what to do when you dont see the point

[DAAS]

So this year has been ****ed for me. Ive been ****ed over by life and friends and my GF(ex). its hit me hard. Im still going but Ive really lost sight of everything. Im just going through the motions. Unmotivated, uncaring, heartless.

If you guys could share some stories of moments where you didn't see the point or were ready to give up. And what you did, or what happened to get you through it. Would you say you made it back to being as happy? more happy? happy enough?

I know talking about shit like this can be depressing or whatever. But I could really use some stories, to help me realize, think or just relate to.

Today I received a Jareds (Diamond and ring seller) flier in the mail. Obviously they sent me the flier because I had shopped there before. (I purchased a ring for my GF but never gave it to her because of events) Just hit me hard for some reason. I haven't got my dick wet since the break up, which I know I need to do bad, but every time I am about to something bugs me about the girl(my ex was exactly what I like and about a 10/10 on the hotness, hygiene, and genetics scale) and I end up telling them to basically **** off. I feel like if I don't **** some one just as hot then she won. You know?

Any ways anything would help. Im going to bed now but some replies will go miles in the morning. Found out more shit tonight and Im too drunk to care but tomorrow Ill be blue for sure. Thanks fellas.

[Lunk1]

Stop being a baby. I'll be attenting a funeral tomorrow for a friend (36 y.o.) that loved life and now he is gone. You don't have it that bad!

[MuscleInk]

[AD]

run a massive cycle! that should cheer you up.

[joebailey1271]

Dont pine over one women, im sure she's not worth it, plenty of what you would consider 10's out there just waiting for a weak man like you to step on.

[ghettoboyd]

one thing you can do is find motivation to get yourself in the best shape of your life..when she sees you looking good and walking around with new confidence and swagger she may regret leaving you...just a thought...

[Honkey_Kong]

Get some pu$$y man, you'll feel better.

Seriously the best thing anybody can do to feel better about themselves is to either fill up all your hours with work (if you're a workaholic) or find some hobbies to do. You can't be too down on life if you're always busy.

[DSM4Life]

Best way to get back at the exGF is to sleep with her brother.

[diesel101]

Best way to get back at the exGF is to sleep with her brother.

This is the one thing that never crossed my mind after a breakup!

[AlphaMike]

You're putting yourself through this shit dude
Stop fretting over finding the next "perfect" girl to f uck and just hit the next 5 good lookin gals you can get. If you're still crying over your ex after f ucking 5 new girls, turn in your man card and retire to a monastery in the Himalayas

[Capebuffalo]

Hotness hygiene and genetics. Isn't that we all look for. Where do you live that hygiene is a factor that has to be considered. Wow.

[JAB1]

Just keep putting one foot in front of the other man, Time may not heal wounds, but it puts a nice scab on them...

[marcus300]

Even though your pain may be insignificant to other people and worse things happen, when someone is going through hell the pain is very real and for you its a very dark and emotional time for you. These feelings need addressing and make no mistake you can make yourself feel better and put yourself back on a happier track. Its all to do with controlling your mind and the feelings what come into it at certain times of darkness and pain. Your reliving the good times you had with your ex in your mind, your taking yourself back to time when things were good but you have to remember you broke up for a reason and this is what you must concentrate on rather than the good times.

One thing is for sure you wont carry on being in this dark place, you will move on with your life and start to feel better, you wont be in this situation for the rest of your life but you need to do some mind exercises what will help to control and make all those feelings and memories go away. There are some techniques what if you complete in its entirety will release the power of these negative feelings you keep having. Certain threshold techniques and mind emotion control is what you need to practice but in all honesty I wouldn't like to start showing you these on the open board because I would probably get slaughtered by the guys who think your acting stupid and you should just move on, but every situation is different for everyone.

Maybe reading some self help books on confidence, self control and there are some amazing techniques in the world of NLP which will make you understand and control these feelings your having.

[ghettoboyd]

Even though your pain may be insignificant to other people and worse things happen, when someone is going through hell the pain is very real and for you its a very dark and emotional time for you. These feelings need addressing and make no mistake you can make yourself feel better and put yourself back on a happier track. Its all to do with controlling your mind and the feelings what come into it at certain times of darkness and pain. Your reliving the good times you had with your ex in your mind, your taking yourself back to time when things were good but you have to remember you broke up for a reason and this is what you must concentrate on rather than the good times.

One thing is for sure you wont carry on being in this dark place, you will move on with your life and start to feel better, you wont be in this situation for the rest of your life but you need to do some mind exercises what will help to control and make all those feelings and memories go away. There are some techniques what if you complete in its entirety will release the power of these negative feelings you keep having. Certain threshold techniques and mind emotion control is what you need to practice but in all honesty I wouldn't like to start showing you these on the open board because I would probably get slaughtered by the guys who think your acting stupid and you should just move on, but every situation is different for everyone.

