Might be a dad

**Flier** · 04-14-2011, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by Standby

yea maybe this is why i dont agree with you guys. i do everything to make sure my sh*t is safe no kids coming. so if one comes. yes i will be the maddest kid around

First time around I was young, dumb, and made a huge mistake. I will have to live with it for the rest of my life.
Just a selfish, ignorant, human consumer, thinking of nothing but myself.

**Standby** · 04-14-2011, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by First Timer 42

First time around I was young, dumb, and made a huge mistake. I will have to live with it for the rest of my life.
Just a selfish, ignorant, human consumer, thinking of nothing but myself.

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**fattymcbutterpants** · 04-14-2011, 09:44 AM

Thanks for backing me up First Timer, I really appreciate it man.

And Standby, she just wasnt. And to be honest we were both suprised, I was pretty convinced I was shooting blanks thanks to a deca only cycle when I was like 15 lol.

**Flier** · 04-14-2011, 09:57 AM

Originally Posted by First Timer 42

First time around I was young, dumb, and made a huge mistake. I will have to live with it for the rest of my life.
Just a selfish, ignorant, human consumer, thinking of nothing but myself.

That sounded a little weird LOL.
The huge mistake I refer to, was having an abortion.
My hottie getti´n pregnant was a gift from whatever u believe in. I was just too self consumed to see it.

**Standby** · 04-14-2011, 10:00 AM

Originally Posted by fattymcbutterpants

Thanks for backing me up First Timer, I really appreciate it man.

And Standby, she just wasnt. And to be honest we were both suprised, I was pretty convinced I was shooting blanks thanks to a deca only cycle when I was like 15 lol.

thats what gets me lol no pill, im assuming no condom and you both were surprised lol. oh well just your luck now, yous gunna be a daddy lol hopefully you luck out and get a boy!

**Standby** · 04-14-2011, 10:03 AM

Originally Posted by First Timer 42

That sounded a little weird LOL.
The huge mistake I refer to, was having an abortion.
My hottie getti´n pregnant was a gift from whatever u believe in. I was just too self consumed to see it.

i take back what i said then lol now that i understand what you were really saying i respect you more. you did nothing wrong in my eyes. i can also see the bad in it to. its complicated in my head.

**calgarian** · 04-14-2011, 01:19 PM

Originally Posted by Standby

yea maybe this is why i dont agree with you guys. i do everything to make sure my sh*t is safe no kids coming. so if one comes. yes i will be the maddest kid around

no he wont cause I will take custody of him just sayin

**Standby** · 04-14-2011, 02:09 PM

Originally Posted by calgarian

no he wont cause I will take custody of him just sayin

your gunna take custody of me?? lol

**DSM4Life** · 04-16-2011, 08:03 AM

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**Cloe85** · 04-16-2011, 11:21 AM

I have a few things you might want to figure out:

If you and your gf/wife are both going to school... who is going to take care of the baby? Family? Daycare?

What about when your out of school for the day... who is going to take care of him/her when your both trying to study?

And as was mentioned, how do you plan to afford medical insurance for the baby?

Formula, diapers, stroller, crib, play pen, toys/teddy bears and all the things you dont get at the baby shower really add up fast.

And yes, USD$13 is not going to support an apartment, food, car insurance, running cost/utilities, day care, constant buying of clothes and shoes for the baby, health insurance premiums and dr co-pays and perscription co-pays,... and I wont add the student loans that you and your girl will eventually face, in addition to everthing Ive mentioned. Im guessing you both have working vehicals that are fully paid for and in good condition -- so you wont have to worry about car payments. Dont forget all the other things you get at the grocery store other than food... shampoo, deoderant, toilet paper, cleaning products, and things of that nature. Do you have all the kitchen supplies yet... flatware, dishes, glasses, pots, pans, knives, cutting board, microwave, etc. ?

Im not suggesting you get an abortion by any means.

But these are all things that will come up. And you need to start thinking about them now.

