Just saw my ex at the bar :-(

[juicehoe]

I went out with my buddys tonight just to get out of the house (to a bar/club). I happen to be friends with my EX's brother. So i was there with him. He tells me that his sister is here with her friends too. I see her come in the door... i didnt know what to do. I felt like i was going to have a nervous break down or something. My heart was going a mile a min. So i head to the bar and slam down 5 beers. I keep seeing and watching her. I didnt say anything for like an hour and a half. Finally i go up to her and she acts all pissed off... i said stop and just gave her a hug. She hugs me back so hard. But tells me shes gotta stop because its making her friend feel weird. So she comes back in a few and starts talking about work and what not. Then says shes leaving and asks me to walk her to her car. I do and we talk alittle more. Then hug and kiss. Later in the night she calls me twice and is waiting online when i get home.
I havent seen here in like 2 months and we were together for 2 years with plans of getting married. Im so heart broken... what can i do? Its really screwing with every part of my life. I miss her more then anything
Sorry if this is stupid.... i got no one to talk to at 3:25am

[PuddleMonkey]

um.... why did you break up to start with?

[juicehoe]

We had a few differences of opinion and both extremely jealous. So she said she relised she couldnt marry me so there was no point to keep the relationship going

[LORDBLiTZ]

Find a new girl, bro. Life's too short to be down on a chick.

[juicehoe]

easier said then done... she was awsome. How many guys could say that they got the hotest girl in the world. I really thought that... how awesome is that? She was loving, caring, cute... etc. the list goes on.

[juicehoe]

Ok its 4:18am and my head is pounding... time to lay down and think some more. Ill be back on in a few hours

[Spoon]

I know what you mean bro! its a shame we only learn to appreciate things when their gone. its a sad fact of life move on.

Spoon

[Rookie182]

Bro the same thing happened to me a few months ago,i seen my x girlfriend out and she looking more beautiful than ever.We hugged and danced but she has a b/f now ,i totally regret breaking up with her but like LordBlitz said life's to short to worry there's plenty of other girls out there and i'm sure as just as good as her.

[Spoon]

Another thing if you get back with her, same cycle will repeat itself over and over. and dont ever succumb to sleeping with her again as it will make things worse for both ya guys!

Spoon

[Tock]

Another thing if you get back with her, same cycle will repeat itself over and over. and dont ever succumb to sleeping with her again as it will make things worse for both ya guys!

Spoon

Pretty smart comment. I agree.
Unless, you find a professional counselor, and try to figure out why things went sour on your end.
My shrink told me that only about 25% of the population is suited to marriage. The other 75% either get divorces or suffer. Chances are you are one of the majority. You can make conducting a relationship a whole lot easier for yourself if you learn about 'em . . . there's lots of books out there on the subject (free at your library), and between them and a good counselor, you can improve your chances for having a happy and successful relationship.
Good luck . . .
-Tock

[IronCy]

I think you both are going through "that stage"...everyone goes through it, the first time they see their former significant other....two months of breakup really isnt that long though....I know it seems like eternity, give more time, then, if the feelings are still there on both sides...move forward together, its tough after being with someone for a long period, we all become somewhat dependant.
-Cy

[mass junkie]

What part of Florida are you in?

[Devourer]

What part of Florida are you in?

mass will go out with ya!

[DF2003]

F'N AMEN! been there bro and they arent worth it. train hard and F hard!

Find a new girl, bro. Life's too short to be down on a chick.

[Mart651]

If you get one that is forever, you have no doubt. At least thats the way it was in my case. i think you need to go threw a lot of ladies to realy find the one that is right for you.

[Harvey Balboner]

don't get down on it, move on unless you are 10000000% she is the one.

she probably wants bonus night or a freebie what ever you want to call it, 1 more time no strings attached.

[Carlos_E]

Juicehoe, I know you miss her. But I think the problems you two were having out weighed the positives. If you get to the point where you disrepect each other it's time to break up and move on.

[Vice]

Juicehoe, I know you miss her. But I think the problems you two were having out weighed the positives. If you get to the point where you disrepect each other it's time to break up and move on.

