woman r hartless

[frank13]

every time I'm in a relationship it only last a couple of months its like I'm that guy who makes woman feel good about them self's makes them feel good after a break up gives them every thing they want I'm always being told you the nicest guy Ive ever meet but then when there self esteem is all build up they roll my friends say just be a ass get what u want and roll out but I want to be a nice and treat woman with respect and dignity I guess its true nice guys do finish last what the fvck am I doing wrong

[canadian-bacon]

After a breakup. You owe them nothing.

[Gaspari1255]

It's not your fault, the same things happen to me. I've said it before a thousand times on this site, and I'll say it again, women this generation are a bunch of no good fvcking pigs. I made a count today, I believe the last 8 women I went out of my way for and put effort into ended up fvcking me over. Now, people will say, well stop dating "these" types of women. That's not the case here. I've dated all types of women- successful, unsuccessful, extremely hot, not so good looking, older, younger, etc- and it's the same scenario every time. Before a women enters a relationship or starts "talking" to a guy, she thinks "How can I benefit from this and how am I gonna come out on top". They don't give a shit about our feelings, and take what they need, get a self esteem raise, and move on to the next sucker.

The Godfather made an excellent point in a post a couple months ago. He said that he's tried to date quite a few women that he was much higher then on the "todem pole" of life - looks, success, money, education, etc...He was explaining how it blew his mind how some of these women that we would view as really desperate and pathetic wouldn't jump at the opportunity to date him. This has happened to me time and time again as well. The bottom line is women do not see things for what they are. Some times they need to date straight fvcking losers or scumbags to make themselves feel/look better. I was the best thing to ever enter my ex's life (She bartended twice a week, had no day job, had no education, and slept, drank, and popped Molly every other day). She ended up leaving me for a 23 year old white aspiring "rapper" who lives in his mothers basements, doesn't have a GED, has no job, and is a recovering drug addict. Why would this woman do such a thing? Because when a pile of shit dates an even bigger pile of shit, the original pile of shit has a greater sense of self worth.

Just something to think about..

We need to stop kissing their asses and start putting them in their place. When they look a little thick, tell them to go do some fvkcin crunches. If their skin isn't looking too good, call them a pasty looking ghoul. A woman's ego is as big as the world, but it's thin like glass; one little crack and it's all over.

[frank13]

thanks that does make me feel a little better this girl just left me to date her old boyfriend who she couldn't stop telling me how much of a pile of shit he was to her and how good I made her feel and no one has ever made her feel so good but then she rolls out to get back with him it just bothers me that i can be discarded so easily and no one cares about anyone else feelings

[gixxerboy1]

There are good and bad out there. But most people are out for themselves.

And when i first read your title i thought it said woman r hairless

[frank13]

There are good and bad out there. But most people are out for themselves.

And when i first read your title i thought it said woman r hairless

Sorry

[GetItHot]

A woman's ego is as big as the world, but it's thin like glass; one little crack and it's all over.

I like that. Im going to have to file that one.

Women want assholes not pussies. The assholes are the ones that bang them, the pussies are the ones they cry to about the assholes.
Ya'll mf'ers need to listen to Leykis 101. www.blowmeuptom.com

[gixxerboy1]

Sorry

nothing to be sorry for. I missread it and thought it was funny.

[frank13]

I like that. Im going to have to file that one.

Women want assholes not pussies. The assholes are the ones that bang them, the pussies are the ones they cry to about the assholes.
Ya'll mf'ers need to listen to Leykis 101. www.blowmeuptom.com

your right woman for what ever reason like assholes but I'm no pvssy i bang her real good unless she was faking it

[GetItHot]

So move on and bang something hotter. Problem solved.

[gixxerboy1]

I like that. Im going to have to file that one.

Women want assholes not pussies. The assholes are the ones that bang them, the pussies are the ones they cry to about the assholes.
Ya'll mf'ers need to listen to Leykis 101. www.blowmeuptom.com

you dont have to be an asshole not to be a pvssy. I treat my girls great but i dont let them walk over me either.

[canadian-bacon]

Best way to get over the last one is to get on the next one.

[gixxerboy1]

Best way to get over the last one is to get on the next one.

preferably her sister

[canadian-bacon]

preferably her sister

Or hot mother. But sisters are always a good time too.

[songdog]

Holy sh7t not another guy whining about being dumped.Quit wearing your feelings on your sleeve and dont put everything into someone you just met.

