Should I break up with her

[Razor]

I had surgery today, my gf didn't even call me to see how I was doing she just texted me, she says she cant cause she said she was out to eat with her family.
I asked her if she could call me later and she said probably not cause she had to drive home....so she cant call me in the car or when she gets home?
When we got together about 5 weeks ago she seemed like its what she wanted to do, now shes pulling this shit.

Im kinda tired of her BS

[grumpee]

You are either on some good pain meds or need a adex or 2.

[Razor]

What does that mean?

[Razor]

Its more than just this one incident that has pissed me off. I could go into more but don't want to bore you guys with endless stories.

[BrownGirl]

Awww...that's no good. Was this an isolated incident or has stuff like this been happening regularly? Because if if it hasn't happened before, there's always the possibility that she's having some kind of issue that's going on. If it's been happening often, maybe she's pulling away. There's no excuse for not calling you because she was at dinner. I'm sure her family is nice enough to understand that her bf just got out of surgery and she needs to check on him.
Don't rush into making any judgements though...give it a few days and then bring it up. Tell her that it made you kinda sad that she didn't call you. See what she says. If she gets defensive, you may have a problem.

I hope you figure things out either way! Good luck Razr!

[Hazard]

Thats bullshit IMO..... if anything..... I'd think she'd be more WILLING to call you being that your relationship is only 5 weeks old.

Wait till it's 5 years old..... she'll have you signing a life insurance form and wont be visiting you in the hospital after that fall down the stairs your gunna have.....

~Haz~

[grumpee]

Its more than just this one incident that has pissed me off. I could go into more but don't want to bore you guys with endless stories.

I would dump her. If she is really hot maybe keep her around for a fuvk buddy . She does not sound girl friend material

[Razor]

Awww...that's no good. Was this an isolated incident or has stuff like this been happening regularly? Because if if it hasn't happened before, there's always the possibility that she's having some kind of issue that's going on. If it's been happening often, maybe she's pulling away. There's no excuse for not calling you because she was at dinner. I'm sure her family is nice enough to understand that her bf just got out of surgery and she needs to check on him.
Don't rush into making any judgements though...give it a few days and then bring it up. Tell her that it made you kinda sad that she didn't call you. See what she says. If she gets defensive, you may have a problem.

I hope you figure things out either way! Good luck Razr!

Thanks..well she pissed me off 2 weeks ago. She had to put her dog down. I did not have my truck at the time cause my brother was using it. I offered to take the train up earlier and get out of work to go to the vet with her. She said it was ok and just wanted it to be her and her family. Later on I told her I might not be able to make it cause the last train left and my brother was not back yet with my truck. 5 minutes later he showed up and drove me up there cause we only had 1 car. A week later she tells me she was upset that i say "I might not be able to make it" EVEN though I made it..

[BrownGirl]

Thats bullshit IMO..... if anything..... I'd think she'd be more WILLING to call you being that your relationship is only 5 weeks old.

Wait till it's 5 years old..... she'll have you signing a life insurance form and wont be visiting you in the hospital after that fall down the stairs your gunna have.....

~Haz~

^^^ What he said. This is supposed to be the "honeymoon" period! You two should be crazy about each other.

Oh yeah Haz, ouch! Been burned I presume? I'm sorry that you've been treated badly.. I promise though, not all women are that bad...

[Razor]

^^^ What he said. This is supposed to be the "honeymoon" period! You two should be crazy about each other.

Oh yeah Haz, ouch! Been burned I presume? I'm sorry that you've been treated badly.. I promise though, not all women are that bad...

The weekend before this I went all out for her, I bought her that stupid iphone, took her to wine country, got us a hotel and paid for everything.

[Shol'va]

Call her instead. Then have some of your friends follow her around and take pics or videos for you to confront her with after you get out of the hospital. Make a face book page of what she is doing has done to you and post all unflattering pics to it as well as links to those videos that your friends are going to take for you showing that she is a lieing cheating tramp. And after her reputation is completely destroyed and she comes back begging for another chance with you, make sure you film that and post it as well for her ultimate humiliation. Although you will no longer have a G/F you will be able to sleep at night knowing you have ruined her for quite a while. No wait you said 5 weeks and not years.....nevermind it ain't worth it....

