Divorce help!

[superben258]

So my wife found some e-mails I was sending to a friend about getting roids (haven’t taking any yet). She is freaking out and says that if I start taking it she wants a divorce! And she’s serious. I tried to explain how it’s not dangerous and safer then alcohol and smoking. But she doesn’t want to hear anything. can anyone please address your replies to her and lay the basics out for her so I can show her someone with long term experiences views.

[D7M]

Look, it really wouldn't be that hard to hide it from someone you're living with...I've done it before myself. But I don't advocate that. You're married, and you should be honest with each other.

Best thing you could do is try to talk to her and educate her. The more she sees that you are knowledgeable about it, the more comfortable she may be with it.

But, if it comes down to it, you will just have to answer what is more important to you: big muscles for a while, or your wife?

[E Police 183]

Yeah man...not to sound like a puss but if you love the girl she should be a hell of a lot more important. Shouldnt even be a question to it. good luck tho man.

[Little Herc]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0LEj8IPHGU
tell her to watch the video and show documentation to prove otherwise. Thats what I did. Diddn't work but atleast i got my point accros

[RANA]

It took a while for my wife to come to terms with it, but after she started to learn more about it she is ok with it now. Be honest but you must educate her. It also helps that she does fitness comps...

[superben258]

Of course if I had to choose I would pick her without a doubt. But I just wish she would understand my desire and not succumb to the misguided judgment of roids in America.

[scorpion62]

Hi you should,nt hide it from your better half. I have just started my first cycle and spoke to mine at first she blow a gasket but I showed her all the info I found and it put her mind at rest. they think your going to change in to a monster talk her through it good luck

[superben258]

Thanks every1, I'll try!

[Eddie_m63]

Don't forget to mention that she will get lucky more often.

[bjpennnn]

Look, it really wouldn't be that hard to hide it from someone you're living with...I've done it before myself. But I don't advocate that. You're married, and you should be honest with each other.

Best thing you could do is try to talk to her and educate her. The more she sees that you are knowledgeable about it, the more comfortable she may be with it.

But, if it comes down to it, you will just have to answer what is more important to you: big muscles for a while, or your wife?

what do you do though when your balls shrink? will hcg keep them the same when your on cycle?

[superben258]

I got another question... we plan on having more kids, should I be worried about impotence/ low sperm count if I start using? or is that a late symptom?

[SunHangDo]

I got another question... we plan on having more kids, should I be worried about impotence/ low sperm count if I start using? or is that a late symptom?

................how old are you?

[superben258]

25 next month

[abuleh]

This is from all the missinformation on steroids through our media. Media is used to program people and this way a bad reputation about steroids was created. However imo if you love eachother and have a strong balanced relationship this is not a reason for a divorce at all.

I am 36yrs and my wifey was not too happy about it either but she learned to tolerate it and accepts that it is my life and my body. In the meantime she enjoys the benefits of me taking gear because since I take steroids my energy levels have increased, I have an improved body composition marked with an increase in lean muscle and reduced body fat,improved libido and a general mood elevation + improved sleep quality. She has learned that I am not harming my body and that I know what I am doing.

I told my wifey that I made this decision and that the key is understanding the difference between the use and abuse of steroids.

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edited. please do not post websites from other boards without permission

PT


Edit: Sorry my bad!
~abuleh

[ranging1]

This is from all the missinformation on steroids through our media. Media is used to program people and this way a bad reputation about steroids was created. However imo if you love eachother and have a strong balanced relationship this is not a reason for a divorce at all.

I am 36yrs and my wifey was not too happy about it either but she learned to tolerate it and accepts that it is my life and my body. In the meantime she enjoys the benefits of me taking gear because since I take steroids my energy levels have increased, I have an improved body composition marked with an increase in lean muscle and reduced body fat,improved libido and a general mood elevation + improved sleep quality. She has learned that I am not harming my body and that I know what I am doing.

I told my wifey that I made this decision and that the key is understanding the difference between the use and abuse of steroids.

Check out:



~abuleh

lol i just read them and their definetaly not the most convincing articles ive ever read

[abuleh]

True :-) but I am a fan of the truth and to lie to wifey about possible side effects was not an option. I wanted to gain her trust and this can only be done by telling the truth.

I wanted her to understand the following:

- steroids are drugs and not candy
- as with all drugs steroids do have side effects
- you have to deal responsibly with them
- Steroids, done responsibly can have very little consequence on your body and your mind
- if used with care and caution the advantages outweight the disadvantages
- steroids are far far away from being as dangerous as smokes, alcohol

I also noticed that it was way harder for her to accept pinning vs. popping pills. It kind of had this "junky touch" to it and she always thought next stop after pinning is death laying in a corner at the central station :-)
It took a while to explain 17aa steroids vs. injections in terms of health risks and side effects. :-)

~abuleh

[El Corvino]

I manage to be able to turn peoples opinions easily. I could be wrong in what i say, but my main points are this.