[spywizard]

alot of times women don't feel that they are good enough, that you could do better than them...

people come and go in your life, take what you learn from each of them..

In your case you look for women that are easy marks, low self esteem and what not.. then they become a project for you to fix.. oops did i stumble onto something??

You need a woman to need you when she doesn't what happens?? she rolls?? or do you push her away?? can't say, but in the end, are you looking for a wife, or a companion..

Find a woman and accept her for her faults, don't "fix" her, she doesn't need fixing, she is who she is at that moment..

Good advice?? get a vasectomy.. they are reversible..

[JD250]

I'll never understand why you guys don't take my advice on women.....grab the boobies and dry hump her, chicks dig it ....oh well (sigh)

[SexySweetheart]

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didnt work out...wrong chick for you
if finding a great partner was easy ~ it wouldnt be so cherished once found
move on and find that gal who is for you <3 dont let the one's that are not for you, make you so jadded that you mistreat or mis see how good a good gal is when she does come along

[wmaousley]

I have known guys to tell me the exact same thing in your original post only to find out they werent really nice guys, they were more like narcisistic assholes who think because they do one nice thing they are the sweetist guy ever. I am in no way saying your the narcisist. Just stating facts about those who have no idea who they are.

[lovbyts]

you dont have to be an asshole not to be a pvssy. I treat my girls great but i dont let them walk over me either.

Exactly. Being a NICE guy is great but being a *****, nice guy 24/7 letting women get a way with shit you would never do to them or your best friend and they will keep it up until they get bored and dump you for some guy who is an ass to them.

My finding is you have to be STRONG with them, Dont be afraid to treat them like a 3yr old and scold them when they do something wrong, praise them when they do something right. Dont EVER let them walk on you or it's all over. Nicely let them know when they are doing this, try to be nice, dont get upset but if she is not listening continue being firm and not backing down even if it blows up.

I think it's especially true with Asians (my case) where they like to know you are in charge and if they are trying to take advantage of you that you will not put up with it to the point of walking away, dumping them and not wanting anything to do with them. I cant count the number of times my girl and I have gotten into it usually over something little, stupid but she just wanted to flex her muscles and see how much she could get away with until it reached unimaginable proportions (HUGE FIGHT) and once I said Fine, I'm Done, get out of my site that's when the light switch turns on and she is all over me, apologizing and can see where she was wrong but until then it's 100% emotional with her.

I have helped saved a couple guys marriage who are married to Asian by convincing them to take a stand. Not simply argue but telling them they are wrong, explaining why and making sure they will loose face. You will let their friends and family know how they failed as a wife/mate. That is the worst thing that can happen to an Asian female is to loose face.

Women love to hang onto the nice guy as a friend after she dumps him so she has some male support or a shoulder to cry on when she needs it although she will always run back to the ass hole who treats her like crap because it makes her feel alive like she has a purpose in life.

If you broke up then forget her, dont return calls or txt, move on and find someone else. That will crush her more than anything else if you want revenge. lol

[rj2k10]

I'm a nice guy, but don't let people walk all over you... Be nice, treat people with respect, but every now & again put people in their place... At the end of the day, bitches gonna bitch!

[DSM4Life]

preferably her sister

Or brother.

[JohnnyVegas]

My advice: date girls that read books.

[Gaspari1255]

My advice: date girls that read books.

co signed

[Times Roman]

every time I'm in a relationship it only last a couple of months its like I'm that guy who makes woman feel good about them self's makes them feel good after a break up gives them every thing they want I'm always being told you the nicest guy Ive ever meet but then when there self esteem is all build up they roll my friends say just be a ass get what u want and roll out but I want to be a nice and treat woman with respect and dignity I guess its true nice guys do finish last what the fvck am I doing wrong

funny. when i was in the dating scene, it seemed a long term relationship was the eventual outcome of going on a date. I didn't date a ton of women, but when i did find one that was interesting, it usually worked out.

So let me spin this around on you....

...what do YOU think you are doing wrong?

[SexySweetheart]

Exactly. Being a NICE guy is great but being a *****, nice guy 24/7 letting women get a way with shit you would never do to them or your best friend and they will keep it up until they get bored and dump you for some guy who is an ass to them.

My finding is you have to be STRONG with them, Dont be afraid to treat them like a 3yr old and scold them when they do something wrong, praise them when they do something right. Dont EVER let them walk on you or it's all over. Nicely let them know when they are doing this, try to be nice, dont get upset but if she is not listening continue being firm and not backing down even if it blows up.

