I'm controlling and i want help

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 07:56 AM

OK ill a admit it I'm a control freak and i cant help it i keep hurting my girl friend and i dont want to loose her. how do i stop this...

***D7M*** · 08-06-2009, 07:57 AM

stop being so damn controlling.

problem solved.

next.

**zimmy** · 08-06-2009, 07:57 AM

Well... most controlling people have somethign in common...self asteem issues.

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:01 AM

self asteem issues who asked you?...jk so how do i help this what could i do...

**Dancer** · 08-06-2009, 08:04 AM

Zimmy is a genious.

We all have self image issues, or almost all if you are cycling, self esteem goes along with it.

Reading self help books helps, not using illicits helps, alcohol is not all that good, I can keep goin.

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:20 AM

please do

***El Diablo*** · 08-06-2009, 08:20 AM

Originally Posted by OH REALLY

OK ill a admit it I'm a control freak and i cant help it i keep hurting my girl friend and i dont want to loose her. how do i stop this...

U sound Insecure to me..... Get over it.

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:23 AM

really i dont know if thats it but ill keep an open mind see...
i have a hard time trusting people ...
she said i turn every thing around and blame her i thought it was the winny making us fight but i just dont know any more should i be ok with her telling me i cant talk to my ex while she talks to hers we are both freindly with are exes but i know it stops there for both of us

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:24 AM

Originally Posted by *El Diablo*

U sound Insecure to me..... Get over it.

trying to but thanks

***El Diablo*** · 08-06-2009, 08:25 AM

Originally Posted by OH REALLY

really i dont know if thats it but ill keep an open mind see...
i have a hard time trusting people ...
she said i turn every thing around and blame her i thought it was the winny making us fight but i just dont know any more should i be ok with her telling me i cant talk to my ex while she talks to hers we are both freindly with are exes but i know it stops there for both of us

Winny? lol , Whats good for the goose is good for the Gander, I think u need some Tren ...

**DOM6** · 08-06-2009, 08:32 AM

how old are you and her? how long you been together? whats your plans with her? why do you talk to your ex?

And i bet its your diet, go check the diet section so you can get a good one started cause diet is key to everything

LMAO

**calgarian** · 08-06-2009, 08:36 AM

get a girl friend who had a controlling boyfriends she will knock that right out of you

Its an honest to God truth.

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:41 AM

Originally Posted by DOM6

how old are you and her? how long you been together? whats your plans with her? why do you talk to your ex?

And i bet its your diet, go check the diet section so you can get a good one started cause diet is key to everything

LMAO

we have been together for 4 months i plan on staying with her and for a long peroid of time... my exes car loan is under my name so we keep in touch for that reason her ex is best friends with her cousin so he is always around because those two are attached to the hip..

***El Diablo*** · 08-06-2009, 08:41 AM

Originally Posted by OH REALLY

we have been together for 4 months i plan on staying with her and for a long peroid of time... my exes car loan is under my name so we keep in touch for that reason her ex is best friends with her cousin so he is always around because those two are attached to the hip..

Like Siamese Twins?

**Matt** · 08-06-2009, 08:42 AM

Women love you to be in control lol, take it from me they love a good slap every now and then.

I have a pair of steel toecapped boots at home and i like to kick my gf around when wearing them. She doesnt like it at the time but once the wounds heal she always says she loves me...

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:43 AM

this is the first time i have ever asked for advice on anything personal and now i dont think i should have too many people just want to fu7k around .... put i have put my jokes all over this furom so have fun....lol

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:44 AM

Originally Posted by *El Diablo*

Like Siamese Twins?

just like that but not me and my girl im talking about her ex and her cousin

***El Diablo*** · 08-06-2009, 08:45 AM

Originally Posted by OH REALLY

this is the first time i have ever asked for advice on anything personal and now i dont think i should have too many people just want to fu7k around .... put i have put my jokes all over this furom so have fun....lol

Dont take it personally bro, we all love to have a laugh on this forum, but its little things you and your chick will need to straighten out, We can give advice but u need to take the actions......

Peace...

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:45 AM

Originally Posted by MAD MATT

Women love you to be in control lol, take it from me they love a good slap every now and then.

I have a pair of steel toecapped boots at home and i like to kick my gf around when wearing them. She doesnt like it at the time but once the wounds heal she always says she loves me...

well i never hit her but im thinking about shacking her

**Dancer** · 08-06-2009, 08:45 AM

you are still the lust stage.

If there are problems now that is not a good sign.

Certain people's personality clashes with others. This is just that situation.

You are not meant to get along with everyone you hump. I have had girls that I couldn't stand to be around, hated those bitched but loved to fukkem.

You also sound young... Age will make a difference.

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by *El Diablo*

Dont take it personally bro, we all love to have a laugh on this forum, but its little things you and your chick will need to straighten out, We can give advice but u need to take the actions......

