second date ideas?

[musclestack]

Ok, so I'm probably setting myself up to get flamed here, but I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now...like a long time; at least nothing serious. So, I asked someone out about a month ago, and all went really well. We went out to dinner at a fancy restaurant, then had a couple drinks at a nice cocktail bar. It was a bit more formal; I wore khakis, a nice sweat shirt, and dress shoes.

Fast forward. We're going out again this weekend. What are some good date ideas that won't completely replicate the first date? I haven't been around her long enough to find out extra curricular activities that she enjoys doing, and I don't really want to ask her now, since I think I should be the one to take the lead and make the plans. Asking her what we should do, I think, would just make me look like I have no idea what I'm doing and show a lack of confidence. I live in a bigger city, so I'm pretty well open to all ideas here. I'd really like to take her to a concert (they're always fun), but there's nobody playing this weekend, so I'll save that one for later if I see her again. I DO NOT want to take her to a movie; I've always felt that was too cliche, and who wants to sit and watch a movie and not be able to have a conversation while it's playing?

Really looking for some advice here. And also, what should the dress attire be on a second date? Does it need to be as formal as the first? I guess that kind of depends on where we're going but still, are second dates generally as formal as the first date? Would like to get opinions from the female members as well. GGR, where are you?!

[RaginCajun]

what are some of your hobbies?

what are some things that you gathered from your first date that she was into?

[bsh]

Don't over think the situation... Keep it simple! Cook her a nice meal while she sips wine and is amazed by ur kitchen skills or something like that... I personally like to do something competitive with my girls, go-cart racing, bowling, etc...
I found if I go all out at first there's nothing to build up to later on... Just saying!

[musclestack]

what are some of your hobbies?

what are some things that you gathered from your first date that she was into?

I lift! Haha so does she, which is how I met her, but I'm not going to take her to the gym lol! I know she likes to travel. She's from Poland, and I spent many years living in Africa, which gave us a lot to talk about on our first date. But realistically, I'm not going to fly her somewhere Saturday night. What have you done in the past on your second dates?

[derekkpapa1]

comedy show?
dancing?
What does she enjoy?
take her shopping with your credit card

[musclestack]

Don't over think the situation... Keep it simple! Cook her a nice meal while she sips wine and is amazed by ur kitchen skills or something like that... I personally like to do something competitive with my girls, go-cart racing, bowling, etc...
I found if I go all out at first there's nothing to build up to later on... Just saying!

Good point. I wouldn't say I went all out on the first date; after all, it was just dinner and drinks. It's going to be night time, so go-carting is out. Knowing her, I don't think she would be into bowling anyway.

[musclestack]

comedy show?
dancing?
What does she enjoy?
take her shopping with your credit card

I think I'll wait on that! Good other suggestions though! I know she likes traveling and working out. Come to think of it, I know she likes to dance, however...I don't. I'm a horrible dancer (if that's what you could even call it watching me), and I really don't enjoy it at all.

[musclestack]

I appreciate the suggestions guys. Please keep them coming! I'm bound to hear something that catches my eye!

[DOSA]

what part of country you in buddy?

[RaginCajun]

go look for a local dancing class and take her there. afterwards, either invite her over and cook her a meal (and let her help you so you can spank her with the spatula!), or go out to a casual place to eat, and always make sure you have dessert!

what about taking her to a gun range? let her feel that power in her hands!

[musclestack]

what part of country you in buddy?

Midwest

[musclestack]

go look for a local dancing class and take her there. afterwards, either invite her over and cook her a meal (and let her help you so you can spank her with the spatula!), or go out to a casual place to eat, and always make sure you have dessert!

what about taking her to a gun range? let her feel that power in her hands!

Hmm...that would work, if only I could cook! I've thought about the gun range idea. There's one just a few minutes drive from my house, but this will be at night, and they'll be closed. There's definitely going to be dinner involved; I was just thinking we'd go to a restaurant again, but I'd like to do something different after/before dinner so it's not exactly like the first date. Ughh..why is this so difficult?

Are the things you're mentioning things you've done personally in the past with your dates?

