Ex Girlfriend Advice from anybody?

[d2000honda]

I was with my x-girlfriend for 3 years. I was her first one too. After a year that we broke up she still ask for me. I believe she still feels somethig. Now people are telling me that shes always aking for me and started popping pills and who know what else. Should I tell her brother so that she can get help or should I just leave it alone. I don't lover any more, true it was a long time but I already have some one else. (my x is a drama queen, talks shit all the time shes mad and I guess I just feel sorry for her)

[RA]

If she wants to be a psycho, theres not much you can do about it. Tell the people that are talking to you about her to zip it up. Thats history.

[G-1000]

If she wants to be a psycho, theres not much you can do about it. Tell the people that are talking to you about her to zip it up. Thats history.

I second that

[biglouie250]

yea move on. **** her. let her ruin her life, dont get dragged into that shit.

[steve0]

leave it alone man not your problem anymore just just starving foe attention

[spywizard]

she is still hoping that she didn't make a mistake by giving you 3 years of her life and her virginity.. it was an unspoken promise that you would be there to take care of her forever..

you lied.... she's pissed..

Now you need to deal with it... or you can keep being selfish and only committed to your own interest and leave her to her own path to follow..

jmho

[Polska]

ex's are ex's for a reason. leave her alone. she'll get over it

[Polska]

Now you need to deal with it... or you can keep being selfish and only committed to your own interest and leave her to her own path to follow..

I don't understand how looking after your best interests is being selfish in this case. just because you dated someone for three years doesn't mean you have to stick your neck out for them for the rest of your life... people hook up and split up everyday.... it's just a fact of life.

[Steve80]

Shes gonna do what shes wants to do. No matter who you tell or how much you try to help her it wont work. Trust me I have a hero complex and I always try to help/save people, never worked once only back fires, when it comes to X's. I have been through this a few times. No matter how much it hurts let her do her thing, if she kills herself doin it, it aint your fault....

[d2000honda]

she is still hoping that she didn't make a mistake by giving you 3 years of her life and her virginity.. it was an unspoken promise that you would be there to take care of her forever..

you lied.... she's pissed..

Now you need to deal with it... or you can keep being selfish and only committed to your own interest and leave her to her own path to follow..

jmho

What about my life? She treated my like shit the last year that we were together. at first I just felt anger but now I don't give a **** about her. Is just feels kinda weird that she started doing all that shit. I think she is old enough to know what she is doing and the consequences if any. All I did gave the best that I had and for me to get treated like shit Hell NO!! **** girls like that. She disrespected my family at my house too. she doesn't deserve to be treated with respect if she never showed any respect. Her shit is not going to bother me.

Thanks guys for all the advice. I knew I was right. **** her.

[BARLOW]

**** Um All!

[d2000honda]

**** Um All!

AMEN!!

[biglouie250]

i like spy but he is way off base. sure girls for the most part remember their first. but to think that they are going to end up with their first???? i mean this is not the 1950's and if a girl thinks like that she is completely niave and has been sheltered her whole life.

besides d2000honda how can you make the correlation that her being a mess is your fault? if she is a kid guess what kids **** up. kids experiment with drugs, its the way of the world...... full of smart kids and full of **** ups. dont sweat it live your life and move on

[d2000honda]

i like spy but he is way off base. sure girls for the most part remember their first. but to think that they are going to end up with their first???? i mean this is not the 1950's and if a girl thinks like that she is completely niave and has been sheltered her whole life.

besides d2000honda how can you make the correlation that her being a mess is your fault? if she is a kid guess what kids **** up. kids experiment with drugs, its the way of the world...... full of smart kids and full of **** ups. dont sweat it live your life and move on

thanks bro for your advice.

[cfiler]

What if she over doses at some point. How will you feel, knowing that you had the chance to help her. Just tell her brother, let him know what she's doing, and let him deal with it. If she has to be checked into rehab, or counceling, then how better to help her than her family? It would take no effort to give her brother a call.

[spywizard]

I don't understand how looking after your best interests is being selfish in this case. just because you dated someone for three years doesn't mean you have to stick your neck out for them for the rest of your life... people hook up and split up everyday.... it's just a fact of life.

I agree with you on this.. i was simply pointing out her point of view.. my thoughts are...

If you can't make yourself happy, you will never make anyone else happy..

[d2000honda]

What if she over doses at some point. How will you feel, knowing that you had the chance to help her. Just tell her brother, let him know what she's doing, and let him deal with it. If she has to be checked into rehab, or counceling, then how better to help her than her family? It would take no effort to give her brother a call.

