Alright, here goes....I've been with this girl for almost two years. For the first year, our relationship was amazing. We spend just about all of our free time together. Within 3 months I told her I loved her, and she felt the same way. August came around, I went to a university that was like an hour away, and she was finishing her last year in highschool. So our time together was limited to the weekends. But still I came home every weekend to spend time with her. I mean it literally, every single weekend. So no partying and very little socializing for me. But during the year, there was a change going on between the two of us.
At first, she called me everynight wondering about what I was doing. In fact, she was somewhat jealous that I could do whatever I want(her mom has always been very strict about what she does). But I didn't really do much outside of lifting, and eating. I did go out a few times, but never did much of anything. I'm really not much a partier. We had a couple of arguments about her being overly concerned, but nothing too bad happend. As for me, I never really hassled her about what she did. If she wanted to go out and drink with her friends, I was fine with that. I just expected her to be responsible.
This summer, we kinda changed rolls. The main reason why I changed took place on her senior prom. She has a guy friend, who she spends a lot of her time with. I was fine with this. But there were a couple of things that really pissed me off. For one, he wrote "I love you" on her car. He also wrote that on a couple of her possessions. But I swallowed my anger, and never said a word. I knew it would just start an argument. At prom, he was making more physical contact that I liked. He was picking her up, swinging her around, and some other shit. That really pissed me off. So I was a little uncomfortable about her hanging around with my girl, but that would start an argument. Because he was her friend. Another thing that pissed me off was that he got her smoking like a ****ing chimney again. Before that, she looked me straight in the eye and said that she wanted to quit smoking, and that she wanted me to help. So what do I do? I got on her about smoking with her guy friend. This led to more arguments. The just about every single day he kept on calling her asking what she was doing, and asked if she wanted to do something with him. So she began spending more time with him than with me.
I would try to make plans with her, but she'd always say that Luke (her guy friend) had already made plans with her. The stuff they did was working on his tractors, or picking up tires in some other town, or some stupid shit (or so I'm told). Well, I really didn't like this. I tried like hell to make plans with her, but she acted like she was obligated to do so. Then Luke would call her just about everyday, asking her to do something, and even though she was busy, she'd go and spend time with him. Talk about a total ****ing ego killer for me. The girl I love feels obligated to spend time with me. She was very busy, working part time, and taking two hard college classes this summer, which I understand. But she never acted like she could spare 2 hours a week to be with me.
Not too long ago her and one of her girlfriends went out to an abanded bridge and drank. I told her that was immature and irresponsible because there's a good chance a cop or some whacko would come by and hassle them. She took this as an insult, and we began fighting again. Later that night, a bunch of guys went out there and drank with them. That night she slept out in the middle of the road. Now that's ****ing smart.
So this eventually led to our break up. Suddenly, I didn't really see any love coming from her anymore. She was also spending more time with Luke than ever. We sat on a swing sweat, tears filled my eyes when I told her that maybe we shouldn't be together anymore.
Ever since then, I've talked with her and emailed her a couple of times. We're talking about getting back together. But she says she isn't sure what she wants. I broke up with her because she wasn't happy, and I was just not doing the job of making her happy anymore. The only time I saw her happy this summer was when she was with her friends, especially Luke.
I talked with her today, she said that her, Luke, and one of her girlfriends are going on a road trip. Something tells me something is going to happen, and I won't be able to be with her again. She told me that she would never date/do anything with Luke, but she's changed. So I really don't know what to expect to happen. I have a gut feeling he wants more than a friendship, and what better time to act on that.
As for myself, I'm an emotional train wreck. I've never shed so many tears in my life. She said I was like her second mother. Well I'm sorry for carrying about you, loving you, and wanting to spend time with you. Now Luke broke up with his girlfriend because he was spending so much time with mine.
Anyways, I just had to get that off my chest. If any of you guys have been in this situation, and have gotten through it, I would like to hear about it. Or if any of you guys have any advice at all I would appreciate it. I would also appreciate that the immature comments be kept at a minimum. I'm sorry for sounding like an a$$hole, it's just that I'm really not in the mood to hear them.
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Originally Posted by bulldawg_28
