Love my wife......buuutt.....

[LVCat]

But when I cycle dieting/bulking she always seems to get upset and isn't supportive lol... Anyone else have this problem - any suggestions?

She doesn't do the cooking, so she's f'd when I go into these cycles - my 2 yr old loves any/all food I make, so she'll be a healthy lean baby ...

and when we go out to eat for a date and she tries to shove fries and ranch in my face when she knows I'm 'watching' what I'm eating. She gets mad for some reason when I refuse to partake in her delicious side...

I've tried to get her to come on board (at least not as hard core as she thinks I'm taking it) but to no avail...

She's not fat or anything but we all can lose a few pounds to get more shredded right...

Ultimately, I think a) she doesn't like the fact that I'm eating healthier than her (esp. in public) and b) she doesn't understand what I'm doing (even though I've tried to communicate it to her... minus any anticipated steroids, etc cycling)...

Just thought I'd vent, enjoy my pain lol..

[Ginger84]

I never really had a problem with my wife, I got her into lifting maybe a month or two after me. I tried within the first two months to get her to eat better and come with me to the gym. She became agitated etc so I backed off and she finally joined and now is a physique competitor.

Maybe be fully honest with her about your cycle and explain it all to her so maybe she understands better. I do understand she might have no interest at all in any part of the fitness lifestyle but worth a try.

I would communicate with her how you need her support etc. good luck though and keep training hard

[Euroholic]

Firstly it sounds like you a two incompatible people. If lifting is who you are then don't let anyone stand in your way. But did you not no this going in?

And secondly what is ranch?

[austinite]

I cycle steroids = Wife not happy.

I cycle steroids, and not tell my wife = wife just fine.

Hmmmm. Seems about right. Never tell anyone, not even a wife. Now fix me a drink.

[bdos]

use the extra libido boost keep her happy that way

[EverettCD]

Firstly it sounds like you a two incompatible people. If lifting is who you are then don't let anyone stand in your way. But did you not no this going in?

And secondly what is ranch?

In marriage there is a lot of give & take with each other. If not then you end up on opposite sides of a table in a lawyers office figuring out who keeps what stuff & how much divorce will cost you. Going into my marriage I certainly didn't know everything about my wife & learn something new often.

OP, if your wife isn't down with eating super clean & working out it's no big deal, life goes on. My wife is like yours when it comes to diet & working out. She's beautiful & has a nice body but hates working out. After about a year of being together she tried pilates with a friend & loves it, she just had to find something on her own that she enjoys. I've learned how far I can push the healthy stuff when I cook & it's fine with me. Tonight for example I'm eating wild salmon, brown rice & veggies. She wants a baked potato, I'm baking her a potato, problem solved.

Happy wife = Happy life as my Dad tells me all the time

Sent from my iPhone that was manufactured in a sweat shop in China

[LVCat]

Firstly it sounds like you a two incompatible people. If lifting is who you are then don't let anyone stand in your way. But did you not no this going in?

And secondly what is ranch?

Actually, we are pretty much compatible in everything else besides lifting/eating consciously. And normally it's not a huge deal because I've concerned myself more with lifting than dieting (hence my high teens BF%). But now that I'm trying to get down to a clean base to run a test p cycle I've been more disciplined in almost everything I do, which thinking about that might be the root of the issue since she came from a really strict (catholic) upbringing... hrmm, did I just solve a multi year problem from thinking out loud and venting on a forum!?


And while I appreciate the honesty approach I can't envision a scenario where she would be understanding.... especially once I tell her about libido increase, she'll forbid it -- I've never lost any amount of my sex drive (I'm not super old...29), not saying I get it that much though!

I keep telling her to come join me for a workout or two but she has always resisted - she prefers to bike ride... so I join her on those when I can .... hoping for a day where she drops her guard and gives the gym a chance I know I can convert her haha.... Until then....

Thanks everyone!!

[Fcastle357]

My wife and I do alot of things together but training together is not one of them. When I train my mind set is totally on me and my goals and not about anyone else. When I'm done its back to reality and family. Use the time by yourself to focus and move in your direction. My 2 cents. Training for me includes eating.

