can I ask relationship advice?

[rGus]

Girlfriend dumped me and now she wants me back.

Quick background. Girlfriend of 2 years. Always said she loves me, wants to be my wife. Never this type of thing ever happened.

I wake up, my girlfriend is by me asking me questions about our future, she was mentioning her friend that I knew she was talking with on just friend basis. While we were talking I grew a suspicion that something shady is going on and I asked to see the conversation she had with her friend. (I m not a snooper but the occasion called for it). She refused and I said "then it s over and there s no going back" and she said "ok that s fine" I proceeded to go and take a shower, she came by apologizing that it had to be like this but she likes this guy and blah blah blah. Then few minutes later she comes back asking me to take her back, that she made a mistake and that she only loves me and she wants to be my wife blah blah blah (she erased all the messages so idk the exact convo but definitely it was not friend based)

I love her but this thought of her doing this is on my mind and I just don t trust her anymore. Since this has happened, she has been super nice to me, trying to prove how much she loves me, giving me blow jobs all the time even if I give her a cold shoulder.

So would you guys give her chance and build trust with her or would you end it.

[Hazard]

End that shit now and consider yourself a lucky man.....

[Honkey_Kong]

You need to listen to Tom Leykis ASAP, rGus.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHsMWuQR-Z8

Rule of thumb, DO NOT ever allow your girlfriend or wife to have a male friend that isn't gay.

[diesel101]

Everyone makes mistakes but if she is not willing to tell you what exactly happened waterboarding may be the only way to get the truth out of her.

[rGus]

You need to listen to Tom Leykis ASAP, rGus.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHsMWuQR-Z8

Rule of thumb, DO NOT ever allow your girlfriend or wife to have a male friend that isn't gay.

You're right! But I just had so much trust in her because she always told me that she only wants to be with me no matter what.

[rGus]

Everyone makes mistakes but if she is not willing to tell you what exactly happened waterboarding may be the only way to get the truth out of her.

Sorry man I'm foreign so I'm not sure what you mean by waterboarding

[GirlyGymRat]

Sorry man I'm foreign so I'm not sure what you mean by waterboarding

Google.

[rGus]

Google.

Oh lol. I thought it was some kind of American slang to water skiing

[GirlyGymRat]

Need to address the behavior of deleting text messages and the circle of trust.

[Hoggage_54]

It helps if you post pictures of her and her stats (bust, waist and hip measurements).

[Sfla80]

End that shit now and consider yourself a lucky man.....

This....it will never be the same. And u will always have doubts.

And it will happen again....and again...and again

[lovbyts]

If she has a younger sister hook up with her.

[joebailey1271]

If she has a younger sister hook up with her.

This and her friends, only stay with her long enough for her to catch you in bed with one of these, her moms an extra kick in the teeth. If she wants an apology, tell her she can suck one out of your dick

[DROY]

A relationship requires trust and honesty. When she destroyed the texts that would have ended it right there. Whatever she says now is a potential lie.

[songdog]

She had something going on.When you said good bye she was fine.This tells me the guy isnt ready for a live in yet or was using her.But in the end she cant be trusted.But thats a choice you got too make.Choose wisely Bro!

[novastepp]

She kept TELLING you she loved you but she wasn't SHOWING you.

Actions are always much more important than words.

Your dignity, your honor, who you are as a man is greater than worry, doubt, and empty promises.

Move on and find a woman worthy of you, and a woman worth building a unity with.

[rGus]

She kept TELLING you she loved you but she wasn't SHOWING you.

Actions are always much more important than words.

Your dignity, your honor, who you are as a man is greater than worry, doubt, and empty promises.

Move on and find a woman worthy of you, and a woman worth building a unity with.

She showed huge love towards me, it was a shock for me when that happened.

[rGus]

I came home from work, acted like a total dick to her. Refused the bj, her reaction was sweet, asked if I wanted bj later. She just wants to please me, does anything I tell her too. I wish she would just decide to leave me , for some reason I'm having a hard time to tell her it's over for good.

[Althenery]

She probably got dumped by the other guy so now she doesn't want to be alone , dump her, not worth it

[Honkey_Kong]

I came home from work, acted like a total dick to her. Refused the bj, her reaction was sweet, asked if I wanted bj later. She just wants to please me, does anything I tell her too. I wish she would just decide to leave me , for some reason I'm having a hard time to tell her it's over for good.

You refused a BJ? WTF is wrong with you? Here's what you do: take the BJ, bang her once more then drop her like a bad habit. No matter what, you'll never get the intimacy that you once had with her back.

Besides, once a cheater always one.

[Hazard]

I came home from work, acted like a total dick to her. Refused the bj, her reaction was sweet, asked if I wanted bj later. She just wants to please me, does anything I tell her too. I wish she would just decide to leave me , for some reason I'm having a hard time to tell her it's over for good.

Don't come crying when this happens to you again. All the signs are there and you refuse to listen. Her knowing that you can't let go is going to be your biggest downfall. Wait till you see the shit you end up taking down the road. Enjoy the ride..... You're asking for it.

[Hazard]

Oh and ALWAYS take the blow job! I'm seriously doubting your judgement now. Bad decisions all around.

[rGus]

I refused it just because I was in a dick mode so it just happened. They're starting to not being a big deal because i'm getting so many. At the end of the day she came back and I didn't refuse it, got a bj and had sex.

You guys all are right tho, the relationship is not going to be the same.

[novastepp]

She showed huge love towards me, it was a shock for me when that happened.

I don't think anything you have shared here DEMONSTRATES love. bjs are great, but that's sex, not love.

Love is being there for you and trying to create a new life for the both of you to share. Not talking to someone else when you and her should be living a life together.

It is not a compromise. It is a process, of building; building into something greater than its parts based on mutual trust, respect, and yes passion & desire.

Not elbow-y juvenile sexual escapades to try and win affection through prom-closet antics.

[calgarian]

Talk to her mother and tell her you wont take her daughter back unless she sleeps with you if it is not an option her sister will work too.
All joke aside move on now u always be suspicious of her do u really want to live your life like this?

[Tigershark]

I stopped reading after she said she had feelings for someone else. End it.

[GirlyGymRat]

OP. Status update please!

[diesel101]

Still waterboarding her in the basement

[Hoggage_54]

still waiting on pics OP

[joebailey1271]

He must be busy doing her laundry and shopping for her

[krugerr]

He's now her cuckold.

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[Honkey_Kong]

Yeah, let's see these pics of her.

[T-boner]

You need to end it but that's going to be hard to do. I had the same situation years ago. I held on for a long time. She won't be satisfied after marriage. The most realistic thing for you to do is "DO NOT MARRY HER" and eventually this relationship will die a natural death.

[songdog]

No man in his right mind turns down a BJ! That dont mean you have to keep her:0 its ok to use her a lil bit.Take advantage of the situation.Ok I am evil

[MASTER]

STD test.

[Bonaparte]

I really can't fathom why people come to this site to ask for legitimate relationship advice...

[Armykid93]

End that shit now and consider yourself a lucky man.....

This. Seriously, just this. Weird ass situation.