Whats a good way to meet new friends?

[Polska]

All my close friends have facked off lately. One of my best friends who I've known for around 15 years just recently started f ucking his female roommate which in turn led her to become his live-in girlfriend literally overnight. Said girlfriend hates my guts as me and her never got along in the past. So now said 'friend' has totally stopped hanging out with me because his c unt of a gf doesn't like me. I barely see the guy anymore and to be honest I don't even want to. He can go fack himself for all I give a shit about.

My other best friend... known this guy 10 years... awesome bro and all that but he's married now and has a kid due next month. I barely see or talk to him now. His wife owns his ass anyway, plus with the kid I am never going to be able to hang with the guy now.

My other closest buddy moved away to another city because of a job, and he has a live-in girlfriend also.

My brother who is also my best friend recently had his girlfriend move in with us (me and him share a house) so 99% of the time he's chilling with his girl, who is a f ucking headcase by the way and my girlfriend hates her, so hanging out with them is kind of a no-go. So now I barely see my own brother who lives in the house I live in.

What's with the fackin pattern of guys becoming total p ussy whipped loser f ucks when they get a girlfriend? Jesus christ.

I also work from home for myself so I have no means of socializing at a workplace really. So now 99% of the time I am either by myself or chilling with my girl who doesn't live with me.

So no homo, but I am really f ucking missing some male camaraderie. I feel like I've got no one to go grab a beer with, shoot the kind of shit you can't talk about with your gf with, etc. It's f ucking depressing!!!

How the f uck do I make new male friends?? I know it sounds gay but I am at a loss here.

[RuhlFreak55]

i solved this problem....i don't really have any....i see some guys at the gym....know some of their names....that's about it

[stack_it]

get a socialiable hobby. Join a beer league or some other sort of group activities

[ronan the barbarian]

its the same as chatting up women,its not as gay as it sounds.
where there are blokes just chat to them....
gym,pub,work...just places you go regular so you dont have to make a 'date'

im very outgoing so iv never had a prob meeting women or men.

my secret is to get them (women and men) talking about themselves and what they like,oh and look interested.lol.

yeah the db5 was the best looking james bond car,if i won the lottery blah blah blah blah.....

its easy

[mho]

get a socialiable hobby. Join a beer league or some other sort of group activities

beer leagues for sure.

[Chode Logan]

i solved this problem....i don't really have any....i see some guys at the gym....know some of their names....that's about it

This doesn't deserve a response.



Anyways, OP, only thing I was gonna recommend is a new job or something, but you work from home so that's out. The other guy who said beer league or something is on to it, if you go to a big gym maybe start shooting the shit a little more with the guys who don't seem like douche bags. It's a tough call. watch MTV's Bromance for tips hahaha

[liable]

I have lost alot over the years ,after i came home from the service,, just hang out at the local bar and bullshit,, be out going and talk to the locals

[gixxerboy1]

just still go out to the bar or someplace for happy hour. Thats how i made most of my friends when i moved to texas.

[Polska]

Yeah I gotta get out there and socialize. Just sucks going out by yourself.

[gixxerboy1]

i love going out by myself. When i was single i would hook up more alone then out with friends

[Lightsout2184]

yeah as u get older this is what happens. i really only have one close guy friend now the rest are all married or on lock down because they live with their girls. the last girl i lived with i lost because i still kept going out with the guys.

[Tock]

Sign up for a class in self-defense or Toastmasters or etc etc etc.

[laduem88]

i love going out by myself. When i was single i would hook up more alone then out with friends

i could never go to a bar by myself. if you play a sport, join a mens league and meet some guys there

[gixxerboy1]

i could never go to a bar by myself. if you play a sport, join a mens league and meet some guys there

really? I used to do it all the time. Even some nights freidns would go out and i would go someplace else alone. I would hook up all the time or meet someone.

