The official SlimmerMe - advice thread

[marcus300]

Want advice on a relationship?

Don't know which way to turn in life?

Depressed?

Family problems?

Drug issues?

Sexual problems?

Emotional issues?

Or just need a shoulder to cry on?


What ever the problem ask AR's SlimmerMe for the answer's, get a womans point of view on the matter


Lets keep this in line and respect at all times


SlimmerMe its over to you

[Matt]

This has the potential of becoming a great thread lol....

[MACHINE5150]

okay i want to start off with one.

Say i get a girls number on a saturday night, and i want to do something with her later that week.. When should i call her? tues / weds to set something up thurs.. or should i call her sooner. I have read/heard that ringing the next day sounds desperate and you should wait a few days, but then you don't give the girl enough time to make plans that following week, and by the time the weekend comes around I already have other plans.. just curious as to what your thoughts are on this.

[marcus300]

This has the potential of becoming a great thread lol....

Very true

Slimmer plays toe to toe with all the testosterone filled guys daily, she commands a great presence when on the board and she's got the experience and knowledge along side the calmness and influence to give great advice.

[dec11]

Very true

Slimmer plays toe to toe with all the testosterone filled guys daily, she commands a great presence when on the board and she's got the experience and knowledge along side the calmness and influence to give great advice.

i think slim is worthy of a mod title? we dont ahve any female mods this informative or active?

[stack_it]

This should be interesting. Slimmer I know we normally have different views on things when it comes to relationships so this is my promise that I won't jumble up your thread with debate lol.

[gbrice75]

Definitely gonna be monitoring this one... this will not be a thread that dies out anytime soon!

[big_ron]

okay i want to start off with one.

Say i get a girls number on a saturday night, and i want to do something with her later that week.. When should i call her? tues / weds to set something up thurs.. or should i call her sooner. I have read/heard that ringing the next day sounds desperate and you should wait a few days, but then you don't give the girl enough time to make plans that following week, and by the time the weekend comes around I already have other plans.. just curious as to what your thoughts are on this.

Oh no . what you could do, is sorta make plans the night you meet her, for the next day, or a few days after.

[layeazy]

Great thread

Hope it doesn't turn into "the view" lol

[MACHINE5150]

Great thread

Hope it doesn't turn into "the view" lol

hahaha.. lets hope not..

Does Slim know shes got her own thread now Marcus or did you just make this for her?

[songdog]

Dr Slimmer.I like it.Shes always got a good answer.Shes got my respect

[SlimmerMe]

What a surprise! Had no idea.....

[songdog]

Yeah right.Probaly the most popular person here

[SlimmerMe]

Want advice on a relationship?

Don't know which way to turn in life?

Depressed?

Family problems?

Drug issues?

Sexual problems?

Emotional issues?

Or just need a shoulder to cry on?


What ever the problem ask AR's SlimmerMe for the answer's, get a womans point of view on the matter


Lets keep this in line and respect at all times


SlimmerMe its over to you

HERE WE GO!

This has the potential of becoming a great thread lol....

HOPE SO....LOL is right!

okay i want to start off with one.

Say i get a girls number on a saturday night, and i want to do something with her later that week.. When should i call her? tues / weds to set something up thurs.. or should i call her sooner. I have read/heard that ringing the next day sounds desperate and you should wait a few days, but then you don't give the girl enough time to make plans that following week, and by the time the weekend comes around I already have other plans.. just curious as to what your thoughts are on this.

For an official date which is planned ahead of time? Generally speaking we girls like 3 days in advance. It is respectful as well as it gives us the anticipation while thinking of you which is very important so we can get all worked up over it as we tell our female friends... while polishing out finger nails and toe nails and finding something to wear.....note: assuming that is IF we want to go out with you just as much..but that will work itself out regardless so why not start off like a gentleman just in case....

Very true

Slimmer plays toe to toe with all the testosterone filled guys daily, she commands a great presence when on the board and she's got the experience and knowledge along side the calmness and influence to give great advice.

Thanks Marcus!...'tis a challenge

i think slim is worthy of a mod title? we dont ahve any female mods this informative or active?

Thanks Dec

This should be interesting. Slimmer I know we normally have different views on things when it comes to relationships so this is my promise that I won't jumble up your thread with debate lol.

Stack? Why on earth would you even think of doing that? Plus you know that will not happen! LOL!

Definitely gonna be monitoring this one... this will not be a thread that dies out anytime soon!

Ya never know...but thanks

Oh no . what you could do, is sorta make plans the night you meet her, for the next day, or a few days after.

perfect..on the spot is even better

Great thread

Hope it doesn't turn into "the view" lol

It might....I have no idea....

hahaha.. lets hope not..

Does Slim know shes got her own thread now Marcus or did you just make this for her?

HE DID! I had no idea....we talked about it during my interview but this was a surprise

Dr Slimmer.I like it.Shes always got a good answer.Shes got my respect

That is a nice thing to say......thanks

[calgarian]

This should be interesting. Slimmer I know we normally have different views on things when it comes to relationships so this is my promise that I won't jumble up your thread with debate lol.

it will be hard most of the time to agree with her but i will keep my trap shut

[big_ron]

Haha. i have a drug issue, i use steroids ... does that count? if so this thread would never end

[charliemurphy229]

lol, I am also having the same issue. Already loving this thread.

[SlimmerMe]

Yeah right.Probaly the most popular person here

nice to say

it will be hard most of the time to agree with her but i will keep my trap shut

et tu Cal?

Haha. i have a drug issue, i use steroids... does that count? if so this thread would never end

ya never know....

lol, I am also having the same issue. Already loving this thread.

then hang around!

