Is it possible that I am maybe just a little too good looking?

[KatsMeow]

3 words..... Get over yourself

LOL

[collar]

wait a minute
is he claiming that he is too good looking so the girls are too scared to walk up to him>?

[KatsMeow]

wait a minute
is he claiming that he is too good looking so the girls are too scared to walk up to him>?

yeah but then when girls make gestures at him as well...he doesn't act upon it, so I don't know what the deal is here.

[collar]

ah i see
dear me
no more to say.

[Polska]

yeah but then when girls make gestures at him as well...he doesn't act upon it, so I don't know what the deal is here.

The deal is that he's insecure and has low self esteem. He's using the too good looking excuse to avoid dealing with some serious internal issues.

[collar]

The deal is that he's insecure and has low self esteem. He's using the too good looking excuse to avoid dealing with some serious internal issues.

thats what i first thought
this is why i was trying give him advice but when i read further from other people comments.
i thought i might have understood it wrong.
ahhhhhhhh who cares this thread has gone far enough lol..

[Matt]

I get the same thing, its kind of strange.

I go to a bar order a drink, turn and face the crowd unzip my fly and lop my cock out.
The sound of it hitting the floor gets everyones attention but the chicks just look, they seem to be scared of something..

[CSAR]

No.
(That's all there is that needs to be typed.)

[*El Diablo*]

Funny thread! lol

[higherdesire]

Just walk up and ask her to dnace, if she says "no" say "no what?" When she says "no I don't want to dance", just look at her like you smell something bad and say " dance? is that what you... bitch I said you look fat in those pants". You can never really be rejected then grasshoppa.

[sigman roid]

Girls usually look at me and run away or start crying and call the cops, or spray me in the face with mace & kick me in the nuts, Its all just a bit of a turn off but I can usually get past it.

hahaha

[calgarian]

The bottom line is......are u getting laid? if the answer is yes then ok...if no then whats these looks(as u claim) mean anything.....Its just like saying women wont have sex with me cause my d!ck is too big.......
I dont care how u look good/bad as long as u can get women in bed and have satisfying sex for both parties u r good to go.

[Z-Ro]

I understand where you are coming from and I do not think you made this post to elevate yourself. On the other hand, making up the excuse that you are "too good looking" is rediculous. I am sorry to be blunt and I am no Brad Pitt but do not sell yourself that excuse. I am not saying you are ugly by any means but I know lots of attractive guys that have girls all over there nuts.

The main thing I see in your posts is you are openly admitting that you have low-confidence which is a major problem. Girls smell that like a animal senses fear. You need to start "opening" with women and begin to get over your fear of rejection. I have talked to many women recently and strait up, I am not yet that solid in my game and have gotten shut down by the last 3-4 hotties I have been trying to lock down.

Also, I have gotten comments about me being too much of a "pretty boy" or looking "too fratty" before but I just say **** them. Maybe this is what you meant? Even still, if you are that worried maybe you should switch up your style but I cannot see that being a problem...women will approach you if you are good looking. At least that is my experience and what I have seen. A buddy of mine is attractive and muscularly built, I see him get hit on by girls constantly...

[BritishColumbian]

[WOLFCRAFT]

Immortal, I had the same kind of problems when I was in college.
I've modeled and all that before, but I'm also a metalhead/skatepunk kinda guy so never partied with the hot chicks.
I was pretty goddamn good looking and I could never get any chicks, but my self-esteem and confidence were also zero.
A few years later when I got more confident and dare I say cocky even, I had to fight the ***** off with a stick.
For real, it's not a looks thing, it's an attitude thing.
Try this, next time you're hanging out somewhere and there's a hot chick... catch her eye, then give her a dirty look. It'll blow her mind and she'll have to figure out why. When she comes over to talk to you, act completely disinterested, insult her a little bit, answer your phone while she's talking... sounds retarded but she'll be in love.
It's worked for me tons bro.

It's has nothing to do with being too good looking.

[WOLFCRAFT]

And bro you knew you were gonna get slammed with a thread title like that...

[ronan the barbarian]

everyone gets chatted up,thats life.

why dont all the 'amazingly' good looking blokes put pics up of themselves and we can judge if they are too good looking,i kinda doubt your as good looking as you think.

[T-MOS]

I can't believe that these Dumb Ass threads get this much attention !!!

