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    Trying to get out of the 'FriendZone'

    Been going out with this girl to the clubs/bars for the last month, been having a great time, but right now she sees me as only as a friend. I would like to change that, but don't know exactly how to do that. She is considerably younger than me (wont say age), and her emotions at this stage reminds me of a roller coaster. If you read our text between each other you would think we were dating, but when we go out she usually brings a friend, and asks if I can bring a friend as well, and her demeanor is totally different. It is like she is a total different person face-face than when I talk to her one-on-one. Any advice to approach this would be great. And feel free to ask any questions.

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    Btw, she was homeschooled in high school and is a signer with a record label at a young age.

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    Ask her out on a date.... Take her for a meal... Go to the movies... Just get her alone

    That last bit sounds a bit creepy lol but u need to see her alone to talk and see what she wants.... Sounds to me like she is just shy and using the friends as a comfort blanket...

    I would text her on Friday night and say 'I hope u can cancel your plans cuz I have booked us a meal at ......'

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    I think you might be wasting your time. If you are 24, and she is "considerably" younger, I'm guessing she is 18 or 19. At that age, most likely not looking for anything steady. But you never know.

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    Yeah I am not looking to really date her at the moment, but just get a little closer to her. She just broke up with a kid that went to school with me who is the same age as me, and dated for 2 years. So I don't think she wants to be in a relationship with anyone right now which I respect, but I wish she can be as open as she is thru text as in when we go out or at the gym together.

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    Well what do u want from her then?

    If u dnt wanna be with here do u just want to fuk her?

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    Quote Originally Posted by austinite View Post
    I think you might be wasting your time. If you are 24, and she is "considerably" younger, I'm guessing she is 18 or 19. At that age, most likely not looking for anything steady. But you never know.
    If she is smart and being home schooled she might be smarter than average.

    OK you need to tune in to Lykus 101. A woman/girl will decide in the first 5 minutes of knowing you if she is going to sleep with you or if you are going to be only a friend. If you are in the friend zone forget it. 99% chance that's all you will ever be so more on if you are looking for more. She may DATE you but that only mean you will pay for everything and she wont be putting out. You may get hugs and a kiss on the cheek but dont expect more.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    If she is smart and being home schooled she might be smarter than average.

    OK you need to tune in to Lykus 101. A woman/girl will decide in the first 5 minutes of knowing you if she is going to sleep with you or if you are going to be only a friend. If you are in the friend zone forget it. 99% chance that's all you will ever be so more on if you are looking for more. She may DATE you but that only mean you will pay for everything and she wont be putting out. You may get hugs and a kiss on the cheek but dont expect more.
    http://www.leykis101.com/
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    What I meant to say is I don't want to date her right now, but go out and have fun and eventually maybe date her. Again she is very young, and just learning to experience the bar scene.

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    Well once a friend always a friend so dont count on it being more later unless she says it's what she wants but she wants to go slowly. Then maybe. So it sounds like you DONT want out of the friend zone really if what you say is true but also any red blooded guy at your age (or mine) would want to hit it first (if she is cute) and them only be friends later if it doesnt work out.

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    Ya of course I want to hit it! But I don't want to be overly aggressive and freak her out.

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    Can we have her stats please? Age, height, weight, BF%?

    Just kidding. But really, just be yourself and see what happens. Keep your options open.

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    Well look no farther than my avi.

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    She sent me that picture two days ago.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ramacher View Post
    Well look no farther than my avi.
    Good looking broad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ramacher View Post
    She sent me that picture two days ago.
    She sent me the same one 3 days ago.

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    ^ lol

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    another pic....
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    Lets see the wheels.
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    If shes sending u pictures like that she either wants you or she just wants u to want her. Girls her age love to play games. If I were you I'd just lay it out on the table. Either with words or by just kissing her, her reaction will tell u all u need to know. That way u can move on and not waste ur time or take things further. But that's just me, I'm a bit forward tho, hate games and impatient. And the length you have hung out should b plenty of time for her to know what she wants.

