4 years with gf down the drain

[ickythump]

Think my relationship of 4 years is ending, been thru a lot with my fiancee and it appears she isn't going to be able to get back to that place where you have a connection worth a lifetime with someone. Bittersweet, I've been unhappy too but it's strange to see it ending. Told her if she hasn't figured it out in a year then I'll figure it out for you, we should end it, she cried but didn't try to stop me. Sucks cuz I will have to live in my freaking dad's basement, so if I want to see my son I'll have to not have him spend the night. I guess nothing is set in stone yet but, I feel like I've wasted my time. Loss of sleep and stress definitely affected my cycle too :/ guess I just needed a place to put this, can't do it in Facebook lol

[austinite]

Sorry man. It's not your fault. Listen to me, it's not your fault, Icky. It's not your fault.

[Euroholic]

Plenty of quiff out there mate, go enjoy it and forget about this you will be fine!!!!!

[DAAS]

Sry bro. Nothing sucks then saying goodbye to a relationship. Still bugs me from time to time and mine ended 6 months ago. But its so better things can come your way

[chi]

sorry to hear stay strong

[Black]

Sucks man. Probably for the better in the long run, but that doesn't presently help. Long monogamous relationships baffle me sometimes. Most people strive for them and then are demolished (not speaking directly icky) when they fail. Humans want change. They want to experience life. Some grow together, some grow apart.

[Euroholic]

^^^^agree. Why limit your self?

[JohnnyVegas]

Holy crap. I just went through EXACTLY the same thing yesterday. For me it is a wife of ten years. There is a teeny, tiny sliver of hope for us but I don't think we will make it.

Here is the deal: you don't want to be with someone that you don't have that connect with. If something has been lost and you aren't in a place where you can get it back, well, you are both better off finding happiness somewhere else...even though it is going to suck for a little while.

Hope you can fix it if that is the best thing. Hope you can move on quickly if that is your best chance of being happy.

[lovbyts]

Seems more breakups right after Valentines day.

[Euroholic]

Seems more breakups right after Valentines day.

Dont piss your wife off now that she has that glock

[lovbyts]

Dont piss your wife off now that she has that glock

I'm more scared of her with a knife than a gun. Asian women are known for cutting of certain body parts of their husbands when they are asleep if they are pissed at them; making it hard for them to piss in the future.

she was quite happy with her gift also and has been reading her handbook for the last several nights asking me questions. Her disassemble and cleaning class is in a couple of weeks and 2nd shooting class.

[< <Samson> >]

Sucks man,

I put my woman through a lot, but she stuck through. Feelings are crazy shit, I see people go through this kind of crap all around me all the time.

Everyone that I have known, aside from my parents have split up. Married or not

People just grow apart - Or one goes south & does something bad enough for the other one to wig out


It'll be aight, feel lucky that you have no kids together. It will make shit 100x worse

[ickythump]

Sucks man,

I put my woman through a lot, but she stuck through. Feelings are crazy shit, I see people go through this kind of crap all around me all the time.

Everyone that I have known, aside from my parents have split up. Married or not

People just grow apart - Or one goes south & does something bad enough for the other one to wig out


It'll be aight, feel lucky that you have no kids together. It will make shit 100x worse

We have a 3 year old lol so idk how I'll manage this, probably stay with my pops for a bit and get a small place...I live in a small town she works at the local bar (part time, she goes to school) so I'll inevitably hear about whatever more antics come from that stupid bar, had some problems already, that's what happens when period drink booze and try to fvck each other all day

[ickythump]

Holy crap. I just went through EXACTLY the same thing yesterday. For me it is a wife of ten years. There is a teeny, tiny sliver of hope for us but I don't think we will make it.

Here is the deal: you don't want to be with someone that you don't have that connect with. If something has been lost and you aren't in a place where you can get it back, well, you are both better off finding happiness somewhere else...even though it is going to suck for a little while.

Hope you can fix it if that is the best thing. Hope you can move on quickly if that is your best chance of being happy.