Maybe reading some self help books on confidence, self control and there are some amazing techniques in the world of NLP which will make you understand and control these feelings your having.

wow marcus, you are a good person, a real class act...im blown away at your empathy and the fact that you took the time to write this...much respect to you sir...

[austinite]

wow marcus, you are a good person, a real class act...im blown away at your empathy and the fact that you took the time to write this...much respect to you sir...

Careful, that's how he reels you into the basement.

[MuscleInk]

careful, that's how he reels you into the basement.

lmao!!!!

[DAAS]

PS guys its not just the GF thing. that was just an example. there are numerous things going on that are making life hard. Sorry to have pissed anyone off by being human.

[marcus300]

wow marcus, you are a good person, a real class act...im blown away at your empathy and the fact that you took the time to write this...much respect to you sir...

Thanks,
Politicians, investigating detectives, interviewing Officer, barristers, television personalities and many more jobs what need skills at controlling conversations, extracting information and dealing with feelings are all trained in these techniques and they can be used in everyday life situations we come across. I have great skills in them which ive used for many things and they open up a whole new world of amazing structures and techniques what can really help in difficult personal situations. A good book can normally help people who are going through pain who need to control the mind. One of the worst personal situations is the feeling and memories from a past relationship. There is always a good reason why the relationship broke down and you don't want them anymore, but your mind plays games on you will these moeories so you start having feeling what send your head south and in a dark place, these mixed feelings are very powerful. Very powerful emotions and it depends on the person on how well you can cope.

[Fcastle357]

We could all one up each other with sob stories. Not to long ago I was in a bad place and went to someone I looked up to for advice. He knew my situation and how I was feeling. I walked up to him and he asked me how I was doing. I started to tell him how bad I felt. He stopped me a sentence in and said "I don't give a fvck how your feeling I asked how are you doing." He asked if I was taking care of my family and responsibilities. If I was going to work and doing what needed to be done. I said yes. He said than your fine the rest will come. It did.

[DAAS]

Thanks for an actual response. I was actually kinda blown away by the people who simply said "quit being a bitch", as if they've never been in my spot before. I appreciate you taking the time. One reason I posted this on this forum is because Ive found its members to be pretty good bunch of guys. Im working on the mind thing. Im trying to convert my negative energy into determination. I've also been very dedicated to the gym lately, not really making much gains, maybe stress? As AD said I am considering running a cycle. Should put me in a good sense of well being, bring my confidence up, and get me back in the game good. But these seem like the wrong reasons to run a cycle.

Even though your pain may be insignificant to other people and worse things happen, when someone is going through hell the pain is very real and for you its a very dark and emotional time for you. These feelings need addressing and make no mistake you can make yourself feel better and put yourself back on a happier track. Its all to do with controlling your mind and the feelings what come into it at certain times of darkness and pain. Your reliving the good times you had with your ex in your mind, your taking yourself back to time when things were good but you have to remember you broke up for a reason and this is what you must concentrate on rather than the good times.

One thing is for sure you wont carry on being in this dark place, you will move on with your life and start to feel better, you wont be in this situation for the rest of your life but you need to do some mind exercises what will help to control and make all those feelings and memories go away. There are some techniques what if you complete in its entirety will release the power of these negative feelings you keep having. Certain threshold techniques and mind emotion control is what you need to practice but in all honesty I wouldn't like to start showing you these on the open board because I would probably get slaughtered by the guys who think your acting stupid and you should just move on, but every situation is different for everyone.

Maybe reading some self help books on confidence, self control and there are some amazing techniques in the world of NLP which will make you understand and control these feelings your having.

[bikeral]

Dont know how old you are but life has its ups and downs things will get better.

Couple things I do to make me as happy as an idiot.

Always hang out with people that have less then me. makes me appreciate more what I have and never want what I do not. There will always be someone that has more.
Live way below your means. We don't need all that extra crap and owing money is depressing.
Enjoy life and don't make a big deal about things. Time pissed off or depressed is time you will never get back and its just not worth it.

Anyway good luck.

[redz]

I did the best thing I could after a rough break up. I picked up the first hottie I saw at the gym the day after ending it. Hard to dwell on another chick with your dick inside a new broad.

[Fcastle357]

I did the best thing I could after a rough break up. I picked up the first hottie I saw at the gym the day after ending it. Hard to dwell on another chick with your dick inside a new broad.

Hmmmm..... Careful listing to this advice or you may be posting another thread about a pregnant married girlfriend that's crazy.........

[redz]

Hey whatever keeps him going, though I would advise against messing with maried chicks. Never again!

