I’ve been dating the same girl for the last 3 years, I started dating her when I was 22 (do the math I’m 25 and the juggernaut!) We’ve always gotten along good, we have had our bumps, really just one. We broke up for a few months a little over a year ago, but we are fine now. I really love her, I love taking care of her and have few problems with her.

It is really weird though because the most important thing to me for a girl to have is a career mindset. I work really hard, set high standards on where I want to be and I’ve always wanted a life parter to work with me on that. It is just appealing to me….to have a girlfriend/wife who is interested in the same goals as me. I guess I just wanted work to be my life….but my wife/girlfriend to enjoy doing that too. I want to share that life with someone and I want them to enjoy it.

I started buying/selling homes and renting homes in 2002. I’ve been able to accumulate 9 rental units and am currently remolding a home to sell after I live in it for 2 years to get it tax free. I work a full time job while I’m doing all this to help save money for more homes and invest in the ones we have. I work full time +, I never work less than 40 hours a week. I also pick up siding/roofing jobs and do work for other landlords in the area. I’m the president of the Landlords Association in town here and have meetings for that every month and meetings with the City Manager and Planning Commission on a regular basis.

While things could get ugly if we split up, I don’t care. My girl always says she wants kids, I want my family to be work orientated. I want my kids to be involved with my business, and I would want a wife to be involved too. I would like to teach my kids everything I learned, not just be some spoiled brat. I want to show them how they can make their own money. I want us at a team to do this, as it is, she would give them everything they want….and I would do the opposite and when Mom and Dad don’t stand as a team…kids loose respect.

Right now my girl never works over 30 hours a week. When she is not at work, she is not cleaning or cooking either. I love this girl, but I just wish she had some work ethic. She is so beautiful, so caring and such a sweet heart but just has zero drive. She is on Antidepressants and I know it is simply just because she is unhappy with her life right now. She wants to be a cosmetologist which is fine….but she just won’t shift into gear to do it. If I set it all up for her…I do that in vain because she has to do it herself.

The best advice I can get is to talk to her, and I have. She says I should just accept her for what she is, she does that for me. It sounds arrogant, but honestly how can she not accept me for what I am? I have very few flaws. I work hard, make the money for us to live, I clean the house, cook for her and do not ask for anything in return. I’m not exactly ugly I lift 4 days a week and run 4 miles 4 days a week. I treat her well, I absorb all the stress just so she does not have to take any of it. If we are in financial trouble, I don’t even try to let her know about it. If she finds out….all the pressure is on me and I always find a way out and she never has to lift a finger.


I know too though, I can’t just tell her my dream and expect her to fit into the equation, but what the **** can a brother do to get a bitch to work?!

Sorry, only spot to vent....