So much Stress

[anaBROLIC]

looking for some advice. im going through alot of stress and im feeling very depressed. there are many factors into whats bothering me. i feel like im going to break down.my girl is bothered because i havnt wanted to fool around with her in a while. but i really feel its because of the physical and mental stress ive been going through. over the last 3-4 months ive been dealing with knee surgery that didnt go well. i am now about 10 weeks out and am prolly at 50% where i should prolly be. i lost 25lbs because of it and havnt been in the gym at all. i have been working 6 or 7 days a week for the last month and a half.(ever since i started walking again). my mother and stepfather just had a bad seperation. they were together for 17 years. im 23 so hes also all i know. so me and my mother got into an argument about the way she is handling it. we havnt talked in almost a month. its all building up and i dont know what to do. its affecting my relationship and im feeling really down. anyone got any advice on what i can do to fix this? anyone else out there gone through a similar problem?

[Jakspro]

First, i'd talk to you mom, resolve family first, its important bro. Then consider your situation, your 10 weeks out of your comp but your still preparing after knee surgery... Your a bad ass. You've been working all week, well shit happens. You'll need to make cash to survive. Your 23, your still young, even if you dont make it to your show the way you want to, you'll have years and years after to compete. And lastly your girl, eat some puss and call it a night. Either that or hit it.

[Donman25]

Man go to a doctor if you have too. There is no shame in that. Its not worth the risk. I have bipolar I Know. When you think it can't get any worse it does. When you are depressed it hard to just fix things no matter how simple they sound. Have you talked to your girl? Call your mom and tell her you love her. Just hang in the man time passes and wounds heal. "only the strong survive"

[Anabolios]

Dude I'm going through something very close and it seems like I'm too tired and maybe I'm losing my sexual interest which isn't like me but I'm stressed. PM me if you want the whole story then maybe I'll post it here. We're in the same boat brolic.....TRUST ME...I feel your pain...I flip out on my girl for nothing and she is nothing but supportive of me man...but I have such a short fuse because of all the bs im dealing with now

[Timm1704]

ring your mum, tell her even though you arent in agreement, that you just want her to know that you still love her. if nothing else, this will put your mind at rest alittle on this matter, and she will know that you havent forgotten about her. forget about training for the time being, you WILL get back to what you were in no time as soon as you get back into eating and training, with a CLEAR HEAD and focus, muscle-memory is a wonderful thing. im sure you probably have already done this, but speak to your girl, reassure her, tell her how beautiful she is, and that you are so sorry if she feels unhappy. remind her that when you get back to normal, you will bang her brains out. take her out for a nice meal or something. if you can afford it, see if its possible to take afew days off work,on the contrary to the above comment, things always work out and get better, and although this seems hellaciously difficult now, there are ways around it. remember that, and dont give up. i think these are very logical, and basic first steps to sorting out your problems as much as you can

[anaBROLIC]

great advice timm man...thanks for the help fellas.

[Hellmaskbanned]

Anabrolic hang in there bro.

I went through kinda the same shit at 18yrs old. Tore my elbow , scholarships down the drain in baseball. was ranked nationally. Parents divorced during the same time. Failed highschool because of ****ed up school/what was happening at the time. Had gyno surgery. Ha your a lucky ****er atleast you had a GF to fool around with. Just stay strong & times will change. Just embrace it at the time and remember how you will use it as motivation to reach your dreams.

[Bojangles69]

looking for some advice. im going through alot of stress and im feeling very depressed. there are many factors into whats bothering me. i feel like im going to break down.my girl is bothered because i havnt wanted to fool around with her in a while. but i really feel its because of the physical and mental stress ive been going through. over the last 3-4 months ive been dealing with knee surgery that didnt go well. i am now about 10 weeks out and am prolly at 50% where i should prolly be. i lost 25lbs because of it and havnt been in the gym at all. i have been working 6 or 7 days a week for the last month and a half.(ever since i started walking again). my mother and stepfather just had a bad seperation. they were together for 17 years. im 23 so hes also all i know. so me and my mother got into an argument about the way she is handling it. we havnt talked in almost a month. its all building up and i dont know what to do. its affecting my relationship and im feeling really down. anyone got any advice on what i can do to fix this? anyone else out there gone through a similar problem?

honestly bro, if things are that bad chances are its not going to pass by before tommorow. sometimes the best way through something is to go DIRECTLY through. Your saying things about how to "fix" a lot of things that are out of your control. Just accept them for now, work on that. Thats the most important part, everything else will usually work its way out. and talk about it with people too, let them know how your feeling and why. you'll get through it, im 24 been through some shit in my life, but it was ALL for the best in the long run.

