GF Moving-Wow

**l2elapse** · 07-09-2009, 06:48 PM

She decided on grad school here in town then recently got accepted into a city about 6 hours away. So stupid. Anyone with experience in long distance?

**KatsMeow** · 07-09-2009, 06:57 PM

How long have you two been together? Do you have plans for the future with each other?

**higherdesire** · 07-09-2009, 07:23 PM

Yeah bro we need the stats!

**l2elapse** · 07-09-2009, 07:27 PM

been together almost a year, we really love each other and were going to try but damn this sucks

**stpete** · 07-09-2009, 07:28 PM

Good for her. Be supportive and try to see her when you can. Happened to me too and it sucks at first but you get used to it.

**higherdesire** · 07-09-2009, 07:35 PM

She can start walking your way and you start wlaking hers and you meet in the middle neath that ol georgia pine! Bro yall can see each other every weekend if its that important. I say move on though, but it is doable bro!

**Sir Lifts-a-lot** · 07-09-2009, 07:40 PM

I say she's f'n a dude two weeks in.

**DetroitCity** · 07-09-2009, 07:40 PM

It's sucks bro but it's usually worth it in the end .. at least i hope for me hahaha my girls been gone for a month now (last time i saw her i mean) ... you get used to it after a while but it still sucks ..

**DetroitCity** · 07-09-2009, 07:43 PM

Originally Posted by Sir Lifts-a-lot

I say she's f'n a dude two weeks in.

Some chicks are like that .. make sure you got a good one before you commit to this long distance bullshit cuz if shes a hoe it ain't worth it !

**JinNtonic** · 07-09-2009, 07:44 PM

6 hours away? pfftttt

**eatrainrest** · 07-09-2009, 07:57 PM

at least the go away sex will be good

**jbm** · 07-09-2009, 08:17 PM

good luck...

**TITANIUM** · 07-09-2009, 08:34 PM

Sometimes space apart actually makes the relationship better.It's a litmus test.If nobody cheats on the other.But life has a weird sense of humor.

**CHAP** · 07-09-2009, 08:42 PM

Id give it a shot but dont fall apart when it dosent workout.

Very few relationships make it through a situation like this. But if your does then you have a keeper ...

And I would bet my money (I never bet money) youll be togather forever!!!

Good luck..

**jamyjamjr** · 07-09-2009, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by l2elapse

She decided on grad school here in town then recently got accepted into a city about 6 hours away. So stupid. Anyone with experience in long distance?

my chick lives about 100 miles away from me so i only see her on the weekends, it can suck.. but the time apart is healthy at the same time..

u also cant have a scratch on the trust between each other, or your gonna lose your mind...

if you wanna play it safe, dump her and deal with the emotions now..

**Bojangles69** · 07-09-2009, 09:06 PM

People might say "it can go either way logically" but I think its headed in a specific direction.
Meaning, yes plenty of people do great in LDRs, and plenty of people don't make it. The only factor that will affect that is how much you 2 care for each other, and how balanced that love is.

You did not word this thread in a way that made me think shes been asking your approval to go to Grad School. You sound irritated by the idea, and I'm assuming your irritation is already you sensing some sort of detachment (at least emotionally for now) on her part.

My advice would simply be check yourself and don't be paranoid. Take life as it comes and just be ready *encase it does happen. And realize you can end the relationship simply by changing your behavoir and becoming clingy/demanding. So you have no other real smart choice then to just be cool & prepared for whatever life throws your way. ya dig

**MACKATTACK** · 07-09-2009, 09:09 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

People might say "it can go either way logically" but I think its headed in a specific direction.
Meaning, yes plenty of people do great in LDRs, and plenty of people don't make it. The only factor that will affect that is how much you 2 care for each other, and how balanced that love is.

You did not word this thread in a way that made me think shes been asking your approval to go to Grad School. You sound irritated by the idea, and I'm assuming your irritation is already you sensing some sort of detachment (at least emotionally for now) on her part.

My advice would simply be check yourself and don't be paranoid. Take life as it comes and just be ready *encase it does happen. And realize you can end the relationship simply by changing your behavoir and becoming clingy/demanding. So you have no other real smart choice then to just be cool & prepared for whatever life throws your way. ya dig

You give some of the best advice when dealing with women and their interactions with men ala a relationship or a one night stand. You should change your title to "AR's Relationship Therapist" or some shit.......

**eatrainrest** · 07-09-2009, 09:37 PM

Originally Posted by MACKATTACK

You give some of the best advice when dealing with women and their interactions with men ala a relationship or a one night stand. You should change your title to "AR's Relationship Therapist" or some shit.......

^^x2... you stole my name MACK!

**KatsMeow** · 07-09-2009, 09:41 PM

To be honest with you I think it's a good thing that she is pursuing her goals and going to school where she wants to. It sounds like you guys need to talk about things, and if you see a future together. Trust is going to be the biggest factor.

