Went on Date(hit it off) then she ignores me?

[taiboxa]

i might be jumpin the gun as usual LOL
but... any input on the female mind is appreciative.
went on date yesterday and hit it off great
next i calld 2x no answe and no returned call.. but when i calld the 2nd time it said "call waiting other party" which means she was on the fone.

so? wats the deal is this a game chicks play? wtf am i suppose to do lol

[dece870717]

Lol I get the the same way with this stuff. But for me most of the time they just end up ignoring me completely or they play these games and I don't play games. I could never understand why they play games in the first place, f*ck with your emotions and confuse the hell out of you, games just seem immature. You like me or you don't, you want to date me or you don't, never understood why this crap has to be so difficult.

[JAYROD]

exactly, so many women love to play games. it's retarted.

[Prada]

Tai......you are the complete opposite of a womanizer. For some reason I think perhaps you are to friendly and nice. You have to have the girl WANT to call you or talk to you because you have something she desires, emotionally.
Once you know how to manipulate this with a woman, you will have women chasing you. They will be interested in you because you have something they want..........that and lower the BF% a little. See womanizing is a bit of a juggling act, ya gotta know when to pull and when to push a girl.

[5ifthCitizen]

its strange to me no matter how mature a girl seems 98% of them love playin games, even the ones that act like they like u a lot. i hate playin games but unfortunately thats the only way to make anything happen usually. after a date i feel went well i always wait at least 2 or 3 days to call again now... i wouldn't worry about it man, maybe she'll call u maybe not, maybe its for the best tho. theres probably somebody better out there.

[Bojangles69]

i might be jumpin the gun as usual LOL
but... any input on the female mind is appreciative.
went on date yesterday and hit it off great
next i calld 2x no answe and no returned call.. but when i calld the 2nd time it said "call waiting other party" which means she was on the fone.

so? wats the deal is this a game chicks play? wtf am i suppose to do lol

Before I respond, define "hit it off great" in more detail plzz..

Girls will purposely take, write, and remember a mans # so when they see it on their caller id they KNOW not to pick up the phone.
Just because it appears one way, doesnt mean it IS that way, but also doesnt mean its a "game".

You could call it a "game" to ease your own confused mind. But its moreso a "ritual". Humans are just too smart for thier own good so they will trick themselves into thinking its something its not to try to understand what they presently CANT understand. Try to wrap your head around that last sentence.=] Like you think you understand whats going on by labeling it a "game". "ohh i get it shes playing a game" ... but you STILL dont get it.

Ritual implies consitency, game implies randomness.

A venusian artist seduces a women using rituals, or consitent patterns he's intuitively learned that ALL women respond too.
Other men have to be taught or learn a less natural way to perform the ritual.

Before I spew another useless rant though you need to type more than a few sentences about what gave you the idea "you hit it off". I want to just see where your logic is at.

[taiboxa]

like iono how to definet hit it off.. lol.. i mean i made her smile and laugh a whole lot she said she had a great time w/ me... and she said she loved the fact that i was fun to be around and made her laugh .. hell iono

[Bojangles69]

Ok we will keep this simple. How long did you wait AFTER the date to call her 2 times?

[perfectbeast2001]

like iono how to definet hit it off.. lol.. i mean i made her smile and laugh a whole lot she said she had a great time w/ me... and she said she loved the fact that i was fun to be around and made her laugh .. hell iono

oh dear, sounds like the next line from her is gonna be, "you are more like the big brother i never had".
Be meaner to the girls!!

[juiceball44]

said he went on the date yesterday and called today....... that is way too soon, i wait till she calls me unless i am extremely interested than i would call in a few days

bitches play games thats just the way it is, the only thing to do is beat them at their own game

[taiboxa]

said he went on the date yesterday and called today....... that is way too soon, i wait till she calls me unless i am extremely interested than i would call in a few days

bitches play games thats just the way it is, the only thing to do is beat them at their own game

she calls me like all the time even during class lol.. but after we go on a date i just call dher after class to see wat she was going to be doing this weekend ><

[taiboxa]

oh dear, sounds like the next line from her is gonna be, "you are more like the big brother i never had".
Be meaner to the girls!!

nah... im not a mean person... and i not changing who i is to get laid psh.. tooooo much work.

