My first heart break

[Gaspari1255]

Safety

[Standby]

thats a pretty good story there (in a bad way) time to move on friend. now you will have your guard up trust me. youve now become a better person because of this

[thehulk2203]

Sorry to hear about this I went through the same thing except we were together for five years and I found out she was cheating on me when my grandfather who was like my dad passed away that same week it was very hard I didn't think I could make it through but its amazing what we are capable of. You will get through it way to many women in this world!

[Noles12]

I know the feeling. My girl wasnt quite as bad off but was much the same. We fought a lot. Things got worse and worse. She decides she wants a break and boom a week later is with a new guy. I know they were talking while we were dating. We had been together close to 4 years.

That was in November. It was the hardest thing to get over at first. I tried begging for her back for about a day. i am embarrassed for being so weak. Since then, even though it was extremely hard we have only spoken a few times. Less contact is hard but its best.

Two months later i have moved on. It made me realize i needed to change some things about my life for me and no one else. In a two months i have created new opportunities for myself. Things have fallen in to place with schooling and my career. Three years from now i will be able to have Dr. in front of my name and i am very proud of that. I have lost 40 pounds and am well on my way to being the happiest i have ever been in my life.

Things were tough and you will have feelings for her deep down no matter how messed up she is. You just have to realize that its not whats best for you and you will get much better

[Standby]

Two months later i have moved on. It made me realize i needed to change some things about my life for me and no one else. In a two months i have created new opportunities for myself. Things have fallen in to place with schooling and my career. Three years from now i will be able to have Dr. in front of my name and i am very proud of that. I have lost 40 pounds and am well on my way to being the happiest i have ever been in my life.

this is what im talking about right here. i didnt join a gym and lose 80lbs without some kind of kick in my ass. i got my experience with this shit too

[calstate23]

Well, at 22 years old, I’ve been screwed over by an abundance of women, and learning from each experience, but this was my first real heart break. I’ve posted a few threads about this girl before- to sum up our relationship really quickly: She was a bartender at the club I bounce at. We knew each other about a year, and I was pretty sure she was a total mess. She would go out all night/day drinking, she had no family, and bartending was her career. She didn’t bother looking into a day job or getting herself an education …I should have known from day one that this is not the type of person I should be getting involved with.

We ended up getting really drunk one night, and woke up next to each other. We didn’t fvck or anything, just kissed and woke up holding each other. We spent that whole day together just talking and really getting comfortable around one another. She told me her mother killed herself when she was 16 and father through her out when she was 17, so to make a long story short once again: she had a very fvcked up life growing up (she is now 26).

We ended up meeting up again, getting dinner and drinks..Then we hung out a few more times, and then we started hanging out all the time, and boom I’m in a relationship. We were inseparable, practically lived together, worked together, went to the gym together. I am still a full time student so basically the only time we didn’t spend together was when I was in class. She always had this reallllly realllly crazy jealous steak in her. At first it started off as typical jealousy shit, but then quickly in jumped to “ I don’t want you talking or looking at her….her….her….her..or her.” It ended up getting really out of hand. She got blacked out drunk one night and punched me a few times over the jealousy thing (I never gave her a reason to be jealous). Then another time she was making a sandwich, and threatened to stab me when she was blacked out drunk. I know I should have walked away right then and there, but it was tough- I was already attached.

The whole time we dated she had this “guy” friend that she met on facebook. Within the first few weeks of us dating, I saw she left him a message on facebook saying something like “Please make love to me one time before you leave….and don’t worry I’ll be single next year for Tommorrowland” (tomorrow land is some retarded techo/house music festival in Europe. After reading those things, I blew the fvck up on her. She kept swearing up and down that they were just joking around and that she never even met up with this guy in person..and that it was early in our relationship, so there’s no point to get pissed over something like this…We ended up breaking up, and a few days later we were back together…

So this whole time I’m starting to realize some really odd signs. One night I caught her taking a picture of herself in MY car and sending it to him, along with texting him later that night when I was driving. When I confronted her about it, she said “If I was cheating do you really think I would do it right in front of you…he’s just a friend.” Thennn, within a few weeks I noticed they were facebook friends, then they weren’t, then they were friends again, then they weren’t…really weird …almost like her guilt was getting to her or something. Four months later, she breaks it off with me over some really stupid jealous reason. I was pretty heart broken, but figured I couldn’t make her happy (even though I did just about everything for this fvcking ****) TWO WEEKS after the break up, her and this guy are dating. Tons of pictures of them online, shes posting all sorts of things about how much he means to her, shes at his place 24/7…

Well last night, they must have gotten in a huge fight because they are completely done, but he writes on his facebook for everyone to see as a status: “The last girl I put a good effort into had a boyfriend the whole time, and she was basically just using me for sex, it’s a compliment, but I’m still hurt.”

