stpete's story

[stpete]

As most of you know, i typically don't share a lot w/ a lot of people. Some of my closes fiends may know hat's going on but i keep it close to the hip.But lately guys, there's been a lot of things come my way, some self induced, most not. Now let me get this clear, i'm not here to here to bash anyone. I'm just wanting some of my friends that i've known for years to voice their opinion. And if you don't want want to, that's fine.

But hre's the deal. My wife and i made some of the craziest love in the world 3 thursdays ago. Friday afternoon she had a cop follow her into the house and he politely escorted me out although i had no where to go. So it was motel bound for stpete. This behavior has continued till this day.

I flew to Tampa 2 fridays ago and my wife was beside herself so bad she begged me to come home. And i jumped at the opportunutiy. Going AMA from 2 different hospitals to see my wife cause i miss her touch, smile, fell everything. AMA didn't mean shit to me.
give me my clothes and let me go asshols is what i basically said.

Well, she thinks i have this serious drinking problem, which i might, but i'm never violent or anything. I'm just kinda "happy go joe" if you will.

So here's the deal, she tells me to go to a rehab for 30 days and all's good. Didn't like it, but ok. But now, once i'm i'm in the latst hospital she says "one year at least or no deal."

Well, you guys know me. You said 30 days, and now it's a year. We all know what can happen in a year. I'm not too down w/it although i love my wife dearly.



WHERE DO YOU GUYS STAND ON AN ULTIMATUM LIKE THIS?


Thanks my friends.

[dtob]

thats a tough one bro

personally i would go for it
my gut feeling when i read this is she will see your effort and cave before then

[kelkel]

St P what do your closest personal friends and family say about this since they know your situation far better than we do?

[AD]

you mean she wants you in rehab for 1yr? where can you find such a long program?

more reasonably, rehab for 30days, move home and stay dry and sober for the rest of the year. continue making crazy love. not even a sip till new yr's day 2014. give her that, i hope she's negotiable..

[gearbox]

St P what do your closest personal friends and family say about this since they know your situation far better than we do?

I agree with this...
Often times we can't see or interpret our behavior in some settings but the ppl we love can.
If you trust this woman and love her and as a man you should step up and do what is best for you and your fam.
I do not see how taking off for a year will negatively affect your life. However, I can see many positives in doing so.

[--->>405<<---]

pete i was in a similar situation to u man. i went to a christian rehab type place for a year but it wasnt until after i had tried multiple other places multiple times and exhausted all other possibles and it was clear i really had a problem that was not going away nor was it getting better and my life was in danger due to recklessness.

long story short this june will be 5 yrs sober for me and it was the best decision ive made in my life as its where i became a christian.

i agree with kel ur family and friends are better suited to advise u as they r close to u. personally unless u are in denial YOU know the situation the best. if drinking is causing u problems chances are it will continue to do so and possibly get worse over time. for me 30 days even 3 months was not long enuff and also it took me getting beaten down pretty hard. it tuff man. addiction is hard to overcome especially if u believe ur problem is still manageable.

[MickeyKnox]

You asked for it, so here it is bro..

Tell her to hoop her forehead. Anyone that would demand their S/O to enter a YEAR LONG rehab has rocks in their head, ESPECIALLY if what you're telling us here Pete, is true.

You just went through a crazy experience having being escorted out of your own house for no reason, really. You had to stay in a motel $$$$ And all the while you're trying to figure out this mess, your wife is begging you to come home. When you agree, there are conditions they are subject to change!?? This will never end bro, i guarantee you that. You need to stop this madness asap. BUT, you also need to make some changes in YOUR life that are effecting your family. However, this doesn't mean you're now a punching bag or a yes man. Think for yourself and do what you think is best for you and your family, but don't ever give up your individuality, common sense, and the ability to think for yourself.

30 days rehab and sober is what i would do for wife and family because i love them very much. BUT, i will never ever EVER allow anyone to step on me, wipe their feet on me, or make unreasonable demands of me.

Imho, AD hit the nail on the head. Thats the best advice so far.

All the best to you and yours, bro.