[slfmade]

I would tell her that not calling you isn't cool, you don't care what her excuse is b/c there is no excuse, and shit like that isn't gonna stand with you. If she cares for you...she'll stay. If she's not into you like she was before, then this will give her an excuse to leave. Either way you'll know. As I always say...you have to set the expectations and tone of the relationship.

Whatever you do...don't be a ***** about it, don't grovel at her feet, and don't let it go. She needs to know that you're the man and you're not gonna put up with shit like this.

That's my .02

[Hazard]

^^^ What he said. This is supposed to be the "honeymoon" period! You two should be crazy about each other.

Oh yeah Haz, ouch! Been burned I presume? I'm sorry that you've been treated badly.. I promise though, not all women are that bad...

Me..... burned? NOOOOOOOOO I love women...... hahaha

It's not that I hate em or don't trust any of em..... it's just that a lot are the same. Much like guys are the same with certain things. Women tend to be manipulative..... intelectually and emotionally. Men just tend to be assholes..... but atleast you know it when you see it.

~Haz~

[Hazard]

The weekend before this I went all out for her, I bought her that stupid iphone, took her to wine country, got us a hotel and paid for everything.

What'd I say.....

She got her phone..... she never needed ur company or penis to begin with.....

man I gotta goto bed..... I'm really no good tonight lol

~Haz~

[Hazard]

I would tell her that not calling you isn't cool, you don't care what her excuse is b/c there is no excuse, and shit like that isn't gonna stand with you. If she cares for you...she'll stay. If she's not into you like she was before, then this will give her an excuse to leave. Either way you'll know. As I always say...you have to set the expectations and tone of the relationship.

Whatever you do...don't be a ***** about it, don't grovel at her feet, and don't let it go. She needs to know that you're the man and you're not gonna put up with shit like this.

That's my .02

^^^^ AMEN!

~Haz~

[Standby]

wait a min.... you had surgery and sh ewasnt at your home waiting to give you a bj?? dump her

[BrownGirl]

Me..... burned? NOOOOOOOOO I love women...... hahaha

It's not that I hate em or don't trust any of em..... it's just that a lot are the same. Much like guys are the same with certain things. Women tend to be manipulative..... intelectually and emotionally. Men just tend to be assholes..... but atleast you know it when you see it.

~Haz~

Yeah unfortunately I have to agree...there's a lot of bitchy women out there. It's sad. I know I'm probably gonna get some flak over this, but I blame the women's movement. It seems like a lot of women think they're entitled. Just like a whole lot of guys are assholes. I guess men and women need to behave better, maybe that'll bring about a new generation of healthier relationships...

[slfmade]

wait a min.... you had surgery and sh ewasnt at your home waiting to give you a bj?? dump her

His surgery was Circumcision...a BJ would've been rough!!! LOL J/K

[Standby]

His surgery was Circumcision...a BJ would've been rough!!! LOL J/K

ouch maybe just stick some a little prostate milking

[slfmade]

Yeah unfortunately I have to agree...there's a lot of bitchy women out there. It's sad. I know I'm probably gonna get some flak over this, but I blame the women's movement. It seems like a lot of women think they're entitled. Just like a whole lot of guys are assholes. I guess men and women need to behave better, maybe that'll bring about a new generation of healthier relationships...

That's my girl!!!

[Razor]

I mean this is really dick of her...I asked her to call me and she basically said no..well **** you then

[wmaousley]

This is in no way to insult you, but is your GF still in Highschool?

[Razor]

This is in no way to insult you, but is your GF still in Highschool?

No shes 30

[Razor]

What sucks is I really liked her and possibly loved her. And I thought this was the one.

[slfmade]

ouch maybe just stick some a little prostate milking

Nope wouldn't work....They snipped a littlei all the way down the shaft....it's kind of a new thing. They call it the Jagged Rib...heheheehehe

[Standby]

No shes 30

man i think your over reacting. who wants to talk to their girlfriend on the phone anyways

[slfmade]

I'm getting off topic. I think it's time you kick this one to the curb and get back on the saddle!

[wmaousley]

I'm getting off topic. I think it's time you kick this one to the curb and get back on the saddle!

Agreed, Why cant a 30 year old woman use the phone? Probably because she doesnt want to would be my best answer. Dump her on her cranium

[Razor]

man i think your over reacting. who wants to talk to their girlfriend on the phone anyways

you might have a point

I'm getting off topic. I think it's time you kick this one to the curb and get back on the saddle!

what does that mean?

