Relationship in Trouble

[LawMan018]

So I've known this girl for almost 2 years and we've been dating for about 4 months now. Only problem is... It's a long distance relationship. Things had been going great even though we were far apart, until last night. She has been telling me she loves me, wants to be with me forever, doesn't care how long she has to wait, and that she needs me. Well anyways, last night we were texting and she had just got done talking about how she can't wait to see me cuz she's supposed to fly out in less then a week and that she won't let go of me. Then she suddenly has like bi-polar disorder and says she hates that she needs me and she can't need me anymore. Now I'm confused as hell right now, and her next few texts are just like I can't need you anymore, I love you, I can't be so dependant on someone. So now I have no idea what to think. It's the next morning, she was drinking last night, but tells me she loves me but hates that she needs me and I asked if wer'e still together and she says ionno, yet still says I love you... Wtf man... I don't get women at all... Can anyone shed some light on what the hell this all means... I'm thoroughly confused and pissed off.

[redz]

Maybe she met someone else.

[XD40]

damn man. thats close to home. i think i used to date that girl! is her name amanda by any chance lol? 1. shes was just drunk- hey it happens
2. she is gettn comfortable with you and she is truly bipolar. if #1 keep her (If you like stage 5 clingers) #2 run fast now!!!!

[redz]

Long distance never works I had a long distance "love" once and it was doomed to failure. People have needs, she may have just come to the conclusion that she cant stay waiting for you forever.

[Big]

Is there any chance she found out about the gay porn videos, and that is affecting her judgement?

[HORSE~]

Is there any chance she found out about the gay porn videos, and that is affecting her judgement?

LOL, I was wondering if anybody else remembered that, LOL ginger porn....

[*RAGE*]

wow women care crazy some more then others...funny sh BIG

[spywizard]

wow.. it's up to you really..

me.. long distance doesn't work, i'm too shallow..

me.. I need her to be dependent and need me.. but she needs to be a person too, preferably with a $60k yr job..

makes life much less stressful..

[PT]

i would change my phone number and never call her again. she's a freaking nut bro

[Matt]

i would change my phone number and never call her again. she's a freaking nut bro

haha good call..

[StoneGRMI]

LOL, I was wondering if anybody else remembered that, LOL ginger porn....

Oh man. I forgot about those days. She probably found the j-off films you made.

[StoneGRMI]

i would change my phone number and never call her again. she's a freaking nut bro

Ditto on that advice. She sounds insane.

[warchild]

women are fvcking nuts man

[D7M]

I'd prob let this one go, dude. Long distance is tough.

But, where's Bojangles? He always has top notch advice on this kinda sht.

[LawMan018]

Normally I would be just like **** it, and let the girl go... But this one's different... She's pretty much like me in every way, we get along great, and she's just a damn cool girl. I know there's not much I can do except wait and see, but shit... I just got a text saying I love you and that will never change, I just hate being so needy. Ionno, this is the shittiest situation I've ever been in. Stuck in a horrible state, on a horrible base, she was like my life line to sanity.

[jimmyinkedup]

if you stick around this topic will be revisited and it will only get worse and worse...for you and her. Cut your losses in my opinion and actually in my experience as well....

[J-Dogg]

I think she's fine, not nuts.

It's just really hard on a girl to live that far away, and be alone every night. She probably is just sad, she comes home to an empty house and is just waiting. It takes it toll on a person.

Long distance relationships normally only work for old retired couples.

How long until you can "be" together?

