Would you rather be liked or respected?

[peam]

Any of you want to help me write an essay for a scholarship? It's due November 15th. I'ts actually a pretty hard question. Here it is.... If you had to choose, would you rather be liked or respected? Describe how your choice would impact your treatment from your peers and teachers. So... there's the question... I was thinking about going with respected but I'm not sure. What do ya'll think?

[BUYLONGTERM]

Hmmm, how can you like someone and not respect them? I almost think the two go hand in hand. But then again, I don't like Barry Bonds, but I respect him as a baseball player

[bornbad71]

I'm not much on helping write papers....but I would rather be respected.....it doesn't matter if someone doesn't like me as long as they show respect then we got no problem.

[bigol'legs]

Hmmm, how can you like someone and not respect them? I almost think the two go hand in hand. But then again, I don't like Barry Bonds, but I respect him as a baseball player

true.. a lot of people dont like Kamili.. but we respect him as a Body builder becuase we know what it takes and the dedication.

[BDTR]

Respected... being liked is overrated.

[mass junkie]

for me I could care less..........on either..........im not trying to be a bad ass............I just could care less what people think...................But I know you guys all like and respect me anyways..............

[bornbad71]

for me I could care less..........on either..........im not trying to be a bad ass............I just could care less what people think...................But I know you guys all like and respect me anyways..............

U sure u didn't mean we neglect u.............

[BDTR]

When you're respected, people ask nothing from you. When you're liked, they feel like you owe them. Respect means everything, being liked comes and goes with the wind.

[Dude-Man]

The problem with this is that it can only apply to a single individual. There is no way that everyone in existence can feel the same way about you... Not everyone will respect you, and certainly not everyone would ever like you.
Also, the degrees of each are dubious at best. If someone doesn't like you, do they dislike you? there are degrees of like, as well as of respect.

If i had to pick between the two, it would depend on my relationship with the person as well. I would rather be liked by my lover, liked by friends, and respected by those i don't know well and that i work with.

Basically what i'm saying is that the question needs to be narrowed, and i think that you may want to reflect upon these things in your paper.

[peam]

chris.... I think you need to PM me because you're like the freakin God of writing essays.... can I hire you?

[hercules88]

i agree with chris some people i would want them to like me while others i would like respect from them like co workers or aquantances and other people i dont know as well. just because someone respects you does not mean they like you but to me it would seen that if someone likes you then they also respect you because respect should be shown to those you like taking their feelings into consideration. if the latter is true then i would want to be liked by all because respect would be implied. sounds like the machaveli principle....would you rather rule by fear or with love.

[Calipso]

I'd rather be feared.

[bigol'legs]

I'd rather be feared.

you'll be working a loooooooooong time!!!

[daem]

I'd rather be feared.

i second that...however respect is something that needs to be earned in my book. i can like someone, but not respect them in every regard.

take my rec-drug using buddies who blow lines every week...they are friends and i would do anything for them, but i don't respect them at all as people because they are weak willed.

so for me, respect transcends just 'liking' a person...i would rather have people feel that way about me.

[Calipso]

you'll be working a loooooooooong time!!!

Just because your legs look like ripped muscles of cottage cheese, doesn't give you the right to make fun!

[bigol'legs]

Just because your legs look like ripped muscles of cottage cheese, doesn't give you the right to make fun!

hehe... yes it does, Jason said "as long as you look like that bash Calipso as much as you want"

[BigMike J]

Peam in what form is the essay to be written, are we talking about a standard 3 point essay?

[redrock]

When you're respected, you don't have to worry about whether or not people like you. That's how I see it. If I feel respected, I don't care if people like me or not, as long as they respect me when I walk into a rooml. RR

[BigMike J]

Peam in what form is the essay to be written, are we talking about a standard 3 point essay?

Reason i ask is that's a great topic to write about. Not to toot my own horn, but i not too bad with writting essays. Maybe i just think i write good, hmm

[peam]

BigMike.... go for it! It doesn't specify... just says to write an essay... no word min or max... just write an essay!

[RoNNy THe BuLL]

I'd rather be respected. With respect comes courtesy and thought.

Think about how many friends you have that you just run over sometimes. You take their food, take their clothes, even beat them up.

Would you do that kinda stuff to someone you respected? Hell nah.

[BigGreen]

. Maybe i just think i write good, hmm

Just being the grammar mod here, I hope you understand, but it would be "Maybe I just think I write well"....

[BigMike J]

Just being the grammar mod here, I hope you understand, but it would be "Maybe I just think I write well"....

Well if you want to get technical

I'll write it and you can edit it

[Calipso]

Well if you want to get technical

I'll write it and you can edit it

I'll write it, and you can edit it.

[BigMike J]

You do not need to use a comma there. haha

[BigMike J]

Leave Me Alone!!

[Calipso]

You do not need to use a comma there. haha

You do not need to use the comma there. Haha.

[bigol'legs]

Actually I believe the proper form would be to seperate the word "I'll" in two words "I will". It is inproper to start a sentence with a short cut.

[Calipso]

Actually I believe the proper form would be to seperate the word "I'll" in two words "I will". It is inproper to start a sentence with a short cut.

Shortcut is having a smiley face on your crotch.

[bigol'legs]

Shortcut is having a smiley face on your crotch.

I can take it off and you can see my short-cut.....

[peam]

I'm the reason he has that there.... I'm the one who called his "package" to the attention of the entire AR lounge!

[Cycleon]

read a little book called the Prince by Machiavelli - and they you will know why "it is better to be feared than loved" - if you are a leader - but for your personal life, that can be quite different - being feared can be lonely, being loved can be fulfilling but lovers can be fickle and false while fear causes fealty as long as you are fearsome

[bigol'legs]

I'm the reason he has that there.... I'm the one who called his "package" to the attention of the entire AR lounge!

here peam.. this ones for you!!

[Calipso]

here peam.. this ones for you!!

Dude I give you props with your legs and all but I can't look at em. Big ass quads like that just seem kinda nasty. Even Cutler, Priest, coleman have their legs too big.

[bigol'legs]

Dude I give you props with your legs and all but I can't look at em. Big ass quads like that just seem kinda nasty. Even Cutler, Priest, coleman have their legs too big.

dude now IM gonna talk to Jason and have you banned

[Calipso]

dude now IM gonna talk to Jason and have you banned

Jason will back me. Your quads put fear into people who want big upper bodies.

[BigMike J]

I think Calipso is saying that HE IS skeeered.

Is that what you are saying Calipso?

Damn you all to hell. Now i am sitting here looking over all my sentences to make sure that each one is grammatically correct.

Did is spell grammatically correctly?

screw it im a dummy peam

[Da Bull]

Respect

[rambo]

read a little book called the Prince by Machiavelli - and they you will know why "it is better to be feared than loved" - if you are a leader - but for your personal life, that can be quite different - being feared can be lonely, being loved can be fulfilling but lovers can be fickle and false while fear causes fealty as long as you are fearsome

Definately. At least read a synopsis of it, it will give you a great idea about what to write about. In summation, being liked will result in those around you walking all over you. Being respected, rather, being feared and respected is quite favorable. In my opinion, if you need people to like you, you are a weak person. I forgot who said it, but I've always believed it..

"You may not like me, but you will respect me."

[BigMike J]

For me i don't feel that i have to be feared. I know me and nobody else knows me like me. What i am trying to say is that i know what i can do and nobody else does. That is the way i like it.

Among the ladies i am known as the sweet and sensative guy


I like to be underestimated