Getting Married

[gixxerboy1]

Well my Russian ex the one in all my avi’s calls me. We broke up about 6 months ago over something dumb and both were stubborn. She tells me she misses me and realizes how good I was towards her. She wants to get back together. BUT. She just lost her appeal for a green card and they want to deport her. So she needs to get married to stay her. She wants to move to Dallas next month and do this.
I def. see she has a lot of motive behind this. I told her I would do it as a friend and since im moving the end of the month I could just get a 2 bedroom. We could live like roommates and just have our own lives. But that way she can still stay in the country. She doesn’t want that she wants to get back together. On advice from a lot of people I said I want a prenup and she had no problems with that.
So it looks like my mail order bride will be here on Tuesday

[PT]

make sure you get a prenuptial agreement bro because she could be doing it just to stay. maybe you 2 will live happily ever after but there is always that chance and i doubt its just a coincedence that she called you at the very time her green card was about to expire

[DSM4Life]

I say bad call.

[gixxerboy1]

I say bad call.

and you were going to be the maid of honor.

Leaving get back with her out of it. I really dont want to see her get sent back to Russia. I really think its bullshit that they are doing it. I dont see what i have to loose. If it works out with us great. If not. I have a pre nup and she gets nothing.

[gixxerboy1]

make sure you get a prenuptial agreement bro because she could be doing it just to stay. maybe you 2 will live happily ever after but there is always that chance and i doubt its just a coincedence that she called you at the very time her green card was about to expire

I know that. I told her yesterday that i wanted 1 and she said that is fine.

BTW I had a deposite on an engament ring when we broke up. She wanted to get married back then.

[PT]

maybe it will work out for you then. i hope it does. good luck bro

[gixxerboy1]

This really pisses me off about our system. She came her legally with a visa. Got a lawyer filed all the stuff for a green card. She got denied. She filed and appeal. She has a SS# and works and goes to school. She speaks English perfectly. And they deny her and are going to deport her. They took her passport. Ye people who are here illegally get arrested or what ever and they don’t do shit. Its complete BS., She has spent 10’s of thousands of dollars trying to stay here.

[Tesla]

I say bad call.

I'll second that. Sounds to me like she's just using you. I'd let them deport her arse back.

[Tesla]

I say bad call.

I'll second that. Sounds to me like she's just using you. I'd let them deport her arse back.

[Skully44420]

i say do what you think is best...nothing to lose if you get a prenup i guess

it's really sad how she's got her life going here and actually doing it legal and then we got all these mexicans that get to stay here for what?...to take jobs away from people that live here legally?

[gixxerboy1]

i say do what you think is best...nothing to lose if you get a prenup i guess

it's really sad how she's got her life going here and actually doing it legal and then we got all these mexicans that get to stay here for what?...to take jobs away from people that live here legally?

Thats what i figure. If we work out great all the best. If we arent right for each other then we cant try it as friends and i helped her out. If she tunrs into a bitch we get a divorce and i lost nothing.

I know our sytem is so fvcked

[FallenWyvern]

This is kinda like getting a girl pregnant and getting married. You will always wonder how it would have worked out if the circumstances were different.

Sounds like you care for her quite a bit though.

[TJM7275]

You guys don't know the whole story.... I talked to Gix about this on the phone the other night for a while. Its great everyone is concerned about him, but trust me... He knows what he's doing and the situation is not as bleak as it seems. I'm not gonna tell you the whole story, thats up o Gix if he wants to or not, but its not bad at all. I was thinking the same thing when he told me about it a few days ago. Then I talked to him and was totally at ease. Lets wish him well!!!!!

[Amorphic]

tread carefully bro.

[Panzerfaust]

One of the dumbest ****ing things I have heard in a loooong time. Are you ****ing nuts?

[numbat]

Good luck Gixx. I wish ya the best.

[HORSE~]

I saw you posted this over at olm earlier and you got the same responces your getting here....

I wish you luck with what ever you decide just make sure if you do decide to go threw with it that you have a damn good prenuptial agreement....

Wish ya the best either way bro....

[gixxerboy1]

thanks guys. And i do understand why some think im crazy

The way i look at it. We both wanted to get married 6 months ago. So we are back to there. Neither of us screwed each other over it was dumb shit. Would i marry her this quick if it wasnt for the deportation. No. But i really dont see what i have to loose. But i know what im loosing if i dont.

Hell im getting a hot mail order bride with out the postage

[gst528i]

good luck. Karma will help you out. your helping someone in need. if it doesn't work than eventually someone will help you when u need it most.