[Phate]

i solved this problem....i don't really have any....i see some guys at the gym....know some of their names....that's about it

you didn't solve the problem, your lack of social existence is the problem, lol

[laduem88]

really? I used to do it all the time. Even some nights freidns would go out and i would go someplace else alone. I would hook up all the time or meet someone.

im in college so it might be different for a non college bar...also like rhul said the gym is easy to meet people but i couldent see it end up to be a friendship outside the gym...no offense but this reminds me of the movie i love you man. i think the sports league would be the best...if were still in school i would say classes

[gixxerboy1]

im in college so it might be different for a non college bar...also like rhul said the gym is easy to meet people but i couldent see it end up to be a friendship outside the gym...no offense but this reminds me of the movie i love you man. i think the sports league would be the best...if were still in school i would say classes

sports league is a good idea. You i can see what you say about college bars. one of my best friends i meet in the gym when i first moved to philly and knew no one

[eatrainrest]

i could never go to a bar with the intentions of going by myself.. that would either equate to serious alcoholism or ive hit rock bottom... i have a group of friends that i have kept in touch with after High school, the same group, and 2 best friends that go to the same school as me and we talk/hangout/creep on women on a regular basis

[laduem88]

i could never go to a bar with the intentions of going by myself.. that would either equate to serious alcoholism or ive hit rock bottom... i have a group of friends that i have kept in touch with after High school, the same group, and 2 best friends that go to the same school as me and we talk/hangout/creep on women on a regular basis

yea for real...i dont even drink so when i go to bars i just drink water, so if i went by myself id feel like a loser...i honestly have no idea how anyone could go to a bar or club by themselves unless there meeting up with people and even then i feel like an idiot rolling up by myself

[Immortal Soldier]

Put an ad on Cragislist for "new best friend"

[gixxerboy1]

yea for real...i dont even drink so when i go to bars i just drink water, so if i went by myself id feel like a loser...i honestly have no idea how anyone could go to a bar or club by themselves unless there meeting up with people and even then i feel like an idiot rolling up by myself

i guess im weird

[Phate]

i guess im weird

you're not, i've gone to bars/clubs by myself before and i'm not even 21, i usually just walk in, start talking to the bartender like i know them, scope out a group i want to talk to, then walk over and initiate, no problem at all

[Brown Ninja]

Gay bars, craigslist, and/or abduction

[eatrainrest]

jixxer and phate are both from texas though...over here in the jersey its creeper status to roll in by yourslef

[laduem88]

you're not, i've gone to bars/clubs by myself before and i'm not even 21, i usually just walk in, start talking to the bartender like i know them, scope out a group i want to talk to, then walk over and initiate, no problem at all

thats awesome that you can do that

[Immortal Soldier]

you're not, i've gone to bars/clubs by myself before and i'm not even 21, i usually just walk in, start talking to the bartender like i know them, scope out a group i want to talk to, then walk over and initiate, no problem at all

Wow, you must have serious balls man.

They probably let you in because you are muscular and they are afarid of pissing you off

[gixxerboy1]

jixxer and phate are both from texas though...over here in the jersey its creeper status to roll in by yourslef

lol im from jersey you little shit

[CptAmericaX]

K nothing against op but kinda a pathetic post, having troubl finding friends... Or I just am so far away from the world today that I dont see this as a problem, then again It was a problem in the new movie I love you man and maybe its a common problem. Solution Pool table man, I have plenty of really good friends few very close and some that are more social, but the one thing they all have in common is the pool table. Granted that can lead to fights as well...

[Phate]

thats awesome that you can do that

Wow, you must have serious balls man.

They probably let you in because you are muscular and they are afarid of pissing you off

Lol, trust me, i've gotten shot down before, but since i know alot of the people at my college i normally can find at least one person i know at a bar, if not then i just try this, walk over to a guy that came from the group i want to enter(in isolation), "whats up bro, hey i'm supposed to be meeting some friends here but they're running late, you mind if i come chill with ya'll?" or something along those lines, then i just introduce myself and buy a pitcher of beer or whatever, my "friends that are supposed to be showing up" will just happen to decide not to come

downside is that if this doesn't work it's time to leave the bar as you've been marked

[Brown Ninja]

who fights over pool?

[eatrainrest]

lol im from jersey you little shit

oh so free shipping on my treadmill right?

