If your girlfriend was saying this to another guy what would you do?

**Monstruoso** · 04-29-2009, 08:07 AM

Originally Posted by firmechicano831

But I liked what he had to say.

yeah me too brah...

***T-MOS*** · 04-29-2009, 08:26 AM

Just remember NOW is the time to stay strong and TRUE to who you are !!!

stay away from her, don't take her calls, as hard as that sounds , that is what YOU need and it will show her she fvcked up

chances are she will be missing what she had with you and realize what she did and want to come back, so be prepared and DON'T make it easy for her no matter how much you love her!

I think we have ALL been through this in one way or another, time really DOES heal all
and you will find someone that will have INTEGRITY and HONOR in a relationship.

its obvious this girl has deep issues if she is doing this kind of crap now, so until she gets help and deals with them, she will do this to EVERY guy she is with, and the nicer the guy the worse she will be

Be glad you got out now, stay strong, we are ALWAYS here to help

**jamyjamjr** · 04-29-2009, 08:54 AM

Originally Posted by T-MOS

Just remember NOW is the time to stay strong and TRUE to who you are !!!

stay away from her, don't take her calls, as hard as that sounds , that is what YOU need and it will show her she fvcked up

chances are she will be missing what she had with you and realize what she did and want to come back, so be prepared and DON'T make it easy for her no matter how much you love her!

I think we have ALL been through this in one way or another, time really DOES heal all
and you will find someone that will have INTEGRITY and HONOR in a relationship.

its obvious this girl has deep issues if she is doing this kind of crap now, so until she gets help and deals with them, she will do this to EVERY guy she is with, and the nicer the guy the worse she will be

Be glad you got out now, stay strong, we are ALWAYS here to help

wise words spoken from an experienced guy...

well said T.... that was heart warming man....

but i feel the hurt and anger for the OP..... this shit really sucks....

to the OP.. u make sure u follow T's advice man, he's steering u in the right direction...

btw i still think you should send a clear message.. preferably with pictures...

make her regret ever fcuking u over like that

**PittBoy** · 04-29-2009, 09:26 AM

Originally Posted by jbm

This might clear your eyes!

LOL....that dude on the porch staring cracks me up for some reason. I could just imagine what's goin' through his head!

**PittBoy** · 04-29-2009, 09:28 AM

And taking the high road is admirable. If she ends up getting together with that dude I'd start sending her a few dirty facebook messages after a month or so. Try and get her to hookup again. Bang her....save all the messages.....then send them to that dude and forget that she ever existed.

Just my .02

**vpchill** · 04-29-2009, 09:31 AM

Man, I gotta Read a Book and Get My Mark Twain Slang up to Par!!

Poetic Justice

**wnt2grow** · 04-29-2009, 09:44 AM

When my ex cheated on me it was hard to deal with at first, then a friend of mine reminded me YOU CAN'T TURN A HOE INTO A HOUSE WIFE. Just remember that, once a cheat always a cheat! Just my .02

**vpchill** · 04-29-2009, 09:46 AM

You actually can turn a Hoe into a Housewife. You just cant turna Housewife into a Hooker!!

**Kratos** · 04-29-2009, 09:55 AM

She'll be back to fvck you over again
cause you care more than her
and all she has to do is cry a little over the phone and you'll come running back.

**laduem88** · 04-29-2009, 10:35 AM

Originally Posted by PittBoy

And taking the high road is admirable. If she ends up getting together with that dude I'd start sending her a few dirty facebook messages after a month or so. Try and get her to hookup again. Bang her....save all the messages.....then send them to that dude and forget that she ever existed.

Just my .02

he has too many feeling for her it seems like to do that. i would stay clear of her..de friend her on facebook so you dont look at her profile, dont answer her calls unless a girl answers your phone. Be happy bro! because if your not she WINS

**warchild** · 04-29-2009, 12:11 PM

ok kill her

**jamyjamjr** · 04-29-2009, 12:13 PM

Originally Posted by warchild28

ok kill her

see, i knew i wasn't the only one thinking that..... lmao

**warchild** · 04-29-2009, 12:16 PM

it all starts as a little comment and then your trash cans are knocked over and your daughters knocked up, i've seen it a 1000 times

**vpchill** · 04-29-2009, 12:22 PM

Heres what you do
1- Get Knife
2- Get Mask
3- Get gloves one size too small

Catch her after dinner wit her Facebook Lover, Then toss everything.