…So that right there put the icing in the cake. The bitch was doing me dirty from day one. It’s my own fault for not bailing out sooner, because all of these damn signs look pretty clear right now. I confronted her about it, she swore up and down she never cheated, and then got REALLY defensive, saying shit like “I never cheated but get the fvck over it! We’re done..”

So this is my first real heart break. We broke up 6 weeks ago, and I thought about her every second of every day that she’s been gone. Its amazing how sick some people can be, and even more amazing how they STILL lie when you lay out all of the facts in front of them…This is one of the worst feelings I’ve had in my entire life…..Sorry for the rant, I just have no one else to talk to about this. She was a royal fvcking mess and all I did was try to offer her love and better her life, and I got totally fvcking burned.

Dude, I live by this one thing..............Girls and guys cannot be friends unless one is gay or relatives..........Therefore, I don't allow it...And even if the girl has no interest in her friend then he still wants to bang her.........And that is why none of my girlfriends have a "guy friend" they talk too...And in a relationship, I don't hangout with other girls because my friends that are girls I want to bang (Which basically confirms my point above)..

Some call it controlling, I call it being loyal and not getting ****ed over

[calstate23]

Well, at 22 years old, I’ve been screwed over by an abundance of women, and learning from each experience, but this was my first real heart break. I’ve posted a few threads about this girl before- to sum up our relationship really quickly: She was a bartender at the club I bounce at. We knew each other about a year, and I was pretty sure she was a total mess. She would go out all night/day drinking, she had no family, and bartending was her career. She didn’t bother looking into a day job or getting herself an education …I should have known from day one that this is not the type of person I should be getting involved with.

We ended up getting really drunk one night, and woke up next to each other. We didn’t fvck or anything, just kissed and woke up holding each other. We spent that whole day together just talking and really getting comfortable around one another. She told me her mother killed herself when she was 16 and father through her out when she was 17, so to make a long story short once again: she had a very fvcked up life growing up (she is now 26).

We ended up meeting up again, getting dinner and drinks..Then we hung out a few more times, and then we started hanging out all the time, and boom I’m in a relationship. We were inseparable, practically lived together, worked together, went to the gym together. I am still a full time student so basically the only time we didn’t spend together was when I was in class. She always had this reallllly realllly crazy jealous steak in her. At first it started off as typical jealousy shit, but then quickly in jumped to “ I don’t want you talking or looking at her….her….her….her..or her.” It ended up getting really out of hand. She got blacked out drunk one night and punched me a few times over the jealousy thing (I never gave her a reason to be jealous). Then another time she was making a sandwich, and threatened to stab me when she was blacked out drunk. I know I should have walked away right then and there, but it was tough- I was already attached.

The whole time we dated she had this “guy” friend that she met on facebook. Within the first few weeks of us dating, I saw she left him a message on facebook saying something like “Please make love to me one time before you leave….and don’t worry I’ll be single next year for Tommorrowland” (tomorrow land is some retarded techo/house music festival in Europe. After reading those things, I blew the fvck up on her. She kept swearing up and down that they were just joking around and that she never even met up with this guy in person..and that it was early in our relationship, so there’s no point to get pissed over something like this…We ended up breaking up, and a few days later we were back together…

So this whole time I’m starting to realize some really odd signs. One night I caught her taking a picture of herself in MY car and sending it to him, along with texting him later that night when I was driving. When I confronted her about it, she said “If I was cheating do you really think I would do it right in front of you…he’s just a friend.” Thennn, within a few weeks I noticed they were facebook friends, then they weren’t, then they were friends again, then they weren’t…really weird …almost like her guilt was getting to her or something. Four months later, she breaks it off with me over some really stupid jealous reason. I was pretty heart broken, but figured I couldn’t make her happy (even though I did just about everything for this fvcking ****) TWO WEEKS after the break up, her and this guy are dating. Tons of pictures of them online, shes posting all sorts of things about how much he means to her, shes at his place 24/7…

Well last night, they must have gotten in a huge fight because they are completely done, but he writes on his facebook for everyone to see as a status: “The last girl I put a good effort into had a boyfriend the whole time, and she was basically just using me for sex, it’s a compliment, but I’m still hurt.”

