got my girl arrested? is she crazy?

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 01:32 PM

hey i got this girlfriend well ex now she was a virgin when i met her. we had a lot of problems broke up here and there but i never cheated on her and i dont think she cheated on me sorta think she is obsessed with me. well everytime we have a problems and we fight she threatens to call my mom and dad and tell them i hit her...weird and then threatens calling my school and stuff says so much bullshit and sometimes even said she is gona make up that i raped her and shit and call my school to tell them shit. i dunno but i think she sorta gets angry and acts on impulse. when we dont have a prob she is amazing but its only when we have a problem she trys so hard to get me upset. every personal secretes i have told her she says she is gona use against me. when we fight i just need time to cool down so i tell her just leave me alone for the night or day but she calls about 150 times no joke. well the first time she said she was goan accuse me of the rape shit and called my house where my paretns live and then used my personal issues against me i just went to the cops and got her arrested before it she could act. well months went by and we started talking and she said oh im sorry i was young and stupid and its all in the past well we started talking everything was fine until we had and arguemnt because i wanted to hang with my friends for 2 weekends ina row and she thought i cheated on her so she flipped. i didnt cheat just like space soemtiems. but she flipped said she was gona do everything all over again. now i dunno what to believe but i just stopped contact what would u do? she says she loves me and she can't be with anyone else, she has helped me a lot with my life. is she just young and immature and she will grow out of it shes 22 now or is she crazy and i need to keep away?

**Hunter** · 02-15-2010, 01:41 PM

Cut all contact but what did you get her arrested for?

Also how old are you?

**Smiley619** · 02-15-2010, 01:43 PM

maaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnn, drop her ass and keep it moving! don't try and fix her. you have already given her too many chances as it is! once a nut, always a nut. it's a shame because its usually the fine ones who are all ****ed in the head.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 01:47 PM

im 26, but like i never had a better sex life i think thats why i gave it another shot. plus she is great when were fine but she is so jelous and she dont trust me. but i havent given her a reason not to. she got arrested for harassment. she kept writing some crazy shit to me, and when she started the rape thing and using my emotional prob against me i had no choice she was giving me anxiety.

**Nooomoto** · 02-15-2010, 01:49 PM

Fist that bitch

**Hunter** · 02-15-2010, 01:50 PM

Originally Posted by hero717

im 26, but like i never had a better sex life i think thats why i gave it another shot. plus she is great when were fine but she is so jelous and she dont trust me. but i havent given her a reason not to. she got arrested for harassment. she kept writing some crazy shit to me, and when she started the rape thing and using my emotional prob against me i had no choice she was giving me anxiety.

Your old enough to know better, drop her. there are plenty of normal girls who are talented in bed and not crazy. Drop all contact.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 01:50 PM

still have a pending restraining order against her till july, but she dont even care like either way i cant put anyone in jail i will never call the cops again on her but sometimes she loses control she sent me an email saying she is starting to see someone to learn now to control herself better.

my prob is that i get embaressed very easy like she ****s with my friends and then my family like i dont want everyone knowing my business im quiet and keep to myself.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 01:52 PM

Originally Posted by Nooomoto

Fist that bitch

i should really beat her with that then use it on her lol.

**alexISthrowed** · 02-15-2010, 02:02 PM

Crazy in the head crazy in bed. Dump the biitch you dont wanna mess with a crazy girl.

**Mooseman33** · 02-15-2010, 02:07 PM

listen here man, im going to give u some info.
my girl was the same way, u are with a bi-polar pyscho.
things will never change, NEVER. the highs are not worth the lows..

one mistake and ur life will be ruined. if she ever acts on the rape thing,u are fvked, even if u beat it.

change ur number, cut off all contact, there are normal people out there, trust me man..

if u need to talk, as i lived this, feel free to pm me brother....

**Kratos** · 02-15-2010, 02:13 PM

holy fvcking shit,
what is with the never ending number of bi-polar bitches, and equal number of dumb ass men willing to tollerate them for the 2% of the time the relationship is good.

is she crazy?
well, does she have a vagina?
is she crazier then most? yes

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 02:24 PM

Originally Posted by Mooseman33

listen here man, im going to give u some info.
my girl was the same way, u are with a bi-polar pyscho.
things will never change, NEVER. the highs are not worth the lows..

one mistake and ur life will be ruined. if she ever acts on the rape thing,u are fvked, even if u beat it.

change ur number, cut off all contact, there are normal people out there, trust me man..

if u need to talk, as i lived this, feel free to pm me brother....

