My Husband (now Ex-Husband) Steroid Use...

[DiJ]

*SORRY FOR THE MIS-SPELLING OF STEROID IN THE TITLE*

Hello, I am recently divorced... My now ex-husband became a different man! One day just up and decided he wanted a divorce. After he told me that, then he began to have horrible aggression, mood swings, decided he wanted the gym and nothing else. One day he loved me and was not sure about the divorce, next day he wanted the divorce. It was up and down everyday and still is!

I never cared about him going to the gym 2x a day...etc. but he said that he needs to dedicate all of his time to it. Long, long story short I found out that most of this started when he began taking steriods. All I know is that he was/is taking D-Bol. I am sure there is more to it, but that is all I know for sure. (He worked in a different state so we only saw each other for a few days every six weeks so I was not there to really see everything.)

I am very worried about him and not sure if there is anything I can do. I want the man that is somehwere in there back. I know he has to be the one to realize what this is doing to him. And yes he had a little bit of a temper before taking steriods, but not as bad as it is now. He also comes from a family that has major addiction problems. Any help or insight to this would be helpful. Thank you!

[kronik420]

Move on..

[Cole77]

Sounds like there were bigger issues at play......

Take kronik's advice

[ChestNBack]

wasn't there a thread just like this a couple months ago

[derekkpapa1]

are you a female or male
send me your pic I am available and I am a winning I till you. Straight A student I never get in trouble and I have great posture like a show dog.

[BigBen86]

get on some gear your self, do some research and show him who's boss...

[redz]

Forget him he probably had a mid life crisis and got in shape to try and find a young slut. Respect yourself and move on.

[bullshark99]

Lotta non-sense above but if you read between the lines some validity as well. First, steroids do affect people differently and depending on what compounds and dosage ur man may be a monster or maybe you are over doing it?? Only you know they answer there, addiction problems, man, almost everyone can relate one way or another. If so, he needs to recognize and want help. Mid life crisis?? Didn't see your age but who cares, that's over rated, dramatized as far as I'm concerned. I feel ya, ur in a tough spot looking for answers or advice but I don't think anyone can really guide you on this one. Best I could tell ya, have a heart to heart and if that don't work, start planning YOUR future. Not what you prob wanna hear but take care of yourself and it's funny how things come full circle sometimes. Best of luck!

[Bonaparte]

As you implied, there is more at play here than steroids. Sure, the hormonal swings likely exacerbated an existing issue, but he was likely imbalanced to begin with. Unless he decides to seek psychological help, I don't see this turning around.

[qscgugcsq]

Asshole with steroids, asshole without. As simple as that.

Steroid may have given him the gut to drop you but if so, it was already in his mind.

Move on...

[Oki-Des]

Good luck and keep in mind, steroids are not addictive, like other commonly known addictive drugs. But, the lifestyle can become addictive and steroids can make people who are a jerk even more of a jerk. If you want him back, I hate to say it, but the best thing you can do now is act like you do not care and dont want him back. If he thinks you want to get back together, he will know you will probably be waiting for him when he is done doing whatever he wants to do. Go have some fun yourself, and do not think about how to get back together. Think about what you want to do and do that instead. Good luck!

[BG]

Moved this crap to the lounge should get more action here.

[Cuz]

something doesnt sound right here...

[austinite]

Hello from Texas!

[derekkpapa1]

Hello from Texas!

Hello from up north (cold and snow)

[Cuz]

Hello from Texas!

Hows the weather in Cialis?

[austinite]

Hows the weather in Cialis?

Nice and hard, my friend. Nice and hard.

[Cuz]

Nice and hard, my friend. Nice and hard.

lmfao!

[lovbyts]

Its always nice to have something to blame but it wasn't the steroids so look for something else.

[AD]

Its always nice to have something to blame but it wasn't the steroids so look for something else.

strongly agree

[DAAS]

DBOL is known to cause temper but it won't cause him to want a divorce. There is a underlying reason why he would want this. The closest I cant relate this to steroids is now he is in better shape and has a lot more confidence. He may have wanted one before and now he feels like he could find someone else easier, or maybe he thinks he can do better now. Regardless this must suck for you and I am sorry. Obviously when this situation is in someone elses life it is easy to say move on. Have you asked to try consoling or asked why he wants a divorce?

[Bert]

Sounds like a douche, you can do better.

[DiJ]

Thank you to everyone for your replies. To answer a few of the questions... I am 29 and he is 27. We were together for 5 years. He decided that the gym and gains was all he wanted to focus on and not responsibility of marriage is why he said he wanted divorce. This truly came out of no where. No, I am not looking for an excuse as to what happened in our marriage and not trying to blame steroids. I just know they played a big part of it. Although he is now my ex, I still really love and care about him (of course I want him back), but most of all just worried about him. Thank you all again!

[lovbyts]

If you want him back then get into a fitness lifestyles and it may work out.

Still saying the steroids are a big part of it is no different than saying if he had bought a corvette that its a big part of the reason he left.

Again, it has nothing to do with the steroids. They are only a tool to help him get in the shapre he feels he wants to be in.

[Honkey_Kong]

Get over it, he's gone. He probably hasn't wanted you for a long time, he just didn't have the balls to tell you it.

What you should do is just lawyer up and get some vagina money out of the deal. Trust me, a year from now, you'll be saying Honkey Kong was right.

