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    The Girlfriend doesnt want me to get bigger! WHAT THE F@CK

    So basically im starting this cycle on monday, and my girlfriend has consistently told me she doesnt want me to get any bigger and that it is unattractive etc.

    What i dont understand, is how to explain to her that i dont give a flying fack what she thinks and that i go to the gym and get bigger because its what i love doing and its my addiciton...
    and i mean..how do i explain this nicely...while getting bigger...and not getting my ass dumped...

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    Yeah I have heard this before from some ex's, they seem to want us lean and mean most of the time not bulky. I say I want women to look good without make-up but its just not in the cards so either take it or leave it!

    My wife says she doesn't like me vascular, I'm not really all that vascular but if I get that way then tough shit! hehe

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    haha exactly

    umm any solid ideas?

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    Hey bro,
    My wife pulls the same sh*t....... she actually supportedme before she said "i do" - now..... forget it. I think her big hang-up is that she KNOWS women like muscular guys..... i'm getting bigger and maybe shes associating that with picking up women..... idunno - but im int he same boat as you.

    I told her the same thing you stated in your original post..... i told her it's what i want.... i like it..... it's my life. I also told her i don't harrass her regarding the way she wants to look...... and if she loves me then it shouldn't matter how i look.

    then again..... we're having problems LOL! She's now questioning the extra 16lbs i've gained in the last couple months LOLOLOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by dd0316 View Post

    What i dont understand, is how to explain to her that i dont give a flying fack what she thinks and that i go to the gym and get bigger because its what i love doing and its my addiciton...
    and i mean..how do i explain this nicely...while getting bigger...and not getting my ass dumped...

    Just tell her straight up ... nicely or not.

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    yup mine tells me that shite every month even though im not a big person in the slightest. Guess some just like that soccer guy look. I just have to explain i workout and train for my own satisfaction and no one elses, if it makes me happy it should make you happy to. And when that doesnt work i just punch her in face. No biggie

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    well tell her all the things you dont like about her and i mean EVERY thing from looks to personality and tell her to change them or shut the fuk up and get off your back beacuse she met you like that so tough sh!t tell her she liked it then so like it now if not there is always some other b!tch out there willing to like you for it

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    I think it's fair for her to say that. I mean you don't want her to get any bigger do you?....jk

    How long have you been together? I would just tell her you were into body building before you were into her so get over it or get out of it!

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    For some reason alot of girls thing that being too big is unattractive.... Dont know why, maybe because then they cant manipulate you!!!

    Just tell her ok i will not, dont tell her about the cycle. If she sees you everyday lets hope she does not notice gains. If she does tell her its just age kicking in and metabolism slowing down..... you will grow ether fat of muscle if you workout- muscle is better and healthier.

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    and i can understand a girl not wanting there guy to look like a freak though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MAD MATT View Post
    If this is you then yes, "you need to stop".


    I thought i was the only one JBM PM'd that picture of himself to..... LMAO

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    Quote Originally Posted by dd0316 View Post
    So basically im starting this cycle on monday, and my girlfriend has consistently told me she doesnt want me to get any bigger and that it is unattractive etc.

    What i dont understand, is how to explain to her that i dont give a flying fack what she thinks and that i go to the gym and get bigger because its what i love doing and its my addiciton...
    and i mean..how do i explain this nicely...while getting bigger...and not getting my ass dumped...
    I'd say.....A good way to explain this to her nicely. Now, it might seem a little counter intuitive at first....Even brilliant.....But go ahead and give it a shot.


    THis is how you explain this to her nicely. Bang her friends, bang her sisters and then bang her mom....Then bang her mom's hot friends.

    You gotta learn to communicate bro.

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    It's true unfortunately, that most woman (90%) tend to have a very narrow line on what is "too big", people i consider "average" get told by woman they are too big. Woman want abercrombie/soccer bodies. You know the "lean" look.

    For example:

    98% of woman out there would say that Ronnie Coleman's body is disgusting

    60-70% of woman would say that Arnold's body in his prime was way too big even though he had the most asthetically pleasing body.

