she says i have to pay half

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

got a chick prego ,she aborted ,i did tell her would ,but after thinking ,she couldn't prove it was mine and its not my financial reliability to pay .with it being her decision ...right ? she keeps threatening me with a lawyer and says i have to pay..i got legal advice and she said im not responsible unless it was sighed document ...any advice ? my legal advisor also said tht any attorney would be a fool to take that as a case ... i hd to ask you guys ..

[Tron3219]

got a chick prego ,she aborted ,i did tell her would ,but after thinking ,she couldn't prove it was mine and its not my financial reliability to pay .with it being her decision ...right ? she keeps threatening me with a lawyer and says i have to pay..i got legal advice and she said im not responsible unless it was sighed document ...any advice ? my legal advisor also said tht any attorney would be a fool to take that as a case ... i hd to ask you guys ..

If she aborted already and there is no DNA evidence that it was yours then there is no way to prove any financial responsibility on your part, especially if it was her choice to abort it.

[Lunk1]

If you believe in your heart it was yours and you agreed that aborting was the best option...then do the right thing, especially since you agreed you would.

If you have VALID reason to believe it was not yours or you did not condone the abortion...then no!

[ironbeck]

I wouldn't worry about it unless there is a possibility that it was yours then I would think you have a moral obligation to man up, but yes there is no judicial grounds for her to sue you.

[Flagg]

Well you cant prove it wasn't yours, but the same goes for her.

There is no DNA evidence.

I would say you are in the clear on that one, consider that a lucky escape..

EDIT: Like LUNK said, if it WAS yours and you just feel a bit embarassed admitting it here, or worse, to yourself, you should do your bit. She said a compromise of half? Either way she cant make you pay.

[Tron3219]

Whoa whoa whooooooa no one said anything bout morals here! Jk lunk is right but speaking on a legal preface, I think ur not responsible.

[stpete]

Or you could look at like this: She just saved you about 250,000 dollars. That little amount of money you pay her for the abortion saved you big time in long road. Give her the money IMO.

[Capebuffalo]

Is this a different girl? Didn't you just have a baby like two months ago?

[gixxerboy1]

Or you could look at like this: She just saved you about 250,000 dollars. That little amount of money you pay her for the abortion saved you big time in long road. Give her the money IMO.

agreed. A few hundred dollars saved you a fortune. And even if legally you dont have to pay isnt a few hundred worth not arguing with her or looking like a scumbag to everyone she tells. Especially since you said you would, now you backed out. Makes you look even worse

[Capebuffalo]

Is this a different girl? Didn't you just have a baby like two months ago?

You did you had a baby in September. You and the mom split.

Son you gotta wrap that thing up.

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

Is this a different girl? Didn't you just have a baby like two months ago?

yes i did . condom broke and she had a IUD

[Capebuffalo]

What are the odds on both failing?

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

agreed. A few hundred dollars saved you a fortune. And even if legally you dont have to pay isnt a few hundred worth not arguing with her or looking like a scumbag to everyone she tells. Especially since you said you would, now you backed out. Makes you look even worse

i see you point

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

What are the odds on both failing?

dont know. but i did hit that IUD like a son of a gun.! i honestly do feel bad for goin bad on my word ,but i really have no idea if she was prego by me... she lives with a "best friend " that seems a little too close if you get my drift ...and im a not jealous guy.

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

if you only knew the whole story lol. shes crazy ...i had to change my number today and get a order of protection .

[--->>405<<---]

got a chick prego ,she aborted ,i did tell her would ,but after thinking ,she couldn't prove it was mine and its not my financial reliability to pay .with it being her decision ...right ? she keeps threatening me with a lawyer and says i have to pay..i got legal advice and she said im not responsible unless it was sighed document ...any advice ? my legal advisor also said tht any attorney would be a fool to take that as a case ... i hd to ask you guys ..

assuming with the horrible grammar u intended to convey: " i did tell her i would pay half." and now after she got the abortion ur thinking about not paying it makes u a sorry POS in my book. im surprised u actually have the balls to post this on here admitting to being such a loser..

amazing.. instead of feeling guilty about killing a baby ur worried about a couple hundred bucks?? whats wrong with u?

[JohnnyVegas]

Or you could look at like this: She just saved you about 250,000 dollars. That little amount of money you pay her for the abortion saved you big time in long road. Give her the money IMO.

