A quick note for anyone who wants to pm me relationship problems..
I'm gonna try to keep this short.
People here who know me know I do not consider myself in anyway the only authority on relationship problems, just that I think I tend to care more than most people.
Some guys simply value my advice and others don't, perfectly understandable.
This has been a problem for quite some time but it usually flucuates. Overtime I can say I've prob ignored around maybe 15-20 stories guys have sent me about their relationships. (not that bad I know but its still not right imo)
These are all stories where the person sending them had to sit down for at least a good 30-45mins (who knows it could have took them 2 hours) to write out everything they did, just to send it so I could wind up ignoring them which then makes me feel like an ass. So I gotta change the rules up a bit (never really had any rules to begin).
Sometimes I can go weeks w/out getting a pm, most of the time I don't. But I notice certain guys just have this extra bit of logic to ask me first BEFORE typing their stories out, to see if I can even go over it in the first place. And other guys must just assume I'm a loser and never get pms from other people so they won't ask at all. I completely understand both perspectives, I'm just explaining how it is.
So I ask first, if you're going to take the time to write out a story, just do me a favor and ask me first if I can take a look at it. I WANT to get back to everyone, but I always can't. If you do this first, I can at least give you an idea of whether I'll get back to you today, or a week from now. Then you can decide whether its worth it or not to even ask.
I do not respond to "friends" any quicker then I respond to strangers/newbies. Thats cause if you send me 5 paragraphs of personal information about your life, I consider you ALL friends for having that kind of faith in me to seek advice in the first place. Really, its a compliment from everyone so I only pick and choose by date, not personal preference.
Also, this is another big problem.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not send me a story 5 mins after your relationship problems happen. Wait at least a day, or a few hours to cool down and organize your thoughts. Again this goes both ways but I see most guys because of this mentioning details that have absolutely nothing to do with their relationship. If you need to go off on a tangent thats fine, just remember WHY you're coming to me in the first place. Its not so you can vent, its so you can hopefully find some closure so you don't need to vent in the first place.
Whats worse is when I have a bunch of unresponded pms in my inbox and feel like I cant even go post in the lounge cause those guys who pmd me are gonna see me posting and think "why is he posting and not responding to the story I sent?" I will only take about an hour max answering pms a day (it could be just 1 pm) and after that I'll be in the forums posting. If you see me posting and I haven't got back to you yet, and you don't like that, theres not much I can really do or say. I need to think about other things besides relationships throughout the course of my day or I lose my fvckn mind.
So please, thats all I ask.
Any guys I have NOT gotten back to yet (I know who you are I didn't forget) if you STILL need me to get back to you please just sent a brief pm saying so. I know how these situations work and things can be a mess one day and back to normal the next.
Otherwise I'm gonna go finish up some from early last week.. and thanks.
ps I'm sure I won't get any pms now cause people are gonna think its too much bs but it really isn't. I'm just trying to make this whole thing less chaotic.
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Originally Posted by RuhlFreak55