…So that right there put the icing in the cake. The bitch was doing me dirty from day one. It’s my own fault for not bailing out sooner, because all of these damn signs look pretty clear right now. I confronted her about it, she swore up and down she never cheated, and then got REALLY defensive, saying shit like “I never cheated but get the fvck over it! We’re done..”

So this is my first real heart break. We broke up 6 weeks ago, and I thought about her every second of every day that she’s been gone. Its amazing how sick some people can be, and even more amazing how they STILL lie when you lay out all of the facts in front of them…This is one of the worst feelings I’ve had in my entire life…..Sorry for the rant, I just have no one else to talk to about this. She was a royal fvcking mess and all I did was try to offer her love and better her life, and I got totally fvcking burned.

Dude, I live by this one thing..............Girls and guys cannot be friends unless one is gay or relatives..........Therefore, I don't allow it...And even if the girl has no interest in her friend then he still wants to bang her.........And that is why none of my girlfriends have a "guy friend" they talk too...And in a relationship, I don't hangout with other girls because my friends that are girls I want to bang (Which basically confirms my point above)...If I want to hangout with a friend I call my buddy, I don't want to "Hang" out with chicks....I want to bang them...Like every dude wants too

Some call it controlling, I call it being loyal and not getting ****ed over

[Hazard]

I don't have much to say man..... atleast not on here. We might need to pay this kid a visit though.....

If you need a night out we should hit up AC and troll for hewas

~Haz~

[DanB]

its tough bro but count yourself lucky you got out now and not in 2years time when it would feel 100x's worse, and you need try move on but just remember not all women are like her, if you paint them all with same brush you will have hard time ever being in relationship again, trust me on that one

[cherrydrpepper]

Your just lucky you didnt make an accident baby in that bitch. You thank god every day the condom held up or you didn't squirt one in her when you were raw dogging. See theres a happy point in every story.

Don't feel bad about the sex thing. Ho's are ho's. When I was your age I was dating a stripper. She was ****ing other guys. All the signs were there but the ***** was finger tight somehow and I didn't want to give up the screaming sex. I even made that bitch cum 15 times in a session one time (she was molested was the only way she could fk / cum that many times). My point don't think its a sex thing with a girl like that its not. As far as I can tell if shes a slut she just likes having more than one dik. Not sure why.. probably same reason some of us guys is whores too.

[Gaspari1255]

its tough bro but count yourself lucky you got out now and not in 2years time when it would feel 100x's worse, and you need try move on but just remember not all women are like her, if you paint them all with same brush you will have hard time ever being in relationship again, trust me on that one

You're right and it's going to be VERY hard for me to trust another woman again. I mean, I was with this girl every second (with the exception of a couple of hours a day when I was in class) and she still found a way to cheat. Unreal.....It's gonna have to take a lot of searching, and 110% trust till I get in a relationship again.

[Gaspari1255]

Your just lucky you didnt make an accident baby in that bitch. You thank god every day the condom held up or you didn't squirt one in her when you were raw dogging. See theres a happy point in every story.

Don't feel bad about the sex thing. Ho's are ho's. When I was your age I was dating a stripper. She was ****ing other guys. All the signs were there but the ***** was finger tight somehow and I didn't want to give up the screaming sex. I even made that bitch cum 15 times in a session one time (she was molested was the only way she could fk / cum that many times). My point don't think its a sex thing with a girl like that its not. As far as I can tell if shes a slut she just likes having more than one dik. Not sure why.. probably same reason some of us guys is whores too.

Yes I am very grateful for that. There is no way in hell that woman could be a mother. She reminds me of my mother- selfish alcoholic, who chose drugs and a bottle of vodka over her children- I even told her she reminded me of my mother, didn't seem to bother her.

