am i over reacting?

[ranging1]

ok maybe its the test



BUT FUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK KKKKKKKKKKKKK

some dum ****, is trying to chat up my misses through msn and phone texting and facebook,

cant read her text messages, read her facebook and msn, and the ****s trying to hint shit

im going to rip this tooth picks face offf!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

[energizer bunny]

yeah id say over reacting.....but so what......destroy that man.....................

[energizer bunny]

nah mate..........take it easy...be cool......no one likes a hot head.....is she replying to this bloke?

[lovbyts]

ok maybe its the test



BUT FUKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK KKKKKKKKKKKKK

some dum ****, is trying to chat up my misses through msn and phone texting and facebook,

cant read her text messages, read her facebook and msn, and the ****s trying to hint shit

im going to rip this tooth picks face offf!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Why blame him? Is she entertaining him? Why is she still chatting with him?

Why so quick to always blame the guy. I had some guy get pissed at me for smiling at his girl onetime. He tried getting in my face. He asked me why I was smiling at his GF. I said because she was cute. I told him if he didnt want guys to look/smile at his girl to get an UGLY girlfriend then. He was just pissed because she smiled back. It was innocent enough. She said thank you and they left. LOL

[NMacFar]

I'd be at his front door

[stpete]

How did he get her phone #? And it's easy enough to remove someone from facebook. And anywhere else for that matter.

[Jenseno9]

it takes to people to chat bro. plus what's so wrong with your lady have male friends? If the conversation is inappropriate and your lady is still chatting I'd say it's more her fault.

[J-Dogg]

Don't be the jelous, controlling boyfriend. Deep inside, everyone knows it makes you a insecure tool.

If she's allowing it, your beef is with her. If he was stalking her, that would be different.

[BgMc31]

Sounds like it's your girl you should be mad at!!! A wise man once said "You know the game...YOU'RE BITCH CHOSE ME!!" -- Snoop Dogg!!! LOL!!!!

[bigpapabuff]

How did he get her number? Did she give it to him?

[Cloe85]

I agree... you should be mad at her not the guy. She is the one who is talking with him while he is continuing to hit on her.

If a guy gets a responce back from a girl, they tend to continue. If not they usually go away after a little while. Think about how you are.

And if she wont show you the messages, then you really know there is more up then just some little flirting here and there.

If some guy hit on me in any forum I belong to, Id be nice about it, but let them know thanks but no thanks. And I would tell my husband about it, not to piss him off but to just let him know whats going on with me.

But he also wouldnt go on a rampage after the person unless they got really annoying and wouldnt take a hint and then a flat out 'leave me alone'. Thats different.

How did he get her phone number anyway???

[skinnykenney]

give her about 2 seconds to get this guy out of the picture or let her know she is gone if she doesn't!

[CHAP]

If she is chatting in 3 differant places with this guy she is entertaining him. She is looking for whatever is lacking in your marrage or relationship. someone had to give him access to all these places there togather.

It sounds like you have a problem.

If you cell phones are in your name you can call the cell provider and they will tell you how to access the text messages. Also there is an online site somewhere where you can pay and they will e-mail you all her texts. You can also buy a sim card reader pretty cheap . And when she is asleep read everything she has done with her phone. Calls teats ect.

[lola1182]

hope it all works out for ya!

[dangerous dan]

what is it with all these posts....

if your girls chatting to other blokes and you dont like it, if you think shes up to somthing....fuk her off, end of

if she wants you, she should understand you dont like her talking to other random blokes (unless mates obv) if she doesnt respect that then...do the above.

[CMonkey]

There is nothing wrong with a woman having male friends. My wife has guys she talks to on the phone, Facebook, texting. I am secure in our relationship and trust her. I have female friends, in fact, one of my best friends is a woman. The wife knows nothing is ever going to happen and she is comfortable with her and I being friends.

I think guys that react in threatening and possibly violent ways to another's friendship with the opposite sex, are very insecure with themselves and need to get some self-esteem.

However, it is a whole different story if there is stalking going on.