[The Toad]

Congrats Slimmer, this could be big.... maybe radio or TV next

[38jumper38]

I need schedule an appointment, when is you available doc?

[Times Roman]

I asked Dr. DSM for some advice and I always get the same answer, but I'm not interested in the manly sport of baby oil wrestling....

So here's my problem....

I have a friend that lives very far away from his woman... and each night, she always gives the same excuse... "Not tonight babe... yer too far away!" My friend thinks this excuse is BS.

What do you think?

[Times Roman]

nice to say



et tu Cal?



ya never know....



then hang around!

c'mon doc... my magik 8ball can give out this advice? where is the deep analysis we are so craving....?

[SlimmerMe]

Congrats Slimmer, this could be big.... maybe radio or TV next

Hey! you never know where life takes you

I need schedule an appointment, when is you available doc?

No appointment necessary at this point since just opened the office up

I asked Dr. DSM for some advice and I always get the same answer, but I'm not interested in the manly sport of baby oil wrestling....

So here's my problem....

I have a friend that lives very far away from his woman... and each night, she always gives the same excuse... "Not tonight babe... yer too far away!" My friend thinks this excuse is BS.

What do you think?

She is thinking clearly while your friend might not be thinking at all?

c'mon doc... my magik 8ball can give out this advice? where is the deep analysis we are so craving....?

Analysis has not started yet....this is my open house party

[dec11]

slim, tht avi reminds me on tht freaky stepford wives movie !

[yungone501]

Slimmer, just wanted to say keep this thread alive. Because on a serious note, a womans perspective is always needed around this forum. Ive always told you that you speak from the heart to these guys and gals and it shows. A womans sensitivity yields much understanding in many situations. And please, dont be so nice to everyone, these guys need a hardcore maternal like figure to keep their arses in line. You go girl!!!

[SlimmerMe]

slim, tht avi reminds me on tht freaky stepford wives movie !

so hilarious that you, stack and gbrice are all scared of my avy!

Slimmer, just wanted to say keep this thread alive. Because on a serious note, a womans perspective is always needed around this forum. Ive always told you that you speak from the heart to these guys and gals and it shows. A womans sensitivity yields much understanding in many situations. And please, dont be so nice to everyone, these guys need a hardcore maternal like figure to keep their arses in line. You go girl!!!

Thank you so much Yungone ~ appreciate your support! 'tis a challenge!

[big_ron]

No one has needed any real advice yet, ya'll scared to share your problems

[stevey_6t9]

dear slimmerme,

i need a good line to get this bish to agree to have buttsecks with me, lettuce be mature about this also.(srs)

[BUTTERYGOODNESS]

my mom had a brain anyurism in 2003 and has yearly brain surgeries to maintain the stints in her brain. last year she also suffered a nearly fatal heart attack on christmas day. she lives over 800 miles away and i havent seen her in a little over 2 years. she is having her brain surgery comming up in about a month. Idk if praying works or not but if it does id appreciate everyone who believes it. but id appreciate it if you might be a b able to give me some confidence shell be ok or at least give me something to smile about. because she seems worried about this one but without really saying why. i just got off the fone with her and she started crying. im kinda at a loss of words now. this really sucks

[SlimmerMe]

No one has needed any real advice yet, ya'll scared to share your problems

yep....scared....but that is okay....

dear slimmerme,

i need a good line to get this bish to agree to have buttsecks with me, lettuce be mature about this also.(srs)

you need another adviser on this!

[SlimmerMe]

my mom had a brain anyurism in 2003 and has yearly brain surgeries to maintain the stints in her brain. last year she also suffered a nearly fatal heart attack on christmas day. she lives over 800 miles away and i havent seen her in a little over 2 years. she is having her brain surgery comming up in about a month. Idk if praying works or not but if it does id appreciate everyone who believes it. but id appreciate it if you might be a b able to give me some confidence shell be ok or at least give me something to smile about. because she seems worried about this one but without really saying why. i just got off the fone with her and she started crying. im kinda at a loss of words now. this really sucks

OH MY! Buttery, I am so sorry to hear this. I bet you do feel so sad and a bit lost and I do not blame you one bit.
It is very important for you to know that prayers are heard. Prayers can be very powerful. So pray all you can and ask others to pray as well. I will.

The way for you to smile is to think of the little special moments you and your mom have shared together. Create a list of things. Anything. Any memories you can conjure up no matter how silly or trite they may seem right now. Then perhaps write her a little poem to reflect on how you feel about her. And the poem does not have to be perfect nor even rhyme. And then send it off. Put a stamp on it. Get it to her asap. Remember that anything made by you by hand will put a twinkle in her eyes.

A mother only wants to know she has been a good mother. Telling her this will warm her heart and while warming her heart, then your heart will light up with joy. Whenever you try to heal someone else, you heal yourself. Works every single time and is foolproof. So....send her your love and kindness. And then you will feel the connection with her you so want to have right now. As does she with you.

More than likely her biggest fear is wondering if you will be okay. it is strange how this happens. The person who is not doing well worries over their loved ones more, oddly enough. Sounds strange but 'tis true.

Let her know you are becoming the man you want to be and she will hear it in your tone of voice and give a deep sigh of relief knowing her son will be just fine.

[BUTTERYGOODNESS]

Thank you so much slimmer, thank you. It means alot to me with what youve said, it really does. i feel a bit more at ease with your words of love and wisdom. If theres anyway i can help you with something just let me know and ive got you. Thanks for being there.

[Times Roman]

Hey! you never know where life takes you



No appointment necessary at this point since just opened the office up



She is thinking clearly while your friend might not be thinking at all?



Analysis has not started yet....this is my open house party

Party? Will there be dancing girls?

[Brewster]

http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...31#post5530431
lets see some female input

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