I think it's especially true with Asians (my case) where they like to know you are in charge and if they are trying to take advantage of you that you will not put up with it to the point of walking away, dumping them and not wanting anything to do with them. I cant count the number of times my girl and I have gotten into it usually over something little, stupid but she just wanted to flex her muscles and see how much she could get away with until it reached unimaginable proportions (HUGE FIGHT) and once I said Fine, I'm Done, get out of my site that's when the light switch turns on and she is all over me, apologizing and can see where she was wrong but until then it's 100% emotional with her.

I have helped saved a couple guys marriage who are married to Asian by convincing them to take a stand. Not simply argue but telling them they are wrong, explaining why and making sure they will loose face. You will let their friends and family know how they failed as a wife/mate. That is the worst thing that can happen to an Asian female is to loose face.

Women love to hang onto the nice guy as a friend after she dumps him so she has some male support or a shoulder to cry on when she needs it although she will always run back to the ass hole who treats her like crap because it makes her feel alive like she has a purpose in life.

If you broke up then forget her, dont return calls or txt, move on and find someone else. That will crush her more than anything else if you want revenge. lol

expected from you, lol ~ yet still I do a double take when I read this stuff from you.


ahhh yes be sure to embarrass your lover in front of their friends n family by bullet pointing each other their faults (in your eyes) to all available friends and family each time they " they flex" their muscles (i.e. voice) ~ awesome! Baaahahaha
i can’t even begin to imagine all the biatching on these boards by the men if this was a role reversal

[frank13]

funny. when i was in the dating scene, it seemed a long term relationship was the eventual outcome of going on a date. I didn't date a ton of women, but when i did find one that was interesting, it usually worked out.

So let me spin this around on you....

...what do YOU think you are doing wrong?

I really starting to think that maybe I'm so nice the relationship becomes maybe boring being that theirs no controversy i cant figure it out or i wouldn't be here I do wear my hart on my sleeve and maybe that's a mistake perhaps i should take thing slower next time but i was working on this girl for a min that's why it sucks so much maybe its not a good sigh when all u do is have sex and don't do much of anything else

[frank13]

It's not your fault, the same things happen to me. I've said it before a thousand times on this site, and I'll say it again, women this generation are a bunch of no good fvcking pigs. I made a count today, I believe the last 8 women I went out of my way for and put effort into ended up fvcking me over. Now, people will say, well stop dating "these" types of women. That's not the case here. I've dated all types of women- successful, unsuccessful, extremely hot, not so good looking, older, younger, etc- and it's the same scenario every time. Before a women enters a relationship or starts "talking" to a guy, she thinks "How can I benefit from this and how am I gonna come out on top". They don't give a shit about our feelings, and take what they need, get a self esteem raise, and move on to the next sucker.

The Godfather made an excellent point in a post a couple months ago. He said that he's tried to date quite a few women that he was much higher then on the "todem pole" of life - looks, success, money, education, etc...He was explaining how it blew his mind how some of these women that we would view as really desperate and pathetic wouldn't jump at the opportunity to date him. This has happened to me time and time again as well. The bottom line is women do not see things for what they are. Some times they need to date straight fvcking losers or scumbags to make themselves feel/look better. I was the best thing to ever enter my ex's life (She bartended twice a week, had no day job, had no education, and slept, drank, and popped Molly every other day). She ended up leaving me for a 23 year old white aspiring "rapper" who lives in his mothers basements, doesn't have a GED, has no job, and is a recovering drug addict. Why would this woman do such a thing? Because when a pile of shit dates an even bigger pile of shit, the original pile of shit has a greater sense of self worth.

Just something to think about..

We need to stop kissing their asses and start putting them in their place. When they look a little thick, tell them to go do some fvkcin crunches. If their skin isn't looking too good, call them a pasty looking ghoul. A woman's ego is as big as the world, but it's thin like glass; one little crack and it's all over.

Bronzer your the man

[redz]

Once you get locked down you'll probably want out anyways. Women live to make mens lives terrible.

[Gaspari1255]

funny. when i was in the dating scene, it seemed a long term relationship was the eventual outcome of going on a date. I didn't date a ton of women, but when i did find one that was interesting, it usually worked out.

So let me spin this around on you....

...what do YOU think you are doing wrong?

It's a shame that's not how it is any more. Now, it's an excuse for a broad to get a free meal, and some drinks, and also a hell of ego boost because an attractive, caring guy asked her out. After that, she's on to the next one.