[J-Dogg]

There is nothing wrong with a woman having male friends. My wife has guys she talks to on the phone, Facebook, texting. I am secure in our relationship and trust her. I have female friends, in fact, one of my best friends is a woman. The wife knows nothing is ever going to happen and she is comfortable with her and I being friends.

I think guys that react in threatening and possibly violent ways to another's friendship with the opposite sex, are very insecure with themselves and need to get some self-esteem.

However, it is a whole different story if there is stalking going on.

I have a few female friends, my girl friend knows about them too. One is friends with my girl too. We are both really secure with our selves.

But I'm still banging 2 of them.

[Flagg]

If she is chatting in 3 differant places with this guy she is entertaining him. She is looking for whatever is lacking in your marrage or relationship. someone had to give him access to all these places there togather.

It sounds like you have a problem.

If you cell phones are in your name you can call the cell provider and they will tell you how to access the text messages. Also there is an online site somewhere where you can pay and they will e-mail you all her texts. You can also buy a sim card reader pretty cheap . And when she is asleep read everything she has done with her phone. Calls teats ect.

You say he has a problem, and then recommend he start rooting through her phone when she's asleep!? Yeah, im sure there's nothing wrong with the relationship either..

EDIT: To the OP, just to add, if she is talking to some other guy it means there is a fundamental flaw in your relationship. It has either gotten stale or she is unhappy or trust has broken down somewhere.

[jbm]

blame your wife bro...

[DSM4Life]

Whats her phone number so i can text her ?

[elpropiotorvic]

just think about what ull do if u get a girl to give u her number and fb and msn and txt back and what not..u would probably be hitting on her ...so I say tell her u are upset about this and put everything on the table

[CptAmericaX]

tell her to quit being shady and if she doesnt cut that B off

[2jz_calgary]

good ****n advice j-dogg props... that thing aint said enough

[JC.1987]

Hey so whats the word? any updates on the situation?

[ranging1]

okay

update

i ODED and flipped out at my girlfriend (been with her for 2 years), absolutaly flipped it at her

usual swearing, told her to go **** herself, etc etc

she told me it was nothing, and i was overreacting, she told me that she wasnt flirting with the guy, and she loves me,
and she said the guy knows about me and he just likes making jokes about the stuff, and he wouldnt even try anything coz hes just a friend

she started crying, telling me she thought i trusted her

i stopped yelling, n just thought nto worth getting mad over, and said i dont wanna be in relationship with her anymore

she went to the bedrooom and cryed most the night, then i later after i calmed down went and sat next to her

she said that shes really sorry if it looked like they were flirting, she told me she loves me with all her heart, so i re read over everything i had read, and noticed it was him egging on the flirting and she handnt done much

she knows the guy coz he coaches a basketball team, my misses does also for the same team

so i said i was sorry, and we had make up sex, WAS GREAT

as for the solution,
i still admit i feel a jealiousy,
dont know why coz i sorta realise i do trust me misses, and not giving myself a big head but i really do think i have more to offer then this guy, also i know shes never cheated on me, and i cheated on her once (she doesnt know about obviously) at the start of our relationship

persoanlly i think i over reacted, ive always trusted my misses talking with other guys and never reacted like this

just going to have to say that its all the test in me, and it just made me over react

[Flagg]

okay

update

i ODED and flipped out at my girlfriend (been with her for 2 years), absolutaly flipped it at her

usual swearing, told her to go **** herself, etc etc

she told me it was nothing, and i was overreacting, she told me that she wasnt flirting with the guy, and she loves me,
and she said the guy knows about me and he just likes making jokes about the stuff, and he wouldnt even try anything coz hes just a friend

she started crying, telling me she thought i trusted her

i stopped yelling, n just thought nto worth getting mad over, and said i dont wanna be in relationship with her anymore

she went to the bedrooom and cryed most the night, then i later after i calmed down went and sat next to her

she said that shes really sorry if it looked like they were flirting, she told me she loves me with all her heart, so i re read over everything i had read, and noticed it was him egging on the flirting and she handnt done much