**scerpico22** · 07-09-2009, 10:43 PM

i couldnt do it...but thats me.

**l2elapse** · 07-09-2009, 10:52 PM

this situation sucks a lot. Such a hard spot to be in

**l2elapse** · 07-09-2009, 10:54 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

People might say "it can go either way logically" but I think its headed in a specific direction.
Meaning, yes plenty of people do great in LDRs, and plenty of people don't make it. The only factor that will affect that is how much you 2 care for each other, and how balanced that love is.

You did not word this thread in a way that made me think shes been asking your approval to go to Grad School. You sound irritated by the idea, and I'm assuming your irritation is already you sensing some sort of detachment (at least emotionally for now) on her part.

My advice would simply be check yourself and don't be paranoid. Take life as it comes and just be ready *encase it does happen. And realize you can end the relationship simply by changing your behavoir and becoming clingy/demanding. So you have no other real smart choice then to just be cool & prepared for whatever life throws your way. ya dig

i am irritated because she threw out the idea of this school and we planned for a couple months how we were gonna make it work cause she was going to live 40 minutes away then all sudden she comes to me saying shes moving half the state away

**scerpico22** · 07-09-2009, 11:02 PM

age?

**Tjohn6231** · 07-09-2009, 11:11 PM

If u guys stay together through this, then youll look back in 5 years and be happy that she got her education. Mo money, mo money, mo money!!!!!

**l2elapse** · 07-09-2009, 11:12 PM

Originally Posted by scerpico22

age?

were almost 23

**scerpico22** · 07-09-2009, 11:19 PM

Originally Posted by l2elapse

were almost 23

23...ahhh the good ole days.

look bro not pissing on your parade but a year with a 23 year old thats going off to school...ehh, thats a tough one. truth is no one here is going to change your mind and what you both are going to try and do. but all i can tell you is...you are young and so is she...PLENTY will happen in your lives that will determine your futures in the next coming years. dont put toooooo much pressure on the relationship. take it as it comes and if its meant to be it will be.

good luck

**l2elapse** · 07-09-2009, 11:45 PM

ill hope for the best plan for the worst, thanks for all the help

**jbm** · 07-10-2009, 01:19 AM

Good Luck Again!

**l2elapse** · 07-10-2009, 01:29 AM

Originally Posted by jbm;474***9

Good Luck Again!

thanks

**Immortal Soldier** · 07-10-2009, 02:01 AM

No offense but she made the right choice, If I had a girl and I had to move 6 hours away for MY FUTURE I would. I would never trust a girl enough to shape my future around than 1-2 years down teh road we break up and now I look stupid for not putting my career ahead of my sex needs.

I understand you "love" her and all, but your 23 still young as hell and you only been dating for a year thats not enough to make plans for wedding bells.

I say you have nothing to lose to try it out Long distance and if it doesnt work it than you cut your losses.

But let it be said, you see the TRUE PERSON reveal itself in the one you "love" when your relationship requires effort to survive and sometimes the real person inside isn't good at all.

**thai-lan** · 07-10-2009, 02:05 AM

haha u gonna have loads of chicks now and if u cant find any go visit her.

**chuckt12345** · 07-10-2009, 09:18 AM

sorry bro but at that age in life and only a year together it will slowly dissolve.

**jbm** · 07-10-2009, 10:10 PM

**xavier_888888** · 07-10-2009, 10:17 PM

TRUST! its hard bro but just be supportive and dont let the distance get in the way.

If you guys really love each other you will get trough with this. But worse case get seperated. Hey your still young . Do some Cycle and your test will be on the roof you will get more ass than a toilet seat.

**needmorestrength** · 07-17-2009, 11:29 PM

LOL I think I am in the wrong relationship.. My girl goes away the end of August for her placement for four months... Im excited??

**DSM4Life** · 07-18-2009, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by needmorestrength

LOL I think I am in the wrong relationship.. My girl goes away the end of August for her placement for four months... Im excited??

**CHAP** · 07-18-2009, 10:48 AM

I think if she was planning on being 40min away and you and her talkeed about how to make it work.. Then she decieds to move 6 hrs away.

This sounds like she was looking for a wat to let you down easy.

**Chitown Raider** · 07-18-2009, 03:40 PM

Originally Posted by CHAP

I think if she was planning on being 40min away and you and her talkeed about how to make it work.. Then she decieds to move 6 hrs away.

This sounds like she was looking for a wat to let you down easy.

X2. You are 23, I would take this situation with a grain of salt and no expectations. I used to believe in LDR's but came to the grim reality they just don't work. But that's just my .02. Best of luck!

**kojak_x** · 07-18-2009, 05:42 PM

Originally Posted by Sir Lifts-a-lot

I say she's f'n a dude two weeks in.

your crule, but mabey your right.

**lovbyts** · 07-21-2009, 12:09 AM

If you are going to be worried, suspicions or need proof she is being true do yourself a favor and end it now because it will drive you crazy and make you hate each other.