Ex gf

[Hate Being Small]

Ok so i just split up with my girlfriend 2 days ago after a rocky relationship i'll have to admit she was stunnin im 23 but shes the best iv'e ever had im just wondering is it normal to feel down after a long relationship even when i look at her facebook i get angry cuz she has moved on so quick im currently banging the gym everyday and i think this saturday i should go out and try n look for some fresh poon lol so basicly im just looking for some opinions or tips thanks

[Mooseman33]

in a situation like this there is one and only one thing to do...

lift up ur skirt and grab ur balls, man up and go get some tail brother...

Wharton can probaly help u more, as he loves these type of threads...

[MaNiCC]

depends on circumstances. if your totally finished stop looking at her facebook and anything that reminds you of her, yeh bro its normal to feel shit i split with my girl nearlly a year ago now and i still think about her everyday, ive met other people but they dont replace anybody you love, just keep occupied bro, if the relationship is going to stay in the past, keep your head in the present and the future

im not going to comment on the poon tang bender, i'll leave that to the rest of the mofo's on here

Hope you feel better soon


MaNiCC

[MaNiCC]

one mofo beat me to it

Mooseyyyy Mooose

[Kratos]

first tip...remove her from your friend list
the depression hasn't even started to set in yet and you'll be facebook stalking her for months otherwise...it isn't healthy

what makes you think she moved on so quick...what'd she do post a pic with some dude...almost every girl does that, she did it for you

[Hate Being Small]

Ye thanks for your comments ye ill just stay positive ye ive deleted her and blocked her

[chuckt12345]

youll more than likely get back together, bang, break up again, bang etc.

[Hate Being Small]

haha ye chuck ive done that plenty of times but that sh*t messes with my mind and stresses me out lol women are messed up

[Kratos]

Ye thanks for your comments ye ill just stay positive ye ive deleted her and blocked her

that will have more of an impact on her then anything that could happen on your page.
at some point she will try to peek your profile
"omg, he removed me as a friend"
trust me, it took me many years to figure out how the female brain works
it will make her miss you

besides how it makes her feel it's a healthy thing for your state of mind...you don't need to be keeping track of what's going on in her life.

men have this disorder with their brains where they can't move on until they have sex with someone new
so focus on your seach for someone new instead of her or you'll get mad depressed

[energizer bunny]

its always hard mate.....definately delete her from facebook and all that shit, definately get some p u s sy!......

[Hate Being Small]

ye i will definetly try this saturday night lol i don't care what she looks like aslong as she has a pulse lol

[Hazard]

She'll just create a fake facebook page and check in on you anyways..... it'll still drive her nuts that you tried to get rid of her tho LOL

~Haz~

[Hate Being Small]

ye hazard ur probably right bro

[Friend]

[FranciscoG]

Meaningless sex like most said will take your mind off of her.

[Hate Being Small]

=PharmDoc-Cyrus;5035307]Meaningless sex like most said will take your mind off of her

ye ill give u a update monday after the weekend an let u know how i get on

[J-Dogg]

first tip...remove her from your friend list
the depression hasn't even started to set in yet and you'll be facebook stalking her for months otherwise...it isn't healthy

what makes you think she moved on so quick...what'd she do post a pic with some dude...almost every girl does that, she did it for you

For the first time in history, I side with Kratos on this one

[ni4ni]

meaningless sex like most said will take your mind off of her.

fvck yeah!!

[PC650]

first tip...remove her from your friend list
the depression hasn't even started to set in yet and you'll be facebook stalking her for months otherwise...it isn't healthy

what makes you think she moved on so quick...what'd she do post a pic with some dude...almost every girl does that, she did it for you

i agree 100%. i was gonna write the same thing

[corsa5000]

the more ***** you get the less important she will become and the more of a god to women you will feel hahah. Trust me been down this road before and the best thing you can do is have as much sex with as many women as possible.

[Hoggage_54]

lololol you kill me bro

[Hoggage_54]

post some pics lets see her

[FranciscoG]

Whatever else you do this weekend don´t stay home, You must stay away from the house.