[stpete]

St P what do your closest personal friends and family say about this since they know your situation far better than we do?

kekel......itgoes i didn't go deep enough. She lied to me the wholw weekend. Had EVERYTHING of mine gone as if there wasn't a trace of me around. Even had had her kids stay elsewhere for the weekend. And i wasn't allowed around. Now i'm not the smartest guy, but i wasn't born yesterday. she is now working on flushing her 3rd marriage down the tubes. Remind you, this is a woman who flew to stpete to be w/me while still married and living w/another man . Picture getting a getting a clearer?

[MickeyKnox]

kekel......itgoes i didn't go deep enough. She lied to me the wholw weekend. Had EVERYTHING of mine gone as if there wasn't a trace of me around. Even had had her kids stay elsewhere for the weekend. And i wasn't allowed around. Now i'm not the smartest guy, but i wasn't born yesterday. she is now working on flushing her 3rd marriage down the tubes. Remind you, this is a woman who flew to stpete to be w/me while still married and living w/another man . Picture getting a getting a clearer?

It is for me.

[dtob]

yeah thats game changin info

[Dpyle]

kekel......itgoes i didn't go deep enough. She lied to me the wholw weekend. Had EVERYTHING of mine gone as if there wasn't a trace of me around. Even had had her kids stay elsewhere for the weekend. And i wasn't allowed around. Now i'm not the smartest guy, but i wasn't born yesterday. she is now working on flushing her 3rd marriage down the tubes. Remind you, this is a woman who flew to stpete to be w/me while still married and living w/another man . Picture getting a getting a clearer?

Pete I really don't know you, but this kind of sounds like you were just another track on the record and she's getting ready for the next song.

[cherrydrpepper]

Stpete I have a serious drinking problem and am an active alcoholic. When no one is around I sometimes catch myself tearing up and feeling miserable. I feel very lost. I know I need to go back to AA meetings but I am a closed off individual. My girlfriend and I fought on Valentines day and our relationship almost ended due to my drinking. Its wierd I feel so dumb typing all this its like I always thought in writing I could express how I feel but even now I am struggling to share with you what I feel. I guess today is a good example. I come into the kitchen and my roommate says "you're drinking again?". I've been friends with him for 8 years and he puts up with my bull shit pretty good. A few minutes later he goes "you just went through all 3 of those beers that quick?". I said yeah I'm an alcoholic and there were only 3 beers left and I wanted to catch a buzz. Normal people don't think like this this is the thinking of someone addicted to a substance. I typically mix liquor and beer together and am a blackout drinker. The last time I drank hardcore was a few days ago at the beach. I could not stop as usual and was kicked out of a couple of bars after coming in stumbling drunk and trying to get more drinks after I was way gone.

Ok so anyway back to your wife. I think 30 days of rehab is reasonable if it is coming to that. Now some people hate AA and say its a cult I personally love being there it is the only thing I have found that would keep me sober. I would tell her you are willing to go to an AA meeting every day for a year after the rehab stint.

If you take nothing else away from me I hope you will listen to this piece of advice because it changed my life. I had been DUI twice and lost numerous jobs and relationships over alcohol when I came into a large AA meeting to get my paper signed for the courts saying I had gone as scheduled. A man came up to me and would not back off asking me lots of questions and giving advice. Its funny because I am not friends with this guy anymore because we had personality conflicts but as I got up there with my DUI AA meetings sheet getting it signed he told me

"You know what. The fact that you're here.. that you're at an AA meeting. The chances that you are not an alcoholic.. the chances that this is all some wierd conspiracy and coincidence in the universe.. do you really think thats possible? Do you think its possible you got two DUI's and it was all a big mistake and a coincidence? Or do you think maybe you're an alcoholic?"

When he said that it was kind of the light bulb going off for me.. because.. I had to admit I had a problem. I couldn't pretend I was a social drinker who just got into trouble once in a while. Social drinkers don't reach for the 6th, the 8th, the 10th beer. Social drinkers don't slip back to the bar away from their friends so they can down a quick Jack on the rocks to get them where they need to be while everyone else has one drink the whole time. Social drinkers stop at one or two. I never do that.

[AD]

^^^
very nice post CDP. very inspirational. very thought-provoking. i think you deserve a diary thread, just like Marcus.