[Panzerfaust]

Remember to post again when you are getting a divorce.

[TJM7275]

LOL, Oh bro thats harsh...

[gixxerboy1]

Remember to post again when you are getting a divorce.

Your not invited to the wedding now either

[956Vette]

Best of luck gixxer. The best girl I ever dated was from the Ukraine and looked just like your avi

[PT]

One of the dumbest ****ing things I have heard in a loooong time. Are you ****ing nuts?

harsh bro

[G-1000]

They say if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all.

I will keep quit on this. I'm sure you know what is at risk by doing this.

[firmechicano831]

Bro ur getting used and abbused. I'm sure if it was u on the other end she would have given u the finger. I have a couple of friends that got married to Russian order brides and even with a prenup you're not completely safe or out of the picture and they've told me that as well. Consult with an attorney before you do anything. Wish you best of luck.

[Narkissos]

Best of luck gixxer. The best girl I ever dated was from the Ukraine and looked just like your avi

Maybe it's the same girl














j/k

[PT]

like i said before i am hoping for the best for you but this is a dangerous situation your getting yourself into. i gurentee she will try to get pregnant asap. personally i would never marry her no matter how much i loved her because of the situation but if all does sour soon annulment is always an option. i wish you the best and if you do marry her then i hope you stay together forever and grow old together. i lost 3 beautiful women because i wasnt ready for marrige and they were. i didnt want to lose them but i always felt that once im married im married for life so i made sure i waited for the person that was right for me in every way. i was just recently married(june 1st) and i couldnt be happier because we have been together for 2 and a half years or so and are perfect together. we argue sometimes but have nevr had one single fight. marrige has always meant alot to me and i never took it lightly so i had no problem waiting for the perfect wife. my last girlfriend wa an abercrombe model and gorgeous. she wanted to marry me and even though we were good together and she was drop dead gorgeous i didnt see us lasting forever so i ended it. i wish you the best bro and whatever you decide to do i wish you the best and hope your happy

[RuhlFreak55]

well i wouldn't wanna see someone i care about get deported either........i'd prolly do it....but then again i have like a big zero in the actual relationship experience department....i just know the theories and my ****ed up idea of romance lol.

[NotSmall]

One of the dumbest ****ing things I have heard in a loooong time. Are you ****ing nuts?

Mate your attitude gets worse every time I see one of your posts.

[bigt10]

Remember to post again when you are getting a divorce.

its harsh but thats the reality im afraid.

She is your ex for a reason, she calls you back just happens to be at the time when she is about to get kicked o ut.

Didnt she also have a freind or someone get into an accident and you wanted to help pay i remeber it was you or someone that posted a while back.

I sound like an asshole let me reword this, there is nothing wrong with helping somoene, being kind, or decent. If you marry her on paper then if she leaves shell take everything.

If shes hot tell her to go marry some old rich guy, divorce with him 2 years later. take everything he has then if she loves you shell come back.

dont you be the loser or get played.

she has to much motive and other reasons behind her actions.

be ware your crossing thin ice.

[bigt10]

Bro ur getting used and abbused. I'm sure if it was u on the other end she would have given u the finger. I have a couple of friends that got married to Russian order brides and even with a prenup you're not completely safe or out of the picture and they've told me that as well. Consult with an attorney before you do anything. Wish you best of luck.

good point.

and how much cash are you going to drop on a wedding.

marriage is the contract you cant get out of.

haha look at it this way, even a bank can do bad things and Big Helicopter Ben Bernanke will bail them all out and print all the money to pay for their losses.

BUt no one can bail you out if it doesnt work out.

[IronReload04]

I say get a prenupt, and just do it as a friend.

[bigt10]

like i said before i am hoping for the best for you but this is a dangerous situation your getting yourself into. i gurentee she will try to get pregnant asap. personally i would never marry her no matter how much i loved her because of the situation but if all does sour soon annulment is always an option. i wish you the best and if you do marry her then i hope you stay together forever and grow old together. i lost 3 beautiful women because i wasnt ready for marrige and they were. i didnt want to lose them but i always felt that once im married im married for life so i made sure i waited for the person that was right for me in every way. i was just recently married(june 1st) and i couldnt be happier because we have been together for 2 and a half years or so and are perfect together. we argue sometimes but have nevr had one single fight. marrige has always meant alot to me and i never took it lightly so i had no problem waiting for the perfect wife. my last girlfriend wa an abercrombe model and gorgeous. she wanted to marry me and even though we were good together and she was drop dead gorgeous i didnt see us lasting forever so i ended it. i wish you the best bro and whatever you decide to do i wish you the best and hope your happy

sustainability is the key.