It's very likely the OP isn't doing anything wrong. TR - I like your posts and you have a lot of insight on various topics, but I don't think you know what's going on in the dating scene in this day and age. 99% of women are filth. I am 100% done going on "dates" and going out of my way for hewas. The only time I'll ask a woman on a date is when its 12 o'clock at night, I'll invite her over to watch a movie- that's it, not wasting any more of my time or $ on these hewas.

[canadian-bacon]

Location has something to do with too. Going from big cities to small towns. Their attitudes are different. Girls from small towns are not scared to go out and get dirty unlike most high class skanks from cities. (not saying there isn't any in small towns). But the small town girl seems to appreciate things more.

[Times Roman]

I really starting to think that maybe I'm so nice the relationship becomes maybe boring being that theirs no controversy i cant figure it out or i wouldn't be here I do wear my hart on my sleeve and maybe that's a mistake perhaps i should take thing slower next time but i was working on this girl for a min that's why it sucks so much maybe its not a good sigh when all u do is have sex and don't do much of anything else

in the psychological tug of war game with women and dating, when they pull, you need to pull right back. if there is no resistance, there is no challange. Forget about being "a nice guy" and instead try being "a real guy". If you are always a nice guy, then it could be that the woman starts to think that you feel she is too good for you? To a certain extent, dating is like a negotiation process, and to be a successful negotiator, you need to be able to walk away. Being a nice guy, after awhile, makes the lady feel like they can do almost anything and get away with it. For you to have value to her, she has to feel there is a risk of loss, so that she can take steps and try to protect what she has. If she doesn't feel there is a risk of loss, then what value is it?

To a certain extent, a relationship needs to be dynamic, with ups and downs. You need the down so that when it is up, you can appreciate it.

[JohnnyVegas]

You will know you have found someone compatible when all the things listed higher in the thread don't happen. You will push an amount she likes and you will not mind the things she does in return.

To further that example, you will actually like the things that she does that many would consider weaknesses. For example, she knows she is sorta geeky...but you think that is the cutest thing ever. You will like that one crooked tooth she has. You honestly won't mind that she throws her clothes on the floor next to the bed or her sink is jam packed with bottles, sprays, clips, hair holders and makeup.

Fight over stupid stuff = incompatible.

Love her "weaknesses" as much as her strengths = compatible.

[lovbyts]

expected from you, lol ~ yet still I do a double take when I read this stuff from you.


ahhh yes be sure to embarrass your lover in front of their friends n family by bullet pointing each other their faults (in your eyes) to all available friends and family each time they " they flex" their muscles (i.e. voice) ~ awesome! Baaahahaha
i can’t even begin to imagine all the biatching on these boards by the men if this was a role reversal

No no it's not about actually embarrassing them or telling on them for every little thing that happens. I'm saying to most Asians that is a cultural belief that the worst thing you can do is bring shame to yourself or family and by not fulfilling your duties be it at work, family or religiously it is shameful (loosing face). It's more of a matter of pointing out that what they are doing or not doing is basically a breach of contract so to speak or not living up to their part of the deal.

I think a lot of women be it Asian or not are like this but especially in the US there is no shame anymore in being wrong, doing the wrong thing, not doing what you should be doing or screwing someone over. To many people have no morals or ethics and feel no guilt even when they know they are wrong. I also think it's part of human nature for people; same as little kids, be it men or women to try to see how far they can push the envelope be it in controlling someone emotionally, financially or physically and they more they can get away with the more they will do. Thus the saying give them an inch they will take a mile. That's why we all need to have clear boundaries and sometimes need reminding of where they are.

Everyone is different and has different limitations, expectations and goals. Once two people decide to be together hopefully to reach those common goals they need to work together and not do things to be anti productive and sometimes there needs to be a discussion on why things are not going forward. I would not expect you to understand or agree with my lifestyle or choices 100% as I'm sure you would not expect me to relate to yours due to our experiences, upbringing, culture, gender and age differences. That does not mean we do not also have many similarities I'm sure.

I am sure most of the time that what I say, to much is read into it and it comes across as I think I am always right or I have to be in control. That is far from the truth. we all have our parts to play and responsibilities. I need to be reminded of my responsibility just as much as the next person sometimes and there are plenty of times I have been wrong about things but I try to listen, understand and admit when I am wrong. I love the saying I though I was wrong once but I made a mistake.