Ideal time is the devil´s playground ç

[Bojangles69]

If you had 10 girls lined up, numbers in your cell right now, you would NOT be giving this chick a seconds thought.
Relationships quell lifelong insecurities, its a known fact.

Anything you were insecure about before you met her, chances are they all got swept under the carpet and she helped you deal with those problems. This is always how it works out in relationships. Then one day you break up, and you're left to deal with all the crap she made you forget about. Its a shock to the limbic system, and chances are you'll feel it.

I'm doing my thesis this year on break ups, so as versed as I already am, I'm currently doing tons of research on specific coping strategies.
One thing you need to understand is the process of pair bonding with a female, requires that you associate a lot of negative traits of a person as positive. Things that would urk normal people, like love handles, hair on her arms, a bent nose, you associate all those things as positive traits throughout the course of a relationship.

You do the same thing with negative personality traits. What REALLY hurts in a break up, is NOT that you're broken up, but the mind is CHANGING, and reassociating new and more accurate beliefs to your partner.
Thats all it really is, you get into a relationship you ASSOCIATE bad things as good,
you get out of a relationship you DISSASSOCIATE bad things from the good, and get a much more logical perception of the person you were once dating.
"Love is blind" holds truth in so many more ways then one.

And the actual pain you feel, is because your brain doesn't like to adopt new beliefs, it causes anxiety for everyone. Because people like to think they have other people figured out, it brings comfort into their lives. Well trying to figure someout is almost like trying to predict the weather, its always unpredictable, and you NEVER really have anyone figured out.

When you reach that stage, you'll start to percieve your ex almost as someone you never met, or a stranger, and THAT causes pain, discomfort, and makes you question your own self worth. "Wow, 6 months ago, I knew this girl like the back of my hand... and now, I don't even know her". Its all about the process of change. Just remember its not the girl causing the pain as much as it just is the situation. You can replace that girl with anyone else, and you'd most likely still be feeling what you're feeling. Because its not so much the parting that hurts, but being reexposed to the dating world with new beliefs and insecurities, it requires you start using your brain in a new and different way (to avoid past pain) and THATS what really causes the most discomfort.
Just understand whatever you're going through is completely normal, no matter how bad it gets, or how easy it is, everyone copes in different ways. But finding new dating prospects helps a ton, because it helps you dissassociate quicker, it really DOES bring you to reality faster, which is why guys recommend it. Its more effective for just getting putang, it really does have a sort of therapuetic purpose.

G/luck with everything and don't be afraid to talk about shit, theres always guys who have been through this shit and know how to help you through. And on a serious note however, women usually DO get over relationships quicker (attractive women), theres psycho/biological reasons for this, mainly because they come from a frame of abundance (reproductively speaking) compared to males. And there is innately less fear because of this amost their entire lives (well as long as they're attractive (thats their reproductive value), but once the looks wear away is usually when the mid life crisis begins). But men don't have expiration dates like women, so even though women can emotionally move forward quicker (same reason why suicide rates are higher for men after breakups) men have a less disposable reproductive value. So it all balances out in the end. When a man gets older, he doesn't have to deal with feeling useless because he lost the majority of his reproductive value, so you DO have better things to look forward to lol. Take care! - Bo

[DSM4Life]

in a situation like this there is one and only one thing to do...

lift up ur skirt and grab ur balls, man up and go get some tail brother...

Wharton can probaly help u more, as he loves these type of threads...

Get some tail from her brother... +2

[RANA]

first tip...remove her from your friend list
the depression hasn't even started to set in yet and you'll be facebook stalking her for months otherwise...it isn't healthy

what makes you think she moved on so quick...what'd she do post a pic with some dude...almost every girl does that, she did it for you

I agree,
If she calls answer the phone but only talk for a few secs and tell her that your are preoccupied and tell her you will call her back and wait a few days to do it. Tell her you forgot to call back

[#47]

id say fvck her move on, but im just bitter about the same type of situation. like said before, delete her facebook an move on to new poon!!! happy hunting

[#47]

If you had 10 girls lined up, numbers in your cell right now, you would NOT be giving this chick a seconds thought.
Relationships quell lifelong insecurities, its a known fact.