    Yet almost all woman love David Beckham or Brad Pitt's body.


    It's confusing, the line is very thin among all woman.

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    From my last experience w/ a ex she was also against it. The way I see it is there's no easy way around it. Especially if the g/f doesn't work out herself they tend to think you look fine. Maybe it's because they are a little insecure and worry you will find someone hotter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chitown Raider View Post
    From my last experience w/ a ex she was also against it. The way I see it is there's no easy way around it. Especially if the g/f doesn't work out herself they tend to think you look fine. Maybe it's because they are a little insecure and worry you will find someone hotter.
    Actually from my experience talking with woman about the subject, they really just find it unattractive.

    They don't want bulging muscles to the point you can walk on Muscle beach and compete with the guys there. They don't care if your muscular its just once you start getting too close to that bodybuilder look it becomes disgusting.

    I mean I feel the same way, I WOULD LOVE to have the body of a bodybuilder, but when i see it in person I cringe and think "thats way too big man".

    Now my final goal is to be lean and ****** at 235-245, and if a girl thinks thats too big than I will stick it in her ass.

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    I think girls that dont like muscles dont like them becuase they cant get guys with them and or are to insecure about themselves.

    Their is a point and a fine line though. And as always, an ugly dude who gets bigger is a bigger dude that is still ugly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Immortal Soldier View Post
    Actually from my experience talking with woman about the subject, they really just find it unattractive.

    They don't want bulging muscles to the point you can walk on Muscle beach and compete with the guys there. They don't care if your muscular its just once you start getting too close to that bodybuilder look it becomes disgusting.

    I mean I feel the same way, I WOULD LOVE to have the body of a bodybuilder, but when i see it in person I cringe and think "thats way too big man".

    Now my final goal is to be lean and ****** at 235-245, and if a girl thinks thats too big than I will stick it in her ass.
    I agree, majority of women do find it a turn-off if the guy is too big. But if your only talking about a 15-20 lb gain in muscle, I don't see the harm.

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    though you are asking for advice on how to keep her....

    well maybe you should look for a girl that has your goals in mind.. i mean if this is a life goal you aren't going to marry the chick.. so leave her and find somebody that shares your goals and desires in the gym or at least supports it

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    So here is my question....Do u guys want to build muscles cause u want them or cause u care what bitches think about u? If you answer yes to second part of the question then u in body building for all the wrong reasons. I am losing weight building muscles cause I want to...if girls dont like it they can suck my d!ck.....for all I care......

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    I agree w/ people. If you she says don't get bigger than you tell her she better not get fat or point out her flaws. In the end its more about being someone for who they are and less about what they look like.

    I bodybuild now for competitions and if a woman is not able to accept that then I guess she can move on no big deal. It is my choice and I have a right to do what I love to do. End of story

    Don't worry DD there are plenty of model chicks that LOVE huge bodybuilders like Tara Babcock and Jessica Putnam. I'd rather date models any way then some sorority girl that'll just looks good in her twenties then falls off hard when she begins to age.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Reed View Post
    I agree w/ people. If you she says don't get bigger than you tell her she better not get fat or point out her flaws. In the end its more about being someone for who they are and less about what they look like.

    I bodybuild now for competitions and if a woman is not able to accept that then I guess she can move on no big deal. It is my choice and I have a right to do what I love to do. End of story

    Don't worry DD there are plenty of model chicks that LOVE huge bodybuilders like Tara Babcock and Jessica Putnam. I'd rather date models any way then some sorority girl that'll just looks good in her twenties then falls off hard when she begins to age.
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    My wife has finally come around to the fact that I want to be huge but there is still a line. We were at a NPC recently and she saw a pro BB there ( I didnt know who he was).
    He wasent one of the big names but he was ****** huge. I think he was about a month out from a comp. She pointed him out to me and said "see now I dont think he looks bad at all ". For her the insane vascularity and striations when dehydrated is what she cant stand,and the bloat durring bulk phase. We have been through so much it has finally come down to we love eachother and she loves me for me. I think you have to lay things out stand up for what you love and soon enough you will find out if the woman is going to stick with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    So here is my question....Do u guys want to build muscles cause u want them or cause u care what bitches think about u? If you answer yes to second part of the question then u in body building for all the wrong reasons. I am losing weight building muscles cause I want to...if girls dont like it they can suck my d!ck.....for all I care......
    I do it for myself and personal goals. None of the women were around when I first started working out, so they really have no business telling me what I can do when it comes to that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by dd0316 View Post
    So basically im starting this cycle on monday, and my girlfriend has consistently told me she doesnt want me to get any bigger and that it is unattractive etc.

