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Me asking him if he genuinely wants to have a kid is not me telling him how to live his life. Yes, U start off with "this is the part of your life where you're suppose to". So we are "supposed" to do certain things at certain parts of our lives. God, how predictable and boring. And who are these people who gets to decide or suggest what we are supposed to do during certain parts of our lives, you? I´m 42, single Dad of a 15 year old girl, no firm plans for the future. Maybe u can tell me what I´m supposed to do at this stage of my life, or write a book so I can keep up, don´t want to do anything I´m not supposed to do.
I have no idea how that long paranoid tirade is even relevant to this discussion all I was doing was making him aware of certain tendencies and trends. And you seem like you have a serious issue with authority figures.Hehe..yes..u hit the nail on the head, I have serious issues with human authority. Look at what insanity authority has produced through millenniums. Humans are not equipped to be authority, we abuse it. If we don´t have control issues, we will grow them once we receive authority. U don´t have to go back in time to se the insanity authority produces, look at the world right this moment. On a funny note on authority; In Afghanistan public display of affection is not allowed, in South Carolina, a married couple in the privacy of their home are not allowed to have oral sex. And please, do not move in with your loved one in Florida unless u´re married, authority prohibits it. I think because it may lead to some unpure actions, and we can´t have that. Check your laws in TN Fatty.
A cop telling you not to drink and drive is a cop looking out for your health and wellbeing. But I'm sure you'd say thats just another useless asshole trying to run peoples lives.Cops in general are struggling to manage the unprecedented authority they are given, they are only human. It´s their job to look out for my well being.
Doctors and psychologists don't recommend kids having kids for a reason.Really? What determines kid/adult? Age? I have a 46 year old friend, I think he is more of a kid than Fatty He's 18 and although you can call him an adult by law, he is going through a very experimental phase of his life.Really, tell Fatty, he might not be aware Lots of transitions and changes,Love it, since I was a child very little stability or emotional resilience (for most not all).From which angle are you viewing? Have u seen images where you see one image at one angle and a completely different image from another angle? U and I are viewing the process of life itself from two different angles.
Did you know that marraiges between the ages of 18-26 have an 80% chance of divorce? In which part of the world, and why? Don´t know the statistics, but if u´re right, maybe look at this abnormality and, take preventive measures. Maybe because society suggest a young man "supposed" to "stand on his own 2 feet", while in other cultures, multiple generations live in the same dwelling like one big loving family, with financial stability and no need for day cares or nursing homes, beautiful concept. Live with your parents as long as u wish Fatty, and disregard cultural expectations. Marraiges 26+ its a much much lower rate. Age does have an effect on many different things in life. For the most part unless you are filthy rich I'd say the majority of people his age having kids are going to sacrifice a lot more than they initially bargained for. Sacrifice?....I have no clue what the sacrifice would be, how do u know how life would be without the child? U are seriously viewing life from a different angle. I feel sorry for u if u view anything an life as a "sacrifice", but it´s not an uncommon disorder.
And slimmerme are you that proud just because he's "stepping up to the plate"? I consider that a genetic obligation by default. How he actually takes care of his kids will effect whether or not I'm proud of his parenting abilities. And I'd be just as proud if he was having an abortion.Sad If its what he genuinely wants, then yes absolutely I'm proud for him.
Yet another side of me asks "how can he even know he wants a child at 18?".Why does he "need" to know? He really has no idea what to expect or what he's really up against. How do u know? ANd if he doesen´t, so what? I love it when I have no idea what to expect, it´s called self confidence.
My only point is this. I see lots of people strugging to raise children,Where? Hope you´re referring to personal experience, and not TV shows. And if they share your views on having a baby is a sacrifice, yes, raising children and a lot more in life will be a struggle. but it always seems the ones who struggle the hardest are the young ones... or the drug addicts.That would be a struggle I wish him the best, I really do,I believe you but I don't want him to assume that its going to be like raising a puppy. Kids shit themselves, scream endlessly in the middle of the night, require lots of food and diapers, And it´s a beautiful experience if you let it be. It´s purely a mindset, flip the switch. I hope your Mom did all of this things for u with joy, care, and unconditional love, and I hope she did not "sacrifice" herself.full time attention which will rob lots of resources for making money. How on earth do you know this? Some doors close, others open...Newton´s third law. Maybe this pregnancy will be the catalyst to an enormous Fatty wealth....U have any idea how many inventions or websites were created by stay at home Moms or Dads, because they found an awesome idea regarding baby care? Many of the "Baby" web sites and virtual communities were sprung by Moms, looking for advise or a product. And u know how the easiest way to make money is?...using our brains. Maybe while Fatty is "trapped"(a word u might use) in the house, playing with Champ, he will start a successful business through his PC with Champ on his lap. I did, and previous to that, while my GF was pregnant, I supported us with $1000/month and food stamps.And if you put them in day care it costs more than what he's getting paid right now.
My only point is think and plan,I disagree on a fundamental level. Be very careful thinking and planning too much, it may consume you. These actions are purely features of the Ego, and will remove you from living in the moment. Yesterday and Tomorrow does not exist, only in your head. Trust the process of life, once you surrender, nothing will ever go "wrong". I know, little abstract if u never dwelled on it, maybe Bob Marley said it better, "Don´t worry, be happy", to me means less planning, less thinking. not "live your life this way". If thats what you took from it well thats unfortunate imo.
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