[Zodiac82]

I dont kno man....we arent in ur everyday lives like u and ur wife obviously are....1 yr sounds very unreasonable especially if there isnt a problem when u drink....but at the.same time u love her and u guys have a family together so do whats in the best interest of ur family....if not drinkin keeps yall together and thats where u wanna be then bite down and and do it....we all kno relationships are tough and we do things we dont necessarily want to do....relationships arent about u but what u are willing to do for the other person
best of luck my man

[MickeyKnox]

Stpete I have a serious drinking problem and am an active alcoholic. When no one is around I sometimes catch myself tearing up and feeling miserable. I feel very lost. I know I need to go back to AA meetings but I am a closed off individual. My girlfriend and I fought on Valentines day and our relationship almost ended due to my drinking. Its wierd I feel so dumb typing all this its like I always thought in writing I could express how I feel but even now I am struggling to share with you what I feel. I guess today is a good example. I come into the kitchen and my roommate says "you're drinking again?". I've been friends with him for 8 years and he puts up with my bull shit pretty good. A few minutes later he goes "you just went through all 3 of those beers that quick?". I said yeah I'm an alcoholic and there were only 3 beers left and I wanted to catch a buzz. Normal people don't think like this this is the thinking of someone addicted to a substance. I typically mix liquor and beer together and am a blackout drinker. The last time I drank hardcore was a few days ago at the beach. I could not stop as usual and was kicked out of a couple of bars after coming in stumbling drunk and trying to get more drinks after I was way gone.

Ok so anyway back to your wife. I think 30 days of rehab is reasonable if it is coming to that. Now some people hate AA and say its a cult I personally love being there it is the only thing I have found that would keep me sober. I would tell her you are willing to go to an AA meeting every day for a year after the rehab stint.

If you take nothing else away from me I hope you will listen to this piece of advice because it changed my life. I had been DUI twice and lost numerous jobs and relationships over alcohol when I came into a large AA meeting to get my paper signed for the courts saying I had gone as scheduled. A man came up to me and would not back off asking me lots of questions and giving advice. Its funny because I am not friends with this guy anymore because we had personality conflicts but as I got up there with my DUI AA meetings sheet getting it signed he told me

"You know what. The fact that you're here.. that you're at an AA meeting. The chances that you are not an alcoholic.. the chances that this is all some wierd conspiracy and coincidence in the universe.. do you really think thats possible? Do you think its possible you got two DUI's and it was all a big mistake and a coincidence? Or do you think maybe you're an alcoholic?"

When he said that it was kind of the light bulb going off for me.. because.. I had to admit I had a problem. I couldn't pretend I was a social drinker who just got into trouble once in a while. Social drinkers don't reach for the 6th, the 8th, the 10th beer. Social drinkers don't slip back to the bar away from their friends so they can down a quick Jack on the rocks to get them where they need to be while everyone else has one drink the whole time. Social drinkers stop at one or two. I never do that.

As compelling as this is, i dont see the resemblance in Pete's life. But its clear that you, CDP, are in need of some type of counseling. This reminds me of someone hwo is close to me and who has demonstrated the exact same behavior as you bro - he's dead now. I'm glad you have come to your senses and are at least able to admit your drinking issues. I wish you nothing but the best and hope that you continue down this road and ultimately give up alcohol if you haven't already. Nothing good came out of a brown bottle.

And yeah start an accountability thread. You'll have tons of support form the members here, im sure of that.

[ElectraMaddox]

Stpete I have a serious drinking problem and am an active alcoholic. When no one is around I sometimes catch myself tearing up and feeling miserable. I feel very lost. I know I need to go back to AA meetings but I am a closed off individual. My girlfriend and I fought on Valentines day and our relationship almost ended due to my drinking. Its wierd I feel so dumb typing all this its like I always thought in writing I could express how I feel but even now I am struggling to share with you what I feel. I guess today is a good example. I come into the kitchen and my roommate says "you're drinking again?". I've been friends with him for 8 years and he puts up with my bull shit pretty good. A few minutes later he goes "you just went through all 3 of those beers that quick?". I said yeah I'm an alcoholic and there were only 3 beers left and I wanted to catch a buzz. Normal people don't think like this this is the thinking of someone addicted to a substance. I typically mix liquor and beer together and am a blackout drinker. The last time I drank hardcore was a few days ago at the beach. I could not stop as usual and was kicked out of a couple of bars after coming in stumbling drunk and trying to get more drinks after I was way gone.

