crazy pregnant wife. i need help !

**Granovich** · 07-17-2013, 10:03 AM

So my wife is pregnant . 6-7 months im not even sure. it feels like she been pregnant for years
basically she was fat . 220 lbs and 5'6 ( black girl)
then she dropped alot of weight cuz i forced her and ended up 140 lbs after 8 months of hard work and diet. and she looked awesome
now that she is pregnant she eats ALOT. yesterday i was trying to keep track of calories she eat and she definitely went over 3500
even the meals i prepare for myself which doesnt taste great she eats them
she is so edgy and bitchy and when i look at her she start fighting and tell me if im looking at her cuz she is fat
and i have to apologize for looking. then she cries. im so confused and tired i wanna punch her in the face LOL
she definitely put on weight and its expected. but how do i tell her to stop eating. seriously i dont want her to end up 220 lbs again
i cant even look at her while she eats and i have to eat when she eats or she gets mad. she is sweet and sensitive and beautiful but this pregnancy is crazy!!!!
any ideas? do i just tell her stop or do i take food away or what ?
maybe a girl who been in that situation before would help. i would really appreciate it
thank you

**Dpyle** · 07-17-2013, 10:11 AM

Try dealing with a medicated wife off her meds during the pregnancy, and see how bad that is!

Truthfully though, let her do what she needs to do to remain happy and some what stable during the pregnancy. If she took it off once it'll come off again. Try to be as understanding as possible or she may end up resenting you for it, and you know what they say " happy wife, happy life".

**Hazard** · 07-17-2013, 10:15 AM

Hahahaha welcome to the club my friend. Pull up a chair and stay a while.....

**V-ROID** · 07-17-2013, 10:25 AM

Face it, lots of women are basically kids in adult bodies. Looks like you found one of those and sounds like she needs a time out. How would you deal with a child acting the same way? Sounds like a good time to work on that because chances are your kid will probably turn out the same as the mother. You made it far longer than I could have so I wish you luck. Somehow I found a woman that doesn't need to be coddled like a child, so they are out there. Good luck!

**lovbyts** · 07-17-2013, 11:31 AM

All good reasons to adopt.

**slfmade** · 07-17-2013, 11:35 AM

My wife is pregnant 5 months and she's very pleasant to be around. Of course she knows better than to be bitchy with me. She knows I love her, but bitchyness will not stand. Like I tell everybody...step up and be a man and don't let your women run all over you.

**slfmade** · 07-17-2013, 11:37 AM

She also works out 3 days a week and does cardio 6 days a week. She does this for 2 reasons.

1. She doesn't wanta get fat.

2. She knows that exercise will actually help make the labor, delivery, and recovery much easier.

Maybe you should tell her to get her ass on the treadmill so she's in less pain during labor.

**GettingReal** · 07-17-2013, 12:25 PM

Nothing you can do, you won't be able to force them to not eat. They do need more calories, but they will often times eat double for good measure. And the ones that think its a free ticket to eat however and whatever they want are the ones that put on 70+ lbs in a pregnancy. Anyways, you won't be able to convince her yourself. Just find someplace to hide for a while, most pregnant women get vicious, and it doesn't matter what you do or say. And then when you ignore it or walk away from them being crazy, they get more crazy cause apparently you don't care about them. good luck, try to help her as best you can when things eventually settle down.

**spywizard** · 07-17-2013, 12:29 PM

Mine gained 27 lbs.. 25-35 lbs is normal and healthy.. fed her salmon, different kinds of dark green veggies every meal.. stop buying food, if you are doing the shopping, if she is, don't let her.. that way if she sneaks it, she will eat it less often and in the end you win with her not eating as many calories in a day..

**Lunk1** · 07-17-2013, 01:02 PM

I think your whole post is rather insensitive. Re-read it as if she was saying those things about you.

**Sfla80** · 07-17-2013, 03:49 PM

Originally Posted by Lunk1

I think your whole post is rather insensitive. Re-read it as if she was saying those things about you.