EPIC FAIL

[bushido3374]

Oh there def. is the fear of being rejected especially when I am at this stage, I got the looks, I got the body, and I got the personality, so if I do get rejected by mind would simply trigger a defense mechanism saying "your just not muscular/cut enough yet get bigger"

But I also do have low self-esteem, I battled depression and a drug experimentation and that ultimatly put me at a whopping 6'0 134lbs before I defeated my depression naturally and began working out (for fun) which became an obbsession and now I suffer from the thinking that I am "not big enough". So self-esteem does have a big part in it, but I don't let it show. Like if you see me walking around you wouldn't say "that guy has self-esteem" I hide it inside and cover it up in public, but its there.

It's not that I don't get girls or get hit on, its just that I reached the point where I am like "I am tired, I am tired of obbsessing over my body and tired of thinking I am not good enough and hiding it" I just want peace, currently I am battling another drug addiction and will probably enter rehab in dec. so things arent working out right now, I feel like I am not getting my full ***** getting potential that with this body and looks I just be banging alot more or getting alot more girls than I do now.

The current drug addiction that you mentioned is a huge part of the self esteem. I've given up alcohol for addiction reasons and it took years to realize that I was actually a more developed person because of the experience. Get clean and start working on your own sense of self value.

Also, if you don't drink, but are going to bars, then you are putting yourself in the wrong environment for socializing. I know from experience, if you don't drink, you stick out like a sore thumb in a bar. Try to meet girls in other areas. I've met alot of girls in kayaking class, in ethnic clubs at the University, hiking clubs, classes, through other friends, community fundraisers, charity runs (5 and 10K). Getting picked up on in the mall is mostly an urban legend. Work on developing friendships with women and you'll have your hands full of opportunities.

Also, please feel free to PM me if you need someone who can relate to you with addiction and self esteem issues. I've been there a couple of times and have a fair amount of experience there.

[Nicotine]

you can't be that good looking.

cuz i take the #1 spot.

i got ya beat

[amcon]

brother it is like this... confidence is what is attractive - fat guy with hot girl??? ever seen that??? cause the dude knows how to get girls and keep them.

good looking guys will get lots of looks then what happens is that the girls/cugars/milfs read you - size you up and make a decision about you right a way less than a second they say the guy is a player (thats me) or say he must be gay (maybe you if you being called a model) or a guy with issues that likes the gym (maybe you not sure)...

so here is what you do or need to change...

#1 - smile
#2 - make eye contace
#3 - give them a little wink/head bob
#4 - say "hi"(clear your throat first and say it clear, do say it softly or toooo loud that is weird if you do... say it like your zoro or don juan, or like you would imagine brad pit would say)
#5 - then ask them a clear simple question or make a simple statement: "how is your day going?" or "i love your hair"
#6 - smile at her and make eye contact as you ask...
#7 - shut up and listen

#8,9 & 10: if 1 - 7 fail just tell her you are a gay model and kinda weird - she will appricaite you honesty

[vpchill]

Number 1, If your NOT my twin brother than NO you are not too sexy.

Number 2, Whats wrong with being a prick who thinks highly of himself?


Your problem is not your looks, Its your confidence. Look in the mirror believe what you see and believe that every woman see it too. Instead of playing the shy retarded brother, step up and go get what you want! Women love confidence, Ive even gotten sex after a woman told me she was turned off by my confidence and arrogance. Be you and a woman will check you for it..
Heres a small quote from the Prophet NAS
" Its Mandatory / that pvssy they hand it to me / I got no game / its just some bvtches understand my story"

If you look as good as you think, you can get what you want.. jmo

[Matt]

He's just sent me this pm of himself....

Not to good....

[vpchill]

^^^^^ I almost fell off the couch!!! LMAOOOO

[collar]

LMAO

this thread is funny shit.

[Lightsout2184]

put up a pic and dsm can be the judge

[bushido3374]

He's just sent me this pm of himself....

Not to good....

It's John Goodman!

[jbm]

[Bojangles69]

The day you use the excuse of being "too good looking" to get girls should also be the same day you realize you have less game then any man alive.

And a lot of better looking guys on avg have less game then avg to ugly guys for the same reason a lot of hot girls have no personality at all. Learn how to not give a shit about looking like an idiot and pvssy will always gravitate towards you, as counterintuitive as it may seem.

