any advice?

[Nicotine]

so, a friend of mine - YES, a real friend... not "me, errr, i mean a friend" is having an issue.

he dated a guy who was marred for 4 yrs.

this guy met with lawyers, was going to leave his wife, etc etc.

it never happened.

after 4 yrs of waiting, my friend told the guy he wasnt waiting anymore, and that he would like to continue being friends, but was tired of being misled.

over the yrs, the guy gave him MOSTLY cash..nothing huge.. few hundred every few weeks, etc.

very very few of the times were there any paper trails. he said maybe 2 or 3 times the guy xferred a few bucks back in the day.

now that he split, this guy is threatening court, he's gonna sue, etc etc etc.

but, they never signed an agreement....every time it was because this guy "cared".... (i personally think he used it as a way to lead my friend on for yrs, with no intentions of ever leaving his wife)

can the guy do anything about it?

[CHUCKYthentic]

wow crazy story... well if there is no legitimate proof or paper trail then I'd say no...wait just noticed you said he transferred money, damn

regardless its not like the money was given to pay for something, it was a favor right? so you re right, there were no contracts or any reason why the money wasnt given for anything other than a favor

your friend should be good. i wouldnt be surprised if that guy is just bluffing. hey if your buddy really wants to fight fire with fire then tell him to tell the dude if he tries anything then he ll expose their relationship to his wife! haha

hope that helps a little my man, good luck

[TinyTexan]

no way in hell he would file suit against his gay lover while still married. It would be judicial suicide for him when his wife files for divorce form him after learning about it. Tell your friend to say go ahead.

[J-Dogg]

It was a gift, he has no recourse.

I'm sure the guy is not going to go to court and make it public he was having an affair on his wife for 4 years.

Doing that would give her terms for divorce in which would likely cost him a lot more than your friend was given.

It's only civil court, if he wants to sue, let him try, the burden is on him to prove he's owned the money back.

[Nicotine]

his wife knows.

she found out and said "she'd put up with it, provided he stayed there - and she would turn a blind eye"

i figured the guy had no recourse.. it was a gift - and wasnt blackmail.

hence why i'd never date a married guy....... hell, single guys are problematic enuff.

[Nooomoto]

See...this is why I don't date dudes. Chicks don't try to sue me...that and they have vaginas.

[Mooseman33]

if there was never anything written that says it was a loan or that there must be repayment this guy has shit.

i would trash this guy at his job, hang-outs, let everyone know he is married and having a gay affair...
his wife can only turn a blind eye for so long, when she becomes the joke of the town this guy will wish he never played that game.
tell ur friend to spit in this fvks face, he has nothing....

[firsttimer555]

tell him to sue because lawsuits become public record, then everyone can start asking questions

[DSM4Life]

I think you... I mean you friend has nothing to worry about. There was no contract so there's no lawsuit here.

I think your buddy was wrong for dating a married man.
I think your buddys b/f was wrong for cheating.
I think your buddys b/f's wife was wrong for turning a blind eye to the cheating.

[Mooseman33]

thats alot of thinking DSM

[Nicotine]

I think you... I mean you friend has nothing to worry about. There was no contract so there's no lawsuit here.

I think your buddy was wrong for dating a married man.
I think your buddys b/f was wrong for cheating.
I think your buddys b/f's wife was wrong for turning a blind eye to the cheating.

you didnt reply with just a picture....there are actual words!

hehehehe

and no, it wasn't me - honestly.

im in total agreement with you, and i told him that shit from day 1.

but he was like "we were at lawyers, he's going to be with me, we went to look at a house"

blah blah blah

i knew it was all bullshit..then when this guy started buying him things, giving him a few bucks - i knew it was never going to happen, and he was using those things to keep him strung along for the ride....

[TinyTexan]

Where is Judge Judy when you need her?

[tboney]

I think you... I mean you friend has nothing to worry about. There was no contract so there's no lawsuit here.

[B]I think your buddy was wrong for dating a married man.[/B]I think your buddys b/f was wrong for cheating.
I think your buddys b/f's wife was wrong for turning a blind eye to the cheating.

Thats funny!!!

[DSM4Life]

[Kratos]

dating married people is for the dumb and desperate

there is no legal recourse for the money and the guy is a tool for asking and even a bigger tool for saying he'll involve the courts...he better look like a model or have a magic butthole

[Nicotine]

i told him he was being a retard from day 1.

the amounts that were given cant be proven, except a few at the beginning.

i told him, if it goes to court - msg all the guys family on facebook, and make them all aware of the situation..... lol

then again, im an asshole......but, then again - i'd never put myself in that situation.

[Twist]

this is dumb. what would he sue for? on what grounds? "I gave someone money and now I want it back?"

If anything you friend could sue (it would never work) his bf saying that he relied to detriment of his person that he was going to break up with his wife. They even went to look at a house together. There would be damages and there could be compensation. In fact the court could enforce the man to go through with certain things, it wouldn't be much, but it would be hilarious. anyway none of this would ever happen.