[juiceball44]

she calls me like all the time even during class lol.. but after we go on a date i just call dher after class to see wat she was going to be doing this weekend ><

ahh ok so you already know this chick, i thought u just met her and went on like a first date, thats weird than that she didnt return your calls just dont keep blowing her phone up makes you look bad, if you have a chance trust me she will call

[taiboxa]

ahh ok so you already know this chick, i thought u just met her and went on like a first date, thats weird than that she didnt return your calls just dont keep blowing her phone up makes you look bad, if you have a chance trust me she will call

yeah she is super busy w/ school and shit.. but its not hard to call someone back or send a txt.. my buddy said its kuz i didnt try to kiss her after the date.. but she is such a GOODIE GOODIE girl.. i didnt wanna make her feel awkward (i never dated a goodie goodie before so this is new to me)

but when she gave me a hug goodbye.. i was gunna try to lay one on her but usually most chicks that want a kiss will hug you and put their face near ur neck.. she like burried her face in my chest. and i wasnt about to pull her hair to make her tilt her head up.. atleast NOT ON THE FIRST DATE! lol

[PeteyK]

yeah she is super busy w/ school and shit.. but its not hard to call someone back or send a txt.. my buddy said its kuz i didnt try to kiss her after the date.. but she is such a GOODIE GOODIE girl.. i didnt wanna make her feel awkward (i never dated a goodie goodie before so this is new to me)

but when she gave me a hug goodbye.. i was gunna try to lay one on her but usually most chicks that want a kiss will hug you and put their face near ur neck.. she like burried her face in my chest. and i wasnt about to pull her hair to make her tilt her head up.. atleast NOT ON THE FIRST DATE! lol

if its b/c u didnt kiss her then go to where ever she lives in nothing but a trench coat

[InsaneInTheMembrane]

just don't make any attempt to communicate with her anymore. if you see her, act normal as if nothing's wrong. If you act too friendly, you'll look desperate, if you act cold/distant then she knows she's got you where she wants you. Pretend as if the date never happened, nothing frustrates a girl more than when she realizes she's had no effect what so ever on you. it's funny how the female psyche works; they're attracted to men who don't pay them any attention...

[JDawg1536]

like iono how to definet hit it off.. lol.. i mean i made her smile and laugh a whole lot she said she had a great time w/ me... and she said she loved the fact that i was fun to be around and made her laugh .. hell iono

Sounds like a gay best friend in the making........

Im the same way with women and if you want to pull ass it aint the way to go. You gotta be a dick and play the stupid fvcking games. Dont call her anymore, she will call.

[JDawg1536]

How old are you btw?

[jolly7187]

yeah she is super busy w/ school and shit.. but its not hard to call someone back or send a txt.. my buddy said its kuz i didnt try to kiss her after the date.. but she is such a GOODIE GOODIE girl.. i didnt wanna make her feel awkward (i never dated a goodie goodie before so this is new to me)

but when she gave me a hug goodbye.. i was gunna try to lay one on her but usually most chicks that want a kiss will hug you and put their face near ur neck.. she like burried her face in my chest. and i wasnt about to pull her hair to make her tilt her head up.. atleast NOT ON THE FIRST DATE! lol

this bitch knowns damn well you called man, dont try to kid yourself. Anyways the best idea would to have not even called her and then waited till you saw her in class again but just ignored her, or barely talked to her, just show active disinterest. in the class with girls trying to pick up has never worked for me but i onno

[perfectbeast2001]

yeah she is super busy w/ school and shit.. but its not hard to call someone back or send a txt.. my buddy said its kuz i didnt try to kiss her after the date.. but she is such a GOODIE GOODIE girl.. i didnt wanna make her feel awkward (i never dated a goodie goodie before so this is new to me)

but when she gave me a hug goodbye.. i was gunna try to lay one on her but usually most chicks that want a kiss will hug you and put their face near ur neck.. she like burried her face in my chest. and i wasnt about to pull her hair to make her tilt her head up.. atleast NOT ON THE FIRST DATE! lol

maybe her cheek brushed against your gyno and it put her off...

[scaramouche]

women play games mate,rightly or wrongly but they do and will continue to

[nalbano34]

I would say just don't call her, you will run into her I assume and then she will probably be like " why haven't you called me?". Then tell her when you did and that is that. Or she thinks you are a dork and is trying to stay away..lol. You may have thought you were hitting it off, but..........................

[NotSmall]

Tai I'm like you in that if I like a girl I'm no good at pretending otherwise or playing the asshole - you cannot pretend to be something you're not, HOWEVER you do need to just back away and calm down a bit, desperation is not an attractive quality.

[fenceguy]

i've said it before and i'll say it again. women have snakes in their head. The best thing you can do, is rub one out, and ignore her. she will either come around or not. its that simple.
There are too many people out there that you can connect with, don't waste your time on one that doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve.

[JAYROD]

i've said it before and i'll say it again. women have snakes in their head. The best thing you can do, is rub one out, and ignore her. she will either come around or not. its that simple.
There are too many people out there that you can connect with, don't waste your time on one that doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve.

very well put. i wasted 4 years of my life on one woman i wish i could have back.