[RaginCajun]

Hmm...that would work, if only I could cook! I've thought about the gun range idea. There's one just a few minutes drive from my house, but this will be at night, and they'll be closed. There's definitely going to be dinner involved; I was just thinking we'd go to a restaurant again, but I'd like to do something different after/before dinner so it's not exactly like the first date. Ughh..why is this so difficult?

Are the things you're mentioning things you've done personally in the past with your dates?

yes, i have done all of these things, but i can cook! haha!

are there any amusement parks around? or local fairs?

[jasc]

Dave and Busters. Drinks, games, good atmosphere.. Makes for natural flirting and a little competitve behavior.

[GirlyGymRat]

My first thought was gun range.....

Second choice is a comedy show or outdoor skating rink in town is also classy and romantic.
Feather bowling is different. Perhaps a theater show like magician but you may not like for same reason as movie. Professional Basketball or hockey game gives you opportunity to chat. You can also do a night club. How about show at casino?

Don't stress over the clothes. Just be you and be comfortable. Dress for the event and be a gentleman. Hold doors open and hold hands. Very sweet.

[musclestack]

Dave and Busters. Drinks, games, good atmosphere.. Makes for natural flirting and a little competitve behavior.

Hmm...something to look into. We have one here, but is it a place where 30 year olds would go on a date?

[musclestack]

My first thought was gun range.....

Second choice is a comedy show or outdoor skating rink in town is also classy and romantic.
Feather bowling is different. Perhaps a theater show like magician but you may not like for same reason as movie. Professional Basketball or hockey game gives you opportunity to chat. You can also do a night club. How about show at casino?

Don't stress over the clothes. Just be you and be comfortable. Dress for the event and be a gentleman. Hold doors open and hold hands. Very sweet.

Well, there you are! Yea, I checked the hours for the gun range, and they close at 5PM on Saturday. And I can't skate!! I may need to learn sometime in the near future.

Good idea on the hockey game. There's a venue really close to where I live that has professional hockey games, and I remember her saying that that's the only sport she likes to watch. I'm not one for night clubs at all.

Oh, and I always open doors and act like a gentleman!

[Motardpdx]

Hi, a lot of great suggestions but I like cooking a simple meal on the first date. Allows you to create an atmosphere, cook one of your favorite items, have a few drinks, and casual conversation. Later, go out for a decadent dessert and share it together. They say sex begins in the kitchen...just saying.

[< <Samson> >]

Depends on your & her's interests bro


Mine maybe a whole lot diff than yours - Gun range maybe awesome to some & a hell no to others

[musclestack]

Hi, a lot of great suggestions but I like cooking a simple meal on the first date. Allows you to create an atmosphere, cook one of your favorite items, have a few drinks, and casual conversation. Later, go out for a decadent dessert and share it together. They say sex begins in the kitchen...just saying.

Well, I can cook my 'bodybuilding' foods no problem! Cooking dinner for a date? Not so much lol! I must learn!

[musclestack]

Depends on your & her's interests bro


Mine maybe a whole lot diff than yours - Gun range maybe awesome to some & a hell no to others

Very true. I'm going to have to think hard on this for the next couple of days..

[GirlyGymRat]

Well, I can cook my 'bodybuilding' foods no problem! Cooking dinner for a date? Not so much lol! I must learn!

Sign up for a cooking class together!

[GirlyGymRat]

Wine tasting event!!!!!

[kelkel]

I'm going to have to think hard on..

Hopefully she is too.

[--->>405<<---]

is there any reason it has to be at night? why not a saturday afternoon? if ur in a big city, surely they have some outdoor stuff going on... maybe u could go downtown (assuming u have one) and find stuff going on and do it.

personally, IMO, people put a lot of unnecessary pressure on themselves in the beginning to make this great impression when actually i think ud do good to just be urself and allow for a little flexibility man.. after all, u want her to like you for you. just being together around other people outside on a nice day doing whatever seems like itd be good to me. ditch the pressure because it can affect how u act in a negative way. if she really likes you, itll work out fine.

on a side note, the comedy thing might be a good idea too. maybe u could meet around 16:00 ish or something and hang out , then catch a show and grab a later dinner. being so deliberate to put together a formal itinerary, IMO, will appear obvious as if ur trying too hard. girls like guys who are confident in themselves.. after all... ur fcuking musclestack man... that should be good enuff!

