Another "What would you have done" thread.

[CBGB]

This is in regards to my mother-in-laws on again off again live-in boyfriend.

Two weeks ago my wife convinced her mother to throw out her boyfriend. He is pretty much a stay at home drunk, and aparently abusive. Not really my problem. I try to stay away from their drama.

This weekend while we were out of town she let him move back again. Still not my problem. We got in town and went over to her house to pick up our dog. While we were there him and my wife got into an argument about him leaving again. I don't have a problem with them bickering, but the Mother fvcker told her she needs to leave before she gets slapped. I lost it. I just started swinging. I hit this guy until he fell over and I didnt stop until he stopped moving. I have never reacted so violently so quickly before. I just kept yelling at him that she is a mother and my wife and nobody disrespects her like that. He looked horrible when we left. Bad! He was bleeding everywhere, even out of his ear. I've never seen that before. I got up and told him what would happen if he called the police and left.

Now i'm torn. One minute I think that he got what he deserves. But the next I cant help but think about how my kids will feel if they find out what I did. I'm not an angry person, and I try to preach to them that problems can almost always be resolved in other ways. I have no idea what I will tell them if they find out.

Would you guys have handled it differently?

[jbm]

I would hit him but not to the extent of almost killing him bro...

[gixxerboy1]

I cant say i blame you. But i don't think beating the shit out of him was the right move. Even though he deserves it. If he goes to the cops your looking at aggravated assault. How old are your kids?

[warchild]

you're crazy bro. i love it!

[T3/T4 GSR]

Nah it's cool sometimes people don't get it till they get their ass kicked bad enough

[CBGB]

I would hit him but not to the extent of almost killing him bro...

I dont think I almost killed him. He was awake when we left. Just no longer trying to get up.

[CBGB]

I cant say i blame you. But i don't think beating the shit out of him was the right move. Even though he deserves it. If he goes to the cops your looking at aggravated assault. How old are your kids?

6, 3, and 4months

Also, this was Sunday night and no police yet. They only live 3 blocks away. We sent people by the house a couple of time to check it out. Cops never showed up at the house.

[gixxerboy1]

6, 3, and 4months

Also, this was Sunday night and no police yet. They only live 3 blocks away. We sent people by the house a couple of time to check it out. Cops never showed up at the house.

I hope you dont have any problems. The 2 are young i would think you would just have to talk to the 6 year old. Tell him you were wrong and made a mistake. Also good people make mistakes but admit it and take responsibility if they do,

or just say I'm your dad and go to your room because i said so!!!

[jbm]

I dont think I almost killed him. He was awake when we left. Just no longer trying to get up.

Well! he deserves it anyway!

[sizerp]

6, 3, and 4months

Also, this was Sunday night and no police yet. They only live 3 blocks away. We sent people by the house a couple of time to check it out. Cops never showed up at the house.

If he's a crazy drunk, there's a possibility he doesn't remember what happened that night, LOL. He probably thought he fell down the stairs again.

What's your MIL have to say?

Also, if it comes back around again you could say he threatened your wife with a bottle, so you knocked him out.

[jbm]

next time do the arm bar....

[MuscleScience]

I have been sitting here typing and retyping what I would have and have done in the past. All I can really say is I have regretted hurting people every time I have done it in the past no matter how much it felt right or good or they deserved it. I can tell you that at one moment in my life I thought I had thrown it all away in anger. Its a very dark and deep emotion when you think that your life is over because you did something that could never be undone.

[sizerp]

I have been sitting here typing and retyping what I would have and have done in the past. All I can really say is I have regretted hurting people every time I have done it in the past no matter how much it felt right or good or they deserved it. I can tell you that at one moment in my life I thought I had thrown it all away in anger. Its a very dark and deep emotion when you think that your life is over because you did something that could never be undone.

What you do bro?

[xo3et]

Dude my old man would drink and was a boozer. Odds are and this is from experience, he wont remember much or anything. He probably would have gone back in and started to drink again.

The police come your going to be fine, get a story with your wife where he went to attack her and you defended her.

Regards the police your going to be ok on this one dude, you have a witness, he was drunk and abusive and you used self defence.

[sizerp]

next time do the arm bar....

[Kratos]

at least she won't make you go visit her mom's house again any time soon, lol.

[Friend]

That's a sport i could really get into

[MuscleScience]

What you do bro?

Fvcked up royally and got really really lucky, something that I think about often actually. I didnt respond to the OP to display that I am a bad ass or have a source of pride about having a horrible temper problem and hurting people for stupid reason. For me I am actually very shameful of those facts and feel that I am a boy in a mans body acting as such. People who know me on here know I think about things a lot. That was one moment in my life were me not thinking nearly ruined a lot of lives including my own for no real good reason other than I was acting like a child and not a Man. I think the best way to learn is from others mistakes and not have to deal with ramifications of making them on ones own. Just thought I would share if it helps.

BTW not saying the OP was not acting like a man, Im saying I was in that particular instance. Lord knows anyone messes with a mans women the man brings the hammer.