    What i dont understand, is how to explain to her that i dont give a flying fack what she thinks and that i go to the gym and get bigger because its what i love doing and its my addiciton...
    and i mean..how do i explain this nicely...while getting bigger...and not getting my ass dumped...
    well, first it is not about her... but, she is thinking long term... like marriage.

    but your are just dating - so have here watch some youtube stuff of guys that were big and are just kinda big now... lots of body builders go back to reasonable size.

    and try not to tell her you dont care just reason with her emotion about you decision.

    we need pics to better tell you if you should dump or keep her

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    imho ive had some exs who told me they didnt want me to get bigger because they didnt want me to look better for other girls and they didnt want me spending more time at the gym then with them. my one ex used to always try to persuade me with sex not to go to the gym and would always tell me she didnt want me getting bigger. i ran into her a couple years after we broke up and she admitted this to me.

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    Were you doing this before you met her? Then She needs to understand that you are doing this for yourself and nobody else. You probably have your mind set on how big you really wanna be and best of luck to you. IMO as long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone else then I'd say keep it up man. She just needs to get over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Immortal Soldier View Post
    It's true unfortunately, that most woman (90%) tend to have a very narrow line on what is "too big", people i consider "average" get told by woman they are too big. Woman want abercrombie/soccer bodies. You know the "lean" look.

    For example:

    98% of woman out there would say that Ronnie Coleman's body is disgusting

    60-70% of woman would say that Arnold's body in his prime was way too big even though he had the most asthetically pleasing body.

    Yet almost all woman love David Beckham or Brad Pitt's body.


    It's confusing, the line is very thin among all woman.
    Well the line between Brad Pitt and Masta Arnold in his prime is fairly wide I would say. But hey JMHO bro!

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    Quote Originally Posted by QuieTSToRM33 View Post
    Just tell her straight up ... nicely or not.
    agreed, tell her you'll stop weightlifting when she stops getting her hair/nails done

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    Quote Originally Posted by PIGPEN8181 View Post

    Were you doing this before you met her? Then She needs to understand that you are doing this for yourself and nobody else. You probably have your mind set on how big you really wanna be and best of luck to you. IMO as long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone else then I'd say keep it up man. She just needs to get over it.
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    Just hang this giant poster on your wall above your bed, where you fuuuuuuuukk. All problems solved.


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    Quote Originally Posted by dd0316 View Post
    So basically im starting this cycle on monday, and my girlfriend has consistently told me she doesnt want me to get any bigger and that it is unattractive etc.

    What i dont understand, is how to explain to her that i dont give a flying fack what she thinks and that i go to the gym and get bigger because its what i love doing and its my addiciton...
    and i mean..how do i explain this nicely...while getting bigger...and not getting my ass dumped...
    just tell her that she has to dill with it its what you like to do so she can stay or hit the road GET BIG PLAYA

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    roudhouse kick her in the face


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    Quote Originally Posted by IronReload04 View Post
    I'd say.....A good way to explain this to her nicely. Now, it might seem a little counter intuitive at first....Even brilliant.....But go ahead and give it a shot.


    THis is how you explain this to her nicely. Bang her friends, bang her sisters and then bang her mom....Then bang her mom's hot friends.

    You gotta learn to communicate bro.

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    I think leaving this post open on your computer for her to find would probably get the point across just fine....

    But I'm all for banging everyone close to her...either way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by _CrossroadS_ View Post
    I think leaving this post open on your computer for her to find would probably get the point across just fine....

    But I'm all for banging everyone close to her...either way.
    that will def do it

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