[Hazard]

I had a wife that knew I cycled when I met her, she knew I loved working out, she knew I was very active. We got married and everything went to complete shit. She was against steroids, lifting, and dieting. She wasn't happy unless I was miserable.

I decided to get back into the lifestyle against her will. After all..... What could she do? She can't stop me from working out. If she doesn't know I cycle - she'd have to prove it. What'd this lead to? Random needle mark checks in the shower and a sexless marriage. Then it led to her addiction to opiates and ultimately our divorce.

Here's my advice...... Keep doing you and DON'T tell her about a future cycle. She can suspect all she wants but unless she sees the needle in your ass..... It's all speculation. If she truely loves you she'll be happy to see you happy. If she's a miserable hag then she'll get more hostile as you start to look better and better.

You're young...... Don't put up with nonsensical bullshit.

[austinite]

I had a wife that knew I cycled when I met her, she knew I loved working out, she knew I was very active. We got married and everything went to complete shit. She was against steroids, lifting, and dieting. She wasn't happy unless I was miserable.

I decided to get back into the lifestyle against her will. After all..... What could she do? She can't stop me from working out. If she doesn't know I cycle - she'd have to prove it. What'd this lead to? Random needle mark checks in the shower and a sexless marriage. Then it led to her addiction to opiates and ultimately our divorce.

Here's my advice...... Keep doing you and DON'T tell her about a future cycle. She can suspect all she wants but unless she sees the needle in your ass..... It's all speculation. If she truely loves you she'll be happy to see you happy. If she's a miserable hag then she'll get more hostile as you start to look better and better.

You're young...... Don't put up with nonsensical bullshit.

Exactly.

Deny, Deny, Deny!

[Giggle]

It might be that she's afraid that you won't love her when you get in better shape and look great.
My husband and I went through this - only backwards of you. I started doing good in the gym and ultimately went on to compete in Figure and then in Bodybuilding, but my husband just doesn't like training. And never will, I'm recognizing.

Anyway, after working on it together - we finally understand that we are just different. He's never going to train me in the gym, and I'm never going to like the long distance bike rides that he loves.
But we trust each other, and have gotten used to the fact that I'm going to eat and train the way I need to. He now will tell people - "listen to her - she'll get you in shape and teach you how to eat"!

My best advice is to make sure she knows how much you love her and that you just want to be a healthier version of yourself. And never give up on taking her to the gym with you. She doesn't know how lucky she is to have someone who WANTS to train with her!
Good luck

[Hazard]

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[Cuz]

OP you are not alone. happens to me too.

[Megalodon6]

I cycle steroids = Wife not happy.

I cycle steroids, and not tell my wife = wife just fine.

Hmmmm. Seems about right. Never tell anyone, not even a wife. Now fix me a drink.

Nah man. Its make me a sandwhich lol

[Hazard]

Nah man. Its make me a sandwhich lol

It's...... "Sammich"

[Megalodon6]

What about money cycling can get expensive the gear hcg pct bw etc.. How do you guys hide this. My wife and I have a joint bank account so it would be hard for me to sneak the money

[Megalodon6]

It's...... "Sammich"

Haha alright you got me "sammich" it is. Why didn't I think to say that lol

[Hazard]

What about money cycling can get expensive the gear hcg pct bw etc.. How do you guys hide this. My wife and I have a joint bank account so it would be hard for me to sneak the money

U got direct deposit too?

Do u guys just roll over after u propose? Man..... Everything can't be transparent. This is what happens...... Ur wife knows everything now. U sealed ur own destiny.

Do you check ur account daily? Do u know every cent she spends? Honestly.....?

Start taking out $5 here and there...... Fvck idunno lol.

My current girl has no issues at all with aas. I made it very clear from day 1.... I love bodybuilding and ill be on Trt. I use anabolics...... If that's a problem for you - tell me now because this is my lifestyle with or without you here.

Someone new to your life has little reason to run to police - it's the loving committed wives that feel hurt when they catch their husbands......

[Megalodon6]

U got direct deposit too?

Do u guys just roll over after u propose? Man..... Everything can't be transparent. This is what happens...... Ur wife knows everything now. U sealed ur own destiny.