Remember, If the Glove doesnt fit You must aquitt

**warchild** · 04-29-2009, 12:24 PM

dnt forget to have the police chase you and say you wont rest till you find her killer and go play golf instead

**vpchill** · 04-29-2009, 12:26 PM

I dont do getaways I can only lay down the Ground work, Good advice tho

**MASTER** · 04-29-2009, 12:28 PM

Make her life hell

**IronReload04** · 04-29-2009, 12:34 PM

Originally Posted by PittBoy

LOL....that dude on the porch staring cracks me up for some reason. I could just imagine what's goin' through his head!

lol I didnt notice the guy on the porch until it got pointed out.

**IronReload04** · 04-29-2009, 12:41 PM

I like what everyone is saying.......When she calls, or texts, why dont you say exactly this....I really like that comment whoever left it.

YOu cant turn a hoe into a housewife, I'm to good for you, see ya, good luck in life"

**vpchill** · 04-29-2009, 12:47 PM

^^^ Agreed. Or Just walk away.

**eatrainrest** · 04-29-2009, 01:00 PM

Originally Posted by PittBoy

LOL....that dude on the porch staring cracks me up for some reason. I could just imagine what's goin' through his head!

where did you find a pic of my gf??!

**PittBoy** · 04-29-2009, 01:03 PM

Originally Posted by eatrainrest

where did you find a pic of my gf??!

She sent it to me on facebook

**BigBrown1234** · 04-29-2009, 01:17 PM

Break his fingers then tell him to go and have a facebook convo with her

**notus** · 04-29-2009, 02:33 PM

Originally Posted by Kratos

She'll be back to fvck you over again
cause you care more than her
and all she has to do is cry a little over the phone and you'll come running back.

Not so much Kratos. Just because i loved her doesnt mean i dont have will power. Im pretty good at learning from my mistakes and the mistakes of others. There is safety in a multitude of counsel and I have received plenty of good counsel.

Thanks for all the insight guys.

**jamyjamjr** · 04-29-2009, 05:14 PM

np bud.. keep us posted as to how you make her life a living hell.. it'll put a smile on my face

**southmadejd** · 04-29-2009, 06:22 PM

Originally Posted by notus

Today at 5:04pm her
so should my top be on or off when i pick you up for happy hour?...my jeep top of course

Today at 5:29pmhim
On, at first. I can help you take it off after we have a few drinks. I've been practicing, so I've gotten pretty good at it. Driving, that is. Is yours a manual or automatic?
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Today at 5:33pmher
Hello of course driving....Its an automatic...so you don't have to work as hard...driving that is
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Today at 5:46pmhim
That's OK. I don't mind the work. We both get where we need to go, so I suppose if it gets us there faster and easier, I'm all for it.
Sent via Facebook Mobile

Today at 5:47pmher
I can see your point. We will see how fast and then maybe slow it can go...the jeep of course.

Today at 5:49pmhim
Well I'm not doing anything tonight except my tantric stretching exercises and vitamin e shots. Do you like Blue Moon?
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Today at 5:52pmher
Awesome....you should post a picture while you exercise

yes i do. so did you ever say yo in court as promised?

Today at 5:55pmhim
Several times. Each time your girls said it didn't count, and put up more rules. Chicks and their rules-sheesh! Blue Moon with an orange slice? Cause I know a place....

Today at 6:07pmhim
Always open...
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Today at 6:10pmher
sounds like a good place....we should go sometime......

Oh I get it......they were talking about f-cking.....they are both so witty. Seriously I want to slap the sh-t out of this dude just for being such a douche. All of these lame metaphors for sex....glad I have a gf for the moment so I don't have to work this hard to try and be witty.

**Panzerfaust** · 04-29-2009, 06:28 PM

Originally Posted by notus

So we are obviously done. I wasnt as ass even though i wanted to be. Even though she completely crushed me i didnt want her to hurt. She had some issues, as we all do. I hope the best for her.... Who knows we will see what happens from here. Thanks for all your guys advice.

Bullshit, you canot expect such fine advice from me, let alone everyone else and not give some ****ing 411 on how this went down. wtf?

**Panzerfaust** · 04-29-2009, 06:42 PM

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I would literally be over there jackin.

My god just look at that brunette. Lord have mercy...

***T-MOS*** · 04-29-2009, 06:47 PM

the best revenge would be to move on and be happy

anything you do to her is just keeping your energy and time focused on her and she wins

MOVE ON, she is NOT the girl you fell in love with, its the IDEA of the girl you thought she was that you love.