[ghettoboyd]

Hey whatever keeps him going, though I would advise against messing with maried chicks. Never again!

yea redz, I love you man but maybe you should stay out of the relationship advise stuff, ya know lol....

[Hazard]

Everyone has rough patches man..... But if there any piece of advice I can give it's something I've come to realize from my own life and its helped me focus on the gym to get me through.

They can take everything away from you..... They can take your house, your car, your money, and someone can even take your girl. The one thing that no one can take from you is your pride and your body. Hit that gym hard and build a better you because at the end of the day..... The way you look is something no one can touch.

My life took off at 22. I owned a house by 23..... I was making money hand over fist. I got married..... The wife got pregnant and everything was looking great. Then my boss commit fraud, the company folded, my wife got hooked on drugs, I got divorced and became a single dad. I took a low paying job to bring money in and then got laid off so try could hire cheaper labor.

Yet here I am..... 260lbs and a great father. It's all I truely need..... But I keep digging my heels in to provide because I can't let my little one down.

[mikemike12]

This thread is like a megadose of reality. I've been through hard times but nothing nearly as bad as what I've read above.

Have you tried meditating before? It seemed like a lame thing to do at first but since trying it my life has been way better. It improves your mood and focus immensely. What I do is lay down and on my bed with my palms flat, breathe in and breathe out slowly while repeating a positive mantra.

[DAAS]

Thank you guys for your time and sharing. Even though a lot of stuff I already know it helps hearing some one else tell you it. Im actually 25 I was 22 when I joined the forums and it never has updated, regardless I know there will be a time when everything I am going through now will be a faint memory, and Ill be happy. As you all know its just difficult when it is happening. Its bad but it can always be worse and will some day be better. I have the gym, music and a few life long friends. that's all I need really. Im going to set a goal and plow my way through anything that stands in the way. One thing I need to work on is **** what people think of me. And remove all negative people from my life.

[MuscleInk]

Thank you guys for your time and sharing. Even though a lot of stuff I already know it helps hearing some one else tell you it. Im actually 25 I was 22 when I joined the forums and it never has updated, regardless I know there will be a time when everything I am going through now will be a faint memory, and Ill be happy. As you all know its just difficult when it is happening. Its bad but it can always be worse and will some day be better. I have the gym, music and a few life long friends. that's all I need really. Im going to set a goal and plow my way through anything that stands in the way. One thing I need to work on is **** what people think of me. And remove all negative people from my life.

Damn.....I should have entered 25 as my age when I joined. I could be 25 for life!!!!!!

Yes, it's hard to see the positive sometimes when everything seems like its moving against you. I try to remind myself that no matter how hard my life seems, there is always someone who has it harder.

Google, Nick Vujicic

[MuscleInk]

Nick Vujicic

http://youtu.be/2HWrJLTSYcU

[mikemike12]

Nick Vujicic

Right on man. The biggest thing we fitness minded people take for granted is our health and mobility. Bookmarked for when I am being a whiny b****.

[MuscleInk]

Right on man. The biggest thing we fitness minded people take for granted is our health and mobility. Bookmarked for when I am being a whiny b****.

He's inspirational. I love hearing about people that look past limitations and make the most of their lives with what they have and don't worry about what they have not.

Check out the guy in the middle of this picture.

[kelkel]

He's inspirational. I love hearing about people that look past limitations and make the most of their lives with what they have and don't worry about what they have not.

Check out the guy in the middle of this picture.

Wow. Put's things in perspective doesn't it.

[MuscleInk]

Wow. Put's things in perspective doesn't it.

Yes sir. I have been guilty of complaining about what I don't have or how hard things can be rather than appreciate the blessings life has to offer, both large and small.

[Bert]

Just hang in there man. Things will eventually get better. Life sucks sometimes. Are you a good person? Do you feel good about the man you are? If you said yes, then your life will turn around and you will find happiness.

[GSXRvi6]

Rough patches are a part of life, I've been so low I've tasted the metal of a gun (low-t helped there I think) but not anymore, when I hit the very bottom it was like a wake up call.

If you let shit get to you, women, job, broken down car, empty bank account, wtf ever, your giving other people power over your life. Life is too short for that shit, I've only got so much time on this shitty rock and I'm not going to let 10 seconds of it be wasted by some asshole at my office or a woman or a broken down truck or any of that. And the end of the day in the grand scheme of life all of that stuff is nothing, it's material, petty.

If I knew then what I know now, my rough patches wouldn't have felt so rough. Learning to suck-it-the-****-up and move on is part of the process of becoming a man imo. When you make it through a rough patch, sometimes you come out the other side a new person, stronger, without the rough patches you stay soft.

[diesel101]

Here's a little song I wrote you might want to sing it note for note don't worry be happy!