[SMAN12b]

Do not attempt to contact her again until she calls you a few times. Be Aloof and get yourself to the nearest meeting of The He Man Woman Haters club right away !!!

[stocky121]

Do not attempt to contact her again until she calls you a few times. Be Aloof and get yourself to the nearest meeting of The He Man Woman Haters club right away !!!

LOL co-signed

[massbuild]

I agree with people here. Don't try to contact her for a while and wait for her to contact you. If you keep tryin then shes gonna think your "stalkerish" and then your back to square one.

If she likes you then shes eventually gonna try toi get with you and if she is goodie goodie like you said then you don't need to worry about her with other ppl.

[Lexed]

lol tai I love your threads makes my day

[thetank]

i've said it before and i'll say it again. women have snakes in their head. The best thing you can do, is rub one out, and ignore her. she will either come around or not. its that simple.
There are too many people out there that you can connect with, don't waste your time on one that doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve.

fenceguy > yoda.

[Stock]

Let her see you hanging out with one of the known sluts after class one day. You will hear from her, or one of her friends, real quick. When asked about the slut, just respond that she is someone that keeps bothering you to go out, and then put her on the spot on why she has not returned her calls. It would be a great time to ask her to go out with you again, if she accepts, treat her like a whore, if she doesnt accept, go find someone else because she aint in to you...

[G-1000]

Bro you should be use to it. I did not call you back after the first date also.

[fenceguy]

Bro you should be use to it. I did not call you back after the first date also.

Dude you are so

[pepperoni]

I think you should just call her when you feel like it, forget any of that crap about waiting a certain amount of time after a date to call, everyone is saying that girls play games, but purposely waiting to call is part of the game.

Also if you call a few times and she thinks you are a stalker well then it pobably wasnt meant to work out. But there is no sense in changing how you act to try and win her over. so i wouldnt treat her any different then you have been or purposely not call. just do what u feel like at the time, if that means calling her, then call her.

[scottish]

My wife was that way after our first couple of dates. I would call and nothing. So the last message I left her was, "this is my last phone call to you, if you want to talk or go out call me". About 1 minute later she called and we have been married for almost 12 years now.

[10nispro]

Tai--your life could be a great tv show. With the expertise in all aspects of life, it would run for a long time. You said you have known her for awhile, so do you know of others that she has gone out with or friends that know her better than you? It's always the quiet ones you have to worry about.

[taiboxa]

My wife was that way after our first couple of dates. I would call and nothing. So the last message I left her was, "this is my last phone call to you, if you want to talk or go out call me". About 1 minute later she called and we have been married for almost 12 years now.

lol i just sent her an email..
which worked well.. since its been storming like mad around here...

basically it went like hey dont know if ya gotmy calls or what not, the weather has really been dicking w/ my service. If you did get them then im sorry if it looked like i was trying to spam ya.
take care and have a goodin.
then i deleted her number from me fone and stuff luckily i dont have it memorized like most.

then i called my friends 20yr old sister who is stupid hot (i mean like even if she had turrets and downsyndrome she would still be atleast an 8) and just came back into town from visiting family (she said she would be my rebound 2 weeks ago or so but was up in PA).
oh this will be interesting.. next thing is i will get shot down by a chick who is like 6yrs younger than me!

[l2elapse]

women are screwed in the head

[taiboxa]

Tai--your life could be a great tv show. With the expertise in all aspects of life, it would run for a long time. You said you have known her for awhile, so do you know of others that she has gone out with or friends that know her better than you? It's always the quiet ones you have to worry about.

ha yeah i hear this bout once a month on this forum LOL
if only they would make a sitcom..
call it

"Life in the Fat Lane."

[BigLittleTim]

"The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right" is a best-selling 1995 book co-authored by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider.

A successful "Rules Girl" displays her trophy to coworkers.The book's basic theme is that, in order to attract and marry the man of her dreams, a woman should play hard to get. The authors promise happy relationships and happy marriages to the readers who follow their 34 specific rules. A woman who follows "the rules" is called a Rules Girl. The underlying philosophy is that women should not aggressively pursue men, but ought to get the men to pursue them.

The book generated much discussion upon its release. Some considered the book to be useful and motivational, while others dismissed it as outdated, or a how-to guide that teaches women to play games and manipulate men.

Some example rules are:

Don't accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday
Don't talk to a man first (and don't ask him to dance)
Don't call him and rarely return his calls
Don't meet him halfway or go dutch on a date

The follow up book "The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work" was published around the time Ellen Fein's marriage broke up.



-BigLittleTim