How hard is it ........

[Jessgirl]

How hard is it to show appreciation ? I'm one that makes everyone happy, no matter if its with work or home life.I think I'm just getting it at 33 that no matter how hard you try, people just don't appreciate it!I don't ask for much....just a simple f+++ing thank you would mean so much!!I wish I could have the attitude and not give a f++k.....but its not me.Its not just you guys that think being nice gets you nowhere...trust me!

[gixxerboy1]

when you are like that all the time people expect it and dont appreciate it.

[spywizard]

so you have a desperate need to be liked.. poor self esteme and don't really know who you are, or if you do you don't like the way you are..

Here's advice, don't empower others to effect who you are of validate what you do is important, don't change, know that by being you the world is better than whithout you, and those around you are better off..

you are a giver, no issue with that, but find someone that will try to out give you and the 2 of you will be very happy..

[NOSUPERMODEL]

Damn Gixx. Your avi's just get better and better.

[jimmyinkedup]

Trying just being that way because its who you are and makes you feel good about yourself. Doing so with the expectations of others validating is setting yourself up for disappointment.
Also be sure to express the gratitude to others you are seeking. I would think there are a few things at work or home others do that could use a little gratitude from you as well.

[SexySweetheart]

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~ for my much appreciated sweetie !

[Jessgirl]

Thanks for letting me vent.....I'm secure with myself but I think to damn much....I am such a positive person that it's a negative quality to have sometimes.I dream about how I want things to go and life is not always a dream! I'm very fortunate when I take a step back and look in ! Thanks for advice and attachment S4MS

[Jessgirl]

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~ for my much appreciated sweetie !

Right back at you girl!

[SexySweetheart]

Thanks for letting me vent.....I'm secure with myself but I think to damn much....I am such a positive person that it's a negative quality to have sometimes.I dream about how I want things to go and life is not always a dream! I'm very fortunate when I take a step back and look in ! Thanks for advice and attachment S4MS

baaahahaha show me 1 friggan gal that doesnt! lol...its hard not to think too much when the opposite sex doesnt think enough

I trix I use to train people to treat how I want, that you may find helpful (but Im very out spoken an known as a smart ass already so that may be why this trick goes over so wellfor me lol)* If I want to hear something from a person...I actualy say it to them example: I fetch someones dry cleaning for them, say their name is Brenda, I hand it to her and she takes it without saying anything to me , I chime in fast" well thank you so much ----s4ms--- i realy appreciate you taking a moment out of your busy life to fetch MY dry cleaning for ME even though you didnt have to" "oh your welcome brenda but I must say please dont expect much more from me lately as you see I plan on taking more time to focus on myself from now on"

lol nothing like leaving someone knowing what they should have said AND hearing ya say to politly eff off and stop asking you for stuff cuz they are ingrates and you have better things to do than worry about them

[JohnnyVegas]

I don't care if people like me, but I am a polite and helpful person. To me, it is just good manners. I know that someone has a miserable life if they aren't polite back. The fact that they don't respect others is proof that they can't possibly be surrounded by good people. I make sure I don't get sucked into their negativity.

...and I would never pick up someone's dry cleaning again that wasn't appreciative. If it was a boyfriend/girlfriend I would watch for a trend and dump them like a hot stone if the trend went on for long.

[songdog]

I dont worry about it I expect very lil from people.Seems manners left with the tide.

[Jessgirl]

baaahahaha show me 1 friggan gal that doesnt! lol...its hard not to think too much when the opposite sex doesnt think enough

I trix I use to train people to treat how I want, that you may find helpful (but Im very out spoken an known as a smart ass already so that may be why this trick goeover so wellfor me lol)* If I want to hear something from a person...I actualy say it to them example: I fetch someones dry cleaning for them, say their name is Brenda, I hand it to her takes it without saying anything to me , I chime in fast" well thank you so much ----s4ms--- i realy appreciate you taking a moment out of your busy life to fetch MY dry cleaning for ME even though you didnt have to" "oh your welcome brenda but I must say please dont expect much more from me lately as you see I plan on taking more time to focus on myself from now on"

lol nothing like leaving someone knowing what they should have said AND hearing ya say to politly eff off and stop asking you for stuff cuz they are ingrates and you have better things to do than worry about them

Lmao.......I know girl, and I do have outgoing personality and good at sarcasm when needed.Its more the people that I care about that I expect to much.we all have our moments but I would like to not give a f++k sometimes !