[D3m3nt3d]

I know what its like bro, when my ex-fiance and I split bro - it was a life altering experience, still hands down the hardest thing I had to deal with. Alot having to do with my daughter who was 1 when I met my ex, after living together for so long, then in the blink of an eye, ending up 26 yrs old with your 5 yr old daughter back at home with your parents, losing your home, what became you and your daughters family etc...I didnt know if I would pull thru to be honest. I was on Anti-depressants, they wanted me to see counseling, but I refused to let the bitch get the best of me. Everyone kept telling me times get better, but at the time you dont feel its possible. While it still weighs on my mind alot, things have indeed gotten better. Key is surrounding yourself with friends and family that love you, and keeping yourself busy to ease your mind off of it. Thats really the main reason I pulled myself back into the gym, and each day is a little easier bro and the only thing that will heal it is time.

Best of luck friend.

[Beefyman]

yea bro i always hit down times in my life ex (when i got a 16 point ticket.. my mom and dad would not talk to me for speeding my brother was pissed because i was late to pick up his little girl my other brother has been stealing from me my dad was calling me so Fvcked up name... i work (if i want to but not really by choice.... if i say "no dad i don't want to take this job he will get pissed and talk shit) 7 days a week none stop.. i get payed 100% of it all but i can't turn it down for ****ing 1 day or it turn into trouble.... so bro i would smooth things out with ur maa then your girl...

[goodcents]

This might cheer you up. In the last few months I had my ford explorer repoed. everyday I have some bill collector wanting money. No serious girlfriend, only fly by nights (doubt I'm ready for a relationship right now anyway) Some days I just feel like I can't take the pressure and just want to set down and say fuk it and just walk away from all the stress (it seems like there is never a break, everyday "something" happens, I'm always on the edge of losing what I work for, some days when it's slow, I actually pay to go to work, how messed up is that. I was actually getting ready to start this very same kind of threadI have gotten really focused on my workouts and that has helped alot.

[spencer]

looking for some advice. im going through alot of stress and im feeling very depressed. there are many factors into whats bothering me. i feel like im going to break down.my girl is bothered because i havnt wanted to fool around with her in a while. but i really feel its because of the physical and mental stress ive been going through. over the last 3-4 months ive been dealing with knee surgery that didnt go well. i am now about 10 weeks out and am prolly at 50% where i should prolly be. i lost 25lbs because of it and havnt been in the gym at all. i have been working 6 or 7 days a week for the last month and a half.(ever since i started walking again). my mother and stepfather just had a bad seperation. they were together for 17 years. im 23 so hes also all i know. so me and my mother got into an argument about the way she is handling it. we havnt talked in almost a month. its all building up and i dont know what to do. its affecting my relationship and im feeling really down. anyone got any advice on what i can do to fix this? anyone else out there gone through a similar problem?

after my sergery (same op.) i was that down and stressed i caught shingles. i was living at my grans and split up with my gf just before sergury date.
i went through the seperation of parents thing when i was ten. if u got it all at once i feel for you mate.
keep in touch with your mum no matter what. shes your mum.

try bike riding as for gettin back into the training side

[DSM4Life]

This might cheer you up. In the last few months I had my ford explorer repoed. everyday I have some bill collector wanting money. No serious girlfriend, only fly by nights (doubt I'm ready for a relationship right now anyway) Some days I just feel like I can't take the pressure and just want to set down and say fuk it and just walk away from all the stress (it seems like there is never a break, everyday "something" happens, I'm always on the edge of losing what I work for, some days when it's slow, I actually pay to go to work, how messed up is that. I was actually getting ready to start this very same kind of threadI have gotten really focused on my workouts and that has helped alot.

I know that feeling all too well.

[goodcents]

I also know how you feel about the medical thing too, I'm pretty sure I have chrohns because I have most of the symptons such as sick at my stomach, cramps, ass just tore to nothing, fatigue etc. I went to one doctor after another, tube up the ass, creams etc. and they just kept billing me and the problem gets worse each day. It is hard to work out in pain but I just force myself. I also can't breathe for shlt at night (allergies) which keeps me up, I'm all messed up but that's just part of this big cosmic game. Plus side though, still have every intention of getting wealthy, I learn as much as I can, I'm making some really good moves and not too hard headed to take advice from people who know more than me.

[goodcents]

Almost forgot the arthritis in my lower back from when I use to lay sod as a teen, messed up my back. On the x rays you can see the bone rubbing together, but working out helps build up the muscle around it, so it doesn't hurt as bad, a few years ago it hurt so bad I would actually throw up. I think that sums up the physical problems the mental ones, forget about it, that would take too long