she knows the guy coz he coaches a basketball team, my misses does also for the same team

so i said i was sorry, and we had make up sex, WAS GREAT

as for the solution,
i still admit i feel a jealiousy,
dont know why coz i sorta realise i do trust me misses, and not giving myself a big head but i really do think i have more to offer then this guy, also i know shes never cheated on me, and i cheated on her once (she doesnt know about obviously) at the start of our relationship

persoanlly i think i over reacted, ive always trusted my misses talking with other guys and never reacted like this

just going to have to say that its all the test in me, and it just made me over react

Pfft, you cheat on her once and then you have a massive flip out when she starts texting someone? Im done with this thread.

[ranging1]

as for all ur comments

i hope this ansers all of them

he got her phone number coz their coaches in the same basketball teams, just different ages and since they organise uniforms together they had each others phone numbers

msn she gave it to him through facebook, since were in mis 20s we use facebook lol, (unfortunatly)

as for texts, yes ive read them, both outbox and inbox, and their wasnt any deleted by looks of it since i scanned through them like it was a conversation and their seems to be no missing bits of a convo, and no big gaps between message dates

as for the convos, hes done some egging on in texts
e.g he says
if i help u with the uniforms what do i get in return
a date? maybe a private phone call?

her reply was
lol ahahahahahahah

another one was
maybe i should give u some coaching tips
since ur quiet i can show u how to be louder :P

all my misses replies was
Naww thank u i think i might take u up on that since u know as u say im quiet and all need to be more louder and aggressive like u

what do u think? am i overreacting like i think? or should i have suspisions and dump the bitch

[ranging1]

Pfft, you cheat on her once and then you have a massive flip out when she starts texting someone? Im done with this thread.

it was the second week of dating the women so relax, i wasnt in love with her at the time or comited, and never thought it would end up long term

[lovbyts]

she know she was flirting I guarantee you this much. Just like you know when you are flirting, right? She like a little bit of attention from other guys just as much as you like it from girls. Women though usually wont go as far as a guy will in flirting unless they are unhappy in the relationship in some way where as a guy acts only on the moment most of the time. (hormones/libido)

Ignore it since nothing was going on. Allow her to feel good about herself and flirt once in a while but keep track of what's going on and dont let her stray to far.

[ranging1]

she know she was flirting I guarantee you this much. Just like you know when you are flirting, right? She like a little bit of attention from other guys just as much as you like it from girls. Women though usually wont go as far as a guy will in flirting unless they are unhappy in the relationship in some way where as a guy acts only on the moment most of the time. (hormones/libido)

Ignore it since nothing was going on. Allow her to feel good about herself and flirt once in a while but keep track of what's going on and dont let her stray to far.

thanks mate, was thinking that 2

[energizer bunny]

as for all ur comments

i hope this ansers all of them

he got her phone number coz their coaches in the same basketball teams, just different ages and since they organise uniforms together they had each others phone numbers

msn she gave it to him through facebook, since were in mis 20s we use facebook lol, (unfortunatly)

as for texts, yes ive read them, both outbox and inbox, and their wasnt any deleted by looks of it since i scanned through them like it was a conversation and their seems to be no missing bits of a convo, and no big gaps between message dates

as for the convos, hes done some egging on in texts
e.g he says
if i help u with the uniforms what do i get in return
a date? maybe a private phone call?

her reply was
lol ahahahahahahah

another one was
maybe i should give u some coaching tips
since ur quiet i can show u how to be louder :P

all my misses replies was
Naww thank u i think i might take u up on that since u know as u say im quiet and all need to be more louder and aggressive like u

what do u think? am i overreacting like i think? or should i have suspisions and dump the bitch

mate...women are good at making you feel in the wrong.....but thats besides the point.........i would still be having a word with him.......he obviously new she was in arelationshiip with you (no respect No1)......he thought it was funny to flirt with you girl (no respect No2)......

and id also want her to stop emailing...texting....and anything else to do with him that doesnt involve work........because of the above.....