Amen

[thebob]

I would pursue the friendship route. If you love her that much, then wouldn't it be better to atleast have her in your life as a friend? I would stay firm about no sex because that will only complicate things for you further. Once the two of you have reestablished the friendship, perhaps things can develope into a relationship oncce again or you may discover the two of you are just better off as friends.

[daman1]

I would pursue the friendship route. If you love her that much, then wouldn't it be better to atleast have her in your life as a friend? I would stay firm about no sex because that will only complicate things for you further. Once the two of you have reestablished the friendship, perhaps things can develope into a relationship oncce again or you may discover the two of you are just better off as friends.

I agree, although sometimes when your very serious and break up with someone it is hard to just be friends as you still have an inkling of feeling for her in you because you were with him/her for so long. But I would def. give it a try. 1 friend is better than no friend. Good luck to you JuiceHoe.

[spywizard]

No better way to get a woman to want to fuc* you than to say..

"Can we be friends"

"I just want to hold you"

"Can i share with you my feelings"

"Come here bitch........you brought this on yourself."

hahahahaaa

I would pursue the friendship route. If you love her that much, then wouldn't it be better to atleast have her in your life as a friend? I would stay firm about no sex because that will only complicate things for you further. Once the two of you have reestablished the friendship, perhaps things can develope into a relationship oncce again or you may discover the two of you are just better off as friends.

[juicehoe]

there was NEVER a lack of appreciation for her. The 2 years i went out with her i appreciated every thing and moment with her. This is what probably made me so jealous. What happened is i didnt know how to deal with all these new feelings, so i ended up ****ing it up. I wish i could get books or seek professional help before it ended. I'd be more then willing to self-improve... i know i have some big flaws. But to little to late now

[juicehoe]

Its hard because once we went head-to-head last night it felt just like old times. We talked, held hands, kiss, hug.... it all felt the same. Even better because ive been missing her so much and she was giving me attention. She even said she wanted me to dive her home and not her friend, but i "had to much to drink" (i was fine).
The thing is i didnt lose any feeling. they were just as strong last night

[Testify]

Its hard to end a long relationship. No matter how it ends. That's just the way it is . . . and there is nothing that will make it any easier. Its going to hurt for a while, but you'll get over it eventually, and you'll both be better off because of it.

[Cycleon]

Pretty smart comment. I agree.
Unless, you find a professional counselor, and try to figure out why things went sour on your end.
My shrink told me that only about 25% of the population is suited to marriage. The other 75% either get divorces or suffer. -Tock

I take it that your shrink is divorced or has been - or is he a shrink with an "exceptional taste for fashion"?

[juicehoe]

Yea it hurts right now... and im guessing it will be that way for a long while

[juicehoe]

Ok well its a beautiful day, so im off to the beach for some deep thought and reflection. Ill be back in a few hours

[QbHunter]

i am in the same situation bro. we were HS sweet hearts you could say, and we only split up b/c of the distence between us. (kansas/florida). its tuff, cause we were great, and had no problems till the end.

you gotta move on man, and believe me I/we al know its tuff, but its the best thing to do. and best way to do it is find another chick...not a one nighter, but a good one. Women can F*ck with your head man try not to sweat it

[daem]

anyone who tells you they don't see a future and there is no point in continuing is delusional and selfish.

she invested a signifcant amount of time in you and you did the same. there had to have been something there that made you both feel the way you do, so focus on the positives.

i used to be a very jealous person and it got me in trouble with the law, but it also drove me insane. jealousy eats you from the inside and is caused by the fear that you aren't good enough or a fear of lack of control. you can't control her, you can only trust and have faith that she is doing the right thing.

it took me years to figure out that there usually isn't some underlying issue behind actions and that people do things at times because they never really thought about the consequences. if she cheated or something i would tell you to not waste your time, however forgetting to call or going out with questionable friends or people isn't worth worrying over.

my advice is to get some counseling to work on both of your jealousy problems and i am sure you will be much happier.

you are worth it bro, she sees it and you should too. don't let any jealousy and insecurity be the end of a meaningful and fulfilling relationship.

[mass junkie]

Ok well its a beautiful day, so im off to the beach for some deep thought

I had to do a double take because for a minute their ...I thought it read deep throat

[IronCy]

I had to do a double take because for a minute their ...I thought it read deep throat

sick bastard! how come you always see the gay side of everything?
-Cy

[JohnDoe1234]

easier said then done... she was awsome. How many guys could say that they got the hotest girl in the world. I really thought that... how awesome is that? She was loving, caring, cute... etc. the list goes on.

