Parenthood

**michael30** · 02-20-2014, 11:25 PM

Hi guys im a single parent my daughter is 10. She is attached to my hip 24/7 i was just curious about what age did your kids start to want nothing to do with you? Im wondering how much longer i get to enjoy the hero stage!

**Bert** · 02-21-2014, 08:08 AM

As long as you are a loving father, she will love you. Unless a hoodrat comes around and steals her from you.

**austinite** · 02-21-2014, 08:29 AM

Originally Posted by AshopRep

As long as you are a loving father, she will love you. Unless a hoodrat comes around and steals her from you.

lmao.

**kelkel** · 02-21-2014, 09:05 AM

Eventually her friends and social life will become more important, unfortunately. You should have a few more hero years left. It'll change when she's a teen.

**Bedford** · 02-21-2014, 09:27 AM

My daughter was the same way with me & that stopped once she got into middle school . Around 12 years old. We just aren't that cool any more to them . They become social butterflies & their world revolves around their friends. She's in college now & I hear a little more from her now & she still lives with me. But given a few more years & I feel she'll come back around fully. It wont be like childhood but the connection will be strong again once they find out we were right about stuff all along. It's the circle of life.

**Zodiac82** · 02-21-2014, 12:09 PM

12-13

**Rwy** · 02-21-2014, 02:10 PM

Originally Posted by Bedford

My daughter was the same way with me & that stopped once she got into middle school . Around 12 years old. We just aren't that cool any more to them . They become social butterflies & their world revolves around their friends. She's in college now & I hear a little more from her now & she still lives with me. But given a few more years & I feel she'll come back around fully. It wont be like childhood but the connection will be strong again once they find out we were right about stuff all along. It's the circle of life.

The circle of life... When friends become family and family become friends....

**Igifuno** · 02-21-2014, 05:08 PM

My girls are 11 and 15.. Neither are attached to the hip but both still love to hang out, and I hope that never stops.

They were both 10-11 when their independence started to show. I still baby them a bit but they let me know if/when I'm overbearing.

**Giggle** · 02-21-2014, 06:32 PM

I do want to say that girls generally adore their dads - even during the time when dads aren't real cool. Just let her know you're there for her anytime she wants to talk, and you'll still be a hero!

**Times Roman** · 02-21-2014, 08:14 PM

Originally Posted by AshopRep

As long as you are a loving father, she will love you. Unless a hoodrat comes around and steals her from you.

not to speak for others, but I believe what the OP is referring to is at what stage does a child transition from the concept of identification through the parent, to self identification.

and the answer to that, is that it depends on the child.

one big clue, if she is still identifying through you, is when she begins to notice the make up isle, and noticing boys.

**Bert** · 02-21-2014, 10:09 PM

My 13 year old still worships me, says his mom, but doesn't act like that around me. He loves it when I show up at school, because I attract a large crowd and he becomes the kid with the ProWrastling dad. Op, you should, and seem to be appreciative of what you have. I worry all the time about my baby going away to college and what my life will be like.

**Zodiac82** · 02-22-2014, 08:31 AM

I think its very different between boys and girls and for that matter who they gravitate towards.. it's more of who they will have more "in common" with. I think at a certain age it becomes uncool for our daughters to be seen with there dads ...and therefore spend more time bein with there moms and doin what is considered feminine things...
As with our sons....they want to be around there dad doing more masculine things or for that matter doin things guys/boys do..like playin video games and things
There will always be love there but things will surely change from how kids used to hang with there parents

**austinite** · 02-22-2014, 08:33 AM

I'll never have kids, but the folks I know that have daughters, well, they're Daddy's little girl forever.

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**Igifuno** · 02-22-2014, 01:27 PM

Originally Posted by austinite

I'll never have kids, but the folks I know that have daughters, well, they're Daddy's little girl forever.

Amen brother. I sure as hell hope you're right.

**Igifuno** · 02-22-2014, 01:29 PM

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**lovbyts** · 02-22-2014, 09:44 PM

Mine was at around 14 or 15. She was of course smarter than me and knew more about the world. I didnt try to hard to convince her different and let her make her own mistakes for the most part. There are some I should have stepped in and taken charge but in the end they are her choices and some have to learn the hard way.

She is now 20 and has changed her views about me a lot and what I do and dont know and frequently seeks me for advice (yes I know...). It's never easy being a parent and no 2 kids are alike so anyone who says you should have or they would have most likely have no clue.

Dont think to much about it. Enjoy the time while you have it. We all cherish the good memories later and it does not good worrying about what might happen or when.