It's also not fare to think you know or understand someone or a culture unless you have actually experienced them/it. You really can only relate to your own personal experiences but need to have the wisdom to understand that there are a lot of different cultures with different up bringing and beliefs and there is no one right way or rule for everyone. One of the things I have always hated about the US and other nations in power is we keep trying to change everyone else to be like us. What fun would that be if everyone was the same? We stick our nose in far to often where it does not belong or is wanted and I think it's wrong. When it comes to humanity rights especially with children that's a whole other issue and I have no problem with us going in to protect the innocent.

Hopefully some of that made some sense? lol

Location has something to do with too. Going from big cities to small towns. Their attitudes are different. Girls from small towns are not scared to go out and get dirty unlike most high class skanks from cities. (not saying there isn't any in small towns). But the small town girl seems to appreciate things more.

Unless they sit around watching these fvckn reality shows like the Cardassians or 100s of other shows where women are taught to use anyone you can in any way you can to move up a notch on the social level with no consideration of anyone else.

in the psychological tug of war game with women and dating, when they pull, you need to pull right back. if there is no resistance, there is no challange. Forget about being "a nice guy" and instead try being "a real guy". If you are always a nice guy, then it could be that the woman starts to think that you feel she is too good for you? To a certain extent, dating is like a negotiation process, and to be a successful negotiator, you need to be able to walk away. Being a nice guy, after awhile, makes the lady feel like they can do almost anything and get away with it. For you to have value to her, she has to feel there is a risk of loss, so that she can take steps and try to protect what she has. If she doesn't feel there is a risk of loss, then what value is it?

To a certain extent, a relationship needs to be dynamic, with ups and downs. You need the down so that when it is up, you can appreciate it.

Agreed 100%

[gixxerboy1]

[JAB1]

No offense but DAMN!!! I have never seen so many dudes crying like bitches before in my life!!!!! haha, seriously there is alot of heartbroken dudes around here. All the guys saying women are horiblle, etc, you all are just hurt and insecure, thats why it keeps happening, you are to vulnerable and breakable. Get on some hcg and get your balls back fellas. Hate to be harsh but thats the game if your going out to clubs trying to hook up with hot girls who are wild, young, single, and have options... You are not going to go out and find a hot young chick wearing little clothing looking like a sex bunny that you hook up with on the first date and then turn her into mary effing poppins. The only way to enjoy that scene is to take it for what it is. Play the game better than her. You arent superman, if all the dudes wanna fck her, shee hooked up quick, guess what, it can be fun but you arent getttn married.. Dont get yoiur feelings hurt when she dumps you for a dude she sees as better, or at least newer. Its the same thing single guys do. IF you meet an 8 that you hook up with for a few weeks, then meet a freaky 9, guess what, the 8 is getttn left behid, they arent evil for playing the same game. You want to keep that kind of girl around dont give her to much of yourself, and continue to keep options open for yourself. Portrait yourself as desirable not already attained and needing maintanance!! I hear all the same complaints from all my female friends it goes both ways. There are a ton of great girls out there but you arent going to find them half naked in a club hooking up on the first night. Same with us, I am a nice guy but Id have hated to been one of the chicks that met me between 18-26, they didnt stand a chance, haha, thats why I was the ASSHOLE, that got all the *****, I asked nothing of them, I just wouldnt give much of myself, that made me desired in that lifestyle you all are struggling in.....

[Shol'va]

Or brother.

Or both.

[SexySweetheart]

[QUOTE=lovbyts;5995351]
I am sure most of the time that what I say, to much is read into it and it comes across as I think I am always right or I have to be in control. That is far from the truth. we all have our parts to play and responsibilities. I need to be reminded of my responsibility just as much as the next person sometimes and there are plenty of times I have been wrong about things but I try to listen, understand and admit when I am wrong. I love the saying I though I was wrong once but I made a mistake.


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[canadian-bacon]

[SnaX]

You're not doing anything wrong. In fact, you're ahead of the game by not being an immature asshole. Take time to yourself and be a "complete circle" on your own. Be complete and be happy living your life.

If you act in a way that is not you (being an asshole), then you're not being true to yourself. Any WOMAN (not a GIRL, which a lot of people encounter more than WOMEN) worth keeping will respect that. Never let a GIRL cause you to second guess yourself.
Do the things that YOU are wired to do. I assure you, there is at least one out there who is looking for you.
The fact that you bring up such a topic means your head is in the right place. Be you, and you'll find that one when you least expect it.