Ok so anyway back to your wife. I think 30 days of rehab is reasonable if it is coming to that. Now some people hate AA and say its a cult I personally love being there it is the only thing I have found that would keep me sober. I would tell her you are willing to go to an AA meeting every day for a year after the rehab stint.

If you take nothing else away from me I hope you will listen to this piece of advice because it changed my life. I had been DUI twice and lost numerous jobs and relationships over alcohol when I came into a large AA meeting to get my paper signed for the courts saying I had gone as scheduled. A man came up to me and would not back off asking me lots of questions and giving advice. Its funny because I am not friends with this guy anymore because we had personality conflicts but as I got up there with my DUI AA meetings sheet getting it signed he told me

"You know what. The fact that you're here.. that you're at an AA meeting. The chances that you are not an alcoholic.. the chances that this is all some wierd conspiracy and coincidence in the universe.. do you really think thats possible? Do you think its possible you got two DUI's and it was all a big mistake and a coincidence? Or do you think maybe you're an alcoholic?"

When he said that it was kind of the light bulb going off for me.. because.. I had to admit I had a problem. I couldn't pretend I was a social drinker who just got into trouble once in a while. Social drinkers don't reach for the 6th, the 8th, the 10th beer. Social drinkers don't slip back to the bar away from their friends so they can down a quick Jack on the rocks to get them where they need to be while everyone else has one drink the whole time. Social drinkers stop at one or two. I never do that.

Thank you for sharing that. I think that you're story ties into something similar stpete is dealing with. I think you're a much stronger person than you yourself realize, you analyzed a problem, you've gone to as meeting court mandated or not you showed up, you see how that decision is impacting your life... At this point it seems like you are thinking clear it just comes down to keep drinking or do you want a better quality of life and leave the drinking behind, with the rest of your past.

As for stpete, I think it depends on what you want, and how bad you want it? Do you feel you need to change? Do you feel you need to go to rehab? Do you think she wants this for your benefit or do you think she is just wanting a change and making up problems? Not to sound harsh but I was with a guy twenty years older than me and I found out he lied to me about so many things and every time I confronted him it was alway another lie and idk what made him think I believed a word that came out of his mouth. One day I had enough, I called him out on everything and had a comeback for every response and for once he was silent. Then he said he would change going forward and never did. I just dreaded him and never told him why. Months went by and we started talking as friends and it was the same bs so that time I just started arguments with him to push him away because I knew he was no good for me and clearly there was no way to work through it... Idk if she is at that point and that is why she maybe acting acting like that and if she is at that point and you want to be with her well you know what you have to do. If you don't care what happens the. Walk away but honestly each situation is hard and has negative aspects it really comes down to which one has the least amount of negative consequences and only you know that

[likelifting]

I would disassociate the 2 issues.

If you think you have a drinking problem, then deal with it the best and most honest way you can. Be honest with yourself.

But don't tie what you feel you have to do with a drinking problem to a relationship with her. She isn't a professional and able to dictate what treatment you should have. She should be flexible enough with you if you come with a reasonable plan after discussing with professionals.

[likelifting]

I meant to add Good Luck St Pete.

[Lunk1]

You have to do what is known to be one of the most difficult things for a man to do! Look in the mirror and do an HONEST self evaluation! You have to decide what is most important in YOUR life and take whatever neccessary measures need to be taken to protect that thing! Everything else is expendable!!!!!!

[ElectraMaddox]

You have to do what is known to be one of the most difficult things for a man to do! Look in the mirror and do an HONEST self evaluation! You have to decide what is most important in YOUR life and take whatever neccessary measures need to be taken to protect that thing! Everything else is expendable!!!!!!