Anything you were insecure about before you met her, chances are they all got swept under the carpet and she helped you deal with those problems. This is always how it works out in relationships. Then one day you break up, and you're left to deal with all the crap she made you forget about. Its a shock to the limbic system, and chances are you'll feel it.

I'm doing my thesis this year on break ups, so as versed as I already am, I'm currently doing tons of research on specific coping strategies.
One thing you need to understand is the process of pair bonding with a female, requires that you associate a lot of negative traits of a person as positive. Things that would urk normal people, like love handles, hair on her arms, a bent nose, you associate all those things as positive traits throughout the course of a relationship.

You do the same thing with negative personality traits. What REALLY hurts in a break up, is NOT that you're broken up, but the mind is CHANGING, and reassociating new and more accurate beliefs to your partner.
Thats all it really is, you get into a relationship you ASSOCIATE bad things as good,
you get out of a relationship you DISSASSOCIATE bad things from the good, and get a much more logical perception of the person you were once dating.
"Love is blind" holds truth in so many more ways then one.

And the actual pain you feel, is because your brain doesn't like to adopt new beliefs, it causes anxiety for everyone. Because people like to think they have other people figured out, it brings comfort into their lives. Well trying to figure someout is almost like trying to predict the weather, its always unpredictable, and you NEVER really have anyone figured out.

When you reach that stage, you'll start to percieve your ex almost as someone you never met, or a stranger, and THAT causes pain, discomfort, and makes you question your own self worth. "Wow, 6 months ago, I knew this girl like the back of my hand... and now, I don't even know her". Its all about the process of change. Just remember its not the girl causing the pain as much as it just is the situation. You can replace that girl with anyone else, and you'd most likely still be feeling what you're feeling. Because its not so much the parting that hurts, but being reexposed to the dating world with new beliefs and insecurities, it requires you start using your brain in a new and different way (to avoid past pain) and THATS what really causes the most discomfort.
Just understand whatever you're going through is completely normal, no matter how bad it gets, or how easy it is, everyone copes in different ways. But finding new dating prospects helps a ton, because it helps you dissassociate quicker, it really DOES bring you to reality faster, which is why guys recommend it. Its more effective for just getting putang, it really does have a sort of therapuetic purpose.

G/luck with everything and don't be afraid to talk about shit, theres always guys who have been through this shit and know how to help you through. And on a serious note however, women usually DO get over relationships quicker (attractive women), theres psycho/biological reasons for this, mainly because they come from a frame of abundance (reproductively speaking) compared to males. And there is innately less fear because of this amost their entire lives (well as long as they're attractive (thats their reproductive value), but once the looks wear away is usually when the mid life crisis begins). But men don't have expiration dates like women, so even though women can emotionally move forward quicker (same reason why suicide rates are higher for men after breakups) men have a less disposable reproductive value. So it all balances out in the end. When a man gets older, he doesn't have to deal with feeling useless because he lost the majority of his reproductive value, so you DO have better things to look forward to lol. Take care! - Bo

damn bojangles! ya thesis sounds like a good read

[bjpennnn]

just get some tale and keep hitting the gym whateevr you do, do not answer her phone calls or texts for at least a month. Def remove her from your facebook.

[kalspic]

i just went through this shit with a girl of 8 months. bojangles hit the nail on the head. everything i look at,hear,read,eat, reminds me of her. she was pretty and all but its not really the physical features that i miss the most, its her personality and all the stuff inside.

the best thing that might happen to you now is find out how good your friends really are, and see if they will be there willing and ready to listen to you. but go out there get some new booty and drink all the beer you like... enjoy having your balls back

[laduem88]

dont remove her as a friend on facebook! what that does is it comes off like your having a hard time with things and makes you look bad, just try to not get on facebook as much. Its normal to want to look at her page and trust me even if you do remove her, your going to find yourself still looking her up lol...just try to move on and get on some other girls...stay busy to keep your mind off things and keep hitting the gym hard!

[ranging1]

LMFAO AHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH holy shit thats funny

[DangerDave]

If you had 10 girls lined up, numbers in your cell right now, you would NOT be giving this chick a seconds thought.
Relationships quell lifelong insecurities, its a known fact.