Damn straight.

agreed. A few hundred dollars saved you a fortune. And even if legally you dont have to pay isnt a few hundred worth not arguing with her or looking like a scumbag to everyone she tells. Especially since you said you would, now you backed out. Makes you look even worse

Double damn straight. Heh.

You got off lucky. Do what you said you would do and be careful in the future. Those child things are expensive!

And stop sleeping with crazy chicks because you will be tied to them for life if they keep getting pregnant. I love crazy chicks...but they are bad news.

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

assuming with the horrible grammar u intended to convey: " i did tell her i would pay half." and now after she got the abortion ur thinking about not paying it makes u a sorry POS in my book. im surprised u actually have the balls to post this on here admitting to being such a loser..

amazing.. instead of feeling guilty about killing a baby ur worried about a couple hundred bucks?? whats wrong with u?

thanks 405.

i do feel bad .im not heartless man.
but the way it happened was way weird , it seems like shes just digging for money . . i understand why you would think that. and i appreciate your honesty .

[Capebuffalo]

http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...a#.UKRAIIl5nTo

I have to be honest you said the same thing about the mother of your new born. 405 is right. Wtf man. You need to stop having sex.
You need to be a man. Not an excuse.

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...a#.UKRAIIl5nTo

I have to be honest you said the same thing about the mother of your new born. 405 is right. Wtf man. You need to stop having sex.
You need to be a man. Not an excuse.

got it. thanks guys

[S&S_ShovelHead]

How much does an abortion cost in the US? I live in Canada and assume it would be covered up here?

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

How much does an abortion cost in the US? I live in Canada and assume it would be covered up here?

not covered usually 400-800$

[JohnnyVegas]

got it. thanks guys

You are a trooper for taking this pounding.

[Lunk1]

You are a trooper for taking this pounding.

Or not brite for posting lol....

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

You are a trooper for taking this pounding.

just wanted insite and honest opinions ,where better than here ?

not knowing the whole situation i understand why 405and others would say that, and as a man i do feel bad. but the choice was made and it is done. after having taking this verbal pounding i will pay up and be done with this. . i appreciate all replys as always .

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

Or not brite for posting lol....

oh lunk how i love your short n sweet killer comments

thanks man.

[S&S_ShovelHead]

not covered usually 400-800$

Thats not a lot of $, I would pay half just to not deal with the headache and come off looking like a dick let alone your moral responsability.

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

Thats not a lot of $, I would pay half just to not deal with the headache and come off looking like a dick let alone your moral responsability.

will do

[Lunk1]

oh lunk how i love your short n sweet killer comments

thanks man.

Just messin bro. Doesn't matter if I agree with the deed or not. What's done is done. Honestly...I would pay the whole thing...it's nothing compared to what I know she had to go through!

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

Just messin bro. Doesn't matter if I agree with the deed or not. What's done is done. Honestly...I would pay the whole thing...it's nothing compared to what I know she had to go through!

i know man. no worries. and if the situation wasn't like this i would not have a problem with it. .

[MuscleInk]

assuming with the horrible grammar u intended to convey: " i did tell her i would pay half." and now after she got the abortion ur thinking about not paying it makes u a sorry POS in my book. im surprised u actually have the balls to post this on here admitting to being such a loser..

amazing.. instead of feeling guilty about killing a baby ur worried about a couple hundred bucks?? whats wrong with u?

I know it's the less popular position thus far, but I'm going to stand with 405 on this issue. All this DNA talk is bullshit IMO. Bottom line, if you're going to play, be responsible enough to PAY. Yes, I get it. Maybe she slept around and maybe it's not yours but you DID sleep with her and there's always a possibility that pregnancy will happen. Moreover, as I understand it, you previously got another girl pregnant. Perhaps paying for part of the recent pregnancy (i.e. abortion) will teach you a little more responsibility. Walking away from these problems, isn't taking any ownership and that's not how life works.

Now, before you think I'm standing on some moral high ground flaming you for bad decisions, I have been in a similar, unfortunate situation as you. Its unpleasant to have to make theses kinds of decisions, but avoidance is not the answer and teaches you nothing about ownership and responsibility. The woman I was with admitted to having multiple partners and was quite sure I was not the father. Despite that, I accepted my responsibility in the problem and offered to help however I could. Many people would take the position that a DNA test should be done, but honestly, it was irrelevant to me. I had not taken the proper precautions and was just as responsible as the others who had contributed to the problem.