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    Tell her to STOP doing the fat lower lip look, it really isnt attractive. Looks like she got stung by a bee. lol

    Nice looking girl. Stop worrying so much and just see what happens. Don't wait to long because if she does like you and you don't make a move you will end up in the friend zone with no exit. Just we straight and say Hey, want to go on a DATE. If she says yes then you are on. She knows what a date is. If she say no or not right now due to ??? then play it cool and say no worries we can just hang out or ???

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    Hahaha I think that its her natural look. She has big lips (up top), which might come in handy. She is on vacation in Europe and has been texting me non-stop so when she comes back home ill figure it out.

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    Good luck bro. Hope everything works out to your liking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ramacher View Post
    Hahaha I think that its her natural look. She has big lips (up top), which might come in handy. She is on vacation in Europe and has been texting me non-stop so when she comes back home ill figure it out.
    DAMN what kind of plan does she have for internationally calling/txt? Even with my international plan it's .25 per txt and without the international plan it's a LOT more. Data rates are crazy like $2.25 per mb. She is probably on the Mom and Dad plan so it doesn't matter. Be a good sport and ask/remind her it might be expensive. Speaking I hope it's a local call/txt for you and not international or you might get a little surprise also.

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    ^ But then he could use his outrageous bill as a sympathy vote. "Look how much you mean to me, babe! - now pucker up!".

    Seriously tho, check your plan.

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    I think you might need to look up some of those shit videos about how to play games with girls. I've never really used those I've always used confidence and eye contact to get there, but since you've found yourself locked in a land war in asia you're probably going to have to do some douchey shit like off the top of my head get a friend of your sister who looks like she could model show up at a bar and you hit on her get her number and maybe a kiss right in front of this girl. Then you tell this girl yeah you are going to go on a date with her this week. At this point the natural stupidity that comes with being young (hey we've all been there) kicks in and she tries to get you back on the bitch hook you've been on this whole time but you don't let it happen and go in for a kiss at the right moment. Good luck bro hope you can stop being a lamp.

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    Young girls I never liked the games.I always dated older girls she sounds like a headache.Good Luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by ramacher View Post
    What I meant to say is I don't want to date her right now, but go out and have fun and eventually maybe date her. Again she is very young, and just learning to experience the bar scene.
    If this ends up on 'To catch a predator' I want nothing to do with it

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    Quote Originally Posted by lovbyts View Post
    Tell her to STOP doing the fat lower lip look, it really isnt attractive. Looks like she got stung by a bee. lol
    Lovbyts you of all people should be able to appreciate a girl with some nice dsl's

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherrydrpepper View Post
    Lovbyts you of all people should be able to appreciate a girl with some nice dsl's
    I'm trying to make sure he stays in the friends zone so I can hit on her and try it out.

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    Yeah there is a reason why I'm not saying her age. I found out not too long ago what her real age was and yet she gets into the bars no questions asked. We have been texting thru iMessage which is free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ramacher
    Yeah there is a reason why I'm not saying her age. I found out not too long ago what her real age was and yet she gets into the bars no questions asked. We have been texting thru iMessage which is free.
    Is she at least legal in ur state? Lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by austinite View Post
    Lets see the wheels.
    this me made LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by austinite View Post
    Lets see the wheels.
    Yeah that made me laugh too especially after perusing a whole stack of flex magazines the other day

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    I got 3 months to go
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    Quote Originally Posted by ramacher
    I got 3 months to go
    Holy boobies...oh ya nice eyes too

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tron3219 View Post
    Is she at least legal in ur state? Lol
    Well she is in Europe right now so is she legal there? BTW FYI in the EU it's 16.

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    Ramacher, she's in Europe right now fvcking some dude who isn't you. She sees you as "a friend" and nothing more, so get over it. You could test the waters and see if there is room for something else by inviting her over to hangout/drink/watch movies then make a move on her. It's probably not going to end well.

    You should send me her number, I'll talk to her for you. She's at least 16, right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Honkey_Kong View Post
    Ramacher, she's in Europe right now fvcking some dude who isn't you. She sees you as "a friend" and nothing more, so get over it. You could test the waters and see if there is room for something else by inviting her over to hangout/drink/watch movies then make a move on her. It's probably not going to end well.

    You should send me her number, I'll talk to her for you. She's at least 16, right?


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