Well said the much shorter version of my story lol

[MickeyKnox]

You have to do what is known to be one of the most difficult things for a man to do! Look in the mirror and do an HONEST self evaluation! You have to decide what is most important in YOUR life and take whatever neccessary measures need to be taken to protect that thing! Everything else is expendable!!!!!!

I like this too.

But i thought the most difficult thing a man could do, was another man??

[ElectraMaddox]

I like this too.

But i thought the most difficult thing a man could do, was another man??

Lol.... I think it depends on the man, I know a member or two that might rebuddle

[Lunk1]

I like this too.

But i thought the most difficult thing a man could do, was another man??

Lube Mick...lots of lube! No need to thank me....just have fun

[crazy mike]

Ok, I don't know if I should say these things. I will just do this any reap whatever you guys or anyone says about this suggestion. Remember a bit of my story. I used for 46 yrs. So in the end when I was real real, real sick, physically and mentally My son and wife got me to the hospital. When I got out I couldn't get into a rehab and I tried. So I went to AA. All I can suggest is for you to read some things if you have not already. This might help you with your decision.Get the Big Book of alcoh*lics Anonymous . Read Chapter 3. "More about Alcoh*lism" when you read one page page 30 you will continue that chapter on your own. Then Read Chapter 5 "How It Works" starting on page 58. So if you are serious about help and want what sober people have the you should, or will go to any lenght to get it. And that means your wife and your life because it only gets worse. It says and I can attest "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed oour path" Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are unconstitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves Hey I'm sorry to have put all that in, but this hits a nerve. I don't want anyone to find themselves where I did. I LOST EVERYTHING and I knew not where I crossed that invisible line of addiction. OTHERS KNEW BEFORE I DID. I'm not here to say your an addict only you know. And only you can be honest with yourself. And only you know what your life and marriage and family mean to you. For most it only gets worse never better. Check out the book and read what I suggest if you will. Not for anyone but you. Your brother, Mike

[stpete]

First of all, Lunk, if those are your traps i want reverse photos,.

Secondly, i don't have a drinking problem. It was only a problem when she thought it was it was convenienient. Nuff said. Could i eat mre, sure. But i consume around 6000 a day. Everything's fine when she wants to drink. But if i call a day to go racing, and watch the cars and she's not up to it, hell to pay.

And just in case anyone can't tell, my avi pretty much says it all.

[crazy mike]

By the way, depending on where your at. They have shorter in house programs with extended out patient classes. Depending on your situation a year is a long time, really. I happen to not want to be sick any more but you have no clue at how sick I was physically. But that's my story. So everyone is different with different needs, but don't sell yourself short. There is no shortcut to sobriety. ...crazy mike

[stpete]

And lunk, lay off the synthol bro.

[crazy mike]

So sorry I went on. Please don't get offended. I'll go away now. Got something different from it. My mistake. ...CRAZY AGAIN

[Times Roman]

As most of you know, i typically don't share a lot w/ a lot of people. Some of my closes fiends may know hat's going on but i keep it close to the hip.But lately guys, there's been a lot of things come my way, some self induced, most not. Now let me get this clear, i'm not here to here to bash anyone. I'm just wanting some of my friends that i've known for years to voice their opinion. And if you don't want want to, that's fine.

But hre's the deal. My wife and i made some of the craziest love in the world 3 thursdays ago. Friday afternoon she had a cop follow her into the house and he politely escorted me out although i had no where to go. So it was motel bound for stpete. This behavior has continued till this day.

I flew to Tampa 2 fridays ago and my wife was beside herself so bad she begged me to come home. And i jumped at the opportunutiy. Going AMA from 2 different hospitals to see my wife cause i miss her touch, smile, fell everything. AMA didn't mean shit to me.
give me my clothes and let me go asshols is what i basically said.

Well, she thinks i have this serious drinking problem, which i might, but i'm never violent or anything. I'm just kinda "happy go joe" if you will.

So here's the deal, she tells me to go to a rehab for 30 days and all's good. Didn't like it, but ok. But now, once i'm i'm in the latst hospital she says "one year at least or no deal."

Well, you guys know me. You said 30 days, and now it's a year. We all know what can happen in a year. I'm not too down w/it although i love my wife dearly.



