Should I or shouldnt I?

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 06:36 PM

Gonna try to keep this short and sweet!

Literally 15 minutes ago I got a text from an old fling saying she was in town for a couple days for a funeral.

I met this girl my 1st 2 years of college when i was in another city than where i live now. I was 20 at the time and she was 23. we ve somewhat stayed in contact over the years. last time i talked to her was in december, last time i hooked up with her was last july!

Now this girl i swear is the BADDEST chick I have ever had, baddest! best sex by far! she has been a dancer her whole life. done some gigs in videos and such and some extra work in movies. last time i saw her she was dancing in shows out in Vegas (not strip clubs haha). i think she still lives there now... so jus an idea of the type of body she has, and shes like 5'9, gorgeous girl!

well she texted me sayin she was in town, has a hotel, and we should hang out. i asked what do you have in mind. she said, dont play dumb, you know!

so here is my predicament. if you recall in a thread of mine awhile back about the girl i "scared off", haha, well now we re dating. not my girlfriend, but she has made it clear she wants to be exclusive...

now, 2 years ago, i wouldnt have not even thought this over and went and nailed this chick. now im just different, i dont believe in cheating or whatever this would be classified as. karma guys, karma

what the hell would you do? (taking into consideration what i said above too guys haha)...vote in the pole

**strength_addict14** · 04-27-2009, 06:44 PM

If you "love" your current girl then don't.....however haha.... the fact you are think that maybe you should probably means that you don't ....

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 06:46 PM

definitely not in love with her, but do care about her and if i hurt her

**strength_addict14** · 04-27-2009, 06:49 PM

I am sure you can be slick enough to pull it off (pun intended) without hurting her man

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 06:55 PM

oh ya getting caught is not really a concern haha. my lady has a night class 2night and i usually hit the hay early monday nights... so she typically dont stay together mondays

**mho** · 04-27-2009, 06:56 PM

DO IT! Until you say "I do" and make a commitment to a single woman, it's fair game.

**strength_addict14** · 04-27-2009, 06:58 PM

I think you will regret it in the end if you don't.....only live once....but you can hunch hot girls a whole bunch of times hehe

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:00 PM

great points! oh i def have lived by those thoughts for years fellas haha

**LoneLifter** · 04-27-2009, 07:04 PM

The girl you are with now said she wants to be exclusive. Key word "wants".

Have you agreed to it already? If so then karma might come back to haunt you. If you haven't given her a response yet, I would say you are in the clear.

-LL

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:07 PM

well when we had that conversation, i simply said ok... and that was pretty much it

**strength_addict14** · 04-27-2009, 07:09 PM

^^^ vagueness is next to Godlyness haha

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:11 PM

Originally Posted by strength_addict14

^^^ vagueness is next to Godlyness haha

hahaha

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 07:13 PM

Does your girl think you two are in a monogamous relationship ? If she does you'd be a f***king @-hole if you cheated. If its a open relationship then who cares.

**Hoggage_54** · 04-27-2009, 07:13 PM

I can't help you without her stats and pics

**strength_addict14** · 04-27-2009, 07:14 PM

Originally Posted by Hoggage_54

I can't help you without her stats and pics

haha

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:15 PM

we havent discussed manognamous or open, jus the exclusive deal. i agree id feel like an asshole, but we re not really that serious...honestly i feel its just more of a sexual relationship

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:16 PM

haha ya you guys always want pics in these types of threads dont you!

maybe if i find out what show she is/has danced in i can point you all in the right direction haha

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 07:18 PM

Originally Posted by CHUCKYthentic

we havent discussed manognamous or open, jus the exclusive deal. i agree id feel like an asshole, but we re not really that serious...honestly i feel its just more of a sexual relationship

When you say "we are not serious" you mean YOU aren't serious. If she really wasn't 100% serious about the relationship then why post the current question ? You posted cause you know you are going to feel guilt.

Treat people the way you want to be treated. If you think one night of fun is worth breaking up with this current chick then just break it up and move on. Stop being immature.

**Bojangles69** · 04-27-2009, 07:19 PM

If shes from out of town then its not cheating.

Same goes for out of state or out of country. =]

**strength_addict14** · 04-27-2009, 07:20 PM

soooo what you going to do Chuckster

**Bojangles69** · 04-27-2009, 07:21 PM

Originally Posted by CHUCKYthentic

we havent discussed manognamous or open, jus the exclusive deal. i agree id feel like an asshole, but we re not really that serious...honestly i feel its just more of a sexual relationship

She either IS or ISN't your girlfriend.

How long have you 2 been seeing each other/intimate together?