[Gaspari1255]

I know the feeling. My girl wasnt quite as bad off but was much the same. We fought a lot. Things got worse and worse. She decides she wants a break and boom a week later is with a new guy. I know they were talking while we were dating. We had been together close to 4 years.

That was in November. It was the hardest thing to get over at first. I tried begging for her back for about a day. i am embarrassed for being so weak. Since then, even though it was extremely hard we have only spoken a few times. Less contact is hard but its best.

Two months later i have moved on. It made me realize i needed to change some things about my life for me and no one else. In a two months i have created new opportunities for myself. Things have fallen in to place with schooling and my career. Three years from now i will be able to have Dr. in front of my name and i am very proud of that. I have lost 40 pounds and am well on my way to being the happiest i have ever been in my life.

Things were tough and you will have feelings for her deep down no matter how messed up she is. You just have to realize that its not whats best for you and you will get much better

The most fvcked up part is how there is no physical proof that they were cheating, we pretty much know for sure. I've come to realize that some people just don't have a conscience or a heart. Sociopaths....

[Gaspari1255]

I don't have much to say man..... atleast not on here. We might need to pay this kid a visit though.....

If you need a night out we should hit up AC and troll for hewas

~Haz~

Thought about it several times. It's impossible...he lives with his parents...and he's gonna assume that I had somthing to do with it...I have a career to protect and worry about.

[Gaspari1255]

I don't have much to say man..... atleast not on here. We might need to pay this kid a visit though.....

If you need a night out we should hit up AC and troll for hewas

~Haz~

Thought about it several times. It's impossible...he lives with his parents...and he's gonna assume that I had somthing to do with it...I have a career to protect and worry about.

[DanB]

I feel your pain and im probably the very same as you, I'm with a girl nearly a year now (which is long time for me as I have major trust issues and fvck things up due to this) and she seems to be 100% trustworthy but I still have voice in me head when she goes out sayin ''she same as the last b***h, she going to fvck you over etc'' and its hard, but the difference now is that while my last serious girl was alot like yours, basically a party girl out for a good time not a long time but she said all the right things, now this current girl is alot more mature, has done her partying and just wants normal relationship, the point im trying to get at is I believe you need girl with same kind of mindset and goals as you, i.e. partygirl looking for fun, and student with ambitions for his life and takes fitness seriously will never work, where as if 2 of you are aiming to head in same direction you have much better chances, and alot less agro, that make sense? just my personal opinion

[Noles12]

I feel your pain and im probably the very same as you, I'm with a girl nearly a year now (which is long time for me as I have major trust issues and fvck things up due to this) and she seems to be 100% trustworthy but I still have voice in me head when she goes out sayin ''she same as the last b***h, she going to fvck you over etc'' and its hard, but the difference now is that while my last serious girl was alot like yours, basically a party girl out for a good time not a long time but she said all the right things, now this current girl is alot more mature, has done her partying and just wants normal relationship, the point im trying to get at is I believe you need girl with same kind of mindset and goals as you, i.e. partygirl looking for fun, and student with ambitions for his life and takes fitness seriously will never work, where as if 2 of you are aiming to head in same direction you have much better chances, and alot less agro, that make sense? just my personal opinion

I understand how the past can affect your current relationships but always expecting the worse is going to make things better. Yeah she could be like all the rest but why worry yourself. She could actually be the best girl you have ever met and your treating her like all the rest can actually push her away.

[DanB]

I understand how the past can affect your current relationships but always expecting the worse is going to make things better. Yeah she could be like all the rest but why worry yourself. She could actually be the best girl you have ever met and your treating her like all the rest can actually push her away.

exactly so i try treat her like she deserves to be and also why i keep me mouth shut and dont tell her what goes through me head when its stupid paranoia like that, i was just trying to say that its still in back of head, and i usually laugh to meself about it when i snap out of it and remember all the things she done to make herself trustworthy and how far away from last girl that she is, i dont think i made the point i was trying to make very well lol

[Gaspari1255]

exactly so i try treat her like she deserves to be and also why i keep me mouth shut and dont tell her what goes through me head when its stupid paranoia like that, i was just trying to say that its still in back of head, and i usually laugh to meself about it when i snap out of it and remember all the things she done to make herself trustworthy and how far away from last girl that she is, i dont think i made the point i was trying to make very well lol

You're doing the right thing. You understand and know that this one MAY hurt you, but youre smart enough to shut up until you have some serious proof of it. Why risk screwing something up if it's going so well? I'm happy for you man. You sound a lot like myself and I'm glad to hear that a good guy actually met a quality woman.