[jbm]

Wow! I got a DICK bar!

[jbm]

Fvcked up royally and got really really lucky, something that I think about often actually. I didnt respond to the OP to display that I am a bad ass or have a source of pride about having a horrible temper problem and hurting people for stupid reason. For me I am actually very shameful of those facts and feel that I am a boy in a mans body acting as such. People who know me on here know I think about things a lot. That was one moment in my life were me not thinking nearly ruined a lot of lives including my own for no real good reason other than I was acting like a child and not a Man. I think the best way to learn is from others mistakes and not have to deal with ramifications of making them on ones own. Just thought I would share if it helps.

BTW not saying the OP was not acting like a man, Im saying I was in that particular instance. Lord knows anyone messes with a mans women the man brings the hammer.

[lovbyts]

I think it was to much since he only THREATENED to slap her. In that case you should have go in his face and scared the crap out of him. IF he touched her then the gloves are off.

[*El Diablo*]

i would have killed him.Point.

[energizer bunny]

if they find out.......explain to them that no one threatens your family.

and he deserved it.....dont apologise or back down.......its done now so no point in trying to make things better........some people see kindness as a weakness.

[Flagg]

To be honest it sounds like you've done everyone a favour.

There's no excuse for beating on a woman. Not ever. If he abuses your Mother in Law, prehaps he got a taste of what it's like when someone stronger beats on a person and there is nothing they can do about it.

But then I hope this doesn't cause family problems. You would think that after this he would leave, but a lot of women will stick around with an abusive partner for some time, even going so far as trying to justify their actions. Don't be too shocked if the Mother in Law hates you for this. But she could equally be glad of it.

I hope he doesn't go to the police but I don't think you did anything wrong.

[Iron_Pig]

He got what was coming to him,Then you should have leaned over and whispered in his ear and said if I ever see you drunk punk ass again bitch you will regret the day god put your sorry ass on this earth.

[stpete]

Threatening your woman is a reason to go. Especially if you're in the same room. Fvck him, he had it coming.

[DSM4Life]

You better hope it doesn't go to court. If it does your screwed.

[CBGB]

If he's a crazy drunk, there's a possibility he doesn't remember what happened that night, LOL. He probably thought he fell down the stairs again.

What's your MIL have to say?

Also, if it comes back around again you could say he threatened your wife with a bottle, so you knocked him out.

Her mother was yelling at him that he Fvcked up. She is a drunk also. Neither of them are decent people. IMO She is essentially a waste of skin.

I have been sitting here typing and retyping what I would have and have done in the past. All I can really say is I have regretted hurting people every time I have done it in the past no matter how much it felt right or good or they deserved it. I can tell you that at one moment in my life I thought I had thrown it all away in anger. Its a very dark and deep emotion when you think that your life is over because you did something that could never be undone.

I understand where you are comming from. I did something several years back that changed the way I respond to people. I reacted in self defence and still had a hard time dealing with the guilt.

As far as the police go. I don't think it's an issue. They know him well enough from prior domestic issues. As far as I know I have a clean name around here. I think he is probably a little afraid to call the police anyway.


On the flip side of this. My wife has been treating me like a king every since it happened. It's pretty nice.

[TITANIUM]

I think it was to much since he only THREATENED to slap her. In that case you should have go in his face and scared the crap out of him. IF he touched her then the gloves are off.

I'm with byts on this one.

Once he touches your wife, then it's basically a self defenses scenario.

Verbal stuff is hearsay in court.

Now, if the cops did show up, and your wife said that he slapped her, you probably wouldn't get charged at all.

Depends on the state you live in and the law system itself.

Remember, this guy was betting your mother in law in the first place.

So, that's probably why he did nothing.

Also, his criminal history , if he has one, would effect the out come.

I personally do absolutely nothing with verbal conflicts.

Once I'm touched,(Myself, kids, or wife),l I consider it a threat, war has been declared.

[BG]

Nah it's cool sometimes people don't get it till they get their ass kicked bad enough

X 2....atleast here in NY lol. People like that need to beat real bad for it to really set in. He will think twice next time he trys to pull some bullshit.

[BG]

if they find out.......explain to them that no one threatens your family.

and he deserved it.....dont apologise or back down.......its done now so no point in trying to make things better........some people see kindness as a weakness.

Yup, just tell them he said he was going to hurt Mommy !!

[Dukkit]

well you should be cool with your kids

you say you teach them there are ways to diffuse situations without violence.
but you should also be teaching them to respect women
so this is an instance you can use, an example if you must, of how you should respect women, or else you risk the consequences

and your girls, moms boyfriend obviously doesnt respect women

so he deserved what he got

i would of controlled myself a lil bit more and maybe only choked him up against the wall

but you reacted well within the boundries of someone who loves their wife/mother of their children

[BG]

^^^2 birds with one stone.