Agreed! or if she just reads that u posted that. Not in good taste my friend.

**lovbyts** · 07-17-2013, 08:26 PM

Originally Posted by Lunk1

I think your whole post is rather insensitive. Re-read it as if she was saying those things about you.

I'd eat less, eat healthier, exercise more. Yeah really.

**--->>405<<---** · 07-17-2013, 08:41 PM

Originally Posted by Lunk1

I think your whole post is rather insensitive. Re-read it as if she was saying those things about you.

Job i think u used to be a woman is ur past life!!

**Lunk1** · 07-17-2013, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by --->>405<<---

Job i think u used to be a woman is ur past life!!

Nope...just rather fond of them

**RipOwens** · 07-17-2013, 09:01 PM

I'm with Lunk on this one... Your wife is carrying a fetus, maybe take it a bit easy on her. As a father, i know pregnancy and then child birth is no easy task. Let her be bud a baby throws the whole system outta whack...

**GirlyGymRat** · 07-17-2013, 09:09 PM

how about reminding her nicely that the baby doesn't need 1500 calories, about the same amount she requires. have the doctor coach her if you can't be more sensitive. you sound stressed out!

**Granovich** · 07-18-2013, 12:35 PM

Originally Posted by Lunk1

I think your whole post is rather insensitive. Re-read it as if she was saying those things about you.

i wouldnt really get upset. i tried to change alot of stuff for her so she can be happy
im not insensitive trust me . im calm and understanding
im just trying to ask the guys here what can be done . how do i approach this situation
if she gains all weight back . so be it , she will lose it after.

**Granovich** · 07-18-2013, 12:39 PM

Originally Posted by GettingReal

Nothing you can do, you won't be able to force them to not eat. They do need more calories, but they will often times eat double for good measure. And the ones that think its a free ticket to eat however and whatever they want are the ones that put on 70+ lbs in a pregnancy. Anyways, you won't be able to convince her yourself. Just find someplace to hide for a while, most pregnant women get vicious, and it doesn't matter what you do or say. And then when you ignore it or walk away from them being crazy, they get more crazy cause apparently you don't care about them. good luck, try to help her as best you can when things eventually settle down.

usually she is calm person. i have the upper hand on everything in the relationship which she loves. but right now everything gets her upset.
if i tell her no thats bad for u to eat she get pissed
if i walk away maaaaaan she wont sleep she will keep talking
in morning when i make eggs and eggwhites she get upset why i use eggs and throw the yolk and why not buy egg white cartoon. i tell her i dont like it and she gets pissed LOL
if i go out with my friends hahaha maaaaaaan she get pissed.
she eats watermelon like crazy and keeps going to bathroom at night. like every hour. or turn on tv and eat candy and im trying to sleep!!!

**Granovich** · 07-18-2013, 12:46 PM

Originally Posted by spywizard

Mine gained 27 lbs.. 25-35 lbs is normal and healthy.. fed her salmon, different kinds of dark green veggies every meal.. stop buying food, if you are doing the shopping, if she is, don't let her.. that way if she sneaks it, she will eat it less often and in the end you win with her not eating as many calories in a day..

i shop and its my fault cuz everything she ask i buy 3 times as much.
she barely do anything
first 5 months she was great no problem
now its maid who clean and my wife cooks and i help her with laundry but she eats all time. she eats ice cream. chips. candy. all the timeee.
she eats it before dinner and i have to tell her no and pull it from her hands like a kid LOL

**Granovich** · 07-18-2013, 12:49 PM

Originally Posted by GirlyGymRat

how about reminding her nicely that the baby doesn't need 1500 calories, about the same amount she requires. have the doctor coach her if you can't be more sensitive. you sound stressed out!

impossible. she will get offended . there is no nice way with her. it took me a year to tell her join the gym and eat clean which helped her lose all her extra weight
i try to tell her lets workout together . eat together. u look great but being healthy and extra in shape is awesome
u will be able to wear nice sexy dresses bla bla bla . trust me there is noway to tell her eat less she will start crying and fight allll night
she probably eats 1000 calories a day from watermelon LOL

**V-ROID** · 07-18-2013, 02:09 PM

Like I said, a spoiled kid in an adult body. Obviously she is in complete charge. Most likely only a harsh ultimatum could snap her (and you) into reality. Probably just doomed to a miserable life. Sorry.

