Really Depressed

**PaRiS2005** · 12-07-2006, 04:29 PM

So, everything's going good in my life right now, as far as my boyfriend, job, and social life. But one of the most important men in my life has taken a turn for the worse.

My grandfather just got remitted to the hospital, for an upper respiratory infection. Normally wouldn't be a big deal, but he has Leukemia. This is the third time he's gone back, and he just started his 3rd round of chemotherapy.

The doctors said if he makes it through the chemo then he has a 1/5 chance of surviving after that. It doesn't look like he's going to make it, for very long, let alone through Christmas.

I really need all the prayers I can get for him, and some uplifting thoughts.

Thanks guys.

**Hunter** · 12-07-2006, 04:34 PM

I lost my father recently, the best advice I can give you is talk to him, spend as much time with him as you can. After they are gone you have memory's so dont let your last few memory's be you pulling away. Take comfort also that he will be in a better place if he does pass and gone has a plan for everyone. He is probably in a lot of pain and you(the same as I did) want to keep him here to be with you which is selfish but hard to see cause you do love him so much. Just spend time with him and know if he passes he will be in a better place. Your in my prayers Paris

**PaRiS2005** · 12-07-2006, 04:41 PM

Originally Posted by mn_fighter

I lost my father recently, the best advice I can give you is talk to him, spend as much time with him as you can. After they are gone you have memory's so dont let your last few memory's be you pulling away. Take comfort also that he will be in a better place if he does pass and gone has a plan for everyone. He is probably in a lot of pain and you(the same as I did) want to keep him here to be with you which is selfish but hard to see cause you do love him so much. Just spend time with him and know if he passes he will be in a better place. Your in my prayers Paris

Thank you. I just want him to be out of pain, and to be happy. I just wish he had MORE time.

**shrpskn** · 12-07-2006, 04:44 PM

My prayers out to you and your family.

**Schmidty** · 12-07-2006, 04:57 PM

I lost my grand father a feq years ago. Now i wish Ihad spent more time with him. What im sayin is cherish the moments you have with the ones you love. I hope things start lookin up for your grandfather and you soon.

**STYLE74** · 12-07-2006, 05:14 PM

My prayers go out to you and your family. Hopefully he pulls out of this and is ok. Don't worry, just be there for him and spend as much time as possible that you do have with him.

**mavsluva** · 12-07-2006, 05:41 PM

I'm very sorry about this news. As weird as this may sound, now is the time to celebrate who he is rather than to dwell upon what might be. Your spirit and support will nourish him more than a doctor's prognosis, be it good or bad. When all is said and done, it's most rewarding to know that you were cared for and loved.

I pray for miracles to happen for both you and your grandfather. Pain and suffering is only temporary, where love last forever.

**whtalooker** · 12-07-2006, 06:49 PM

just remember to always tell him how much you love him...

**PaRiS2005** · 12-11-2006, 09:29 AM

Originally Posted by whtalooker

just remember to always tell him how much you love him...

I tell him everyday. And visit him as much as they'll allow. They just limited his visitors though..so time is limited for him, I'm afraid.

**Hackamaniac** · 12-11-2006, 09:33 AM

He will be in my prayers..
Stay strong

**PROTEINSHAKE** · 12-11-2006, 09:38 AM

I lost my mom to cancer over 2 yrs ago. then best Advice I can give you at this point is to spend as much time with him as you can & be supportive of him in his illness. MAVSLUVA gives some solid advice as well.. good luck & our prayers are with you & your family.

**PaRiS2005** · 12-11-2006, 09:49 AM

Originally Posted by getnjakked

I lost my mom to cancer over 2 yrs ago. then best Advice I can give you at this point is to spend as much time with him as you can & be supportive of him in his illness. MAVSLUVA gives some solid advice as well.. good luck & our prayers are with you & your family.

I'm sorry for your loss, and thank you for your prayers.

**energizer bunny** · 12-11-2006, 10:12 AM

yo paris a feel your pain, i lost my grandad in April after having lung cancer for two years, im sorry to hear about your grandad hope he pulls through. try and stay strong for your family.

**SMAN12b** · 12-11-2006, 10:24 AM

Our prayers are with you Paris, I am in the same boat as you only it is my mother's health that is dwindleing before my eyes. You just want their suffering to end!!

***Doc.Sust*** · 12-11-2006, 10:52 AM

Originally Posted by PaRiS2005

I tell him everyday. And visit him as much as they'll allow. They just limited his visitors though..so time is limited for him, I'm afraid.

spend as much time there as you could. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

**PaRiS2005** · 12-11-2006, 11:00 AM

Originally Posted by Doc.Sust

spend as much time there as you could. my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Thanks Doc.

**MAXIMA5** · 12-11-2006, 12:34 PM

Your grandfather is luckier than most.

When many people get old and sick, they don't have the family support and love you are providing. Many people who get old and sick are seen as an inconvenience and a burden, and they die alone with no one to be there in their final days.

If it's his time, it's his time. All you can do is be there for him and treat him like you would if he was not sick. My grandfather was in a vegatative coma for 14 years before he passed. Towards the end, it was hard to remember the person he was before he got sick, because I was so young when it happened.

Just be there for him. It's all you can do.

**PaRiS2005** · 12-11-2006, 04:45 PM

Originally Posted by MAXIMA5

Your grandfather is luckier than most.

When many people get old and sick, they don't have the family support and love you are providing. Many people who get old and sick are seen as an inconvenience and a burden, and they die alone with no one to be there in their final days.

If it's his time, it's his time. All you can do is be there for him and treat him like you would if he was not sick. My grandfather was in a vegatative coma for 14 years before he passed. Towards the end, it was hard to remember the person he was before he got sick, because I was so young when it happened.

Just be there for him. It's all you can do.

Thank you, I had never really thought about any of that. I appreciate your advice and I am going to do just that. Every time I go in there, I'm always very happy and perky and bring him stuff to keep him entertained. He loves puppets and stuff because he's a magician by trade, so I got him a fish that makes bubbly noises. I told him when I brought it to him that he had to have it named by the next time I came. So, the fish has a name, it's Dingo. It's kind of like a conversation piece when I go see him. I guess to avoid everything else...and to distract him.

I'm just doing all I know how to do, and I hope that's enough.

**MAXIMA5** · 12-12-2006, 06:12 AM

sounds like you're keeping him going.

**thetank** · 12-12-2006, 06:29 AM

my thoughts and prayers are with your family

**PaRiS2005** · 12-12-2006, 12:06 PM

Originally Posted by thetank

my thoughts and prayers are with your family

Thanks, Hun.

**PaRiS2005** · 12-12-2006, 12:07 PM

Update:
Today is his last day of Chemo! And he's holding on strong!

Thanks to everyone who's kept him in your thoughts and prayers!

**MAXIMA5** · 12-12-2006, 02:33 PM

I'm glad all is well.
Now that he's over the hump, be sure to continue your support.

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