have mediation on 20th

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 06-09-2013, 07:21 PM

Gotta to mediation . For joint custody and child support .

**austinite** · 06-09-2013, 07:27 PM

Good Luck brother.

**Times Roman** · 06-09-2013, 07:49 PM

I hope it works out in the kids best interests

**Lunk1** · 06-09-2013, 08:06 PM

Az...remember it's about the kid. Not the 2 of you..

**BeastBro66** · 06-09-2013, 09:07 PM

Best of luck to you and the kids.

Unfortunately I know all too well the heartache and stress when mediation doesn't work out. Just do your best to keep the kids best interest at the forefront through this tough process.

**thehor** · 06-09-2013, 10:15 PM

Good luck its so boring and wack.

**tigerspawn** · 06-09-2013, 11:59 PM

Originally Posted by AZGOLDSMEMBER86

Gotta to mediation . For joint custody and child support .

Make sure that the mediator is impartial. If not bring plenty of lube and condoms.

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 06-10-2013, 06:46 AM

Originally Posted by austinite

Good Luck brother.

Thanks ill need it.

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 06-10-2013, 06:47 AM

Originally Posted by Times Roman

I hope it works out in the kids best interests

Me too. Im trying just a few things the mother and i disagree on. Hope we can over come them.

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 06-10-2013, 06:47 AM

Originally Posted by Lunk1

Az...remember it's about the kid. Not the 2 of you..

I know lunkers , shes already trying to push my buttons .

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 06-10-2013, 06:48 AM

Originally Posted by BeastBro66

Best of luck to you and the kids.

Unfortunately I know all too well the heartache and stress when mediation doesn't work out. Just do your best to keep the kids best interest at the forefront through this tough process.

I am, ifhe we cant agree the court will decide , correct ?

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 06-10-2013, 06:51 AM

Originally Posted by tigerspawn

Make sure that the mediator is impartial. If not bring plenty of lube and condoms.

Dude im defiantly afraid its going to be one sided.

**tigerspawn** · 06-10-2013, 10:10 AM

Originally Posted by AZGOLDSMEMBER86

Dude im defiantly afraid its going to be one sided.

The judge became bored with my ex’s, “childish behavior” and established mediation. My ex showed up to the 1st mediator a hr. early and had her side presented before I ever showed up. The second mediator we went to I ensured that she wouldn’t be able repeat her actions. She started seeing the mediator on her own. The third mediator worked part time as women crisis counselor. After the third mediator I presented proof of my ex’s actions to the judge that had ordered the mediator he shook his head and had her held in violation of a court order.

**BeastBro66** · 06-10-2013, 11:14 AM

Originally Posted by AZGOLDSMEMBER86

I am, ifhe we cant agree the court will decide , correct ?

Usually if mediation doesn’t work out you end up going to trial. At the conclusion of the trial the judge decides on custody. I am still in a very ugly and expensive process, so I can't speak much to what happens at the end.

The scariest part about the whole thing is that you will have someone deciding the fate of your family that doesn't know you, the kids, or their mother.

Do your best to mediate.

**songdog** · 06-10-2013, 01:41 PM

I really believe medation and wat the judge says.Really dont mean a whole lot.I have seen over and over where the person who has custody did wat the felt like.ie say its your turn to have the kids on Xmas.Well come Xmas she took them else where.Well there is nothing you can do but go back to court.Time off from work and the judge says dont do it agai.Well it goes on and on.So this my friend is wat I have seen over and over.So get ready for some real mind games.

**Hazard** · 06-10-2013, 02:04 PM

I gotta do the same thing one week from today. I hafta come up with 5k for the lawyer too. My ex is a drug addict and lives in a halfway house and STILL gets visitation. Ontop of that.... If my divorce isn't iron clad - she can get me for alimony if I get a better job

Best of luck
~Haz~

**SexySweetheart** · 06-10-2013, 03:20 PM

Originally Posted by songdog

I really believe medation and wat the judge says.Really dont mean a whole lot.I have seen over and over where the person who has custody did wat the felt like.ie say its your turn to have the kids on Xmas.Well come Xmas she took them else where.Well there is nothing you can do but go back to court.Time off from work and the judge says dont do it agai.Well it goes on and on.So this my friend is wat I have seen over and over.So get ready for some real mind games.

YUP

Good luck in mediation, try an give in more than you actually want (if needed to keep it from Judge intervention) cuz you could get blind sided by the judge, plus it will cost more and once you walk out the door of the court your X can literally make your life hell if you leave on bad terms with her. I notice its better to just give a little and stay on good terms ...

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 06-10-2013, 08:42 PM

We have been communicating , its for legal decision making and parenting time.i did my hours and time its essentially half.
And pretty fair. She does think the court should request child support which will screw her cause i pay child care and insurance already . She has already begun seeds of mind screwing .

**tigerspawn** · 06-10-2013, 11:21 PM

Originally Posted by songdog

I really believe medation and wat the judge says.Really dont mean a whole lot.I have seen over and over where the person who has custody did wat the felt like.

I agree.The court sets up rules that need followed. It only works if parties involved choose to follow the court’s decision. If one party chooses to disregard the decision the court doesn’t step in and punish them. It is up to the party that feels violated to take the party that violated the decision to court. This is a burden when the party that feels violated must pay for a lawyer and take time off of work in order to go to court and the violator receives a free attorney and doesn’t work. If it can be proved that the party maliciously violated the decision then something will be done. However, this doesn’t prevent the party from further violating the court’s decision. Plus proving that the party maliciously violated the decision is very difficult.