[BG]

it takes to people to chat bro. plus what's so wrong with your lady have male friends? If the conversation is inappropriate and your lady is still chatting I'd say it's more her fault.

My thoughts also...well my girl would never be on facebook.....it was designed by the DEVIL LOL....

[BG]

as for the convos, hes done some egging on in texts
e.g he says
if i help u with the uniforms what do i get in return
a date? maybe a private phone call?

her reply was
lol ahahahahahahah

another one was
maybe i should give u some coaching tips
since ur quiet i can show u how to be louder :P

all my misses replies was
Naww thank u i think i might take u up on that since u know as u say im quiet and all need to be more louder and aggressive like u

what do u think? am i overreacting like i think? or should i have suspisions and dump the bitch

You are not over reacting my opinion, thats some fuc'd up shit. I would be irrate !! I would have a talk with him, thats going waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to fuc'n far. Especially he knows she has a man !!! How long have you been with her !!

[BG]

she know she was flirting I guarantee you this much. Just like you know when you are flirting, right? She like a little bit of attention from other guys just as much as you like it from girls. Women though usually wont go as far as a guy will in flirting unless they are unhappy in the relationship in some way where as a guy acts only on the moment most of the time. (hormones/libido)

Ignore it since nothing was going on. Allow her to feel good about herself and flirt once in a while but keep track of what's going on and dont let her stray to far.

Man your setting yourself up for disaster doing that.....

[Mooseman33]

as for all ur comments

i hope this ansers all of them

he got her phone number coz their coaches in the same basketball teams, just different ages and since they organise uniforms together they had each others phone numbers

msn she gave it to him through facebook, since were in mis 20s we use facebook lol, (unfortunatly)

as for texts, yes ive read them, both outbox and inbox, and their wasnt any deleted by looks of it since i scanned through them like it was a conversation and their seems to be no missing bits of a convo, and no big gaps between message dates

as for the convos, hes done some egging on in texts
e.g he says
if i help u with the uniforms what do i get in return
a date? maybe a private phone call?

her reply was
lol ahahahahahahah

another one was
maybe i should give u some coaching tips
since ur quiet i can show u how to be louder :P

all my misses replies was
Naww thank u i think i might take u up on that since u know as u say im quiet and all need to be more louder and aggressive like u

what do u think? am i overreacting like i think? or should i have suspisions and dump the bitch

man, she is allowing this to continue.
i agree with BG, on all 3 of his posts...

u are not overeacting one bit, i would be livid at both of them.

[stpete]

Personally, i would never spend time with anyone if i even thought about having to check her texts, emails or anything else. No trust = no relationship. I demand the same in return.

[sigman roid]

I agree with BG and Moose your not overeacting there both flirting with each other as far as i can see from what you have said,why has your girl not told him to stop??dont matter if they coach together unless its to do with coaching wtf is he doing getting in contact with her and more to the point why is she replying.

[Flagg]

I agree with BG and Moose your not overeacting there both flirting with each other as far as i can see from what you have said,why has your girl not told him to stop??dont matter if they coach together unless its to do with coaching wtf is he doing getting in contact with her and more to the point why is she replying.

If she is not telling him to stop, there is something very wrong in the current relationship.

[BG]

I agree with BG and Moose your not overeacting there both flirting with each other as far as i can see from what you have said,why has your girl not told him to stop??dont matter if they coach together unless its to do with coaching wtf is he doing getting in contact with her and more to the point why is she replying.

He told her he will teach her how to be louder...meaning he will make her scream??? Holy shit I wouldnt be able to sleep at nite knowing he's talking that shit ! To top it off she replys bach...hahahaha omg !!!!!

If she is not telling him to stop, there is something very wrong in the current relationship.

For sure !

[BG]

man, she is allowing this to continue.
i agree with BG, on all 3 of his posts...

u are not overeacting one bit, i would be livid at both of them.

It takes two.....I wonder how long they have been together, young girls look good, but hard to trust...