**DMF** · 07-18-2013, 02:13 PM

A pregnant female acting crazy? You don't say....

**Cuz** · 07-18-2013, 03:40 PM

Originally Posted by Granovich

impossible. she will get offended . there is no nice way with her. it took me a year to tell her join the gym and eat clean which helped her lose all her extra weight
i try to tell her lets workout together . eat together. u look great but being healthy and extra in shape is awesome
u will be able to wear nice sexy dresses bla bla bla . trust me there is noway to tell her eat less she will start crying and fight allll night
she probably eats 1000 calories a day from watermelon LOL

does your wife hate bodybuilding too?

**--->>405<<---** · 07-18-2013, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by VEGAN-O-ROID

Like I said, a spoiled kid in an adult body. Obviously she is in complete charge. Most likely only a harsh ultimatum could snap her (and you) into reality. Probably just doomed to a miserable life. Sorry.

boy arent you just a bright ray of sunshine!

JOB what do u think about this statement above?? ^^

**V-ROID** · 07-18-2013, 03:58 PM

Well it is sad but reading through this thread it seems like much more is going on than hormones related to pregnancy. If the OP could distance himself, imagine giving advice to a stranger and then stick with that advice, I think the outcome would be to run like hell. Too bad there is a kid involved now. Maybe the OP could get custody? Ug...

**GirlyGymRat** · 07-18-2013, 04:10 PM

Originally Posted by DMF

A pregnant female acting crazy? You don't say....

Ahhhh. Those dang hormones. It's like a guy with gyno x 100

OP. stop taking food from the baby. LOL.

I don't think ripping food from a pregnant woman is good idea, EVER. And this woman you love so much is no longer the same woman when she's preggies.

Read your responses and you clearly want her to not have to go thru the struggle of weight loss and it also seems you can't do anything right. So you can just let it happen and after the baby and after the hormones calm down post delivery, try to reason with a non pregnant wife. My gf say breast feeding with help shed weight.

Maybe make a deal that she try to not gain more then x pounds from now to end of pregnancy or better yet have the doctor highlight that this extra weight is not baby and she will get to keep it.

My gf obgyn said if she started gaining size in the thighs, she would get to take that weight home with her and not in the baby carriage.

. Funny obgyn. Your obgyn should be concerned about excessive weight gain. It's not healthy for wife and therefore not healthy for the baby.

Focus convo on health of baby not how fat wife will be. It's not healthy for the baby. Our baby needs highly dense nutritional food. Our little baby blah blah blah. And don't be a nag.

And geez. Why not eat the dang yolk for a few months. It is really worth that battle? Just sayin.

**slfmade** · 07-18-2013, 08:02 PM

Men have a strong desire to be with multiple women dating back to "caveman" days when we were genetically predispositioned to go out and multiply. It's a chemical response (our hormones) in the brain going on in there that tells us we need to go out and fvck anything with 2 legs (and sometimes just 1 if your into that sort of thing. LOL).

Yet women will never simply accept this and let us go out and do it, or even accept the fact that this is how we are. They tell us tough shit and expect us to just turn off these feelings that have accumulated over the last million or so year. BUT........They'll be the first to tell you that their chemical responses in THEIR brain are uncontrollable. Afterall, it's a chemical response and you can't do anything about chemical responses and hormones. I know I'm gonna get a lot of "It's not the same thing" shit. But isn't it????

