First off, it’s not my kid but a kid I care about.
Brief description:
My girls little sister is 14 and has some “issues”. I’m normally pretty good at giving her advice, and when she is confused of fusterated she often vents to me or my girl, or both and seeks advice.
My girl is often seeing everything with blinders up though because it is her little sister. I tend to be a little more direct and less trust worthy and confident in the decision making skills of a 14 year old with these issues.
The thing I’m having a problem with is this. I think of my girls family as my family. I care about her sister as much as I care for my own. I’ve talked to this girl before, tried to explain why not to do this or that and teared up in the process. Her family thinks of me the same way, I’m very close with the entire family and they hold what I say with much regard. Recently I’ve found out that the young girl is/has been having sex. She finally did come out and tell her sister, but she said it was one time, with her friend (17 yr old guy). Though her friends though, I’ve found that she had a party at her grandmother’s vacation home that basically turned into an “orgy” where at the end of the night she was in nothing but a towel…details were not clear enough to establish what went on though. She really likes to drink, she recived 2 MIP’s this summer and is on probation, doing community service, the works. Everything but tether (ankle bracelet) that she really should be on.
My girl talked to her mother though and said she needs to be on birth control. I belive this is a common problem that Mom and Dad have when they find out daughter is having sex though right? Dad cannot accept his daughter is having sex, says no birth control. Mom being understanding of a girl turning into a woman says she is going to have sex regardless, lets just not have kids. I can respect mother’s choices on that matter, if the girl is 16, 17. But 14, I can’t see it. She just grew boobs this summer and is already using them with her guy friend. I’ve not discussed it yet, but I don’t feel she should have any “Alone time” with a 17 year old guy anyway. She should be dating or hanging out with a 14-15 year old kid. I think giving her the pill is in a way giving her the message it is okay to have sex…maybe she will think it is okay to have those orgy’s then. IMO it is better to have a kid than to have AIDs.
What would you guys/gals do? She is gone for 5 days and I was thinking of inviting her mother and dad over to discuss a plan and offer help if needed.
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Originally Posted by auslifta
any advice