Let her see she has NO hold over you , you don't even think about her, or give her the time of day....that will eat her alive................

again, the best revenge is to GO AND BE HAPPY !!!!!

**notus** · 04-29-2009, 07:31 PM

Originally Posted by muriloninja

Bullshit, you canot expect such fine advice from me, let alone everyone else and not give some ****ing 411 on how this went down. wtf?

There is nothing else to it. We are done im not talking or texting her. I know she is going to be at a certain restaurant on the 7th. i plan on showing up with a lady friend... of course its a coincidence .

**Iron_Pig** · 04-29-2009, 08:30 PM

Move on bro just move on, And find someone that is mature to be with and no head games.

**Kratos** · 04-29-2009, 08:32 PM

". so did you ever say yo in court as promised?"

WTF???

**Bojangles69** · 04-29-2009, 09:48 PM

This is just out there for notus whether or not he wants to read it.

But anything from David DeAngelo is usually on the money.
(selected from a situation a bit related to yours)

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First I want to talk about what I believe is at the ROOT of the problem:

1) INSECURITY.

2) JEALOUSY.

When you are insecure, you're always wondering if some other guy is going to come along and steal your girl.

This often shows up as a combination of feelings that make you worry about losing your girl, and at the same time worrying about not being able to find another one if you DO lose this one.

This is a BAD, BAD thing, because it then CLOUDS YOUR THINKING, and creates an illusion that the woman you're with is BETTER than she is, and that you're WORSE than you are.

We're talking about some deep issues here, but this is the stuff that triggers the ULTIMATE WUSS types of behaviors.

Then, as if things weren't bad enough, you go out with your girl, and other guys start hitting on her right in front of you.

This triggers MORE insecurity, and then the REAL problem... JEALOUSY.

Jealousy is an incredibly powerful emotion.

It often leads people to KILL people they love.

One scientist wrote an entire book about Jealousy, and basically claimed that it was the most powerful and important emotion ever! (The book is called "The Dangerous Passion" by Buss)

When you're out with your girl, you turn around to order a drink, and when you turn BACK around there's some guy talking to her with that "I'd love to take you home and do things that the lord forbids", it can trigger a few emotions...

This is very natural. Animals have this same response in similar situations. I personally believe that we come pre-wired with BOTH of these things:

-We come pre-wired to want women that other men already have (Don't covet thy neighbor's wife).

-We come pre-wired to feel jealousy if we suspect that our spouse is cheating, or if we think that someone is going to take them from us.

Again, normal and natural stuff.

If Yoda were here, he'd probably say:

"Jealousy is useless...

...Jealousy leads to anger, anger leads to INSECURE WUSSY BEHAVIOR... and insecure Wussy behavior leads to the DARK SIDE."

Now, jealousy doesn't always lead to insecure WUSSY behavior, sometimes it leads to insecure DUMB ASS behavior, like getting into a fight, or shooting someone.

Some men enjoy fights and violence.

And some women have no problem dating a man who likes to beat other men up (or beat her up).

I personally think that violence and hurting other people is the IGNORANT way to deal with things.

But I also know that there are a lot of guys out there that don't share my views. To each his own.

The POINT I'm trying to make is that insecurity and jealousy make people do all kinds of stupid and thoughtless things.

These emotions take over your mind and body, and can trigger some of the most short-sighted behaviors you'll ever experience.

These are complex emotions that have evolved over millions and millions of years... and they're not going away anytime soon. In many cases, they literally take control of your mind and body.

For instance...

Let's say you've just broken up with your girlfriend or wife, and it took you a long time to finally get a date with an attractive woman. Maybe you were feeling insecure, and didn't know if you could meet another woman, and let's say that the breakup was hard on you as well.

Let's say you're out at a bar with your new date, and you excuse yourself to use the boy's room... and when you get back, there are TWO big, handsome guys talking to your date, and she's laughing hysterically at what they're saying.

What would most guys do in this situation?

THEY'D FREAK. That's what.

All kinds of fear, jealousy, insecurity, etc. would INSTANTLY take over, and there would be thoughts of her wanting to be with these guys, them taking her away, etc.

And what do most guys actually DO in one of these situations?

They walk over, act nervous, and try to take the girl away from the situation. And they make the mistake of making it OBVIOUS that they're all freaked out, intimidated, jealous, and insecure.

This, of course, only makes the other guys feel more powerful, and makes the woman realize that she's with an insecure WUSS.

It becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy, in most cases.