[Hazard]

Thought about it several times. It's impossible...he lives with his parents...and he's gonna assume that I had somthing to do with it...I have a career to protect and worry about.

Theres more than one way to skin a cat my friend.....

~Haz~

[DanB]

You're doing the right thing. You understand and know that this one MAY hurt you, but youre smart enough to shut up until you have some serious proof of it. Why risk screwing something up if it's going so well? I'm happy for you man. You sound a lot like myself and I'm glad to hear that a good guy actually met a quality woman.

LMFAO How did you manage to say in 2 lines what I couldnt say in 3? haha, yeah thats what I was trying to get at, and thanks for that mate im sure there is one out there for you aswell, its hard now but you will be able to look back and laugh about it all someday, and if your anything like me then you will be laughing at yourself for being so stupid, but hey thats life

[Honkey_Kong]

Bronzer, you need to start listening to Tom Leykis. Here is a clip that should help you.

[thegodfather]

Man....I'm gonna smack you upside your head the next time I see you...The last time you called, you didnt mention any of this shit dude, and it was after you had broken up with that skank, after the hole you daring her to stab you when she threatened you.

Bottomline, she got off on cheating 'in front of you,' she probably got an endorphine release from behaving so promiscuously. It's very common among drug addicts, since she was abusing Extacy as you stated, it's very common for these people to seek that sort of behavior, they get a 'high' of sorts in lieu of their drug of choice. Move on brother, and prepare to be slapped during semester break.

[Razor]

After my break up today that story makes me want to cry too. Im sorry brother

[gbrice75]

Sorry you're going through this B. I'm willing to bet the majority of us have been played at one time or another. Even though it doesn't seem like it now, you will heal, things will get better and pretty soon you won't even be thinking about this cvnt anymore. Stay strong brother.

[oatmeal69]

Sorry for you man... As bad as it hurts, realize there are others out there who know that pain. I'd like to say it gets easier each time it happens... but it doesn't. at 42 I've been through dozens now, and even the last one hurts like a mofo.
All I can say is don't focus too far ahead, just try to keep putting one foot in front of the other - don't stagnate. Eventually you will put enough distance to where you can deal with it and keep the pain down to a dull annoyance. Use that pain in the gym, it helps!

[JohnnyVegas]

I don't have much to say man..... atleast not on here. We might need to pay this kid a visit though.....

Pfft, it was the girl's fault. Imagine what she was telling the other guy. She obviously wasn't saying, "my boyfriend is totally awesome, we spend every minute together and he takes good care of me." She was saying bad things about our boy and actively pursuing the other guy. She has a sickness.

But they aren't all like that.

[Noles12]

Pfft, it was the girl's fault. Imagine what she was telling the other guy. She obviously wasn't saying, "my boyfriend is totally awesome, we spend every minute together and he takes good care of me." She was saying bad things about our boy and actively pursuing the other guy. She has a sickness.

But they aren't all like that.

I actually looked at it in the same way. It was my girls fault for talking to this kid. But at the same time the guy almost always knows they are in a relationship which in my book is not right. But hey she was a very attractive girl so i could see why he did it. I dont have a grudge with the guy. I see him on occasion and just dont really acknowledge him and with her its never more than a simple hi.

Im young but have already realized that starting something wont get me anywhere. Sure it feels good to let it out on the but you are no better off than you were before. I think the best is to just disconnect yourself from the past and move on

[yannick35]

Depending on your goals in life i would have to say you lost nothing. There is far better then this out there.

22 is very young you got your whole life infront of you. I met my current girlfriend at 32 years old and we been togheter for 7 years now, she got a head on her shoulders, is very smarth and has a lot more education then me, makes more money then me too LOL.

Attraction is very important don't get me wrong but you also need to look at the total package.

Hang in there bro time fixes everything.