Women change when they married.

Most want to stop working, they dont put effortinto their appearance and stop carding.

They like to have children and they love the attention then stop trying when they get older and have to deal with real problems of substance.

They also like children, because they can make excuses to stay home to "support" the children. Its also a reason for you to keep paying her bills and support her lifestyle.

Then shell try to make you feel bad if you want to leave because of "the children".

I have seen this to many times i caution you this is no small decesion. I know many more people hurt by marriage then enjoy it.


Women change when they get married. When they think they are locked to you things chanbe big time. Goodbye effort hello easy street. They dont care about the way the look, treat you, her and children become #1 dady wont mtter.

Most will have things their way all in the good name and common cause of " the kids".

[gixxerboy1]

its harsh but thats the reality im afraid.

She is your ex for a reason, she calls you back just happens to be at the time when she is about to get kicked o ut.We are ex's because we were dumb and stubborn nobody screwed each other over. And we have been keeping in touch

Didnt she also have a freind or someone get into an accident and you wanted to help pay i remeber it was you or someone that posted a while back.Yes that was me but a different girl

I sound like an asshole let me reword this, there is nothing wrong with helping somoene, being kind, or decent. If you marry her on paper then if she leaves shell take everything.I'm doing it with a prenup

If shes hot tell her to go marry some old rich guy, divorce with him 2 years later. take everything he has then if she loves you shell come back.She wouldnt do that trust me.

dont you be the loser or get played.

she has to much motive and other reasons behind her actions.

be ware your crossing thin ice.

As far as your post about dropping money on a wedding. I told her already im not getting her a ring now or a wedding. Right now it will be on paper at city hall. If everything is gonig good in some time we will do the wedding and ring.

I do appreciate all the advice

[bigt10]

I say get a prenupt, and just do it as a friend.

Ya by all means help her. But dont put your ass on the line like that.

If something goes wrong in the end you are the only one who is going to lose. remember that.

[PT]

sustainability is the key.

Women change when they married.

Most want to stop working, they dont put effortinto their appearance and stop carding.

They like to have children and they love the attention then stop trying when they get older and have to deal with real problems of substance.

They also like children, because they can make excuses to stay home to "support" the children. Its also a reason for you to keep paying her bills and support her lifestyle.

Then shell try to make you feel bad if you want to leave because of "the children".

I have seen this to many times i caution you this is no small decesion. I know many more people hurt by marriage then enjoy it.


Women change when they get married. When they think they are locked to you things chanbe big time. Goodbye effort hello easy street. They dont care about the way the look, treat you, her and children become #1 dady wont mtter.

Most will have things their way all in the good name and common cause of " the kids".

wow you must of had some bad luck with what im going to assume is your ex wife. im married and my girl has no plans on giving up her career even though we have a little boy. she still dresses up, works out and yes i also still matter to her.

[NotSmall]

wow you must of had some bad luck with what im going to assume is your ex wife. im married and my girl has no plans on giving up her career even though we have a little boy. she still dresses up, works out and yes i also still matter to her.

That's what I was thinking - some bitch burned him gooooood!

[RuhlFreak55]

wow you must of had some bad luck with what im going to assume is your ex wife. im married and my girl has no plans on giving up her career even though we have a little boy. she still dresses up, works out and yes i also still matter to her.

exactly what i was thinking.....can't fathom all that negativity is actually warranted

[gixxerboy1]

sustainability is the key.

Women change when they married.

Most want to stop working, they dont put effortinto their appearance and stop carding.

They like to have children and they love the attention then stop trying when they get older and have to deal with real problems of substance.

They also like children, because they can make excuses to stay home to "support" the children. Its also a reason for you to keep paying her bills and support her lifestyle.

Then shell try to make you feel bad if you want to leave because of "the children".

I have seen this to many times i caution you this is no small decesion. I know many more people hurt by marriage then enjoy it.


Women change when they get married. When they think they are locked to you things chanbe big time. Goodbye effort hello easy street. They dont care about the way the look, treat you, her and children become #1 dady wont mtter.

Most will have things their way all in the good name and common cause of " the kids".

This girl is way to into her appearence to not care. Honestly she is a little to much.

Her gym is 4 blocks from her apartment. She walks there. She wont walk in gym clothes. And all her gym clother are nice new stuff. She goes there in her heels and dressed up changes works out changes agian and walks home.

I honestly agree this isnt the best idea. But i do love her. We both wanted to get married before with out this reason.