[GirlyGymRat]

is there any reason it has to be at night? why not a saturday afternoon? if ur in a big city, surely they have some outdoor stuff going on... maybe u could go downtown (assuming u have one) and find stuff going on and do it. personally, IMO, people put a lot of unnecessary pressure on themselves in the beginning to make this great impression when actually i think ud do good to just be urself and allow for a little flexibility man.. after all, u want her to like you for you. just being together around other people outside on a nice day doing whatever seems like itd be good to me. ditch the pressure because it can affect how u act in a negative way. if she really likes you, itll work out fine. on a side note, the comedy thing might be a good idea too. maybe u could meet around 16:00 ish or something and hang out , then catch a show and grab a later dinner. being so deliberate to put together a formal itinerary, IMO, will appear obvious as if ur trying too hard. girls like guys who are confident in themselves.. after all... ur fcuking musclestack man... that should be good enuff!

What he said.

[Hazard]

Has she told you everywhere she has traveled?

I would find a restaurant with food from an area she hasn't been too. Food is one of the best ways, IMO, to experience a culture. You'll have a nice meal that's not the norm and you'll have more time to talk.

[GirlyGymRat]

Has she told you everywhere she has traveled? I would find a restaurant with food from an area she hasn't been too. Food is one of the best ways, IMO, to experience a culture. You'll have a nice meal that's not the norm and you'll have more time to talk.

^^^Something different. I just go to a bar and shoot some pool. Not that I know what I am doing....but guy can teach me

[Hazard]

"I wanted to bring you here because I know you love to travel. Last time we went out I don't recall you saying you've been to the Middle East. I love food and I just think its a great way to experience a culture. I know it's not like flying there and immersing yourself in the country but its a great way to peak your curiosity. It's just a taste of what the country has to offer. Pun intended!"

Substitute the country/region and the restaurant for one she hasn't been too. IMO it shows thought and also tells her you were listening to her on the last date.

[Hazard]

^^^Something different. I just go to a bar and shoot some pool. Not that I know what I am doing....but guy can teach me

Lol or that....

"Hold the cue stick just like this..... Okay good. Now let me stand behind you and guide your hands......"

[GirlyGymRat]

"I wanted to bring you here because I know you love to travel. Last time we went out I don't recall you saying you've been to the Middle East. I love food and I just think its a great way to experience a culture. I know it's not like flying there and immersing yourself in the country but its a great way to peak your curiosity. It's just a taste of what the country has to offer. Pun intended!" Substitute the country/region and the restaurant for one she hasn't been too. IMO it shows thought and also tells her you were listening to her on the last date.

So smooth....

[GirlyGymRat]

Lol or that.... "Hold the cue stick just like this..... Okay good. Now let me stand behind you and guide your hands......"

That's what I'm talking about....bring cupped by a hot guy with muscles!!! Oh yeah baby!!!!

[Jesusbrah]

[musclestack]

is there any reason it has to be at night? why not a saturday afternoon? if ur in a big city, surely they have some outdoor stuff going on... maybe u could go downtown (assuming u have one) and find stuff going on and do it.

personally, IMO, people put a lot of unnecessary pressure on themselves in the beginning to make this great impression when actually i think ud do good to just be urself and allow for a little flexibility man.. after all, u want her to like you for you. just being together around other people outside on a nice day doing whatever seems like itd be good to me. ditch the pressure because it can affect how u act in a negative way. if she really likes you, itll work out fine.

on a side note, the comedy thing might be a good idea too. maybe u could meet around 16:00 ish or something and hang out , then catch a show and grab a later dinner. being so deliberate to put together a formal itinerary, IMO, will appear obvious as if ur trying too hard. girls like guys who are confident in themselves.. after all... ur fcuking musclestack man... that should be good enuff!

Hahahaha! Good point!

And yea, I'm probably looking way too far into this. Just been out of the scene for a long time, so I figured I'd get some advice from my 'family' here lol.

[musclestack]

Has she told you everywhere she has traveled?