[JohnnyVegas]

I actually looked at it in the same way. It was my girls fault for talking to this kid. But at the same time the guy almost always knows they are in a relationship which in my book is not right.

You are right. I was simplifying to point out that the guy doesn't deserve an *ss whipping is all. That girl has a character flaw and he is better off away from her. The other guy was probably an idiot that believed whatever crap the girl was feeding him. "He doesn't make me happy and I am going to leave him" was probably one considering she was telling him she was going to be single soon.

[Gaspari1255]

Thanks for the kind words guys. This is really tough, but as stated above, I'm better off without this motherfvcker. She is a compulsive and pathological liar. There is soo much evidence against her, and she's still pleading innocent (probably because she loves being the victim and craves attention- which stems from her lack of parenting and love while growing up). I actually think she is so sick that she may believe her own lies. When I questioned it about her the other night, she got really mean and defensive. An ordinary, innocent person would be understanding and patient for the most part, not "Move the fvck on...get over it...we're not together any more." Oh well, hopefully she drops dead within the next month or so.

[JohnnyVegas]

The less energy you continue to give that girl the better. I hope you can get back to having fun soon. Still, I have been there and know how hard it is. I once got back together with someone toxic. For two weeks...then I had to go through the breakup feelings AGAIN! Ugh.

[redz]

Heartbreak? dude you dodged a bullit sounds like she was one crazy bitch.

[Windex]

Dude, I live by this one thing..............Girls and guys cannot be friends unless one is gay or relatives..........Therefore, I don't allow it...And even if the girl has no interest in her friend then he still wants to bang her.........And that is why none of my girlfriends have a "guy friend" they talk too...And in a relationship, I don't hangout with other girls because my friends that are girls I want to bang (Which basically confirms my point above)...If I want to hangout with a friend I call my buddy, I don't want to "Hang" out with chicks....I want to bang them...Like every dude wants too

Some call it controlling, I call it being loyal and not getting ****ed over

Amen.


I know how it feels to be ****ed over, definitely not fun. Time is the best bandaid I've found.

[Honkey_Kong]

You know the best way to get over this broad is to go get some fresh poon.

[oatmeal69]

Best way to get over one chick is get under another one.

[Honkey_Kong]

And Bronzer, you're only 22. You shouldn't be relationships anyways. Go out and enjoy being young while you can. Go bang as many chicks as you can possibly bang (use protection) and don't get tied down to any of them. Worry about making yourself happy, doing what makes you happy without the unnecessary drama that relationships bring.

[Gaspari1255]

And Bronzer, you're only 22. You shouldn't be relationships anyways. Go out and enjoy being young while you can. Go bang as many chicks as you can possibly bang (use protection) and don't get tied down to any of them. Worry about making yourself happy, doing what makes you happy without the unnecessary drama that relationships bring.

You're right. I'm just so over the whole "going out all the time" shit. I'm very mature for my age. I work full time, attend school full time, have an internship, and stay very dedicated in the gym. I live my life like a 32 year old, rather than a 22 year old. In May, I'm graduating school and going to the police academy. It's really hard for me to have the ambition to go out drinking and fvck some random slut for the night...I don't find it fun or rewarding. It's very hard finding a woman who is similar to me, within my age group.

[Hazard]

Pfft, it was the girl's fault. Imagine what she was telling the other guy. She obviously wasn't saying, "my boyfriend is totally awesome, we spend every minute together and he takes good care of me." She was saying bad things about our boy and actively pursuing the other guy. She has a sickness.

But they aren't all like that.

I would agree with you if he had no idea she had a boyfriend. However..... the fact that he KNEW she had a boyfriend shows a direct lack of respect to bronzer. If he was any kind of man he should have told her to break things off with him and then they could fvck. He deserves to get whats comming to him IMO.....

~Haz~

[Hazard]

You're right. I'm just so over the whole "going out all the time" shit. I'm very mature for my age. I work full time, attend school full time, have an internship, and stay very dedicated in the gym. I live my life like a 32 year old, rather than a 22 year old. In May, I'm graduating school and going to the police academy. It's really hard for me to have the ambition to go out drinking and fvck some random slut for the night...I don't find it fun or rewarding. It's very hard finding a woman who is similar to me, within my age group.

I was this way at your age man..... now i'm making up for lost time haha

~Haz~