[jbm]

[Bojangles69]

id hit it

[MACKATTACK]

yeah but then when girls make gestures at him as well...he doesn't act upon it, so I don't know what the deal is here.

What would u consider a gesture while at a bar??

[Hoggage_54]

[jbm]

id hit it

I knew it...

[Bojangles69]

What would u consider a gesture while at a bar??

Girls dont always know what gestures they make cause its so autopilot.

Put it this way,
attraction directly causes anxiety.

That fundamental fact is what keeps us reproducing, no anxiety = no drive to rid the anxiety.

Id look for the more covert gestures as well as the sluts who do shit like adjust their bra straps and what not.
But basically:
playing with their hair the second you pass them
their hands become "lost" it'll look like they dont know where to put them
they actually turn their body away from you which is suppose to trigger some instinctual chase mechanism in aggressive guys (which is what women really want again they're not always sure why they do this shit)

Sratch their nose, adjust the back of their shirt, start moving their feet around and repositioning them, eye contact (which is always followed by a break in eye contact and *usually another look over the side which is a go - I still approach on one look just encase)

umm, some may actually talk lol
and it will usually be some completely random non related mundane shit

some will simply use proximity, one second they'll be 10ft away and the next second they seem to be hovering around you like a shark. Again a woman might not even realize shes doing this so its even funnier if you call them on it "umm excuse me.. you seem to be moving closer and closer to me do I have money hanging out of my back pocket or something"? its funny and a great way to break the ice.


Basically look for any change in behavoir that wasnt being observed before. Same way lie detectors are ran.
You compare behavoir w/out the stimulus to behavoir with the stimulus.
If theres a change in behavoir BEFORE you approach them that usually means their interested. A change in behavoir AFTER you approach them can mean their trying to get away so keep that in mind lol

[DNoMac]

No.

You have no swag. Confidence is equally, if not more important than looks.

[Hoggage_54]

[Immortal Soldier]

Men who are 100% secure with themselves and/or mature do not have this issue.

That's a selfish thing to say man. So you're allowed to screw 10-20 people but she's not allowed the same privilege?

A woman who is sexually active, safe, and honest about it is a fine catch my friend. She is a woman with experience. Your 'hot virgin' would not be nearly as good in bed as a girl who's had some dick in her past.

And guess what? Studies show that women (and men) who marry as virgins are more likely to get divorced, because as they age a lot feel like they've missed out on something - ie, the grass is always greener sort of thing.

The women who've had their wild times in college etc have had life experience and know what they want from a man in bed. Hence they're more likely to marry someone who satisfies them sexually and good sex is a huge component of a successful relationship. The virgin doesn't know any better and will always wonder 'what else is out there' because of her lack of frame of reference.

Believe me man, if this bugs you then you will have to sort out your own demons to be happy in a relationship. In this day and age it is common for a girl in her twenties to have had 10 or more sexual partners.

I totally agree with you a 100%, like its not something I actively seek for, but a girl who takes too many dicks turns me off. You maybe right about not being confident and that is the underlying problem, I need to get over this little crap.

Just walk up and ask her to dnace, if she says "no" say "no what?" When she says "no I don't want to dance", just look at her like you smell something bad and say " dance? is that what you... bitch I said you look fat in those pants". You can never really be rejected then grasshoppa.

Oh no, I don't have problems in clubs or anything or getting people to dance, Im not a hermit or anythings its just I feel I am not taking control of my potential.

The bottom line is......are u getting laid? if the answer is yes then ok...if no then whats these looks(as u claim) mean anything.....Its just like saying women wont have sex with me cause my d!ck is too big.......
I dont care how u look good/bad as long as u can get women in bed and have satisfying sex for both parties u r good to go.

Yes, the problem isn't IF im getting girls because that happens, its the feeling I should be getting alot more, whenever I am with my friends they always bag on me about it, "If I had your body I would have a different girl in my bed everynight, your doing something wrong" etc. etc. And you know I wasn't this way all my life, I went from skinny depressed kid to this so its not like I lived my whole life as the "golden boy"

I understand where you are coming from and I do not think you made this post to elevate yourself. On the other hand, making up the excuse that you are "too good looking" is rediculous. I am sorry to be blunt and I am no Brad Pitt but do not sell yourself that excuse. I am not saying you are ugly by any means but I know lots of attractive guys that have girls all over there nuts.