[slfmade]

Dump her and find somebody else

[Shol'va]

What sucks is I really liked her and possibly loved her. And I thought this was the one.

Well apparently you two are not on the same page so you need to tread slowly if you want to keep this relationship if it isn't too late already. Then again she may have just thought of you as a good time and in that case she is not the one for you. Just don't do anything you might regret later.....

[Razor]

Well apparently you two are not on the same page so you need to tread slowly if you want to keep this relationship if it isn't too late already. Then again she may have just thought of you as a good time and in that case she is not the one for you. Just don't do anything you might regret later.....

Ok so what do I do?

[slfmade]

Before you dump her though; do what I said to do in my first post. It could just be that feels she has the upper hand in the relationship and can do whatever the fvck she wants. I don't know how you've been acting, but it sounds like you've been kissing her ass and showering her with gifts this whole time and maybe she's bored. On one hand, that's probably not the type of girl that you want, but on the other maybe if you put your foot down and tell her how things are gonna be...she might see you in a new light and start to respect you a little more for being a man.

All women want a man and too many guys try to be sooooo romantic that they make the mistake of not standing up for themselves and doing whatever the girl wants. After a short while most all women will start to lose respect for the man not to mention get very bored.

[Razor]

Before you dump her though; do what I said to do in my first post. It could just be that feels she has the upper hand in the relationship and can do whatever the fvck she wants. I don't know how you've been acting, but it sounds like you've been kissing her ass and showering her with gifts this whole time and maybe she's bored. On one hand, that's probably not the type of girl that you want, but on the other maybe if you put your foot down and tell her how things are gonna be...she might see you in a new light and start to respect you a little more for being a man.

All women want a man and too many guys try to be sooooo romantic that they make the mistake of not standing up for themselves and doing whatever the girl wants. After a short while most all women will start to lose respect for the man not to mention get very bored.

Whats ****ed up is before I started doing all that romantic shit, she was like we need to have more fun in our relationship...but she does want to go to bars, she is a homebody and always wants to be at home taking care of her dogs. I'm fine with that Ill go out with my friends, but then don't come and complain to me when your bored and want more fun. So i bought her that phone "late christmas gift" and took her out of town. But I will do what you said first and put my foot down.

[BrownGirl]

Whats ****ed up is before I started doing all that romantic shit, she was like we need to have more fun in our relationship...but she does want to go to bars, she is a homebody and always wants to be at home taking care of her dogs. I'm fine with that Ill go out with my friends, but then don't come and complain to me when your bored and want more fun. So i bought her that phone "late christmas gift" and took her out of town. But I will do what you said first and put my foot down.

Keep in mind that her idea of fun may not necessarily be going to bars...If this relationship progresses, try doing other things with her like outdoorsy stuff or something.

[slfmade]

Let us know how it goes.

[Razor]

thanks guy i really appreciated it. you guys are the best

[TheClinch]

Thanks..well she pissed me off 2 weeks ago. She had to put her dog down. I did not have my truck at the time cause my brother was using it. I offered to take the train up earlier and get out of work to go to the vet with her. She said it was ok and just wanted it to be her and her family. Later on I told her I might not be able to make it cause the last train left and my brother was not back yet with my truck. 5 minutes later he showed up and drove me up there cause we only had 1 car. A week later she tells me she was upset that i say "I might not be able to make it" EVEN though I made it..

The part where she says to you, after a week of thought, that she was upset you "might" not make it to her important moment stands out to me as motive for not showing proper caring interest in your important moment. I might be over analyzing but she seems like the type to hold a soft revenge.

[Razor]

The part where she says to you, after a week of thought, that she was upset you "might" not make it to her important moment stands out to me as motive for not showing proper caring interest in your important moment. I might be over analyzing but she seems like the type to hold a soft revenge.

i kinda feel the same way

[TheClinch]

i kinda feel the same way

My intuition says its a payback, eye for an eye. In my opinion, if she is, in fact, like this(not saying 100% she is) then I wouldn't be able to move on trusting her. To me its a tell that she can be vindictive or manipulative. Bad agents in the chemistry of a relationship.
I'm a little sour though brother sorry...