The bottom line for me....if you're going to mess around, take responsibility for your actions. Running away is NOT the mature way of handling ANY problem in life and it is time you start learning this. It sickens me when people would rather find fault with someone else than taking responsibility for contributing to the problems that occur at their own hands (or penis, as the case may be).

[austinite]

Or you could look at like this: She just saved you about 250,000 dollars. That little amount of money you pay her for the abortion saved you big time in long road. Give her the money IMO.

exactly whaty I was going to say. Man up bro,

[Rwy]

exactly whaty I was going to say. Man up bro,

I agree with you two. Bro pay for half or that Karma train will be making its way to you very soon


and not for nothing but your picture is on the net for gods sake and you are posting this

I c

[--->>405<<---]

You are a trooper for taking this pounding.

agreed..

just wanted insite and honest opinions ,where better than here ?

not knowing the whole situation i understand why 405and others would say that, and as a man i do feel bad. but the choice was made and it is done. after having taking this verbal pounding i will pay up and be done with this. . i appreciate all replys as always .

AZ i appreciate the fact that u took it so well.. i wouldve said that to anyone with circumstances like this. just figd id shoot u strait. thats what i would want and thats what i try to impart! we're all men here (except maybe Lunk ) LOL.. one of the things i like about this forum. no need to ***** foot. i have to do that enuff with my wife!

good luck dude!

[red_hulk]

assuming with the horrible grammar u intended to convey: " i did tell her i would pay half." and now after she got the abortion ur thinking about not paying it makes u a sorry POS in my book. im surprised u actually have the balls to post this on here admitting to being such a loser..

amazing.. instead of feeling guilty about killing a baby ur worried about a couple hundred bucks?? whats wrong with u?

Hate to jump on a bandwagon, but took the words out of my mouth. It's very emotionally damaging to anyone, crazy or not, to go through with that. Then to have someone who said they would help pay bail is just a slap in the face. Gotta act like a man dude, if you wanted to be treated like one anyway.

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

I know it's the less popular position thus far, but I'm going to stand with 405 on this issue. All this DNA talk is bullshit IMO. Bottom line, if you're going to play, be responsible enough to PAY. Yes, I get it. Maybe she slept around and maybe it's not yours but you DID sleep with her and there's always a possibility that pregnancy will happen. Moreover, as I understand it, you previously got another girl pregnant. Perhaps paying for part of the recent pregnancy (i.e. abortion) will teach you a little more responsibility. Walking away from these problems, isn't taking any ownership and that's not how life works.

Now, before you think I'm standing on some moral high ground flaming you for bad decisions, I have been in a similar, unfortunate situation as you. Its unpleasant to have to make theses kinds of decisions, but avoidance is not the answer and teaches you nothing about ownership and responsibility. The woman I was with admitted to having multiple partners and was quite sure I was not the father. Despite that, I accepted my responsibility in the problem and offered to help however I could. Many people would take the position that a DNA test should be done, but honestly, it was irrelevant to me. I had not taken the proper precautions and was just as responsible as the others who had contributed to the problem.

The bottom line for me....if you're going to mess around, take responsibility for your actions. Running away is NOT the mature way of handling ANY problem in life and it is time you start learning this. It sickens me when people would rather find fault with someone else than taking responsibility for contributing to the problems that occur and their own hands (or penis, as the case

may be).

thanks man i appreciate your respons

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

agreed..

AZ i appreciate the fact that u took it so well.. i wouldve said that to anyone with circumstances like this. just figd id shoot u strait. thats what i would want and thats what i try to impart! we're all men here (except maybe Lunk ) LOL.. one of the things i like about this forum. no need to ***** foot. i have to do that enuff with my wife!

good luck dude!

i appreciate its 405 and i knew id get honesty here why'll i posted .

[AZGOLDSMEMBER86]

exactly whaty I was going to say. Man up bro,

thanks Austin

[Lunk1]

agreed..



AZ i appreciate the fact that u took it so well.. i wouldve said that to anyone with circumstances like this. just figd id shoot u strait. thats what i would want and thats what i try to impart! we're all men here (except maybe Lunk ) LOL.. one of the things i like about this forum. no need to ***** foot. i have to do that enuff with my wife!

good luck dude!

I Pm'd Admin trying to get turned Pink...no luck!

[kelkel]

Apologize for the selfishness and pay her. It's an emotional issue for the both of you.

I think Gixxer touched on this. What kind of a hit do you think your reputation will take within your (and her) circle of friends, both close and extended? Not good I bet. Man up, apologize and say your sorry.

good luck.