[John Andrew]

Sorry Lady,

Sometimes we men can do very nasty things. I know, my last wife asked me when I was going to stop hurting people. I joke about addicted to wedding cake, I used alcoholism as an excuse, I even caught a plane to Bangkok and after 4 weeks rang my wife! I was supposed to be in Sydney. Fortunately for me, I have been forgiven. I was alcoholic, had money and was stupid and young!

Its only now at 59 I am stable inside myself, I have a wonderful wife, I am faithful and live in Bangkok. I teach children not to be the way I was.

He is not doing this because of the steroids, he is doing what he wants.

You must now find a new life and do as you want. The last thing you should want is him back, he will see that as permission to behave even worse. I hope there was never any violence: Was there?

Good Luck.

John

[< <Samson> >]

Apparently your husband was a tool looking for something more. At least that's the excuse he gave you it seems


Move on, it's not the sauce that made him like this. It's himself - the aas use does aid ones personality in a few different ways. As in this case, not always the positive.


Go find another guy, there's more than a few out there

[Black]

*SORRY FOR THE MIS-SPELLING OF STEROID IN THE TITLE*

Hello, I am recently divorced... My now ex-husband became a different man! One day just up and decided he wanted a divorce. After he told me that, then he began to have horrible aggression, mood swings, decided he wanted the gym and nothing else. One day he loved me and was not sure about the divorce, next day he wanted the divorce. It was up and down everyday and still is!

I never cared about him going to the gym 2x a day...etc. but he said that he needs to dedicate all of his time to it. Long, long story short I found out that most of this started when he began taking steriods. All I know is that he was/is taking D-Bol. I am sure there is more to it, but that is all I know for sure. (He worked in a different state so we only saw each other for a few days every six weeks so I was not there to really see everything.)

I am very worried about him and not sure if there is anything I can do. I want the man that is somehwere in there back. I know he has to be the one to realize what this is doing to him. And yes he had a little bit of a temper before taking steriods, but not as bad as it is now. He also comes from a family that has major addiction problems. Any help or insight to this would be helpful. Thank you!

Maybe you guys missed it, but I'm pretty sure this might be a major factor.

[lovbyts]

Gee isnt there some saying about . Long distance relationships? I know that would be a deal breaker for me.

[DiJ]

Yes, long distance relationships - especially marriages are rough. We never had an issue until he started the steroids so that is why I was wondering if they played a part - just a part in his decision for the divorce. He does not seem in his right mind ever since then is all.... I know he could have just changed or fooled me for all the years we were together?!? Just seemed coincidental that it all started around the time he began steroids. Thanks for your input.

[Honkey_Kong]

Yes, long distance relationships - especially marriages are rough. We never had an issue until he started the steroids so that is why I was wondering if they played a part - just a part in his decision for the divorce. He does not seem in his right mind ever since then is all.... I know he could have just changed or fooled me for all the years we were together?!? Just seemed coincidental that it all started around the time he began steroids. Thanks for your input.

You ever think that the lashing out and the steroids were a symptom of him needing to leave you?

[lovbyts]

Again, replace the word steroid with corvette in every sentence and it will make the same amount of sense.

Maybe say peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. In other words it has nothing to do with the steroids. People use the excuse on tv just as an out. It is now why anything happened.

[GirlyGymRat]

Distance makes the heart grow fonder OF THE ONE YOU ARE WITH.

[lovbyts]

Distance makes the heart grow fonder OF THE ONE YOU ARE WITH.

Who made that up, a woman? Yeah maybe for a short time but in most cases people like laying with a warm body and if the one who you want is not there then its the one who is there who do for now.

Relationships are hard enough to make work without adding distance between two people unless its unavoidable.

[Hazard]

If you built a strong loving relationship then one has to go overseas or whatever for their career then yes - the distance can work and you may grow stronger together upon return.

It's not good if you havnt built that foundation tho

[skaz915]

I know when I started getting into the juice during and after I wanted nothing to do w my gf. I wax concerned with my diet the gym and checking out other girls. The new gained confidence messed w my head and didn't realize it too much until we got in a huge fight about it

[probuild42]

Again, replace the word steroid with corvette in every sentence and it will make the same amount of sense.

Maybe say peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. In other words it has nothing to do with the steroids. People use the excuse on tv just as an out. It is now why anything happened.

I love peanut butter and jelly sandwhiches. Peanut butter and jelly sandwhiches really help me pack on lean mass. Peanut butter and Jelly sandwhichs also have been very enjoyable in the bedroom for my gf and I!

[GirlyGymRat]

If you built a strong loving relationship then one has to go overseas or whatever for their career then yes - the distance can work and you may grow stronger together upon return.

It's not good if you havnt built that foundation tho

A strong foundation is critical. Sometimes its not enough.

[GirlyGymRat]

Who made that up, a woman? .

Me. And yes I am female. I do wear pink and high heels. Lol

[< <Samson> >]

I know when I started getting into the juice during and after I wanted nothing to do w my gf. I wax concerned with my diet the gym and checking out other girls. The new gained confidence messed w my head and didn't realize it too much until we got in a huge fight about it

This exactly covers my train of thought

It's not the sauce directly - - - But, I changed the outlook of myself in return. Not, negatively by any means. My confidence is just there now, it wasn't before. It's all in the head - So yes, a mental change is possible from AAs use. Not actually caused by the substance, not a side effect - But, something more. I know it doesn't happen to all people(men & women run sauce). But, to some it may - shit, like this can be caused by something else also. It's just whatever made you not have confidence is there now.