WHERE DO YOU GUYS STAND ON AN ULTIMATUM LIKE THIS?


Thanks my friends.

Damn my friend,
That's a real tough one. I don't want you to do what I would do, as my woman is different than yours, and we each have our own "environment" in which we must live.

But here's the thoughts that run through my head, and how they relate to me and my past.

Before I got married, I was into meth somewhat, and drank. Maybe once or twice a month, and would drink on the weekends. I told her before we got married, that she marries me for better or worse, and not to try and change me, else it will back fire on her and make it worse. So she was pretty good about that. I eventually did stop the street "partiables" but continue to drink to this day. In fact, im sippping on some wine right now.

I don't like ultimatums. When some one gives me an ultimatum, the short hairs on the back of my neck prickle, and i have a tendency to get impulsive, sometimes saying things I wish I hadn't. In the past, I've been given an ultimatum. I look at it like it's a bluff, and would deliver a counter ultimatum, which evens up the score. If a friend were to give me an ultimatum, I'd say fine, do what you must, and that would be that. With my woman, there are other psychological tactics to counter the ultimatum. And when you get right down to it, and ultimatum is really a game that people play. A dangerous game, but a game none the less. If she really loved you and were totally straight and direct, then she would leave you, and not the other way around. of course, she is trying to change you, which usually never works well in the long term.

So my question to you is this. if she is wanting to affect such a big change from you, what is she willing to do for you in return? Besides not kick you out again is what i mean.

I could see if you were regularly drunk, or a mean drunk. But if you are just at home drinking, i'm really not sure what the problem is? how else is it affecting her? lack of sex? not doing enough around the house? problem snorer and she can't sleep? pissing in the bed?

see, it sounds like your drinking is very similar to my drinking. I like to drink on the weekend, so that means about once a week for me. if i snore too loud, my woman takes her ass down to sofa down stairs and gets some sleep that way. the only thing negative when i drink is i have a tendency to go to bed early.


but since she is playing such a dangerous game, you have to ask yourself if you decide to stop drinking, will you be happy with yourself down the road for being pushed into a decision where your options were very limited?

I think, for me, this would fukc with my mind somewhat and i would have a tendency to resent her for making me make such a decision, especially if my drinking really didn't cause much problem other than she doesn't like it.

Now, forget everything I just said!

Good luck!
-R

[t-dogg]

Im truly sorry to here this.


Did 30days not solve anything? I feel like there is alot more issues with her?

[cherrydrpepper]

Secondly, i don't have a drinking problem.

Theres some kind of disconnect. Your wife says go to rehab for a year and you say you don't have a drinking problem. One of you is full of the stinky stuff.

[calgarian]

thanks for sharing pete. I dont come here often so I am not sure that you know me well . but I am going to give you my 2 cents. I think she is playing games with you. You love her I get it but remember its a 2 way traffic. She wanted to see if you agree to 30 days now she is trying to push it further to one year. There is a difference between being loved and being treated as a puppy dog.
Just my opinion if you dont like it I apologize in advance.

[cherrydrpepper]

St Pete do you have someone you can call and talk to about it like a sibling or a close friend? Someone you can ask honestly if they think you have a drinking problem? My brother would not hesitate to tell me that yes I have a drinking problem.

[milky01623]

Dude your back :-)

Tough call this my friend
As you can recall I liked a drink and then decided 1 day just to stop and lose weight
Well that was back in July since then I got to 190lbs at 17% from 235lbs at 35-37% & today came in at 208lbs at 15%
I did all this for me and no one else
I guess what I'm saying is follow your own path and do what you think is right for you don't do anything that your going to do to please others cos believe you'll end up right back where you started :-)

I'm glad your back guru Pete ;-)

[Rwy]

How often and how much do you drink? I am surprised no one asked this.

