That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
My gf likes to go out once or twice a month and party and throws parties for holidays such as NYEs, Christmas, St Pattys etc...
I used to drink heavily and been sober for months now and I hate going to these things but feel bad keep blowing her off. What would you do
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U hate going 2 these things cuz u don't drink? I still enjoy partying with my friends even though I don't drink anymore. I'm sure she understands where u stand on the issue..........................doesn't she?
'everything louder than everything else'
one partner out partying and the not is never a good mix mate. i used to party my head off but i couldnt imagine doing it now or being with someone who does.
may i ask what age you both are?
That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
were both 24..i dont mind not drinking myself but it always ends up she gets drunk and all her friends get drunk and just it isnt pleasant to be around sober
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I know how u feel man (like a baby sitter) All I could suggest is maybe a change of scene, like for example, my wife & I love hangin out @ the local hole in the wall pubs & / or sports bars, as opposed 2 house parties or big night clubs. In the small neighborhood places, u still get the occasional "fallen down drunk" lush, but its not the whole crowd. Just a thought....................Originally Posted by l2elapse
~AR's Nice Guy
ya im actually kind of sick of going to my buddies house when he throws parties i havent drank since july and im cutting pretty hard so im not going to drink now. my girl doesnt drink tho but if she did id tell her to go have fun. what she get drunk and cheat? honestly i dont care lol has happened to me before why not again
'everything louder than everything else'
i know exactly what you mean, i axed a steady gfriend when i was 25 because she could differentiate between a drink and getting plastered.
these days i'd just walk away from someone who has a big interest in the whole social drinking scene. im glad i have done doorwork, it finished me with getting intoxicated once and for all, its amazing the amount of despicable shit you notice that you'd never of noticed before when drinking.
comes down to how much you can be bothered with and if its bothering you enough to make a thread about it here, then its prob high time you addressed it with her.
does she go to the gym? if not, maybe you could get her interested in the 'good life'. there certainly isnt anything wrong with having a drink but imo if it leads to getting smashed everytime then its not good
Last edited by dec11; 11-10-2011 at 09:05 PM.
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Fk.. Bro man up and tell her how u feel.. Put ur foot down...
That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
thanks for the replies guys..she supports me not drinking and said it never bothered her but a couple weeks ago she was hammered and started rambling how boring her life has got cause we dont go out anymore and "cutloose" whatever the fvck that means..i guess ill simply tell her im done with the drinking and it can either be me or im gone
'everything louder than everything else'
best way mate. once a partner starts to complain that life is boring due to alcohol being absent, its time to move on
~AR's Nice Guy
for sure, that just sounds pathetic
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Sounds like one person is growing up, becoming more mature sooner than the other one. Sucks when that happens. LOL If she isnt being to stupid yet give it a little time, she may come around. Think about it if it was the other way around and she quit first. How long have you been dating? Do you consider it serious? Do you think she would consider cutting down a little, not getting plastered? Obviously if she can not see your side of it also it's going to be hard to stick around.
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Do you at least get drunk sex out of it at the end of the night?
~VET~ Extraordinaire~
if you guys arent compatable then i agree break it off.
But girls like to go out. Dance and have fun. You already said you hate those things. So dont even think its just to do with alcohol.
What do you want the 2 of you to do together for fun?
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You said in your first post once or twice a month?
Do you really think 1 or 2 days is really that big of a deal out of 30 days in a month.......
~VET~ Extraordinaire~
I agree and the parties are holidays
That don't kill me, can only make me stronger
all you guys are right..maybe i need to examine our relationship and maybe I am taking it too seriously
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How long have you guys been seein each other?
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If you don't want to go, DON'T GO. You can't have women drag you around places that you don't wanna be in. I've lived this very quickly recently. If you go, you're probably going to be sober, bored, and aggravated.
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