[Jessgirl]

Omg what I just went through for that, I'm on new phone that I need to learn lol....wanted to say these kids are my pride and joy...when I come home to there smiles.....no BULL S++t makes doing what I do not worth it

[Jessgirl]

baaahahaha show me 1 friggan gal that doesnt! lol...its hard not to think too much when the opposite sex doesnt think enough

I trix I use to train people to treat how I want, that you may find helpful (but Im very out spoken an known as a smart ass already so that may be why this trick goeover so wellfor me lol)* If I want to hear something from a person...I actualy say it to them example: I fetch someones dry cleaning for them, say their name is Brenda, I hand it to her takes it without saying anything to me , I chime in fast" well thank you so much ----s4ms--- i realy appreciate you taking a moment out of your busy life to fetch MY dry cleaning for ME even though you didnt have to" "oh your welcome brenda but I must say please dont expect much more from me lately as you see I plan on taking more time to focus on myself from now on"

lol nothing like leaving someone knowing what they should have said AND hearing ya say to politly eff off and stop asking you for stuff cuz they are ingrates and you have better things to do than worry about them

Lmao.......I know girl, and I do have outgoing personality and good at sarcasm when needed.Its more the people that I care about that I expect to much.we all have our moments but I would like to not give a f++k sometimes !

[Knockout_Power]

How hard is it to show appreciation ? I'm one that makes everyone happy, no matter if its with work or home life.I think I'm just getting it at 33 that no matter how hard you try, people just don't appreciate it!I don't ask for much....just a simple f+++ing thank you would mean so much!!I wish I could have the attitude and not give a f++k.....but its not me.Its not just you guys that think being nice gets you nowhere...trust me!

I didnt read the other posts, but I feel this way 6 days a week. Im the same age and finally I just got to the point where I dont even care anymore. I wont stop being the person I am, still hold doors, let people ahead of me, make the odd compliment, tip extra for great service, but I expect nothing as far as a positive response.

Its actually to the point where it almost cheers me up when the 1 in 100 people actually make the effort to shout out a thank you or even a fvcken smile, almost makes you think society is actually coming around... then you get the 99 in a row who act as though you are expected to go out of your way to satisfy them

[JD250]

Jessgirl......it really seems like nobody today has the ability to encourage other people or even say thank you or offer a hand or give a smile.....so what!!!....don't let it get to you and change your attitude, your better than that, keep up the good work and don't be discouraged.

[cherrydrpepper]

How hard is it? Well.. boiyoinyoinggg

[Scabtree]

I suppose the best thing to do would be to figure out the reason you are doing nice things for others. You need to do these things to benefit yourself, not the person you are doing the nice thing for. If they show appreciation, then that's just a bonus. It's always better to give that to receive.. not just for the person who receives, but for the person who gives without measure.

[lovbyts]

I didnt read the other posts, but I feel this way 6 days a week. Im the same age and finally I just got to the point where I dont even care anymore. I wont stop being the person I am, still hold doors, let people ahead of me, make the odd compliment, tip extra for great service, but I expect nothing as far as a positive response.

Its actually to the point where it almost cheers me up when the 1 in 100 people actually make the effort to shout out a thank you or even a fvcken smile, almost makes you think society is actually coming around... then you get the 99 in a row who act as though you are expected to go out of your way to satisfy them

I'm the same way. 99% of the time I dont let those people get me down but everyone has their breaking point and bad days and we just need to vent. Also remember some of those people who dont say thank you might just be having a bad day/moment also but yeah, most are just aholes. lol

Ive had my moments of frustration where I wanted to just say Fvck it. I said yeah if I want to get ahead I just need to learn to be an ahole, step on people, stab them in the back, steal ideas (like I have had done to me), be a jerk to women or at least dont care and just say/do whatever is needed to get a piece of A. When it comes down to it though I just cant change who I am and all those things are soon forgotten. I like to believe it's all for a reason, Karma will equal everything out eventually and I will be happy with the way things turn out.

I'm defiantly the glass 1/2 full kind of person and see/look for the positive in most all situations. Nothing annoys me more though than someone who is the opposite and is always complaining about people who are exactly like themselves and only sees the negative in things or what can go wrong.

[Awesome_Archy]

Never help those who won't help themselves.

[DSM4Life]

Going by the title i was hoping this thread was about something else...


Like they say, no good deed goes unpunished. In my life that statement is true 80% of the time. I am the "nice guy" and I have been told this by many women. I have manners, I open doors for people or hold it if I see them coming. If I see elderly people who need a hand I will go out of my way to help them. It's just who I am. I am a nice person.

[rockinred]

Trying just being that way because its who you are and makes you feel good about yourself. Doing so with the expectations of others validating is setting yourself up for disappointment.
Also be sure to express the gratitude to others you are seeking. I would think there are a few things at work or home others do that could use a little gratitude from you as well.

Fist off Jessgirl .... Thank You! It is an admirable trait to be able to be that way. Many try and struggle very hard to be a giving or thoughtful person.

With that being said, I can't agree more with jimmy and Spy here.. don't empower anyone elses actions to define who you are. You are who you are because that is you. You do the things you do because it is you and you don't do it because others do or to get a reaction for someone. Once you do things to get a reaction it no longer becomes sincere or from your heart. So once you understand that, it is much more enjoyable and easy to deal with.

With that being said, I know how it is to need to vent and get upset. But the best thing is to not let the frustration that comes naturally from time to time, change who you are. This world needs more givers and less takers.

[Jessgirl]

You guys are great.....thanks for all input.I'm a good person with huge heart and I won't change that for nobody.its so much easier being nice then a d+ck!!!