OK.....need some help

[Prol]

OK ............So here's the problem ..........I'm going out of my mind today i didn't feel good so i stayed and spent the whole day with my kid ,so i was watching tv with her and just doing stupid stuff like that i even started playing the guitar for her and stuff like that quality time with my daughter .....ok so out of no where shes starts crying and stuff and ipick her up and try to make her stop so i call the BAbysitter and she tells me that baby been crying aalot lately ........i guess she misses her mom so i call my X's perants house and ask for my X and they say shes not home right now i ask when will she be in they are like giving me a hard time so i say the bby is crying alot and i want her to spend some time with her mom ..........and slam the phone ......like in 5 min. my X calls and i'm like where have you been this passed 2 months ,remember that we have a kid so please come be amother and shes like i can't i need some time for myself.............I SAY WTF you've had to freaking months .............i strat to cry (yes i'm a fu_cking fag for it ) and say that i miss her and the baby misses her and what the helll is going on .............shes like we need time apart right now ...................@#$!@#$ I'M GOING OUT OF MY MIND damn i feel like i'm in a f_cking desert ..........i need to get this women out of my mind i don't care anymore if we get back together i just want to get her out of my head ......i was thinking on sending my daughter to my perants until i get my sh_t straight ......cause i dont want her to be feeling this bad vibes ..........i'm praying to God to please help me out cause this is so hard ..............

[taiboxa]

be a father.. take kare of the kid and if she is going to be worthless and put HER SELF before HER CHILD she's not worth including in the picture... priorities priorities priorities!!!

[Prol]

i say that she probably bi-polar or something cuase shes not the same person i feel in love with i mean she didn't even leave a damn memo

[Timm1704]

be a father.. take kare of the kid and if she is going to be worthless and put HER SELF before HER CHILD she's not worth including in the picture... priorities priorities priorities!!!

thats great advice, she doesnt seem ready for a child. do whats right for the kid mate, eventually the mother will likely start wanting to help

[taiboxa]

i say that she probably bi-polar or something cuase shes not the same person i feel in love with i mean she didn't even leave a damn memo

my ex wife is bi'polar.. mildly but it was the manic depression that killd me

[restless1]

sometimes life sux.......hang in there bro

[Myka]

that poor child

[Prol]

sorry to sound like a loser but it's i don't have some many friends and you guys know that my situation is not a normal one ...........so i can't talk openly to anyone ........

[taiboxa]

sorry to sound like a loser but it's i don't have some many friends and you guys know that my situation is not a normal one ...........so i can't talk openly to anyone ........

just do whats right and gut it out. be a father.

life is a sin wave... it goes from good gooder goodest gooder good bad badder baddest badder bad good... see..

[Prol]

today i made up my mind that i don't care about her anymore .........i'm giving her sometime if but she wants to leave for good then great but i don't want her around my kid until shes gets her head straight......t

[taiboxa]

today i made up my mind that i don't care about her anymore .........i'm giving her sometime if but she wants to leave for good then great but i don't want her around my kid until shes gets her head straight......t

well ur starting to think like a man

[novicenovicen]

I hate woman. Woman can emotionally detach, and thats the end. When they do they'll party and do whatever they want and not feel bad. Man up, be the parent you can be and teach your precious girl how to be a responsible contributing person.

[QuieTSToRM33]

be a father.. take kare of the kid and if she is going to be worthless and put HER SELF before HER CHILD she's not worth including in the picture... priorities priorities priorities!!!

great advice....... couldnt have said it better myself

you ever think about filing for custody of ur daughter ???

[D7M]

it's tough being a man, but you gotta step to the plate if she isn't. this is what being a man is about (responsibility), not partying and shlt

[Prol]

great advice....... couldnt have said it better myself

you ever think about filing for custody of ur daughter ???

I really don't want to get into any legal war..............but if she does try anything i'll spend every cent i have to crush anything action she takes .................................................. .I'm giving her time to see what shes going to do .............i dont care anymore about our relationship(i do but not that much)but i want to see if shes going to be mother or not .......................When i talked to her it was not the same person i mean she couldn't go 10 seconds without calling me some pet name and now it's all cold shoulder for me ...........i hate that about women they can switch there emotions off like nothing ever happend...........

[Prol]

thanks everyone for the kind words i really needed ...........................

[squatdaddy]

I say document everything! Get her to sign stuff, anyway possible that states she doesn't want to see the kid... even with this, it still won't be much in your favor because it is almost impossible to have a court rule in the father's defense. Most courts will not seporate a mother from a child no matter what you have as ammunition... but collect the ammunition none-the-less... I don't beleive that post-partuim is a free pass for the woman

[lucabratzi]

stay strong bro...if she doesnt want to be a part of her daughter life, then u dont want her in her life...be strong, be the best dad u can be....it would be better for ur daughter if she was in her life..but if she is negative to the daughter it just makes things worse...

[Prol]

i really feel like a p_ssy for letting out emotion and stuff ..............but hey you can keep it all packed in.

[lucabratzi]

i really feel like a p_ssy for letting out emotion and stuff ..............but hey you can keep it all packed in.

dont feel like a pussy..alot of people would break down in ur situation, even though they sometimes wont admit it...but the real man is the one who prevails and makes good of the situation...

[D'Arcy]

It takes a lot more bravery to admit that you have feelings and that you're in pain than to pretend nothing bothers you. You're grieving, not only the loss of your relationship but everything you thought that relationship would grow into over the years. Your daughter will grow up and want to find a man just like daddy - and what she'll look for is someone loving, caring, honest, loyal and trustworthy. You're already doing what you're supposed to do, don't worry about that part. Just take each day as it comes, and some days will be good, some will suck, like today. Eventually the good days will outnumber the bad.

But - take the advice someone eslse gave and document *everything*. Tape phone calls if you can, they won't be admissible in court but they will be ammunition. kepp a record of how many days it is that the mother doesn't see her daughter. If you don't have a lawyer, by all means get one.

And - good luck, I know this is going to be the hardest weight you ever lifted.

D'Arcy

i really feel like a p_ssy for letting out emotion and stuff ..............but hey you can keep it all packed in.

[Prol]

. Eventually the good days will outnumber the bad.

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D'Arcy

Yeah ........after the strom there's alwasy the calm .......I'm just going to wait it out ..............Thanks guys for everything with what i dished out tonight i would have had to pay psychologist a pretty penny......

[lucabratzi]

Yeah ........after the strom there's alwasy the calm .......I'm just going to wait it out ..............Thanks guys for everything with what i dished out tonight i would have had to pay psychologist a pretty penny......

u can send my money western union...

[Prol]

u can send my money western union...

i had my guitar on my lap and started laughing i think it chipped on the side .............damnit