I'm hoping for the same, thanks man

[ickythump]

Sorry man. It's not your fault. Listen to me, it's not your fault, Icky. It's not your fault.

I know it's not

Yea I know it isn't





AHHHH IT'S JUST SO HARD AUST!!!

[ickythump]

Feelings are stupid lol I tell you all what's what I'm not getting into another relationship, the only pain I want needs to come from leg day

[DSM4Life]

Now that you two aren't a couple you can post pictures of her.

[--->>405<<---]

sorry man.. weve all been there. i know if i were to ever get a divorce i would NEVER get married again.

[Hazard]

sorry man.. weve all been there. i know if i were to ever get a divorce i would NEVER get married again.

I said that too...... But I found one that's worth doing it again. I never thought I would

[--->>405<<---]

I said that too...... But I found one that's worth doing it again. I never thought I would

yea i probably would too. we guys like to talk a lot of shit u know

glad u found u a good one. i have a good one too..

[DontTaseMeBro]

That sucks, Icky. Bro – I had damn near the same situation. I was with a girl for almost 5 years. We decided to spend some time figuring out if we were supposed to be together and damn if she didn’t move some dude in and marry him 6 weeks later! We live in a tiny town and I had to see her / them damn near every day. It sucks, but better to waste 4 years than 14. Stay strong bro, and work on making things work for you and your son – that’s all you can do.

[GettingReal]

sorry man.. weve all been there. i know if i were to ever get a divorce i would NEVER get married again.

Honestly I have told myself that too. But doing my best to avoid it all.

That sucks, Icky. Bro – I had damn near the same situation. I was with a girl for almost 5 years. We decided to spend some time figuring out if we were supposed to be together and damn if she didn’t move some dude in and marry him 6 weeks later! We live in a tiny town and I had to see her / them damn near every day. It sucks, but better to waste 4 years than 14. Stay strong bro, and work on making things work for you and your son – that’s all you can do.

I had similar happen, waste of 5 years for her to get married right away. but at least she moved across the country for him.

I know people say sometimes you have to just move on. But honestly if both both sides want to be together, many problems can be fixed, we've had rough spots, but when we worked through them things were so much better than before when things were already good.

[austinite]

Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me.

[army_cobra]

sucks to hear man but it happens must have not meant to be.

[ickythump]

I get a lot of attention from lady folk these days so, I'll probably do the normal guy thing and bury my feelings in some supple 21 year old girl....actually, I'm starting to feel better already lol

[BG]

Super tough. Take your time, let you emotions take their course. Worry about getting your own place and getting the new way of life right with your son. If you're ex starts doing dumb crap it Will make it that much easier to totally write her off, that's what will need to happen.

[JohnnyVegas]

Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me.

My first divorce was the best thing to happen to me. Having problems with my current marriage but I actually hope to hold this one together. If not, I know I will find happiness with someone else. I do not fear divorce since it just sets us on a new path to possible happiness.

[ecruz]

you know bro so many people go and run to the rebound (bar,club,previous ex's, newchick) imho this is the time for you to get to knoe yourself and even some of the mistakes that lead to this. im not sayying its your fault im only saying that there are always subtle cues and signs that could help you in your next relationship. bro break ups sucks and the fact that you have a child make it no easier.. if i could say anything it would be Not to make any foolish mistakes right now. your in a state of mind that wants instant relief to help with this pain. deal with this all the best way you can and youll come out a better man..

[gearbox]

We have a 3 year old lol so idk how I'll manage this, probably stay with my pops for a bit and get a small place...I live in a small town she works at the local bar (part time, she goes to school) so I'll inevitably hear about whatever more antics come from that stupid bar, had some problems already, that's what happens when period drink booze and try to fvck each other all day

If it was me I'd get some help together and see if you can grow together for your son! He deserves to have a mom and dad under the same roof. Not packing his suit case every 5 days to go sleep and dad's house.
But if the two adults can't seem to not stop arguing under the same roof that is not good either. Haha

[Gaspari1255]

Any woman that I have ever dated that works in a bar, club, or nightlife industry in general (which happens to be A LOT) has NEVER ended well. It seems like a relationship is just a means to an end any more. You shouldn't have to fight for a sport in her heart because you already earned it. The only way you can control a woman's actions is by controlling your own actions. Make her contact you. The ball is in her court now.