Peace...

i know its cool.. i have my fun on here as well... just need to build up my self asteem ... but how

**Dancer** · 08-06-2009, 08:49 AM

Exactly why do you think you are controlling?

Cause she tells you are or your own actions?

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by Dancer

you are still the lust stage.

If there are problems now that is not a good sign.

Certain people's personality clashes with others. This is just that situation.

You are not meant to get along with everyone you hump. I have had girls that I couldn't stand to be around, hated those bitched but loved to fukkem.

You also sound young... Age will make a difference.

well im 30 and she is 22 but she is a good girl and acts like she is 26 but we get along great just a lot of jealousy and i get controling with it...

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:50 AM

im a really good guy

**Dancer** · 08-06-2009, 08:50 AM

Originally Posted by OH REALLY

well im 30 and she is 22 but she is a good girl and acts like she is 26 but we get along great just a lot of jealousy and i get controling with it...

details my brotha, need details...

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by Dancer

Exactly why do you think you are controlling?

Cause she tells you are or your own actions?

well i told her i understand that her ex has to be around but dont talk to hem touch him or ever think ill be ok with you getting in the same car as him ever...and i wanted her to deleate him from facebook...does that sound controling...i think i was having a rage...

**Dancer** · 08-06-2009, 08:57 AM

Originally Posted by OH REALLY

well i told her i understand that her ex has to be around but dont talk to hem touch him or ever think ill be ok with you getting in the same car as him ever...and i wanted her to deleate him from facebook...does that sound controling...i think i was having a rage...

Exes are exes for a reason.

Sure its ok for her to do that as long as there is not a double standard...

Go out to dinner with your ex, surely she is not gonna have problem with that, I mean she is not controlling or anything like that... lol

**l2elapse** · 08-06-2009, 08:58 AM

if you have a serious problem get help from a professional, asking a steroid forum isnt the best way to go about this

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 09:14 AM

Originally Posted by Dancer

Exes are exes for a reason.

Sure its ok for her to do that as long as there is not a double standard...

Go out to dinner with your ex, surely she is not gonna have problem with that, I mean she is not controlling or anything like that... lol

i could flip it on her but there will be more problems down the road...well i guess i just have to deal with it ... i dont think she would ever go out for dinner with him

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 10:20 AM

any more advice?

**Narkissos** · 08-06-2009, 10:37 AM

Originally Posted by l2elapse

if you have a serious problem get help from a professional, asking a steroid forum isnt the best way to go about this

Agreed

**OH REALLY** · 08-06-2009, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by l2elapse

if you have a serious problem get help from a professional, asking a steroid forum isnt the best way to go about this

i thought we were all profesionals here?

**zimmy** · 08-06-2009, 12:13 PM

lol Well i would have given more details how to get over it....if I figure it out and fix myself , i'll let you know :\

**Cloe85** · 08-06-2009, 12:25 PM

being with someone that is controlling is not fun at all. you have to watch what you say and do all the time and hope you dont say the wrong thing or do the wrong thing to get him going, ALL THE TIME. putting up with it for a little while is ok... may show that he cares and is jealous, which isnt a totally bad thing, but... when its one thing after another, after another, something or someone is gonna give.

i would suggest that whenever you are about to say something that is not positive, take a breath and think, how would i react if she just said that to me...

and it goes the other way too, if she says something that rubs you wrong, ask her if its alright if you said or did that to me...

and i think if your controlling in one relationship, that you may be in others too and may not have realized it, or maybe you did. in any event, good luck.

**DOM6** · 08-06-2009, 01:15 PM

your 30 shes 22, theres your problem

**Nicotine** · 08-06-2009, 01:48 PM

usually people that are controlling and jealous, often are at their worst when they are guilty of doing something wrong, or have something to hide.

look at yourself first.

and maybe you arn't ready to be in a relationship?

fix yourself first, before you hurt others.

***RAGE*** · 08-06-2009, 01:52 PM

every time you act controlling take you cock out and put it on the table then take your hammer and smack it three times...It works bro, I was having a problem with masturbating in public and it only took one hit..

good luck and let me know how it goes...

**Dancer** · 08-06-2009, 02:14 PM

I only act controlling when I am cheating

**playboii** · 08-06-2009, 04:06 PM

im only controlling when the girl I am with is controlling.. so i give her a dose of her medicine but if shes layed back, I am the same way

**Bryan2** · 08-06-2009, 08:47 PM

I just got out of a 2 year relationship

To be honest she left me because i was controlling

Kinda took me going through that to realize ill never do it again!

So all in all the best lesson ive learned is your NEVER going to learn from others..... lol
You can hear the best advice in the world but until you yourself are ready what you hear isnt really going to mean shit.

Here is the thing with women as well, NOTHING you say or do or the way you act can stop a women from cheating on you; If they're going to do it then they're going to do it.

But if you act in a controlling way and give them the appearance that there is lack of trust it will either push them into cheating or push them away from you to find someone that wont give them that situation.

Just let go as hard as it sounds you cant control anything anyways