A. What do YOU know about them? Nothing... oh ok, well check this out.

B. the media has always said steroids are bad so thats what everyone thinks. Do you understand that there isn't just 1 steroid, but many upon many different kinds? Infact, most of them have use in current medicine. for example Anavar = Burn victims

C. If your not an angry person, its not like its going to turn you into an angry hulk. You aren't going to start ripping peoples heads off.

D. In many other countries they are legal to have, infact in the US of A, if you go to a doctor and get some tests run you can legally get them prescribed to you.

E. Most of the major negative sides are just wrong...
1. your dick doesn't get smaller.
2. Your balls aren't going to shrink to 10% of their size
3. Yes your baby making factory will shut down, but most cycles only last 12 weeks and then its game on.

etc. etc.

[El Corvino]

And like someone else said, thats not reason for a divorce if you are in a good healthy relationship. My ol' lady can be a real B*tch sometimes and she was against it, but said if its what I want to do then its my life and I can choose for myself. I started about a year ago and since our first discussion, she has never said anything bad about it... aside from I need to get a 2nd girlfriend because I bug her for sex to much. hahaha

Infact, she mentions every now and then how much better I look and it has since encouraged her to start getting back into shape.

[Bossman]

I agree you shouldn't try to keep things, even more so this serious, from your spouse. It sounds like threatening you with divorce was just a knee jerk reaction on her part. Steroids get a bad rap. She's probably envisioning roid rage.

You need to ease here into the idea over time. Use incrementalism. Start with some ph's, maybe some peptides and explain to her what they're doing and how they work. What helped me convince my wife was the fact that I was competing and wanted to go to the "next" level. Of course, it was just going to be one cycle. A bulker. But then I needed the cuttter.....and so on. Now it's all good.

[pitbull740]

it took me about a year of talking about it to convince my wife. all she would talk about is roid rage and all the crap you hear on the news. so when she finally gave in and saw the changes in body comp and that i wasn't freaking out she was fine. now she even takes certain compounds lol. i would suggest just trying to get her to read about it that's just my 2 cent's . good luck !

[El Corvino]

dang... you guys got it hard.

Just tell her listen to your point of view and if she still aposes after listening and giving it thought that you won't do it. But don't let her just say NO END OF DEAL.

[wharton]

LoL another man or mouse thread. This isnt a site for relationship advice, My girl wont let me do this my mom caught me with steds, Sick of these ***** threads Steroids are for advanced athletes GROWN MEN and WOMEN not for little kids who cant put there shoes on. I mean seriously sort you heads out and grow up.

[turborx7s]

LoL another man or mouse thread. This isnt a site for relationship advice, My girl wont let me do this my mom caught me with steds, Sick of these ***** threads Steroids are for advanced athletes GROWN MEN and WOMEN not for little kids who cant put there shoes on. I mean seriously sort you heads out and grow up.

But wouldn't you agree that this issue (as shown above) has worth within our community? "Putting shoes on" and sticking a needle in yourself isn't really a fare comparison, all I'm saying.

[wharton]

But wouldn't you agree that this issue (as shown above) has worth within our community? "Putting shoes on" and sticking a needle in yourself isn't really a fare comparison, all I'm saying.

Yea they have a place in the comedy section of the forum were we can point and laugh at them.

[Yashp]

One thing is to be on the juice, another thing is to go behind someone's back. It's difficult to give an exact reason as to why she reacts the way she does, but if someone went behind my back and took something I would define as lethal, i.e. the media, I'd be pretty pissed as well.

Try and calm her down, explain to her that you wanted to keep her out of it because you were aware of the way she'd react. If she's the love of your life then I'd stress you to give up the juice until you've smoothen things out, because you'll likely end up very sad.

This is not a situation about who's right or not, she's threatening to leave you because of it, so act accordingly - even though she might be overreacting.

[El Corvino]

Yea they have a place in the comedy section of the forum were we can point and laugh at them.

different people have different situation. Your situation allows you to do what ever you want obviously.

I could be an advanced body builder of X years but if my girl told me in all seriousness that she would leave me and never come back if I ever pinned I would never think about touching it. Luckily, I am in the situation where I run things and I like to give her the choice but ultimately she leaves it to me. You on the other hand obviously don't care and will run the situation no matter what.

Not saying my way is right or yours is. Some people beleive in a 50/50 split. This isn't a counseling service, but since we are all part of the community and are very familiar with it, we should be able to give him some advice to help a non beleiver better understand.

And actually, during my first cycle, near week 8 (of 12 weeks) she told me she wanted me to come off and not touch it again for what ever reason. I explained to her the dangers of not sticking to a game plan and told her after week 12 I would start my PCT and it would be my last. After a few weeks for what ever she was freaking out about, she appoligized and said she was cool with it.

[wharton]

different people have different situation. Your situation allows you to do what ever you want obviously.