**Matt** · 04-27-2009, 07:22 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

If shes from out of town then its not cheating.

Same goes for out of state or out of country. =]

I agree......

Chips are British....

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 07:23 PM

Originally Posted by MAD MATT

I agree......

Chips are British....

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:23 PM

damn DSM alright alright... i feel like im getting lectured by my older sisters (no pun intended) haha!

i agree, i have been cheated on in the past, it sucks. and you are right one night of fun would not be worth it. besides, i have been with this girl before...i guess its just the thought of it that is more intriguing

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:28 PM

Originally Posted by strength_addict14

soooo what you going to do Chuckster

shit i dont know now! LOL DSM has me feelin like a complete ass....

ive got about 2 hours to decide, shes hangin out with some family right now

damnit....

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 07:32 PM

Originally Posted by CHUCKYthentic

damn DSM alright alright... i feel like im getting lectured by my older sisters (no pun intended) haha!

i agree, i have been cheated on in the past, it sucks. and you are right one night of fun would not be worth it. besides, i have been with this girl before...i guess its just the thought of it that is more intriguing

We are all caught up with the same feelings that you are. I have an Ex that knows i am in a LTR and told me he doesn't care all he wants is sex with no strings. I have been temped in the past but like i told you , is one night worth a pretty good relationship ? Not in todays world, it's so hard to find someone with half a brain.

You bang and its over. Then afterwards you say to yourself "WTF did i just do?" The guilt last a lot longer. Do yourself a favor and do beat your c0ck like it owes you money and all them feelings to cheat will go away with that tissue.

**strength_addict14** · 04-27-2009, 07:33 PM

Originally Posted by CHUCKYthentic

damn DSM alright alright... i feel like im getting lectured by my older sisters (no pun intended) haha!

i agree, i have been cheated on in the past, it sucks. and you are right one night of fun would not be worth it. besides, i have been with this girl before...i guess its just the thought of it that is more intriguing

Hell your right man don't do it... I'm gonna go curl up by the fire with some popcorn and watch a romantic comedy....

**CHUCKYthentic** · 04-27-2009, 07:36 PM

haha ya i guess i could just deposit one into the spank bank and call it a night

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 07:37 PM

Originally Posted by CHUCKYthentic

haha ya i guess i could just deposit one into the spank bank and call it a night

You'll be a lot better later on. Just remember how you felt when you were cheated on, do you really want to introduce your girl to that same feeling ?

**mho** · 04-27-2009, 08:06 PM

Originally Posted by CHUCKYthentic

haha ya i guess i could just deposit one into the spank bank and call it a night

You're crazy. Are you going to marry this girl? If you are I can understand. If you have no plans to, go out and get your j on. I was in a similiar situation many a year ago, and I did the "noble" thing. I regret it every time I think of it. But I'm an asshole, so maybe we're different

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 08:08 PM

Originally Posted by mho

You're crazy. Are you going to marry this girl? If you are I can understand. If you have no plans to, go out and get your j on. I was in a similiar situation many a year ago, and I did the "noble" thing. I regret it every time I think of it. But I'm an asshole, so maybe we're different

I wont rang on you too much since i am going to need gun advice later on.

**mho** · 04-27-2009, 08:09 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

I wont rang on you too much since i am going to need gun advice later on.

Lay in to me! I can take it like a man. I'm not the type that gets emo about differing opinions, so let me know what you think!

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by mho

Lay in to me! I can take it like a man. I'm not the type that gets emo about differing opinions, so let me know what you think!

How far away are you again ?

**mho** · 04-27-2009, 08:12 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

How far away are you again ?

hahaha. Texas, about 1200 miles away from you

**gixxerboy1** · 04-27-2009, 08:14 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

How far away are you again ?

i live like 10mins from him. Ill take care of him for a fellow philly boy

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 08:14 PM

Originally Posted by mho

hahaha. Texas, about 1200 miles away from you

You tell me, is it worth the trip

**DSM4Life** · 04-27-2009, 08:15 PM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

i live like 10mins from him. Ill take care of him for a fellow philly boy

Woodys (local bar) here we come !

**gixxerboy1** · 04-27-2009, 08:17 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Woodys (local bar) here we come !

yea woodys. atleast i drink for free

**Bojangles69** · 04-27-2009, 08:20 PM

You WILL feel good later for not cheating, I aggree.

But you will also feel that much worse when she cheats on you and you will ask yourself a thousand times "why the fvck didn't I just go for it when I had the chance?"
Since women are known for not being able to keep their vaginas in their pants, its a mans job to cheat first, to keep the cosmic energies of earth at balance..