marriage issues...

[unclemoney]

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[BuffBuffalo]

Leave her.

[jbm]

^^ agreed!

[terraj]

You are 22 years old correct? Been married 2 years? ...and to a fat chick who once was a witch you stated in another post...Lol

WTF is wrong with you?

You don't want a wife at your age....live a little son!

[stevey_6t9]

tell your wife don't you dare have dessert and that you want a divorce.

[unclemoney]

ROFL that is what I would like to do. I'll prob stick with the state prisons job if I get it but I would also like to go active duty (was a reservist currently irr) but my wife won't let me

I don't really know how to go about it all though...

[Tigershark]

You need to sit down and have a serious talk with her. Otherwise things will only get worse.

[unclemoney]

We have had those, it only leads to her completely aggreeing and saying how she wants to change but absolutely ZERO 00000000 change...

This isn't anything new however I have aquired a brain recently. lol

[paulzane]

She has addiction and depression problems .... get them sorted. If she can't be bothered to sort herself out then ditch the biatch!

[unclemoney]

You pinned the tail on the donkey, there's a little more to it too than that, but good stab in the dark!

[D3m3nt3d]

Maybe you two should see counseling. Only thing I can offer recently gone thru a separation bro is you can't spend your life unhappy. Marriage takes work, and it takes two. If she is not willing to hold up her end of the bargain as a wife, find someone who will.

[calgarian]

ROFL that is what I would like to do. I'll prob stick with the state prisons job if I get it but I would also like to go active duty (was a reservist currently irr) but my wife won't let me

I don't really know how to go about it all though...

u let e fatty wear the pants in the relationship????

please tell me she doesnt smoke green stuff

[calgarian]

Maybe you two should see counseling. Only thing I can offer recently gone thru a separation bro is you can't spend your life unhappy. Marriage takes work, and it takes two. If she is not willing to hold up her end of the bargain as a wife, find someone who will.

or just live a little...would u just STOP giving pvssy advise and grow a pair and fvck a little ...Moron

[Kawigirl]

You need to sit down and have a serious talk with her. Otherwise things will only get worse.

I pm'd ya unclemoney....Tigershark is on the right track.

[D3m3nt3d]

or just live a little...would u just STOP giving pvssy advise and grow a pair and fvck a little ...Moron

Are you talking to me?

I have pvssy down all week I can hit when I want, and a new one coming in 2 days bitch

[calgarian]

Are you talking to me?

I have pvssy down all week I can hit when I want, and a new one coming in 2 days bitch

without pictures it didnt happen

[Tigershark]

Bro that sucks if you guys had "the talk" and she is still unmotivated. Do you know if she has a season deppression disorder? It is actually more common then you think and fairly easy to fix too. Something has made her loose the will to please you and a good therapist can help you out.

[DSM4Life]

Treat her like a child. Take her xbox away and when she asks to play it say "Did you do your chores yet ?"

[unclemoney]

Alright guys how do I start this off or bring it up to her? I can't stand life like this ongoing everyday. Didn't even get to get out and do anything for new years eve because she didn't want to go out just stay home like every other day of the year. I can't get her to do nothing at all... Other than work and the gym I rarely get out of the house, one day a buddy and I went off roading for the day and she was pissed I was gone lol wtf would I have done otherwise other than be a dam gopher (go for this... this... this... yatta yatta) at home. She's afraid every single girl is after me lol it's hilarious, and if you get her sister around 4get it, I remember going to the hot springs with all the hotties around and god forbid a girl even looked my direction they'd be all over her case "look at that girl checking him (aka me) out" yatta yatta... Or lol how about checking out at the grocery store "that'll be blah blah blah$" then later I hear "did u see hwo that girl was hitting on you" wtf lol.

Anyways, I'm tired of it all, things need to change or I need to get out, leaning towards that latter than the former.

[unclemoney]

For example, today it was me who got up to take the 9yr old to school, change baby diapers, feed the kids, make dinner, etc. All she has done today is get up late, turn the tv on, get on xbox 360 with her "friends" and momentarily get off for a brief smoke break, she is still on doing the same thing right now, same thing every day, day after day.... I just don't notice it as much when I work full time, come home, go to the gym, come home eat/shower and go to bed, but since I've been outa work due to moving/surgery MAN I can't take it lol.