[Mooseman33]

u did the right thing bro. this guy deserved every bit of it, maybe even a few kicks to the head while he was down..
this guy is not going to cops or court, u have ur wife, mother in law as witness that he made the first move, sounds like a case of self defense...

great job man, and dont feel bad about this one..

[calgarian]

This is in regards to my mother-in-laws on again off again live-in boyfriend.

Two weeks ago my wife convinced her mother to throw out her boyfriend. He is pretty much a stay at home drunk, and aparently abusive. Not really my problem. I try to stay away from their drama.

This weekend while we were out of town she let him move back again. Still not my problem. We got in town and went over to her house to pick up our dog. While we were there him and my wife got into an argument about him leaving again. I don't have a problem with them bickering, but the Mother fvcker told her she needs to leave before she gets slapped. I lost it. I just started swinging. I hit this guy until he fell over and I didnt stop until he stopped moving. I have never reacted so violently so quickly before. I just kept yelling at him that she is a mother and my wife and nobody disrespects her like that. He looked horrible when we left. Bad! He was bleeding everywhere, even out of his ear. I've never seen that before. I got up and told him what would happen if he called the police and left.

Now i'm torn. One minute I think that he got what he deserves. But the next I cant help but think about how my kids will feel if they find out what I did. I'm not an angry person, and I try to preach to them that problems can almost always be resolved in other ways. I have no idea what I will tell them if they find out.

Would you guys have handled it differently?

Nope, nobody disrespect my woman......

[CBGB]

A little update.

Police never showed up and everything seemed to be fine untill Monday. The guy called my house and left 4 messages on my answering machine after I went to bed. Talking about how I sucker punched me and he was going to find me. I let it go. I'm not the least bit afraid of him. But yesterday he showed up at my job asking for me. I was at the gym so I didnt know untill I got back. He has definitely crossed the line. However, I'm not sure how I should handle this now. On one hand I don't think this is going to end if I go out and whip his ass, on the other.....I just want to whip his ass.

[Nooomoto]

Would you guys have handled it differently?

Nope! You did what any self-respecting MAN would do. And I use the term MAN in the "manly" sense...not the gender sense. Some dude disgraced your wife and your honor, and you handled his shit. I see no problem with that. I think the world would be a better place if more people were willing to get into a fight, but most people these days just wanna bicker and be all back handed about shit.

Most likely that dude will never open his fkin mouth again, and thats the way it should be.

I got into it with two big Hawaiians about a month ago because one of them told my gf to "shut the **** up", I followed them into the bathroom and we threw it down...there wasnt a clear winner as we just had a wild ass brawl for like 45 seconds, but we gave eachother props afterwards and went our separate ways.

It's man-law...and it's increasingly being phased out these days. Unless someone did something severely ****ed up, I usually end up being cool with people after I fight with them.

Last year I was in Orlando for NYE with a buddy of mine fresh off a tour in Iraq...he's always a little more violent and ready to do crazy shit at the drop of a hat. Anyway, some dudes fiance shoved him, and he told the dude to get his "****" under control...the guy didn't do a ****in thing. He was talking shit but wouldn't step outside. I can only imagine whats going through his fiance's mind "Some guy called me a ****, and he didnt do anything about it?"...haha he probably took her home and was like "Baby, it's not worth getting in trouble for"...I can't respect a dude like that.

Props to you my friend.

EDIT: I just read your last post...stomp his ass again, you have to escalate the violence of action until he gets your point. It shouldn't be too difficult if he's a ****in drunk that sits on a couch all day.

[Hazard]

A little update.

Police never showed up and everything seemed to be fine untill Monday. The guy called my house and left 4 messages on my answering machine after I went to bed. Talking about how I sucker punched me and he was going to find me. I let it go. I'm not the least bit afraid of him. But yesterday he showed up at my job asking for me. I was at the gym so I didnt know untill I got back. He has definitely crossed the line. However, I'm not sure how I should handle this now. On one hand I don't think this is going to end if I go out and whip his ass, on the other.....I just want to whip his ass.

If it was me, and i'm not saying i'm right, I'd let him find me..... preferably at home. DEFINATELY NOT AT WORK.....

Let him find you at home.... and beat the shit out of him again on your own property. Not to the extent of before..... but hit him a few times and then call the cops. Tell them he has been searching you out at work..... he finally found you at home.... attacked you..... and you defended yourself. Then press charges against him.....

~Haz~

[peteroy01]

sounds shady. if he knew that you straight up whooped his ass then he's not gonna fight fair(Chinese ninja stars, shank, or gun). so be careful. look for hands in pockets or loose shirts.

i would have done the same in your situation.

[CBGB]

sounds shady. if he knew that you straight up whooped his ass then he's not gonna fight fair(Chinese ninja stars, shank, or gun). so be careful. look for hands in pockets or loose shirts.

i would have done the same in your situation.

Right. I get the feeling i'm being baited.

Last night I had the police come over to file a report on the messages. I think that will give me an alibi that he has been harassing me/ threatening me. That way when I see him again I will have a little back-up. My intent is to set an example next time we cross paths.