Do you check ur account daily? Do u know every cent she spends? Honestly.....?

Start taking out $5 here and there...... Fvck idunno lol.

My current girl has no issues at all with aas. I made it very clear from day 1.... I love bodybuilding and ill be on Trt. I use anabolics...... If that's a problem for you - tell me now because this is my lifestyle with or without you here.

Someone new to your life has little reason to run to police - it's the loving committed wives that feel hurt when they catch their husbands......

Yes we have direct deposit. We're young and have two children.

We don't check it daily but we have a tight budget. So she would know if I took out a decent amount. I'll just be patient the money will come.
We're not poor by all means.

No biggie gotta take care of the chilrens lol.

[Hazard]

Yes we have direct deposit. We're young and have two children.

We don't check it daily but we have a tight budget. So she would know if I took out a decent amount. I'll just be patient the money will come.
We're not poor by all means.

No biggie gotta take care of the chilrens lol.

Well yea ofcoarse man...... I've got a two year old.

Just make sure you still have some time/money for urself. I'm not talking about breaking the bank on aas. U should have money for protein if u want it..... Coffees here and there..... Maybe a miscellaneous purchase that won't put you behind on bills. These are things you should be able to have without asking.

If everything is transparent it makes life feel like a prison. Ill never have it like that again. I'm 29 also......

[Hazard]

Put money to the side every now an then. Keep it someplace...... Don't tell anyone. If life throws you a problem..... Guess what...... U had an emergency fund. If life is peachy...... Guess what? You have a cycle my friend.

[Megalodon6]

Put money to the side every now an then. Keep it someplace...... Don't tell anyone. If life throws you a problem..... Guess what...... U had an emergency fund. If life is peachy...... Guess what? You have a cycle my friend.

Oh I got this part down I had a couple hundred dollars stashed in my truck but like you said something came up so it was gone. Took me forever to get it up to 200.

Man I feel like a lil kid counting my birthday money or something lol.
I mean we get little purchases here and there but we don't go overboard. But we started having kids young my son is 4 and I have a newborn daughter .
It'll all come with time.

Not to gibe you the wrong impression on my wife she's amazing I lobe my wife she's awesome

[Fcastle357]

Put money to the side every now an then. Keep it someplace...... Don't tell anyone. If life throws you a problem..... Guess what...... U had an emergency fund. If life is peachy...... Guess what? You have a cycle my friend.

Great advice. My wife has no idea how expensive a cycle is. If she knew she would throw a fit. But 10 here 20 there u will have enough for a cycle in no time. Just have a great reason for your bag of needles and little bottles. You are on your own there

[Hazard]

Don't get me wrong...... If this is a lifelong hobby..... Ur wife will find out lol.

There's no way I could hide it anymore. I used to keep all my stuff at my fathers house lol. At the time - he had a home gym (it's now mine) - so I'd be there 4 days a week to lift. I kept my shot there, took my shots before working out, and I was gtg.

It walking a thin line if u have to have ur gear, pins, and ancillaries all shipped to ur house lol. Knowing my luck...... The wife would call out of work on the day it was delivered.

[Fcastle357]

Don't get me wrong...... If this is a lifelong hobby..... Ur wife will find out lol.

There's no way I could hide it anymore. I used to keep all my stuff at my fathers house lol. At the time - he had a home gym (it's now mine) - so I'd be there 4 days a week to lift. I kept my shot there, took my shots before working out, and I was gtg.

It walking a thin line if u have to have ur gear, pins, and ancillaries all shipped to ur house lol. Knowing my luck...... The wife would call out of work on the day it was delivered.

I wonder how many guys or gals hide their use from their wives husbands or partners?

[Hazard]

Man I feel like a lil kid counting my birthday money or something lol.

That's what I'm talkin about...... It shouldn't feel like that. I say I because I've been there and I'm happy now.

I'm not taking anything away from your wife at all. I'm sure she's great and she ought to be if ur going to be with her every single day for the rest of ur life ;-)

The fact remains tho...... She's a woman haha. I don't mean that offensively. She's going to be on top of her shit..... Specifically $$. Gotta figure ou the best way to get what u want without ruining yours and her life.