I've been there too my friend. All you can think about are the good things, and you can't seem to remember any of the bad. When I broke up with my ex I was all twisted and **** ed up over it. Hell I think you posted in my thread, so you know I can relate.

[juicehoe]

Well said daem.... id love to get rid of my jealous issues! They just eat me up inside and **** with me

PS: The beach was great lol

[spywizard]

Ohhhhhhhhhh..

Burn./.......... that was a shot.......... but a funny one...........

I take it that your shrink is divorced or has been - or is he a shrink with an "exceptional taste for fashion"?

[Butch]

anyone who tells you they don't see a future and there is no point in continuing is delusional and selfish.

she invested a signifcant amount of time in you and you did the same. there had to have been something there that made you both feel the way you do, so focus on the positives.

i used to be a very jealous person and it got me in trouble with the law, but it also drove me insane. jealousy eats you from the inside and is caused by the fear that you aren't good enough or a fear of lack of control. you can't control her, you can only trust and have faith that she is doing the right thing.

it took me years to figure out that there usually isn't some underlying issue behind actions and that people do things at times because they never really thought about the consequences. if she cheated or something i would tell you to not waste your time, however forgetting to call or going out with questionable friends or people isn't worth worrying over.

my advice is to get some counseling to work on both of your jealousy problems and i am sure you will be much happier.

you are worth it bro, she sees it and you should too. don't let any jealousy and insecurity be the end of a meaningful and fulfilling relationship.

Dude you're right on...I have the same feelings of jealousy...you want the best for someone and when they do something you think it was premediated and you go off....however 3/4 of time it was not premeditated...all you cause are problems for yourself and the one you love. I too have to get control of this issue....I do trust and I do have faith...btu sometimes I don;t trust the ones she is with....especially other dudes

[BUYLONGTERM]

Well, I hope everything works out.But I can guarantee one thing. If you two are jealous it shows you don't trust each other. NO trust = NO relationship. It can't work. You both need to find out why you don't trust one another.

[juicehoe]

Yea its werid.... we never really had a trust issue. Like someone cheated or you know deceived the other. I know for me i just have an inferior complex and wonder why someone so great was with me. We had some what similar child hoods. Like she was fat when she was younger and worked really hard and turned into a muscular slim sexy woman. And for anyone whos seen my transfrom pics i went from 80lbs to 150. So all threw high school i was a loser. I think this is what makes me feel the way i do.

Hell ill post 2 pics: one is me after working out for a year at 85lbs and the second was taken a few months ago at 150lbs

[Butch]

Daammmn dawg, great transformation. You look good...looks like there was lots of hard work put into that body...*high five.

Times are tough now...but you need to go out and enjoy life. And if you can't get her off your mind....call her and talk to her...maybe she is the one...and you all just needed a break. If you have been thinking about calling her...you must do it...becasue if you don't then you'll always wonder what if you did when you get older. The worst thing that could happen is she is not interested...which will hurt you in the beginning...but in the end you'll know where you stand and then you can move on!

[juicehoe]

thanks butch... i dont want to leave you hanging so *high five. I dont know what im going to do. I guess hope for the best and expect the worst. I'd really like to work on myself and become a better boy friend for her. One day be back together. But i think i need to face the grim reality that ill be alone without my love. It just ****ing sucks after seeing her last night. Shes awesome

[Polska]

thanks butch... i dont want to leave you hanging so *high five. I dont know what im going to do. I guess hope for the best and expect the worst. I'd really like to work on myself and become a better boy friend for her. One day be back together. But i think i need to face the grim reality that ill be alone without my love. It just ****ing sucks after seeing her last night. Shes awesome

Juicehoe you and me are in the same boat bro. I saw my ex-gf at the club a few nights ago. We went out for over a year and a half and just stopped seeing eye to eye..... mainly on my part.... it sucked seeing her there with other guys. it takes a while before.... seeing her out, not as your woman, starts to feel normal again.... it really sucks though. i know what you're going through bro.

daem's post was right on the money too.