[gixxerboy1]

oh so free shipping on my treadmill right?

lol. in texas now but lived in nj for about 25 years and philly for a few

[eatrainrest]

just curious, where in jersey

[thebigguyy1]

All my close friends have facked off lately. One of my best friends who I've known for around 15 years just recently started f ucking his female roommate which in turn led her to become his live-in girlfriend literally overnight. Said girlfriend hates my guts as me and her never got along in the past. So now said 'friend' has totally stopped hanging out with me because his c unt of a gf doesn't like me. I barely see the guy anymore and to be honest I don't even want to. He can go fack himself for all I give a shit about.

My other best friend... known this guy 10 years... awesome bro and all that but he's married now and has a kid due next month. I barely see or talk to him now. His wife owns his ass anyway, plus with the kid I am never going to be able to hang with the guy now.

My other closest buddy moved away to another city because of a job, and he has a live-in girlfriend also.

My brother who is also my best friend recently had his girlfriend move in with us (me and him share a house) so 99% of the time he's chilling with his girl, who is a f ucking headcase by the way and my girlfriend hates her, so hanging out with them is kind of a no-go. So now I barely see my own brother who lives in the house I live in.

What's with the fackin pattern of guys becoming total p ussy whipped loser f ucks when they get a girlfriend? Jesus christ.

I also work from home for myself so I have no means of socializing at a workplace really. So now 99% of the time I am either by myself or chilling with my girl who doesn't live with me.

So no homo, but I am really f ucking missing some male camaraderie. I feel like I've got no one to go grab a beer with, shoot the kind of shit you can't talk about with your gf with, etc. It's f ucking depressing!!!

How the f uck do I make new male friends?? I know it sounds gay but I am at a loss here.

There's absolutely nothing gay about what you request. If it wasn't for the homophobic society that we live in it would not even be an issue.

Wanting a friend or to be connected to friends is a very normal and healthy thing...male or female. And I know exactly what you mean...sometimes you simply want to kick back with a bud and just shoot the breeze, grab a beer or shoot some pool.....absolutely nothing wrong with that, and unfortunately a lot of guys just let these outlets disappear when they get involved with a significant other...not all, but a great deal.

I know exactly how you feel as I was in the same boat many years ago. And I made it a point to do other things that I wanted to do. Fast forward to today, and I have some very good close friends that I can count on, and then there are days when I enjoy just being alone......I have that balance, and it is great.

So, the one suggesting that I can make is to do something that you like to do as a hobby.......find something that you feel passionate about and pursue it (I know most of us on this forum have a passion for bodybuilding, but let the passion extend outward) such as fishing, lifting, shooting pool, car auctions, etc etc. Join a group, take some classes, interact with everybody. Or just find something new to do that interests you.

Bars? Well, they have never been my style and for friends I like a little substance.

All in all, we all need other friends and outlets, EVEN if we are coupled, involved or married to someone.

Good luck and I hope that this helps!

Ron III---III

[gixxerboy1]

just curious, where in jersey

born in elizabeth, moved to toms river and seaside. lived in paramus just before i moved to texas

[eatrainrest]

good ole seaside...

[gixxerboy1]

good ole seaside...

aww the memories, well its kinda a blur but i think it was fun.

what area for you?

[eatrainrest]

good ole essex county

[Flagg]

Personally I find it easy to move to a new area and make new friends. Like I didn't know anyone when I first got to Uni last Sept and now I know shit loads of people. Only keep in contact with a coupla people back home.

Like some people have suggested, take up an activity like rock climbing or a self defence class. Any sort of social activity. It does suck when people move on with their lives and dont really have time for people, but there's plenty of things out there to do. I mean it sounds like you're bored as well so an activity of some sort would be perfect and would kill two birds with one stone.

OR.....go travelling. Perfect opportunity for it, and I recommend it to anyone who's thought about it.

[suprman09]

born in elizabeth, moved to toms river and seaside. lived in paramus just before i moved to texas

small world...i was born in elizabeth too..never lived in elizabeth but very close