I would find a restaurant with food from an area she hasn't been too. Food is one of the best ways, IMO, to experience a culture. You'll have a nice meal that's not the norm and you'll have more time to talk.

Yes, I know everywhere she's traveled. Funny that you mention this; the first date we went on, I took her to an Argentinian restaurant. I knew the food would be good because I've been to Buenos Aires before. She loved it.

[musclestack]

^^^Something different. I just go to a bar and shoot some pool. Not that I know what I am doing....but guy can teach me

You know, she actually did say she likes to shoot pool, come to think of it. Sometimes my memory just needs to be jogged by people throwing out ideas. Thanks! I'll keep this in mind too.

[musclestack]

That's what I'm talking about....bring cupped by a hot guy with muscles!!! Oh yeah baby!!!!

Haha ok, GGR. So, if it happens to not work out with this girl, how bout we go shoot some pool sometime?

[tcw]

I would keep it simple until you get her panties off. Why spend a lot of money doing a Dog and Pony show---and then find out later---she's saving herself for the Pope ? ? ?

Don't bend over backwards to wine-n-dine a girl. IF you do, you'll be stuck doing that FOR THE TERM of the relationship. I mean, if you are into paying for "trim", then just go out and BUY ONE.-----Bottom line, either you have "chemistry" or you don't.

However, if i were you i would start "testing" this girl to see if she's qualified to meet YOUR NEEDS.

SO, HERE'S WHAT I WOULD DO.
You like Comedy Clubs? So you take her to one. NO MORE diner dates. Its her turn to make diner. After the Club, you take her for a drive and Bring a bottle of Wine. Get inside her Head and then cut the date short *(you're a busy man---and you got places to go and ppl to do). You're important and you got an 9 am appointment the following day (don't tell her what it is---just tell her its business). You gotta start Testing this chick.

Does she cook (or does she eat out every night---like is some smuck buying her diner everynight?)
Does she clean, or does she have a maid?
Etc. (you better be careful who you get involved with Man.)

WHATEVER you do, don't let her think that you're EASY. If she's good looking, she's got several dudes workin her, and (believe you me), they're p##sy whipped (like 99% of them). BUT YOU, you are different. You got a whole slew of chicks to pick from (and you are qualifying HER, to see if she has what it takes to be a GF).

Its time to "qualify" this girl. BELIEVE me, you don't want to knock up "the wrong chick!" (oh the horror stories i have heard from being on this planet for too long now). Jesus!



~T

[Motardpdx]

Wow! This is gonna be the best 2nd date ever... Don't screw it up. Ha!

[musclestack]

I would keep it simple until you get her panties off. Why spend a lot of money doing a Dog and Pony show---and then find out later---she's saving herself for the Pope ? ? ?

Don't bend over backwards to wine-n-dine a girl. IF you do, you'll be stuck doing that FOR THE TERM of the relationship. I mean, if you are into paying for "trim", then just go out and BUY ONE.-----Bottom line, either you have "chemistry" or you don't.

However, if i were you i would start "testing" this girl to see if she's qualified to meet YOUR NEEDS.

SO, HERE'S WHAT I WOULD DO.
You like Comedy Clubs? So you take her to one. NO MORE diner dates. Its her turn to make diner. After the Club, you take her for a drive and Bring a bottle of Wine. Get inside her Head and then cut the date short *(you're a busy man---and you got places to go and ppl to do). You're important and you got an 9 am appointment the following day (don't tell her what it is---just tell her its business). You gotta start Testing this chick.

Does she cook (or does she eat out every night---like is some smuck buying her diner everynight?)
Does she clean, or does she have a maid?
Etc. (you better be careful who you get involved with Man.)

WHATEVER you do, don't let her think that you're EASY. If she's good looking, she's got several dudes workin her, and (believe you me), they're p##sy whipped (like 99% of them). BUT YOU, you are different. You got a whole slew of chicks to pick from (and you are qualifying HER, to see if she has what it takes to be a GF).

Its time to "qualify" this girl. BELIEVE me, you don't want to knock up "the wrong chick!" (oh the horror stories i have heard from being on this planet for too long now). Jesus!



~T

Oh dear...

But I get what you're saying. Like the old saying goes: "He who cares less, wins".