True, I guess I'll tell her brother but that's it. I will not talk to her at all. Now I can't say I didn't try. But Still, She's a drama queen, and I will not deal with her again ever.

[spywizard]

well, at least we were able to make this thread more active..

Read through on phsyco threads regarding girls.. there is stuff i have never heard of..

and why does a woman have to mess with your car.. i mean what gives with that..

need to set a motion activated camera so she can spend some jail time, learn to eat seafood..

the Y is open all night long

[biglouie250]

True, I guess I'll tell her brother but that's it. I will not talk to her at all. Now I can't say I didn't try. But Still, She's a drama queen, and I will not deal with her again ever.

if this is your preffered course of action i will not try to convince you otherwise. just be forwarnd of a brother who will think you are jealous and not believe you. if he liked you and does believe you be aware you are going to get an irrate phone call from her in the near future about how you ruined her life by telling on her.

[novastepp]

if you don't care about her like that anymore, why not talk to her and set her straight? it isn't going to affect you any right, since all u keep saying is **** her. so just straighten things out.

[spywizard]

if you don't care about her like that anymore, why not talk to her and set her straight? it isn't going to affect you any right, since all u keep saying is **** her. so just straighten things out.

Women need closure..

[d2000honda]

if you don't care about her like that anymore, why not talk to her and set her straight? it isn't going to affect you any right, since all u keep saying is **** her. so just straighten things out.

I am ok with that but she is not. (Have you ever dated a mexican girl? most are drama queens.) I know how she is and She will start talking shit righ away. I rather not talk to her to avoid any problems in the future. I had enough drama with her.

[novastepp]

well i would do it nonetheless. and if she is going to talk shit just tell her to listen for one sec and say that u came here to tell her what you've been hearing and you're moving on and its time she should too. short sweet, then ;eave to avoid any scene. she really does need to know it man, and it isn't going to affect you at all either.

[Mizfit]

Tell her brother and let go of it.

sometimes you cant have any kind of relationship with an X, if they have not gotten over you.

[d2000honda]

Tell her brother and let go of it.

sometimes you cant have any kind of relationship with an X, if they have not gotten over you.

I'll do that but I hope she does't think that I still have feelings for her.

[Timm1704]

Tell her brother and let go of it.

sometimes you cant have any kind of relationship with an X, if they have not gotten over you.

damn right. ive tried being friends with all my ex's. there is one who i dont really speak to all that much, and another, my last ex, who i tried being friends with but she turned into a horrible person, and now i see her as scum. from her actions i came to the conclusion that she wasnt over me, and couldnt let it go. she had issues to begin with, so go figure. if she still has feelings, there is nothing you can do about it, save yourself lol, and stay away from her

[stee]

I would have to say, its your life, so live it.
She is probably on an Ecstasy honeymoon, no matter how hard you try, she aint gonna give that up.

Sounds like she is old enough to know what shes doing, it would be different if she wasnt and you would be wise to intervene.
Trust me if shes on cookies or charlie she will be doing them weather you are with her or not, weather you try to stop her or just let her get on with it. Just hope she has enough grey matter to never let her self get on the smack. if she does its her fault not yours.
Most importantly you must realise that life is what you make it, and in most respects its too short, so get on with yours and let her get on with hers and learn her own lessons. The best advise you could give her if shes still crazy about you is, theres plenty more fish in the sea, my guess is if shes taking Class A drugs, and going out alot shes probably already had a few salmon fillets etc.

[cfiler]

True, I guess I'll tell her brother but that's it. I will not talk to her at all. Now I can't say I didn't try. But Still, She's a drama queen, and I will not deal with her again ever.

There you go. Once you tell her brother, then it is no-longer your resonsability. That's what I would do. Then forget all about her.

[thedoctordavo]

Im sorry but I think the whole being her first thing is being blown way out of proportion. It's a pretty simple thing, yes she will always remember you, yes at least in some small way she will always have some form of a feeling for you, and yes 9 outa 10 girls have a period of severe sluttyness right after the get fully jilted by thier first.

I was with 5 virgins last year, 4 of whom were all obsessive to the point of telling me or having somone tell me they were thinking about suicide. You know what I said? fvcking pull the trigger then... guess what, none of them did. My advice is you can't let the fact that it was her first time change things for you if it's not your first also, and how you maintain being a good guy will not having it mean as much to you as it does to her, is you let her know ahead of time that sex is just sex to you, and it won't change your world. Enough ranting, I hate virgins.