[stpete]

GUYS AND ELECTRA!!!!!!!!! cAN I PLEASE CLEAR THIS UP BY SAYING I'M NOT AN DRUNK. OR EVEN ALCOHOLIC! I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG. yOU WANT TO TO KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING AT THE TIME? aND SPYWIZARD WILL BE ABLE TO TELL YOU. I WAS SITTING ON MY COUCH ON MY FAVORITE SITE IN THE WORLD DISPENSING INFO. I SWEAR TO GOD I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING. I WAS ON AR-R ****ING AROUND. AND CORECCT ME IF I'M WRONG, BUT I'M PRETTY DAMN SURE ADMIN AND BRIAN WOULDN'T HAVE NO DRUNK ON THEIR TEAM. I'VE JUST BEEN DONE WRONG GUYS AND GIRLS.

NOW I'M DONE BITCHING, JUST HAD TO GET IT OUT CAUSE I SPENT SO MUCH TIME AWAY FROM THE PEOPLE I LOVE SO MUCH. END OF STORY. THANKS TO ALL OF YOU FOR YOUR KIND SUPPORT, TR'S, YOUR'S TOO MY MAN. I JUST WANTED MY FAMILY AWAY FROM FAMILY TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AND I MISSED THEM. WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN. YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST AND I LOVE EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU. MY LITTLE SAD STORY ABOUT ABOUT A GIRL WHO CAN'T SEEM TO GET HER LIFE STRAIGHT IS OVER.

NOW, CAN WE TALK ABOUT ALL THE JUICE I HAVE BUT NO SYRINGES?HAHA.......THANKS FOR LISTENENING EVERYONE. ELEKTRA, NICE SEEING YOU HERE.

[ElectraMaddox]

GUYS AND ELECTRA!!!!!!!!! cAN I PLEASE CLEAR THIS UP BY SAYING I'M NOT AN DRUNK. OR EVEN ALCOHOLIC! I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG. yOU WANT TO TO KNOW WHAT I WAS DOING AT THE TIME? aND SPYWIZARD WILL BE ABLE TO TELL YOU. I WAS SITTING ON MY COUCH ON MY FAVORITE SITE IN THE WORLD DISPENSING INFO. I SWEAR TO GOD I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING. I WAS ON AR-R ****ING AROUND. AND CORECCT ME IF I'M WRONG, BUT I'M PRETTY DAMN SURE ADMIN AND BRIAN WOULDN'T HAVE NO DRUNK ON THEIR TEAM. I'VE JUST BEEN DONE WRONG GUYS AND GIRLS.

NOW I'M DONE BITCHING, JUST HAD TO GET IT OUT CAUSE I SPENT SO MUCH TIME AWAY FROM THE PEOPLE I LOVE SO MUCH. END OF STORY. THANKS TO ALL OF YOU FOR YOUR KIND SUPPORT, TR'S, YOUR'S TOO MY MAN. I JUST WANTED MY FAMILY AWAY FROM FAMILY TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AND I MISSED THEM. WON'T HAPPEN AGAIN. YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST AND I LOVE EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU. MY LITTLE SAD STORY ABOUT ABOUT A GIRL WHO CAN'T SEEM TO GET HER LIFE STRAIGHT IS OVER.

NOW, CAN WE TALK ABOUT ALL THE JUICE I HAVE BUT NO SYRINGES?HAHA.......THANKS FOR LISTENENING EVERYONE. ELEKTRA, NICE SEEING YOU HERE.

Thanks... Understood!

[marcus300]

If people around you are telling you may have a drinking problem then you need to closely look at it, stop drinking totally for 6 months if you can while you sort your life out.

The situation between you and your wife - no one knows everything here so what I would say is what are your first instincts what come into your head between you both, follow that direction and don't be influenced by any other distractions. Deep down you know what to do weather that's easy for you or hard but you know what to do.

I'm here for you mate

[t-dogg]

Pete, im not saying you do/dont have a drinking problem. Didnt mean what i said as a attack. What im asking is, is there something else going on? Does your wife have any issues?


Just so your clear, did you stop drinking now? Will you stop? Did you do the 30days?

[cherrydrpepper]

We should probably leave it at this I don't want to be too speculative

YOU GUYS ARE THE BEST AND I LOVE EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU. MY LITTLE SAD STORY ABOUT ABOUT A GIRL WHO CAN'T SEEM TO GET HER LIFE STRAIGHT IS OVER.

I have a feeling theres some stuff going on with his wife and he says he doesn't have a drinking problem.