I told her i think she is bi polar and she said she got tested and shes not. She knows she is out of control but even if i tell her to calm down call me later when ur calm she calls non stop. dont get me wrong im no angel either sometimes i go at it with her and call her and her mom a slut not to the mother just my ex. but like i dunno like when i first met her she had a huge lying problem. like i know she means well even my friends say she means well but when things dont go her way its crazy. she usually get nuts once i block her phone number but she also has spoof card. I know if she ever reports rape the cops told me even if its bullshit we have to arrest u. and im finishing up school to work in a hospital i dont want to lose that. i already changed my number 3 times. i know i sound stupid for even going this far but i dunno i guess i need the support to avoid her.

**Kratos** · 02-15-2010, 02:28 PM

Originally Posted by hero717

I told her i think she is bi polar and she said she got tested and shes not. .

Lmfao
there is no test
you can get diagnosed by a psychatrist after seeing them for a long period of time, but there is no exact test

a SCID derived diagnosis, confirmed by other clinicians who are familiar with the patient is about the closest thing to a test.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 02:32 PM

she has been seeing one since i met her and i went with her and he asked me to sit in a session with her once.she stopped seeing him cause of insurence.

**Vitruvian-Man** · 02-15-2010, 02:32 PM

If she's been tested for that then you should tell her to talk to a psychiatrist about depression.

In any case, it sounds to me like medication might be this girl's best friend. I would definitely get her to talk to a specialist about getting on something to control her emotional response to stressors/anxiety, etc.

**Mooseman33** · 02-15-2010, 02:33 PM

exactly...
she is shit crazy my friend....anytime someone threatens u with a charge that will cripple ur life, cut all contact....

**Kratos** · 02-15-2010, 02:33 PM

why was she seeing him though?
She would have likely been medicated.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 02:53 PM

she has been on a lot of different thing lexapro and many other depression meds.
how did people live in the days when everyone didnt take pills to relieve every problems in thier lives. she was on something else which she had to take every morning when she woke up dont remember the name. i know i gotta cut contact, i guess i just get lonly and and up banging her and then she thinks everything is ok. she now understand she ****ed up and she told me im sorry i know we cant be, go do what u gotta do and maybe in a few years when i grow up we will cross paths. she gets all depressed cause she thinks im like this stud who bangs girls everyweekend but thats not the case.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 02:55 PM

reading all my post i feel like im the *****, maybe its because i havent done a cycle in like a year. i guess i just feel so bad for the girls cause i sorta fell in love with her but i know i gotta move on.

**Mooseman33** · 02-15-2010, 02:55 PM

u cannot save her.
i know u want to, but nothing u do will help her get better...

love sucks brother.....

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 03:01 PM

oh she was bought up in a very wealthy family and i think the more money u have the more problems u have. like shes really jelous thinks her brother is the favorite and complains when he gets stuff. he is also a straight A student and she is 22 still didnt finish a semster of college. i looked this up its called learned helplessness. i think she has it. but like i met her parents and her dad is sorta the same way with the mom. like annoying calls 100 times if she doesnt pick up the phone. like they dont get it that the person is busy thats why they arent picking up. and then how she wants to ruin my life comes from her mom. like when i talk to her mom u can see how she talks shit about other people and like old stories my ex told me about her that is just the same exact way she acts weird.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 03:06 PM

Originally Posted by Mooseman33

u cannot save her.
i know u want to, but nothing u do will help her get better...

love sucks brother.....

thats exactly how i feel, everytime i thought she could change it goes back to this crazyness.

**Diamond*K** · 02-15-2010, 03:19 PM

sounds like she needs help. sadly u cant do that for her.. you can just be her friend.

its gonna take a while for her 2 start acting normal... it might be nver. if you want 2 be part of her life. you really need 2 understand where u guys stand and you cant get upset when she goes a lil nuts. she cant help it... she doesnt see that shes doin sumthing wrong when shes doin it.
ppl are creatures of habit.. so if u guys make this a habit of fightin.. it wont just stop 1 day.

dnt be with sum1 coz u feel bad. if you really love her.. then u need 2 understand that the way she acts wont just change. u cant let the lil shit she does bother you and u need to talk and set boundaries... if thats not wat you want...... walk away

**Kratos** · 02-15-2010, 03:19 PM

Originally Posted by hero717

oh she was bought up in a very wealthy family .