[paulzane]

She has severe depression and self esteem issues ....... If she can't bust them and get herself together then you must bite the bullet and leave before you have the same issues yourself! You won't be able to bring her up BUT she can, and is bringing you down! That is 99% the way it always is without help.

You will have to grow a pair and at least have a word with her. There was a book I read almost 40 years ago and it is probably relevent now "How to stop worrying and start living!" Read up on something like that and then get the fcuk out of there!

[DSM4Life]

First off when you are home all day and around each other you do tend to get on each others nerves. I think that is just natural but when it comes to all the other stuff i say man the F up and tell her to her face. When a cup is not put away , tell her ! Say "hey XXXX you left your cup out can you come put it away" Her response "im busy on Xbox." Thats when you go downstairs and hit the circuit breaker and turn off all power to the living room. Come back up and say "The next lights to go out are yours if you don't get this mo@$ f@%@@ cup."

[ReX357]

First off when you are home all day and around each other you do tend to get on each others nerves. I think that is just natural but when it comes to all the other stuff i say man the F up and tell her to her face. When a cup is not put away , tell her ! Say "hey XXXX you left your cup out can you come put it away" Her response "im busy on Xbox." Thats when you go downstairs and hit the circuit breaker and turn off all power to the living room. Come back up and say "The next lights to go out are yours if you don't get this mo@$ f@%@@ cup."

I like ur style.

Quick question for you: usually if a straight couple gets mad at eachother, the guy won't hit the girl because "you can't hit girls". However in a gay couple, its 2 guys so the "can't hit women" rule doesn't apply. Do gay guys physically fight and not make as big a deal out of it or is one of the 2 considered the girl in the relationship and you can't hit her?

[D3m3nt3d]

I like ur style.

Quick question for you: usually if a straight couple gets mad at eachother, the guy won't hit the girl because "you can't hit girls". However in a gay couple, its 2 guys so the "can't hit women" rule doesn't apply. Do gay guys physically fight and not make as big a deal out of it or is one of the 2 considered the girl in the relationship and you can't hit her?

I think this depends on if one of the guys acts and dresses prissy like a girl

[DSM4Life]

I like ur style.

Quick question for you: usually if a straight couple gets mad at eachother, the guy won't hit the girl because "you can't hit girls". However in a gay couple, its 2 guys so the "can't hit women" rule doesn't apply. Do gay guys physically fight and not make as big a deal out of it or is one of the 2 considered the girl in the relationship and you can't hit her?

First off the law still applies so if that does happen the "aggressor" is still going to jail for domestic violence. To answer your question, no the rules still apply. My b/f is not a big guy and doesn't workout like i do so there is no way i would even attempt to hit/push/harm him. I was playing around one day and sort of "popped" him on the shoulder but he said it hurt and was mad at me all day

[ReX357]

First off the law still applies so if that does happen the "aggressor" is still going to jail for domestic violence. To answer your question, no the rules still apply. My b/f is not a big guy and doesn't workout like i do so there is no way i would even attempt to hit/push/harm him. I was playing around one day and sort of "popped" him on the shoulder but he said it hurt and was mad at me all day

that's funny lol

[Times Roman]

when ya go to war, the philosophy is it's better to get it in the beginning before you pay your dues. Your marriage is barely out the blocks and you have huge issues.

Sit down with a pen and paper. Left side write down all the things you love about this lady. On the right side all the things you don't. Which side is bigger?

Where do you see this marriage in 5 years? 10? 20?

Will it last? If not, and you are miserable now, then....

how many years you want to be miserable before it ends?

5 years? 10? 20?

[GirlyGymRat]

The choice of a spouse is one of the most important decisions that will determine your happiness for the rest of your life. You sound miserable and so does she.
I admire that you acknowledge your marriage as a covenant. You need to have a conversation with her and let her know that you love her but that you think that you could both be happier. I am a proponent of Christian counseling – perhaps your church can provide this service or make a recommendation.

[Hunter]

counseling would be a good idea. Since you are both religious I would say church counseling might be a great idea as mentioned above. I myself believe divorce should be a last resort after everything else has been exhausted.

[DSM4Life]

I think she found this post and made him remove it by force.