I just get so tired of women using Hormones or PMS as an excuse to act like a bitch. If they're gonna do that let's just start using our testosterone as an excuse for infidelity. I don't think that would fly do you?

**Lunk1** · 07-18-2013, 08:13 PM

Originally Posted by --->>405<<---

boy arent you just a bright ray of sunshine!

JOB what do u think about this statement above?? ^^

Sounds like a recipe for child support lol

**kelkel** · 07-18-2013, 08:52 PM

Originally Posted by slfmade

I just get so tired of women using Hormones or PMS as an excuse to act like a bitch. If they're gonna do that let's just start using our testosterone as an excuse for infidelity. I don't think that would fly do you?

That really is an interesting observation.

And Grano, now's not the time to be on cycle, if you are.

**RajaSultan** · 07-18-2013, 10:54 PM

Originally Posted by Granovich

So my wife is pregnant . 6-7 months im not even sure. it feels like she been pregnant for years
basically she was fat . 220 lbs and 5'6 ( black girl)
then she dropped alot of weight cuz i forced her and ended up 140 lbs after 8 months of hard work and diet. and she looked awesome
now that she is pregnant she eats ALOT. yesterday i was trying to keep track of calories she eat and she definitely went over 3500
even the meals i prepare for myself which doesnt taste great she eats them
she is so edgy and bitchy and when i look at her she start fighting and tell me if im looking at her cuz she is fat
and i have to apologize for looking. then she cries. im so confused and tired i wanna punch her in the face LOL
she definitely put on weight and its expected. but how do i tell her to stop eating. seriously i dont want her to end up 220 lbs again
i cant even look at her while she eats and i have to eat when she eats or she gets mad. she is sweet and sensitive and beautiful but this pregnancy is crazy!!!!
any ideas? do i just tell her stop or do i take food away or what ?
maybe a girl who been in that situation before would help. i would really appreciate it
thank you

pics or it didn't happen

**V-ROID** · 07-19-2013, 05:14 AM

Originally Posted by slfmade

Men have a strong desire to be with multiple women dating back to "caveman" days when we were genetically predispositioned to go out and multiply. It's a chemical response (our hormones) in the brain going on in there that tells us we need to go out and fvck anything with 2 legs (and sometimes just 1 if your into that sort of thing. LOL).

Yet women will never simply accept this and let us go out and do it, or even accept the fact that this is how we are. They tell us tough shit and expect us to just turn off these feelings that have accumulated over the last million or so year. BUT........They'll be the first to tell you that their chemical responses in THEIR brain are uncontrollable. Afterall, it's a chemical response and you can't do anything about chemical responses and hormones. I know I'm gonna get a lot of "It's not the same thing" shit. But isn't it????

I just get so tired of women using Hormones or PMS as an excuse to act like a bitch. If they're gonna do that let's just start using our testosterone as an excuse for infidelity. I don't think that would fly do you?

That is great! I will always remember that from here on out. Might even paraphrase it into a poem, song or bumper sticker. I guess I understand the woman's plight more than I thought I did. I am an urge-suppressing-mf'er!

**lovbyts** · 07-19-2013, 05:26 AM

Originally Posted by VEGAN-O-ROID

That is great! I will always remember that from here on out. Might even paraphrase it into a poem, song or bumper sticker. I guess I understand the woman's plight more than I thought I did. I am an urge-suppressing-mf'er!

Dont bother trying.to use.logic fight fire with fire or compare apples to apples. Doesnt work with women unless they want.it.to.

**Black** · 07-19-2013, 05:49 AM

Do you have any stairs in your home?

**V-ROID** · 07-19-2013, 06:00 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Dont bother trying.to use.logic fight fire with fire or compare apples to apples. Doesnt work with women unless they want.it.to.

You are right. I will just go back to the "like a kid" thing...

Originally Posted by Dante Diamond

Do you have any stairs in your home?