[LawMan018]

I got another 5 years in the military, but in about a year and a half I'm going to try and get stationed back home. There's 3 bases in my home state so if I got there things would be a lot better. She actually wants me back now and apologized for everything and so I took her back... But now she's being all weird on coming out and visiting me. She bought a plane ticket before this whole mishap, and is now telling me she might come out. And how she hates traveling alone cause what if something happened... I just dont get women man... jeezus

[amcon]

dude, just get some antidepresants for her and some flowers... then go from there... play hard to get, tell her you cant wait to see her, and you have a gift for her (flowers - only spend 20 bucks) then when she gets to you, tell her you need to talk about what is going to happen - make sure you tell her with in the first hour you see her(i will kill her to know what your thinking,)when she begs you to tell her "now!!", just say "it is not the right time is it? we need to be alone"... then take her to lunch and love on her alot lots of body language showing you care... get that serious talk in, late at night, some place quite... tell her just how you feel too

good luck

[Wheelie_Rider_R6]

Maybe she met someone else.

x2...thats the first thing that came to mind. I can tell you how to fix this. I understand that most guys (including my friends in the military) want girlfriends or wives. Bad idea. Especially when your young. Sets you up for getting cheated on and lied to since "your not always thier for them." Wait until your done serving your country then get into a relationship, until then, go out and sleep with some girl to get over this crazy broad thats bi-polar. Forget her man.

[WOLFCRAFT]

So I've known this girl for almost 2 years and we've been dating for about 4 months now. Only problem is... It's a long distance relationship. Things had been going great even though we were far apart, until last night. She has been telling me she loves me, wants to be with me forever, doesn't care how long she has to wait, and that she needs me. Well anyways, last night we were texting and she had just got done talking about how she can't wait to see me cuz she's supposed to fly out in less then a week and that she won't let go of me. Then she suddenly has like bi-polar disorder and says she hates that she needs me and she can't need me anymore. Now I'm confused as hell right now, and her next few texts are just like I can't need you anymore, I love you, I can't be so dependant on someone. So now I have no idea what to think. It's the next morning, she was drinking last night, but tells me she loves me but hates that she needs me and I asked if wer'e still together and she says ionno, yet still says I love you... Wtf man... I don't get women at all... Can anyone shed some light on what the hell this all means... I'm thoroughly confused and pissed off.

Dude I've had this same kind of long distance relationship.
Shit was so bipolar. I'd go to check my email and I'd have 5 new ones from her, they'd start sweet and by the last one she was breaking up with me.
Chicks are weird (duh) and when far away run through a plethora of crazy emotions.
Bottom line is long distance is hard. If you guys don't plan on living in the same town within the next 6 months tops, there's no hope and you're setting yourself up for a world of trouble.

[binder]

sounds like she just had a bad day. you said you "took her back" but i don't see where you said you broke up. Her saying "i don't know" isn't breaking up with you. She's probably just attached to you and it breaks her heart for you to be away. I know the feeling. When i was deployed it was like that with my girl and I. It got to the point where all i could think about was her all day long and it sucked so bad.

[QuieTSToRM33]

is there any chance she found out about the gay porn videos, and that is affecting her judgement?

bwahahahahahahahaha !!!!!

[QuieTSToRM33]

On a serious note .... long distance relationships are fvcked from the beginning ... IMHO

[Kale]

She is probably bleeding dude. Give it five days and she will be fine

[legobricks]

I wouldnt dwell on the whole "i love you" thing, i say that a lot when im drunk too.

[scibble]

I just got a text saying I love you and that will never change, I just hate being so needy.

as in "that will never change though I may be with someone else." She is rationalizing her behavior and coming to terms with her having said she'll "always love you" all those times--saying that helps her feel less troubled by her change in emotions.

I got another 5 years in the military, but in about a year and a half I'm going to try and get stationed back home. There's 3 bases in my home state so if I got there things would be a lot better. She actually wants me back now and apologized for everything and so I took her back... But now she's being all weird on coming out and visiting me. She bought a plane ticket before this whole mishap, and is now telling me she might come out. And how she hates traveling alone cause what if something happened... I just dont get women man... jeezus

No way this will last that long. Not ready to come out and see you....BAD sign. She'd like to think she'd wait for you, but she pretty much can't handle it--bottom line.

You said she's your life line to sanity. BAD sign.

Not wanting to be the doomsday bro, but it's best ended. It will only get much worse and you'll be much more "insane-ified" before it dies anyway.

Good luck.

[Zipper]

They are all f**ked in the head!