Anything you were insecure about before you met her, chances are they all got swept under the carpet and she helped you deal with those problems. This is always how it works out in relationships. Then one day you break up, and you're left to deal with all the crap she made you forget about. Its a shock to the limbic system, and chances are you'll feel it.

I'm doing my thesis this year on break ups, so as versed as I already am, I'm currently doing tons of research on specific coping strategies.
One thing you need to understand is the process of pair bonding with a female, requires that you associate a lot of negative traits of a person as positive. Things that would urk normal people, like love handles, hair on her arms, a bent nose, you associate all those things as positive traits throughout the course of a relationship.

You do the same thing with negative personality traits. What REALLY hurts in a break up, is NOT that you're broken up, but the mind is CHANGING, and reassociating new and more accurate beliefs to your partner.
Thats all it really is, you get into a relationship you ASSOCIATE bad things as good,
you get out of a relationship you DISSASSOCIATE bad things from the good, and get a much more logical perception of the person you were once dating.
"Love is blind" holds truth in so many more ways then one.

And the actual pain you feel, is because your brain doesn't like to adopt new beliefs, it causes anxiety for everyone. Because people like to think they have other people figured out, it brings comfort into their lives. Well trying to figure someout is almost like trying to predict the weather, its always unpredictable, and you NEVER really have anyone figured out.

When you reach that stage, you'll start to percieve your ex almost as someone you never met, or a stranger, and THAT causes pain, discomfort, and makes you question your own self worth. "Wow, 6 months ago, I knew this girl like the back of my hand... and now, I don't even know her". Its all about the process of change. Just remember its not the girl causing the pain as much as it just is the situation. You can replace that girl with anyone else, and you'd most likely still be feeling what you're feeling. Because its not so much the parting that hurts, but being reexposed to the dating world with new beliefs and insecurities, it requires you start using your brain in a new and different way (to avoid past pain) and THATS what really causes the most discomfort.
Just understand whatever you're going through is completely normal, no matter how bad it gets, or how easy it is, everyone copes in different ways. But finding new dating prospects helps a ton, because it helps you dissassociate quicker, it really DOES bring you to reality faster, which is why guys recommend it. Its more effective for just getting putang, it really does have a sort of therapuetic purpose.

G/luck with everything and don't be afraid to talk about shit, theres always guys who have been through this shit and know how to help you through. And on a serious note however, women usually DO get over relationships quicker (attractive women), theres psycho/biological reasons for this, mainly because they come from a frame of abundance (reproductively speaking) compared to males. And there is innately less fear because of this amost their entire lives (well as long as they're attractive (thats their reproductive value), but once the looks wear away is usually when the mid life crisis begins). But men don't have expiration dates like women, so even though women can emotionally move forward quicker (same reason why suicide rates are higher for men after breakups) men have a less disposable reproductive value. So it all balances out in the end. When a man gets older, he doesn't have to deal with feeling useless because he lost the majority of his reproductive value, so you DO have better things to look forward to lol. Take care! - Bo

This is some really solid stuff Bo, really insightful. THinking I'm gonna use some of the info in this post when working on my new thesis. Think I'm gonna do it about break ups and like coping methods etc.

[laduem88]

damn bojangles! ya thesis sounds like a good read

always love your posts about relationships bojangles! you should make a thread and just have these tips written out

[Hate Being Small]

Wow i never thought i would get this many replys thankyou all of you especially bojangles69 i appreciate it thanks

[Chitown Raider]

You do the same thing with negative personality traits. What REALLY hurts in a break up, is NOT that you're broken up, but the mind is CHANGING, and reassociating new and more accurate beliefs to your partner.
Thats all it really is, you get into a relationship you ASSOCIATE bad things as good,
you get out of a relationship you DISSASSOCIATE bad things from the good, and get a much more logical perception of the person you were once dating.
"Love is blind" holds truth in so many more ways then one.

Bingo!!! I wish I would have realized this when I had a bad break up almost a year ago. It would have saved the headaches of when one person loses interest and eliminated all the fights.