I could be an advanced body builder of X years but if my girl told me in all seriousness that she would leave me and never come back if I ever pinned I would never think about touching it. Luckily, I am in the situation where I run things and I like to give her the choice but ultimately she leaves it to me. You on the other hand obviously don't care and will run the situation no matter what.

Not saying my way is right or yours is. Some people beleive in a 50/50 split. This isn't a counseling service, but since we are all part of the community and are very familiar with it, we should be able to give him some advice to help a non beleiver better understand.

Wouldnt the advice be to get a better women who understands your goals and supports you in every situation you have in your life and not limit you and hold you back. Onwards and upwards and not get dragged downwards or kept average by someone elses views?

[El Corvino]

Wouldnt the advice be to get a better women who understands your goals and supports you in every situation you have in your life and not limit you and hold you back. Onwards and upwards and not get dragged downwards or kept average by someone elses views?

Damn... can't even argue that. haha

[El Corvino]

I guess my advice is keep the pimp hand strong...

[wharton]

Damn... can't even argue that. haha

Fun this init lol

[Hazard]

Wouldnt the advice be to get a better women who understands your goals and supports you in every situation you have in your life and not limit you and hold you back. Onwards and upwards and not get dragged downwards or kept average by someone elses views?

I totally agree..... however..... my personal situation is different.

I was using steroids before I was dating my wife..... she was actually injecting me at one point. Once we got married..... she pulled a 180 on me and became anti-steroid. I've had the "I was like this when you met me" discussion but it doesn't matter..... as we all know women are always right.

Come to find out..... my wife is just insecure and thinks if I get bigger..... more women will want me..... and that i'll stray. She admitted it and theres no changing her mind..... so what do i do? I don't tell her I'm on gear...... she KNOWS I am but she can't prove it. I live with constant comments about my size and it's wearing us down as a couple..... but i'm not giving it up.

~Haz~

[Charlie6]

Hey man she's gotta respect what you like to do. She needs to be mature and realize (and admit) that she knows nothing about the subject

YOU respect what SHE likes to do (i'm assuming), so she better atleast hear you out. Make sure you sound/are educated when this time comes

goodluck

you better keep using steroids, too....

[hankdiesel]

If my wife ever says anything I jusr remind her that she smokes ciggaretes.

[bjpennnn]

I totally agree..... however..... my personal situation is different.

I was using steroids before I was dating my wife..... she was actually injecting me at one point. Once we got married..... she pulled a 180 on me and became anti-steroid. I've had the "I was like this when you met me" discussion but it doesn't matter..... as we all know women are always right.

Come to find out..... my wife is just insecure and thinks if I get bigger..... more women will want me..... and that i'll stray. She admitted it and theres no changing her mind..... so what do i do? I don't tell her I'm on gear...... she KNOWS I am but she can't prove it. I live with constant comments about my size and it's wearing us down as a couple..... but i'm not giving it up.

~Haz~

how can you lie when your balls are tiny on cycle?

[Hazard]

If my wife ever says anything I jusr remind her that she smokes ciggaretes.

I tried that one too..... my wife has an answer for everything.....

~Haz~

[Hazard]

how can you lie when your balls are tiny on cycle?

HCG lol

~Haz~

[bjpennnn]

HCG lol

~Haz~

does that keep them fat enough?

[Hazard]

does that keep them fat enough?

Keeps em plump enough for her not to notice LOL

~Haz~

[abuleh]

dang... you guys got it hard.

Just tell her listen to your point of view and if she still aposes after listening and giving it thought that you won't do it. But don't let her just say NO END OF DEAL.

LoL another man or mouse thread. This isnt a site for relationship advice, My girl wont let me do this my mom caught me with steds, Sick of these ***** threads Steroids are for advanced athletes GROWN MEN and WOMEN not for little kids who cant put there shoes on. I mean seriously sort you heads out and grow up.

Hey man she's gotta respect what you like to do. She needs to be mature and realize (and admit) that she knows nothing about the subject

YOU respect what SHE likes to do (i'm assuming), so she better atleast hear you out. Make sure you sound/are educated when this time comes

goodluck

you better keep using steroids, too....

This! Agree 100%!!!!

2 people meet and decide to share their life together. There are certain areas were they are having one opinion but they remain two different persons, have been brought up in different ways and have different opinions based on the experince they have made so far. I belive nobody has he right to tell you what to do. She can say what she thinks but if you decide different she must make a decision, either live with it or take the consequences. Steroid usage is in no way a reason for a divorce. Relationship is all about give and take and you should be careful that this does not become a 1 side thing. Women are not always right.......

[michael tyson]

Look, it really wouldn't be that hard to hide it from someone you're living with...I've done it before myself. But I don't advocate that. You're married, and you should be honest with each other.

Best thing you could do is try to talk to her and educate her. The more she sees that you are knowledgeable about it, the more comfortable she may be with it.

But, if it comes down to it, you will just have to answer what is more important to you: big muscles for a while, or your wife?

you only have big muscles for a while after your cycles? do you stop working out and eating correctly?