[Hazard]

I wonder how many guys or gals hide their use from their wives husbands or partners?

Alot I'm sure..... I did for a few years. She never did find out haha and now it doesn't matter since we aren't together.

My girl now knows everything...... Gives me my shots, knows dosages, etc.

[wmaousley]

My wife is a different story. She begggs me to take Testosterone because without it I am nil sexually, plus she cooks for me when she is free to do so.

Problem is when most women see a positive change in their man they start to feel insecure about your reasoning behind getting in shape. Sub-conciously they think your on the prowl.

[lovbyts]

Ranch dressing. Something that is made to make healthy food taste better and a lot less healthy.

[austinite]

Nah man. Its make me a sandwhich lol

Not if you're quoting seinfeld...

[Hazard]

My wife is a different story. She begggs me to take Testosterone because without it I am nil sexually, plus she cooks for me when she is free to do so.

Problem is when most women see a positive change in their man they start to feel insecure about your reasoning behind getting in shape. Sub-conciously they think your on the prowl.

Bingo!

[Fcastle357]

My wife is a different story. She begggs me to take Testosterone because without it I am nil sexually, plus she cooks for me when she is free to do so.

Problem is when most women see a positive change in their man they start to feel insecure about your reasoning behind getting in shape. Sub-conciously they think your on the prowl.

I think women know we are always on the prowl. Now the other women we meet on a day to day basis have something better to look at after we get in better shape. A little jealousy can be a good thing.

[Armykid93]

OP you are not alone. happens to me too.

I think it happens to all of us lol. For the most part women don't understand.

[Megalodon6]

Great advice. My wife has no idea how expensive a cycle is. If she knew she would throw a fit. But 10 here 20 there u will have enough for a cycle in no time. Just have a great reason for your bag of needles and little bottles. You are on your own there

I can't think of any reason why I would need the needles and bottles lol

[Megalodon6]

Let's face it we're talking about women 99.9% are bat sh*t crazy

[Fcastle357]

I can't think of any reason why I would need the needles and bottles lol

That's your story and your sticking to it.

[Fcastle357]

I can't think of any reason why I would need the needles and bottles lol

Doesn't matter any reason you come up with your screwed. Tell her there for a buddy lol see how we'll that works

[gearbox]

But when I cycle dieting/bulking she always seems to get upset and isn't supportive lol... Anyone else have this problem - any suggestions?

She doesn't do the cooking, so she's f'd when I go into these cycles - my 2 yr old loves any/all food I make, so she'll be a healthy lean baby ...

and when we go out to eat for a date and she tries to shove fries and ranch in my face when she knows I'm 'watching' what I'm eating. She gets mad for some reason when I refuse to partake in her delicious side...

I've tried to get her to come on board (at least not as hard core as she thinks I'm taking it) but to no avail...

She's not fat or anything but we all can lose a few pounds to get more shredded right...

Ultimately, I think a) she doesn't like the fact that I'm eating healthier than her (esp. in public) and b) she doesn't understand what I'm doing (even though I've tried to communicate it to her... minus any anticipated steroids, etc cycling)...

Just thought I'd vent, enjoy my pain lol..

Dont tell her about cycling.

I believe she feels threatened by you improving yourself. Just keep being consistent and communicating with her. My wife doesnt lift or exercise and doesn't like my diets but she is semi supportive especially when I told her we will do my one cheat meal once a week on are date night.
She might feel insecure about her looks cause u look better. (She thinks so) we as men will say then improve yourself. Its not that simple for woman. They will when they know we love them for them. All that bs basically.

[Megalodon6]

Doesn't matter any reason you come up with your screwed. Tell her there for a buddy lol see how we'll that works

That's when you shrug your shoulders and say idk...

[Hazard]

My only complaint at the moment with my girl is she gets extremely jealous. She wants me to look good but wants to be attached at my hip. I changed my shirt in the parking lot the other day and she goes "now what if I wanted to change my shorts here....." I said "ofcoarse that's different...... U have a one in a million fat Latina ass...... Ofcoarse everyone wants to see it. I'm your standard white boy...... We're all over"