[ickythump]

You're absolutely right ecruz, I may also be talking a bit of crap tho lol

Gearbox, we haven't completely written it off yet so I am totally ready to try to work, it's just I've been trying and been told it was working only to find out it's not been

Bronzer, it's definitely in her court now!

[BG]

Mind if I ask what's been going on in the bar she works at? You said earlier things have started already.

[SteveUK]

Think my relationship of 4 years is ending, been thru a lot with my fiancee and it appears she isn't going to be able to get back to that place where you have a connection worth a lifetime with someone. Bittersweet, I've been unhappy too but it's strange to see it ending. Told her if she hasn't figured it out in a year then I'll figure it out for you, we should end it, she cried but didn't try to stop me. Sucks cuz I will have to live in my freaking dad's basement, so if I want to see my son I'll have to not have him spend the night. I guess nothing is set in stone yet but, I feel like I've wasted my time. Loss of sleep and stress definitely affected my cycle too :/ guess I just needed a place to put this, can't do it in Facebook lol

Get on or under another girl asap or both.

[Bert]

Get on or under another girl asap or both.

That's the quickest way to forget. But when you have to go home to a lonely bed afterward, you will cry like a bitch.

[ickythump]

Yea it's so strange...I obv find the idea of slaying strange to be quite enticing, but yea I also don't want to be alone lol

[ickythump]

Mind if I ask what's been going on in the bar she works at? You said earlier things have started already.

Well BG, let me start by saying I'm very ill tempered, and with the short relationship getting us a child 4 months in we were both freaking out, I treated her quite poorly...

She developed feelings for someone there (a patron, small bar small town...) and that was almost 1.5 years ago, then about 8 months ago, after I'd proposed, she made out with him, 2occasions, and was texting him. Now, she's bad at communicating, I didn't know the proposal would be too little too late, and she was freaking out, understandable.

She went beyond not communicating and has been avoiding spending time with me, when she knew we needed to talk, and we've spent a year with different views on the relationship. She recently was staying out after work and spent ZERO time with me (why I'd ended things as of now) so obv I'm suspicious of that. And there's rumors of infidelity (ok well making out with dudes) but from a source that's very hard to trust

[GirlyGymRat]

Don't consider the time wasted…but time gained. You would much rather face this now then later after 6 or 10 years. Don't deny your feelings. Change/transistions are hard. Keep that chin up and hit that squat rack!

[skaz915]

Pretty sure ill be in the same boat once I tell my gf of 4 years I juice and like to burn plants in my spare time

[gearbox]

Well BG, let me start by saying I'm very ill tempered, and with the short relationship getting us a child 4 months in we were both freaking out, I treated her quite poorly...

She developed feelings for someone there (a patron, small bar small town...) and that was almost 1.5 years ago, then about 8 months ago, after I'd proposed, she made out with him, 2occasions, and was texting him. Now, she's bad at communicating, I didn't know the
proposal would be too little too late, and she was freaking out, understandable.


She went beyond not communicating and has been avoiding spending time with me, when she knew we needed to talk, and we've spent a year with different views on the relationship. She recently was staying out after work and spent ZERO time with me (why I'd ended things as of now) so obv I'm suspicious of that. And there's rumors of infidelity (ok well making out with dudes) but from a source that's very hard to trust

Well I wanted you to make it work for your son. But if she is out making out with son guy she obviously does not care about her son and his father Living under the same roof. She is selfish and immature to be raising a child. Both your lives should revolve around his and what is best for him. Maybe together you can both figure this Out But I Doubt it. Sad we live in a society of instant gratification and your son has to live with yours and your gf mistakes.

[GirlyGymRat]

I didn't realize you have a son 2gether. Sorry that you can't make it work but both have to be willing to try.