As a side note: I have met and know of guys who actually ENJOY picking up women who are out with other guys. It's a game to them.

And they've found that it's EASY, because most men are insecure, and most women don't want to be with a WUSS...

So what's the answer here?

What's the best thing to do when a guy is making his move on your girl?

Well let's start from a little BEFORE that.

The best thing you can do in one of these situations is what you do BEFORE it ever happens... and it's a combination of things:

1) Realize that there's nothing to be insecure and jealous about, and that these things only lead to fear and loss.

2) Get your game in shape with women. Get yourself to the point where you can meet women in ANY situation, this way you always know DEEP DOWN that if any woman you're with ever decides to leave, you can turn around and start meeting women. This eliminates insecurity.

3) Mentally prepare. Take some time to imagine that you're in one of these situations, and notice the feelings you have. Go over it in your mind until you can think about it without having any negative emotions triggered.

And here's what to do when you're actually IN the situation...

1) EXPECT IT. If you start dating hot women, other men will hit on them, GUARANTEED. It's part of life, man. You must expect that it's going to happen, and not be surprised when it does.

2) Learn how to have FUN with it. Most guys have no game at all... and it's kind of funny to watch and listen to them. I enjoy watching guys try to meet women, because they FAIL miserably in most cases. I like to wait until a guy is finished trying to pick up on the girl I'm with, and then get her to share the details so I can laugh.

3) Suggest that she date the guy. One of my favorite things to do is say "Hey, you guys would make a cute couple... I think you should go for him." Of course, this is all said in a light, fun way.

4) If you suspect that the girl you're with is actually TRYING to make you jealous, talk to other women. If you actually think that a woman is deliberately trying to make you jealous, you must do some thinking as well. Some women enjoy making men compete over them, and you probably don't want to be with one of these women. They're a pain. But if you think it's just a typical situation and the girl is trying to figure out if you "really" like her (because you'll get jealous if you do), then just turn around and start a conversation with a group of girls... and wait for her to come and find you.

The point I'm making is that you MUST get over that fear/insecurity/jealousy issue, and realize that there is nothing to be afraid of.

The only power that other guys will have with your date is the power that you GIVE them... so don't give them any power by acting like a WUSS. Keep your power for yourself. The main reason that other guys try to hit on your girl is because they don't have one themselves. Remember that.

...and if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "You know, I need to learn this stuff about how to meet and attract women so I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling I have", then YOU'RE RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in himself, and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time and invest in themselves... and they wind up going their whole lives WISHING that they could attract the kinds of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation and attract women.

What's the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

**jamyjamjr** · 04-29-2009, 11:15 PM

^^^ deangelo's double dating huh????

im more of a juggler/mystery type...

did alotta pua with mystery and sin back in the days.. used to run workshops..

good shit man....

**Lightsout2184** · 04-29-2009, 11:23 PM

Originally Posted by notus

There is nothing else to it. We are done im not talking or texting her. I know she is going to be at a certain restaurant on the 7th. i plan on showing up with a lady friend... of course its a coincidence .

well atleast update us on how this goes

**Bojangles69** · 04-29-2009, 11:29 PM

Originally Posted by jamyjamjr

^^^ deangelo's double dating huh????

im more of a juggler/mystery type...

did alotta pua with mystery and sin back in the days.. used to run workshops..

good shit man....

No way dude all those 3 are great imo, DD, MM & Juggler.
Just that DeAngelo is a lot easier for mainstream to accept which is why I posted it here.

Crazy that you ran workshops though, says a great deal about what you most likely know.

**laduem88** · 04-29-2009, 11:33 PM

great post Bojangles69...great read! i think all guys can relate to that

**laduem88** · 04-29-2009, 11:35 PM

Originally Posted by muriloninja

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I would literally be over there jackin.

My god just look at that brunette. Lord have mercy...

psh id take the blonde any day of the week

**jamyjamjr** · 04-29-2009, 11:43 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

No way dude all those 3 are great imo, DD, MM & Juggler.
Just that DeAngelo is a lot easier for mainstream to accept which is why I posted it here.

Crazy that you ran workshops though, says a great deal about what you most likely know.

i picked up on my ex-gf right in front of her bf at the time using a mixture of juggler/MM...

yea.. i got pretty caught up into the lifestye.. it got addicting for a while...

then u realize mostly all women have this same pattern, and the chase isn't as exciting..

so now i go for the girls that dont get phased by my negs.. kinda a reverse ideological approach...

even though i still love using the cat string theory...