The main thing I see in your posts is you are openly admitting that you have low-confidence which is a major problem. Girls smell that like a animal senses fear. You need to start "opening" with women and begin to get over your fear of rejection. I have talked to many women recently and strait up, I am not yet that solid in my game and have gotten shut down by the last 3-4 hotties I have been trying to lock down.

Also, I have gotten comments about me being too much of a "pretty boy" or looking "too fratty" before but I just say **** them. Maybe this is what you meant? Even still, if you are that worried maybe you should switch up your style but I cannot see that being a problem...women will approach you if you are good looking. At least that is my experience and what I have seen. A buddy of mine is attractive and muscularly built, I see him get hit on by girls constantly...

Yeah like I said, I know the whole "game" and I can execute it alot of times but I feel like I am not putting myself in enough social scenes to get more results, naturally I am not a guy who likes to party everynight at clubs or bars, maybe 2-3 times a week, but my fraternity brothers do it day in and day out and thats just not me so I feel like I am limiting my potential.

Immortal, I had the same kind of problems when I was in college.
I've modeled and all that before, but I'm also a metalhead/skatepunk kinda guy so never partied with the hot chicks.
I was pretty goddamn good looking and I could never get any chicks, but my self-esteem and confidence were also zero.
A few years later when I got more confident and dare I say cocky even, I had to fight the ***** off with a stick.
For real, it's not a looks thing, it's an attitude thing.
Try this, next time you're hanging out somewhere and there's a hot chick... catch her eye, then give her a dirty look. It'll blow her mind and she'll have to figure out why. When she comes over to talk to you, act completely disinterested, insult her a little bit, answer your phone while she's talking... sounds retarded but she'll be in love.
It's worked for me tons bro.

It's has nothing to do with being too good looking.

Yeah I think It came out wrong, I didnt want say I was "too good looking" like Im so hot it makes girls scared, it came out wrong and you guys are all calling me out on it and making me feel like a totally asshole What I ment was its alot easier for girls to get the "average" guys than the ones who are more "good looking" so maybe thats why I am not getting as much ***** as I should be, because

1) I dont actively persue the tall tale signs, "if she likes me than she should come up to me" is a stupid philosophy I have been trying to fix for months now.

The current drug addiction that you mentioned is a huge part of the self esteem. I've given up alcohol for addiction reasons and it took years to realize that I was actually a more developed person because of the experience. Get clean and start working on your own sense of self value.

Also, if you don't drink, but are going to bars, then you are putting yourself in the wrong environment for socializing. I know from experience, if you don't drink, you stick out like a sore thumb in a bar. Try to meet girls in other areas. I've met alot of girls in kayaking class, in ethnic clubs at the University, hiking clubs, classes, through other friends, community fundraisers, charity runs (5 and 10K). Getting picked up on in the mall is mostly an urban legend. Work on developing friendships with women and you'll have your hands full of opportunities.

Also, please feel free to PM me if you need someone who can relate to you with addiction and self esteem issues. I've been there a couple of times and have a fair amount of experience there.

Yeah man, I appreciate. I do feel like I stick out like a swore thumb in clubs when I don't drink. When I do I am alot more relaxed and calm yet when I dont I am always like "damn this sucks I want a drink, but I dont want to feel like **** the next morning and regret drinking just to calm myself"

Number 1, If your NOT my twin brother than NO you are not too sexy.

Number 2, Whats wrong with being a prick who thinks highly of himself?


Your problem is not your looks, Its your confidence. Look in the mirror believe what you see and believe that every woman see it too. Instead of playing the shy retarded brother, step up and go get what you want! Women love confidence, Ive even gotten sex after a woman told me she was turned off by my confidence and arrogance. Be you and a woman will check you for it..
Heres a small quote from the Prophet NAS
" Its Mandatory / that pvssy they hand it to me / I got no game / its just some bvtches understand my story"

If you look as good as you think, you can get what you want.. jmo

Exactly, I know its not based on looks, I mean looks help no doubt, but its all about confidence and personality. So no doubt i know the "game" as I said earlier its just the confidence part that hurts me, I mean I can fake having confidence like no mans game it works 7 out of 10 times, but then sometimes girls see right through it and no I am not as confident as I seem.