A month before your child is born is not the time to realize that your basically screwed because you didnt realize how much planning needs to be put into a child and wife/who is also in school.

Personally I would say stay in school and get you BA... but at the same time, you may not be able to afford all the living costs without working one full time job and possibly a part time one.

As I see it... remember this is just my opinion, one of you most likely will have to put college on hold, for all the reasons I mentioned above.

There is always the choice of adoption. People do this in many cases because they cant afford the child (in person and financially) and want to give him/her the best possible chance of a good and normal life.

Or, give the child to a family member, married most likely... who can take care of and support the child while you and your girl both finish up school and get your feet on the ground/ start your careers. This is common with close nit families. Its not a cop-out by any means... its bettering yourselves so you can provide and support your child... and begin paying back your student loans. The best part of this situation is: you will both be able to visit your baby whenever you have free time. This way he or she will know who the parents or and ya'll wont be strangers to one and other.

I wish you the best
Hugz

**anadroljack** · 04-16-2011, 09:29 PM

Originally Posted by Ladyblahblah

You're right, Fattymcbutter. No need to play "shoulda, woulda, coulda". What's done has been done and you sound as though you are genuinely happy. All the best to you and your girl and congratulations!

Fatty's gonna be a Daddy!!!

that guy is a prick,congrats,dad

**lovbyts** · 04-17-2011, 04:58 AM

Originally Posted by Standby

thats what gets me lol no pill, im assuming no condom and you both were surprised lol. oh well just your luck now, yous gunna be a daddy lol hopefully you luck out and get a boy!

Hahahaha yeah I knew a lot of kids who though the same at 16 and still do. That is I still know 16 yr olds who think they cant get preg or? I was one of them I had a gf for almost 5 years and I dont think we ever used anything. Sure most of the time we did the pull out stupid trick and she did like to give oral so.... lol but all in all I got lucky. Turns out she really cant have kids. She had one miscarriage but after that nothing and 25 years later she still has no kids.

No worries on my part now, I got those bad boys snipped so the last couple of times I had some overly aggressive baby making machine all up in my face I just gave her what she wanted - baby.

**fattymcbutterpants** · 04-17-2011, 10:23 PM

Cloe I appreciate you bringing up all those points, but we arent getting kicked out or anything so that will make things easier. We are both going to finish school for sure. And we will be working throughout of course or at least I know I will and she will when she can and everything. We have family that can help watch the baby while we have class. She is still on her dads insurance, and both of us have our cars completely paid off. So we arent too bad off or anything by any means, I know we will have help throughout when we need it so it will all workout

**anadroljack** · 04-29-2011, 10:30 PM

Originally Posted by anadroljack

that guy is a prick,congrats,dad

i dont know why i said that,sorry.

**DSM4Life** · 04-30-2011, 05:57 AM

I said it before and ill say it again, always go in the rear !

**stevey_6t9** · 05-01-2011, 02:53 AM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

I said it before and ill say it again, always go in the rear !

care to explain with pictures?

**DSM4Life** · 05-01-2011, 10:25 AM

**optionsdude** · 05-01-2011, 11:57 AM

Congrats Fatty. My daughter will be 3 this year. Once they are potty trained it's alot more fun.

**amnkeefe** · 07-30-2011, 12:59 PM

I know this is a couple months old but I just wanted to say congrats and it will work out. I actually knocked up my then GF now wife the day I was released from prison. I had no job, no money and no car. But her being pregnant put a boot in my ass and got me in gear. I worked some dead end jobs and we got by, but I needed something better for us. I started going back to college again, quit, started again , quit, then started a third time and I am now finishing my junior year in the engineering department at UNLV. Like you I had a concentration issue from a TBI in the military, hence the constant quitting. As for the school thing my wife and I alternated schedules. I would go Mon-Wed and she would go Tues-Thurs. So just have fun with it man and do what feels right for you two. Good luck. Oh, BTW my son will be four the end of August, and remember having a kid is always an excuse to have the baddest squirt guns.