Now that is just wrong! Sorta crossed my mind too.

**Granovich** · 07-19-2013, 08:35 AM

Originally Posted by chadcuz1985

does your wife hate bodybuilding too?

she likes it because i like it. she lost weight cuz i forced it.
she support me in anything i do but NO she doesnt like working out

**Granovich** · 07-19-2013, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by slfmade

Men have a strong desire to be with multiple women dating back to "caveman" days when we were genetically predispositioned to go out and multiply. It's a chemical response (our hormones) in the brain going on in there that tells us we need to go out and fvck anything with 2 legs (and sometimes just 1 if your into that sort of thing. LOL).

Yet women will never simply accept this and let us go out and do it, or even accept the fact that this is how we are. They tell us tough shit and expect us to just turn off these feelings that have accumulated over the last million or so year. BUT........They'll be the first to tell you that their chemical responses in THEIR brain are uncontrollable. Afterall, it's a chemical response and you can't do anything about chemical responses and hormones. I know I'm gonna get a lot of "It's not the same thing" shit. But isn't it????

I just get so tired of women using Hormones or PMS as an excuse to act like a bitch. If they're gonna do that let's just start using our testosterone as an excuse for infidelity. I don't think that would fly do you?

i completely agree with you!!
usually im the boss like in everything. but now she using the pregnancy thing to run things around the house. she fight over everything
and i dont want to fight back cuz she is pregnant...

**Granovich** · 07-19-2013, 08:48 AM

Originally Posted by GirlyGymRat

Ahhhh. Those dang hormones. It's like a guy with gyno x 100

OP. stop taking food from the baby. LOL.

I don't think ripping food from a pregnant woman is good idea, EVER. And this woman you love so much is no longer the same woman when she's preggies.

Read your responses and you clearly want her to not have to go thru the struggle of weight loss and it also seems you can't do anything right. So you can just let it happen and after the baby and after the hormones calm down post delivery, try to reason with a non pregnant wife. My gf say breast feeding with help shed weight.

Maybe make a deal that she try to not gain more then x pounds from now to end of pregnancy or better yet have the doctor highlight that this extra weight is not baby and she will get to keep it.

My gf obgyn said if she started gaining size in the thighs, she would get to take that weight home with her and not in the baby carriage.

. Funny obgyn. Your obgyn should be concerned about excessive weight gain. It's not healthy for wife and therefore not healthy for the baby.

Focus convo on health of baby not how fat wife will be. It's not healthy for the baby. Our baby needs highly dense nutritional food. Our little baby blah blah blah. And don't be a nag.

And geez. Why not eat the dang yolk for a few months. It is really worth that battle? Just sayin.

i think the doctor thing is the best idea because she wont listen to me LOL
i just dont want her to struggle again with weight loss. it was very hard but if it happens then it happens . i wont take food from her
as for the Yolk i will just eat it

**Granovich** · 07-19-2013, 08:49 AM

Originally Posted by VEGAN-O-ROID

You are right. I will just go back to the "like a kid" thing...

Now that is just wrong! Sorta crossed my mind too.

i would lie if i said it didnt cross my mind too LOL

**OnTheSauce** · 07-20-2013, 07:45 AM

Originally Posted by slfmade

My wife is pregnant 5 months and she's very pleasant to be around. Of course she knows better than to be bitchy with me. She knows I love her, but bitchyness will not stand. Like I tell everybody...step up and be a man and don't let your women run all over you.

Yep. Same here

**OnTheSauce** · 07-20-2013, 07:53 AM

Originally Posted by slfmade

I just get so tired of women using Hormones or PMS as an excuse to act like a bitch. If they're gonna do that let's just start using our testosterone as an excuse for infidelity. I don't think that would fly do you?

I love you for this. I've had these conversations with my wife and I think it's a big reason we hardly ever have fights. My hormones are up Nd down all year from the steroids and estrogen blockers. But I'm expected to keep it together. She gets it