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Too-$mall
awesome post. i really like it. interesting topic.
i like when that happens. i feel like it's romantic, but i keep that shit to myself mostly. nobody wants to be over whelmed. am i right?
I've been staying away from porn too. that's awesome man. i really feel like porn takes away for the work we men could be doing on ourselves. I also feel like it's desensitizing. The more i live without porn the more i realize how i can better find the right woman through just being myself. And i don't settle anymore man. I've definitely grown up, but my taste in younger women is still very much the same.
i'd relax. especially if you KNOW that B is manipulating you. and if you think she sounds crazy tell her. if a woman starts talking about that shit to me that's a red flag. ya'll probably haven't even seen each other's places. have you seen her place? you know what she does for a living?
And i try to accept the idea that most people don't have bad intentions and if they are doing something bad it's more so because they are stupid and can't help it.
you're obviously not in love with her. have some fun and cut her loose. block her number, change your number. whatever you got to do to shake her. she sounds crazy.
These days man i try to keep my standards high. If i'm not feeling it i either tell the B, or just ghost her. anything else is just going to be a disappointment and it'll get old real fast. then shit will go south, or she won't ever f'ing leave you because she's crazy and you'll be miserable.
be careful too man. women can sense weakness in men and they take advantage of it if you let them because we are stupid and do what our dicks want us to do. she may be trying to get you into a serious relationship that leads to marriage. you good looking? would you say you could do better?
my situation...
wow, that sounds like good wholesome advice. very normal. i think it's better than my advice. we are all different though. must be nice to be happy. lol.
i really wish i could start over. i would if it weren't for my son. i'm not gonna do that to him... it would be so easy to drop my wife like a hot rock, but i can't do that to my boy. just can't.
I've been away from home for 7 weeks and I've been on dates. I haven't cheated, but I've explored the single life and i feel the single vibe. wish i had my testosterone on hand. i like the feeling of starting over again, and staying away from porn. allows me time to work on understanding myself better.
I also like not hooking up with women that i'm not super into. being honest. it'll just end badly if i'm not honest. i'm smarter now and i know what I want and how detrimental it can be to settle. i should have listened to my mother...
I'm also feeling like i'm starting to understand women more. women are very insecure and really care about men's personalities. they are also highly emotional. [personality is probably my weakest area.] i feel like a woman will date a lesser man because she's afraid of a man that could possibly do better than her. And women don't like men who they view as "players." it makes them insecure. Women also want 100% of a man's attention because they know that's highly indicative of the man's affinity for her. if he's not fawning then he's not really into it. women also like control because they have so little of it in life. i think that's a reason not to watch porn. giving a woman the rights over whether or not a man can cum is powerful. I have soo much more to say about this stuff, but i'm going to stop here because it's late.
last thing i'll say. A guy i know well told me. "Women don't line up for men, but men line up for women." this guy has nothing other than his personality and property going for him. he's ugly, doesn't have a big dick, has an ugly skinny fat block shaped body. his girlfriend is hot. he's been through a bunch of shitty relationships, he's 35, and he's never been married, or had a kid, so keep in mind that he doesn't know it all, but my point is that his girl is fine AF. i've seen her. now granted she's currently 140lb, which may be gross, but that really depends on how tall she is. anyways, she's really got no reason to be with him other than his personality and loyalty to her because she's good looking. I've seen her practically nude. she's got a nice body and a really pretty face. him on the other hand. his face looks like a dog's butt-hole on a pumpkin with ears that stick out about an inch.
so what i'm thinking is this: find a girl you couldn't possibly do better than. you get what you want and she know's you'll never leave her.
i'm pretty screwed up and stupid so somebody please tell me what you think if it's different from how i think. i welcome different perspectives to change my own.
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