I don’t know how much if this is simply a vent, or me looking for answers. But I’m finding it difficult to become compatible with girls.

It’s not finding them, meeting them, talking to them. For the most part I do fine with that. At first they adore me, really impressed with me and what I do. The parents always want to adopt me, I’ve never had a problem withanyones parents, friends or girl friends.

I’m a good guy, honest, hard working, and humble to a point, speak well and have my life together.

Bottom line is though, I’m narcissistic. I stems I know from accomplishment. I come from a very poor, dysfunctional family. I’ve never met my dad, I grew up being the little guy, the poor kid people picked on. I was so quite as a kid, I spoke so soft that my Mom was scared to send me to school because the teachers might think (or find out) I was abused.

At some point in my life, I made the choice that I cannot and will not allow my upbringing or surroundings dictate how I live my life and what I do with it. I vowed not to blame anything on my mom, or the fact that I never met my dad or had a father figure. It’s my life, and it’s up to me to do with it what I want. I was and still am hard on myself, I don’t blame, and I don’t make excuses. Because of this, I see though when other people do.

I’ve heard it from almost any girl that I’m involved with though, “well I’m glad you have it all together”. At times, I just want to say “thanks, you could learn something from me”. Coming from what I did, I’ve done well for myself. Of any person I’ve graduated with, I’ve done better than 90% despite what teachers had foreseen. While everyone else was eating twinkies and falling apart, I’ve followed a structured diet and life.

Most of the time this happens when they are in a crisis, they talk to me about it, I give them advice. I’ve heard so many girls use the “I was molested” line on me. It happened 20 years ago or longer and they are still using it for an excuse. One even used “my mom never told me she loved me enough”. My most recent Ex I think her mom actually said it TOO much.
I have tried not to give advice also, just listen. But have you ever played Mario 3 and your friend tries 10 times to make it though a level you can do with your eyes shut? It’s hard to just sit there and watch him get frustrated and throw the controller, you want to just grab it and do it for him. The answer sometimes just seems so obvious to me, so I say it.