I was too
I'm mentally stable, just lazy cause life has always been easy
it's no excuse, crazy is crazy no matter how much money
my gf is a psycholgist to the poor...plenty of them are fuct up, maybe more

**Diamond*K** · 02-15-2010, 03:23 PM

remeber ppl are creatures of habit.. so now shes custom 2 fightin with you. she doesnt do it purposely its just the way humans are made.
next time she acts nuts.. dnt react!!!!!!!!!!! just be very assertive. when your attitude changes and you dnt react 2 her nonsense she wont kno wat 2 do.. she will even try harder to get a reaction... just dont react aggressively.. be very assertive,dnt let stuff bug u and w/e.. after awhile the way she acts will start 2 change with you. but that kinda thing takes time... and you gotta really love her 2 sit there and take her shit and not react
do you love her enough 2 do that?

**Mooseman33** · 02-15-2010, 03:31 PM

fvk this, stop trying to coach this guy to make it work..

run my friend, leave her behind. she is shit crazy, u will be happy with someone else.
again, u cannot save her, i was in ur place, trust me...

haul ass, dont look back...its like that motley crue song" dont go away mad, just go away"

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 03:36 PM

the thing is i feel like i tried that, i started pretending stuff didnt bother me but she takes it to another level thats why it got out of control she just wants a reaction. and she admits it to me later and says im sorry i just wanted to know u were upset too. cause i would always tell her maybe we should just go our sepreate ways and maybe later in life we will see what happens. we were good for a long time after i told her we have to communicate and she was awsome, but then she started picking fights but like staying calm and making it seem like i was out of control like i would say lets give eachother space like not hang out every day and talk every second of the day and she was ok with it but with her its all or nothing. so she started ignoring me we spoke and before i could say how u doing she would say hey i gotta go. and im like im getting annoyed u keep rushing me off the phone i just wanted a little space it makes me want to see u more when i do. and she was like im just busy after a huge fight im getting upset and she is making it seem like im crazy shes giving me what i want and im not happy. either way later she admits she was doing nothing she just was being a dik. i figured the only way it would work is to take time apart and let her figure herself out on her own u know understand she lost me casuse of all the bullshit. and maybe later it would work.

I was young and stupid ive done a lot of stupid things in my life and i grew up around 21 22 yrs old i thought girls mature faster than guys. i dunoi really appreicate the feedback

**energizer bunny** · 02-15-2010, 03:39 PM

get rid ASAP!

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 03:39 PM

i dunno it could also be the fact that i dont want a girl thats been banged by every guy in town and i also know she was a virgin when i got her. i dunno i live in LI so every girl is basically been around here and its rare to find one thats not. and i also think it has a lot to do with my sexual life with her cause she is really hot and i she works so hard to please me. like when we are together if i ask for anything she will get it for me and take care of me. which is great

**Kratos** · 02-15-2010, 03:48 PM

ur very dumb
I can tell you're going to stay with her
and you'll have shit running though your fingers for the rest of your life
all because you feel like the king of her vagina since you think you're the only one who's been there

**Diamond*K** · 02-15-2010, 03:50 PM

yea like i said.. she will look for the reaction. she will try so hard to get it outta you.. even acting weird and pushing you away. she just doent kno what 2 do. lol. trust me its not that crazy .
i get counsellin coz i react very badly when i get hurt. i feel very insecure and i learned growing up that if i bully or push away 1st .. then i win.
but anyways i fight a lot with my sister. even if we have nothing 2 fight about we still fight. weird right.. but its how we are. so now im tryin to break that habit so i dont react 2 her.
like ok.. im making bb pancakes and my sister is starting a fight with me 4 no reason ( prolly biut dishes or sumthing) so i didnt react. then shes like your food looks gross. and im just like ok.. well you dnt have 2 eat it. then she just didnt ko wat 2 do.. so she asked me weird questions bout how they tasted.... like she was acting sooo weird. its coz she expected a fight and she didnt kno wat else 2 say.
breaking those hobbits take lots of time and a lot of self awareness coz u cant react not matter what!
sum times its just better 2 walk away . sum days i wish i could just stop seing my sis.. but that aint gonna happen lol.. sadly...

**Diamond*K** · 02-15-2010, 03:53 PM

travel. i kno lots of girls that are virgins. i kno like 5 that are in ther 20s and waiting till marriage. trust me.. you can find sum1 else.

not telling you wat 2 do.. just letting u kno ur realistic options.