[stee]

Im sorry but I think the whole being her first thing is being blown way out of proportion. It's a pretty simple thing, yes she will always remember you, yes at least in some small way she will always have some form of a feeling for you, and yes 9 outa 10 girls have a period of severe sluttyness right after the get fully jilted by thier first.

I was with 5 virgins last year, 4 of whom were all obsessive to the point of telling me or having somone tell me they were thinking about suicide. You know what I said? fvcking pull the trigger then... guess what, none of them did. My advice is you can't let the fact that it was her first time change things for you if it's not your first also, and how you maintain being a good guy will not having it mean as much to you as it does to her, is you let her know ahead of time that sex is just sex to you, and it won't change your world. Enough ranting, I hate virgins.

Thats some mean shit, it only takes one loved up schoolie to pull that trigger. Shit like that will stay with you all your life.
If stuff like that dont affect you i really have to consider what kind of callous person you are and thank your lucky stars one of those virgins you messed up wasnt my little sister.

[TinTin78]

I think you have a responsibility to help the ones who gave so much of themselves to you and even strangers in need. We live in a far to selfish world and it is getting worse everyday. How can we be truly happy when half the world is crying? The thing is we can't, but we hide behind dumb excuses and shit so we can let go of our bad concious. I love all my x:es very much and if they came to me in need or was in some kind of trouble I would not hesitate to help them.

The thing you don't have to do is help when you don't want to from heart, or when you feel that you are gonna suffer from it yourself, then your not helping and should just ignore it.

[novastepp]

I'll do that but I hope she does't think that I still have feelings for her.

that's why i'd be up front and blunt to her face.

[stee]

I think you have a responsibility to help the ones who gave so much of themselves to you and even strangers in need. We live in a far to selfish world and it is getting worse everyday. How can we be truly happy when half the world is crying? The thing is we can't, but we hide behind dumb excuses and shit so we can let go of our bad concious. I love all my x:es very much and if they came to me in need or was in some kind of trouble I would not hesitate to help them.

The thing you don't have to do is help when you don't want to from heart, or when you feel that you are gonna suffer from it yourself, then your not helping and should just ignore it.

never a truer word spoken. i aint had too many girlfriends, but i have a good relationship with them. one texts me regular. she was going through a tough time last year her bf was dying of a brain tumour, but i offered my assistance all i could do from 130 miles away.
but all the other girls i have been with have been one night stands. so that dont count.
at the end of the day if you cant help yourself how can others help you. best thing you could do is have a chat with her. the stories you have been hearing minght be aload of bollox. or she might be dropping a cookie here and there while out, to reach a different level. its not like shes the only one doing that.
at the end of the day you have to reach out to people in one way or another. best way you can is a sit down chat.
dont beat around the bush but dont just get straight to the point.
Closure is always needed, i have needed it once and felt loads better after it. no better way to move on. maybe thats all she needs.

[thedoctordavo]

Thats some mean shit, it only takes one loved up schoolie to pull that trigger. Shit like that will stay with you all your life.
If stuff like that dont affect you i really have to consider what kind of callous person you are and thank your lucky stars one of those virgins you messed up wasnt my little sister.

I understand were your coming from too. But I don't see how it's messing up a virgin, I just don't see that they all lose it eventually. If they lose it to me at least I'm good to them as long as we're together. And I should rephrase what I said a bit because it did come across a little harsher then I ment it to come across, but virgins will try to pull some crazy ass sh1t on you man, and you can't sacrifice your wellbeing for they're obsession. And your right I'd be pretty upset if I said something like that and the girl actually did, but 99% of the time it's just for attention and trying to trap you.

[stee]

I understand were your coming from too. But I don't see how it's messing up a virgin, I just don't see that they all lose it eventually. If they lose it to me at least I'm good to them as long as we're together. And I should rephrase what I said a bit because it did come across a little harsher then I ment it to come across, but virgins will try to pull some crazy ass sh1t on you man, and you can't sacrifice your wellbeing for they're obsession. And your right I'd be pretty upset if I said something like that and the girl actually did, but 99% of the time it's just for attention and trying to trap you.

yeah i know what you mean. i have ahad a few brushes with them on the road to retribution. but i guess its their mixed up feelings bout you and the situation. but even still. its you that can make the situation either better or worse

[biglouie250]

Enough ranting, I hate virgins.

i think thats how you know that the suicide bombers are lunatics. who the eff wants 75 virgins?? if it were heaven thered be 75 hot, clean whores who can suck a golf ball through a garden hose

[stee]

i think thats how you know that the suicide bombers are lunatics. who the eff wants 75 virgins?? if it were heaven thered be 75 hot, clean whores who can suck a golf ball through a garden hose

i fvcking second that