Girls dont always know what gestures they make cause its so autopilot.

Put it this way,
attraction directly causes anxiety.

That fundamental fact is what keeps us reproducing, no anxiety = no drive to rid the anxiety.

Id look for the more covert gestures as well as the sluts who do shit like adjust their bra straps and what not.
But basically:
playing with their hair the second you pass them
their hands become "lost" it'll look like they dont know where to put them
they actually turn their body away from you which is suppose to trigger some instinctual chase mechanism in aggressive guys (which is what women really want again they're not always sure why they do this shit)

Sratch their nose, adjust the back of their shirt, start moving their feet around and repositioning them, eye contact (which is always followed by a break in eye contact and *usually another look over the side which is a go - I still approach on one look just encase)

umm, some may actually talk lol
and it will usually be some completely random non related mundane shit

some will simply use proximity, one second they'll be 10ft away and the next second they seem to be hovering around you like a shark. Again a woman might not even realize shes doing this so its even funnier if you call them on it "umm excuse me.. you seem to be moving closer and closer to me do I have money hanging out of my back pocket or something"? its funny and a great way to break the ice.


Basically look for any change in behavoir that wasnt being observed before. Same way lie detectors are ran.
You compare behavoir w/out the stimulus to behavoir with the stimulus.
If theres a change in behavoir BEFORE you approach them that usually means their interested. A change in behavoir AFTER you approach them can mean their trying to get away so keep that in mind lol

Bojangles man, I respect your words everything you say is completely true (when it comes to woman) and like I said I know this its just my confidence is fake, its not real because of the low self esteem I had when I was skinny ass prick, I can fake it and pass it off as real, but you and I both know there are girls who have a "hunch" you are faking it and look for that one "slip up" and then your exposed.

[Immortal Soldier]

What would u consider a gesture while at a bar??

Like I said, most of the gestures don't happen at bars, if they did I wouldn't take them seriously because the girl could be A) Drunk B) doing it to some dude behind me lol or something

Gestures I get are in daily activities and places I go during the day something as simple as a "checkout" (looking you up and down), or a girl literally staring at me and not breaking eye contact, all the way to I have had girls wave at me, I had cougars comment me on my looks, girl tell me to take of my shirt when I was eating, and I have been with a girl and whenever I walked away all her friends or whatever would say "your boyfriend is hot" when in reality that girl is like a sister to me lol.

So it all varies, but it happens I dont want to make it seem like it happens alot or all the time because then I wouldnt have this problem. Also I am not in alot of social scenes because of my dedication to working out and work so when I do get a chance to go to the beach/mall/party thats where I notice the "gestures".

I just wanted to clarify something I didnt mean to come off as saying "I am too good looking" and if I did I aplogize as you guys can tell I am not an igronant prick so I didnt mean to come off that way, what I ment was being above average in looks and having a musclar body i think that puts girls off in teh sense that a girl when she looks at an average guy knows HE has to impress her since she thinks she has more VALUE over him, but a good looking guy she sees VALUE in him before he even talks (now if he sucks and has no confidence than the ship sinks right there)

The day you use the excuse of being "too good looking" to get girls should also be the same day you realize you have less game then any man alive.

And a lot of better looking guys on avg have less game then avg to ugly guys for the same reason a lot of hot girls have no personality at all. Learn how to not give a shit about looking like an idiot and pvssy will always gravitate towards you, as counterintuitive as it may seem.

You hit the nail on the head, I wasn't trying to say "I am too good looking" to get girls what I was saying is that alot of times alot of better looking guys have on average less game than the average dude, in my case it deals with confidence and childhood, but that doesnt mean I dont know the "game" just I can implement it as much as I want to without seeming fake and letting the girl know I have "internal issues"


So i didnt mean to say I am too good looking and I was scuplted by the gods or anything like that, I mean I will be honest I would be the first person to tell myself how I am not good looking or how I dont like this about my face or body or whatever, but people tell me otherwise so thats what I was going on. If you asked me if I thought I was good looking nine times of ten I would say I am average only because I have zero confidence in myself, that one time where I would say yes would be me having a good day. But thanks for making me feel like a total douche guys

[beatango2008]

No...... thats not your problem