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 04:01 PM

but the thing is at least u can see something wrong and teach urself and not do the same thing again. i feel like she might not be able to look at the big picture. i mean there has been a handful of times she just let it be for the night and we both didnt talk and the next morning we were just ok and realized the fight was dumb. she tells me the reason she acts like that is she cant sleep knowing we are fighting and wants to figure stuff out right away, so she may call nonstop then i get mad or i do something to set her off. but i ger nervous that because i said shes ****en crazy and leave me alone or break up with her she will take things to another level saying ill calling ur house if u dont ans or ur family. i dunno is that normal. like it happened a few times and she regrets it later on but i dont want to worry later in life when she suspect something and she believes it happens. half the time thats what it is she assumes something (just a thought no proof) and she goes crazy. shes really negative thinks this worst in every situation.

kratos i understand where ur coming from and i should know better and learn and not put myself in the same situation. love sux its not casue i feel king of her vagina just sorta love the girl and when things are good she gets along great with my family and she cares about them and goes out of her way for them and that makes me feel good. my parents mean a lot to me.

**Kratos** · 02-15-2010, 04:13 PM

Originally Posted by hero717

. i dunno is that normal. like it happened a few times and she regrets it later on but i dont want to worry later in life when she suspect something and she believes it happens. half the time thats what it is she assumes something (just a thought no proof) and she goes crazy. shes really negative thinks this worst in every situation.

kratos i understand where ur coming from and i should know better and learn and not put myself in the same situation. love sux its not casue i feel king of her vagina just sorta love the girl and when things are good she gets along great with my family and she cares about them and goes out of her way for them and that makes me feel good. my parents mean a lot to me.

No, it's not normal, when me and my gf fight it's more of a stand-off like who will call who first. She'll often be the one to break the silence but if she calls and I don't call her back she be way more pissed when we finally do try to talk it out.

One of my best friends has been in a relationship like yours...almost exactly for 5 years now. The fighting is more intense then ever. She just broke his teeth by punching him in the face last week, then called his parent and said he was having a drug induced orgy with the girls in the apt upstairs. She totally sold it to his parents that he had a really bad drug problem and they were about to put him into rehab.

He calls her 2% milk, cause it's phenominal 2% of the time.
He says the sex is amazing, and one of the reasons he won't leave is cause he's the only one who's given her an orgasm...why is it when a man feels like the king of a vagina they just love it...we all do.

Anyway so he went and slept at a friends house and she destroyed a bunch of his shit while he was gone cause she was angry.
then they had sex
they haven't fully worked it out yet, but they'll be back together
he almost feels like he deserves the bad parts of the relationship at this point
you will be the same and become trapped.

**Kratos** · 02-15-2010, 04:15 PM

btw my gf was a virgin
when I met her she was 24
it would play zero into any relationship choices I make
we never fight (or I should say very very infrequently) and she's not crazy or I wouldn't be with her

**Nooomoto** · 02-15-2010, 04:29 PM

Originally Posted by Kratos

holy fvcking shit,
what is with the never ending number of bi-polar bitches, and equal number of dumb ass men willing to tollerate them for the 2% of the time the relationship is good.

is she crazy?
well, does she have a vagina?
is she crazier then most? yes

I tolerated that shit for 4 years before wising up. Waste of time! My ex recently called me after about 8 months of no contact and told me to pick up her mom from work, as it was her "final wish"...WTF!? LOL I just hung up

I'm done with crazy bitches. At the first sign of crazy I'm out!

She's not worth the hassle, dude. You'll find someone else. Besides being single for a while is fun.

**DCI** · 02-15-2010, 04:39 PM

I thought all women were just like that?

**hero717** · 02-15-2010, 04:52 PM

kratos i wish i had ur deal but it always doesnt workout that way. we never physically touched eachother. when we fight she usally yells non stop until i get fed up and get loud she acts like she was a dog who pissed on the carpet. i feel like she just wants to act crazy but she really isnt she just wants the reaction. cause she says so much but she does so little. i think she is all talk. i guess ijust gotta move on. i like the whole single thing but i get lonly during the week.

**JC.1987** · 02-15-2010, 05:20 PM

Dude she is FUKED 6 WAYS FROM SUNDAY. Seriously, my advice is to get out of that as fast as you can. Her problems shouldn't be projected on to you. And you don't owe anything to her to date her because of her problems. You only owe it to yourself to walk away. This will not stop, and she will NOT 'grow up'. You cannot simply 'grow up' from a problem like this. She has serious mental issues, and sane people don't act like this, nor do they say anything like she says. You can't help her, and this can't be fixed with time, just get out and cut your losses.