of my daughter is around 1,400 a month..which is on high side.. then...i would think it would be fair that i pay about half of that to help with my daughter..

What does not make sense ot me is...if i'm making big money..she can get well over 2 or 3 grand a month from me for child support...and she getz to pocket whatever is left to buy herself some shoes and clothes...thats really Fn unfair..

Whoever physical custody is too.. should hafta document where each dollar goes towards, with the child support money...not to Mention..her half of it too??

feel me?

In theory you should be paying part of the rent and utilities. Your child lives in the apartment and uses the electric. If your ex was by herself she could have a 1 bedroom and the utilities would be cheaper. Now with a child she needs a bigger place and bills go up. You shouldn't have to pay the increase 100% but yes you are responsible for some of it.

[BgMc31]

I have to reiterate...ITS CHEAPER TO KEEP HER, LOL!!!

[ni4ni]

the arrangement was for less the a G.. i lately just gave alil more, to help out, but now she wants more..i think she will try to get more and more and more.. trying to nip this shit in the bud now, before she feels she can get more any time she wants it

thats where you fuced up bro-i understand you want to help your daughter but the reality is if she knows you got extra she WILL TAKE IT. think about buying shit for her and NOT giving the extra $$ to your xwife.
another reason-she may say your child needs it but she could be putting the $$ right in her pocket...been there done that!!

[hellapimpin]

In theory you should be paying part of the rent and utilities. Your child lives in the apartment and uses the electric. If your ex was by herself she could have a 1 bedroom and the utilities would be cheaper. Now with a child she needs a bigger place and bills go up. You shouldn't have to pay the increase 100% but yes you are responsible for some of it.

that makes sense actually..and i wish it didn't..lol!

I wouldnt mind doing all i can do to support my child..just pisses me off more then anything, that I know she wants to take advantage of the situation.. If i could make sure all of the money go towards my daughter.

But i know she's a BIATCH!

[hellapimpin]

thats where you fuced up bro-i understand you want to help your daughter but the reality is if she knows you got extra she WILL TAKE IT. think about buying shit for her and NOT giving the extra $$ to your xwife.
another reason-she may say your child needs it but she could be putting the $$ right in her pocket...been there done that!!

I feel ya bro..

I do purchase my daughter clothes, learning toys..tricycle..etc etc.. as gifts from me. But like you say...she is pocketing the extra cash. I can't figure a way around this, as far as making sure the money goes towards my daughter..Guess it is what it is eh?

I should just beat da crap out of her new boyfriend...it'll make me feel better in some way im sure

[subaruwrx04]

I hate it for you. Me and my wife did the Prenuptial Agreement..... Thank god we did after I read this thread. But so far so good.

[ni4ni]

I feel ya bro..

I do purchase my daughter clothes, learning toys..tricycle..etc etc.. as gifts from me. But like you say...she is pocketing the extra cash. I can't figure a way around this, as far as making sure the money goes towards my daughter..Guess it is what it is eh?

I should just beat da crap out of her new boyfriend...it'll make me feel better in some way im sure

You take her shopping-fuk them. they will squeeze the fuking life out of you